My Personal Journey Toward Creating a Hotwife

Hope it's going well Ted

Wow! It's amazing how fast a month can fly by!

fotomatt - That's an interesting story about the vibrator. I'll bring you up to speed on the buttplug stuff shortly. My wife didn't really get into "My Wife's First Hotwife Experience" quite as much as I had hoped...

took - Or rather Mrs Took, you're very right. Sometimes I lose sight of the fact that I should be happy we've come this far!

drpool - Thank you so much for the support! I've got those stories bookmarked and I'll let you know if we use them!

iwmwtcm - Relaxing I fear is probably the hardest part.

Allen & twohorny - It's good to hear from you again as well!

If you're looking for the "good stuff" skip down a few posts, because there is some of that!

About the buttplug:

My wife insisted one day shortly after it came in, that we use the buttplug. However, she was so anxious that she was insisting I put it in with almost no foreplay. Let's just say I know my wife well enough to know that she's always telling me right away that I should stick things in her and then minutes later she's wondering why she's sore and uncomfortable.

That's pretty much how it went. I did as I was told. I went slowly. I got it in to the thickest girth (~2.5" circumference), but couldn't get it the rest of the way in comfortably. She hasn't mentioned using it again since on either one of us.

I casually asked recently if we were "done with that." She said no, but didn't know when we were going to do it again. She also said the other day that she changed her mind about "having a penis" (using a strap-on). In case you haven't noticed my wife changes her mind a lot.

Things haven't been that great for the last month or so. The last couple days have been a 180 from that, and I'll post about that some more later. For now, here are some of the lowlights:

Things have been very slow. Once maybe twice a week if I'm lucky. For some that may seem like a lot, but considering that we are late 20s/early 30s relative newlyweds with no youngren, that seems slow to me.

It's not only been slow, but at times very awkward when we are intimate. She's expressed some desire at times to get away from the stories. I can understand why, actually. It seems like she has a hard time getting off without some kind of story.

Another time recently she handed me a story about FMF and insisted that I read it. She suggested that I change the names to our names and the name of her bisexual friend. I honestly couldn't do that while reading on the fly and keep a good reading pace. She came hard and afterward kept insisting "that's MY fantasy!" Bear in mind this was just weeks after telling me that getting a DP from two hung guys while I watched was "her fantasy."

I guess the good news is that I'm finally learning not to take each day so seriously. I'm learning that things are going to change every day. And looking back, while reading this and just remembering before I started this, our sex life can be very cyclical. Hopefully we're going back into a positive cycle again!

Good stuff

Sunday September 26

We had been fighting for several days (unrelated to anything sexual) and we hadn't had any sort of action during that time and I hadn't done anything solo. Sunday the fight was finally over. We slept in and then walked the dog. We then started getting ready for company to come over and watch football.

We had a good time with our company, but once they left and we cleaned up we were both ready to get busy. There wasn't a lot of foreplay and I couldn't help myself, I slipped it in. We were talking dirty, but I have no recollection of what was being said.

I think what I did next is called "edging." I worked until I was right on the edge of cumming. Then I pulled out and just shot a huge load all over her belly. However, I didn't stimulate myself in any way as I was cumming. That left me still very erect and very much ready to cum again.

She asked me to start rubbing my cum into her tits. Of course I obliged. Then she started making some faces that made me think she wanted some in her mouth. I scooped some cum off her belly and put it in her mouth. She swallowed it and she made a face like she was ready for a kiss.

I said "would it be dirty if I kissed you right now?" "Yes," she said. "Would it be dirty good?" I asked. "Yes," she said. I thrust my tongue deep into her mouth as we had a long passionate kiss.

With this I slid back into her pussy and began to pump for a few more minutes until I was ready to edge again. I was shocked that this load was easily just as huge as the first. I rubbed some come on her tits again. I scooped up some cum and put it in her mouth. I started to kiss her immediately after putting the cum in her mouth. This time she thrust her tongue deep into my mouth!

I put my cock back in her pussy and started thrusting again. This time she indicated that she might be getting sore, so I came inside her and quickly.

She was ready to cum now too, so she asked me to try a finger. She was simply too sore. Being on a mission to find that orgasm, we each grabbed a bullet.

She began to work her clit with her bullet, this was super hot to me as she doesn't do a lot of self love. I gently caressed her breasts with the other bullet as I read her The hyperlink is visible to registered members only!.

It's a very short story. We both agreed it was lame that the story ends in just a BJ, but it didn't matter as she was cumming as soon as the wife started rubbing cream into the husband's friend's cock! She admitted that the clitoral orgasms aren't quite as strong, but I could tell she enjoyed it.

Monday September 27

We had talked about getting busy again on Monday because Sunday was so good. She actually was the one who made the call late in the evening that she wanted some. I got some lube, a story and loaded batteries into T.O.M.

We started off jokingly fooling around. Laughing and so on. Then I began sensually caressing her all over her body.

I asked her if she was ready for her story. She said she was so I slowly worked my finger into her and began reading The hyperlink is visible to registered members only!. It's a very short story. She obviously enjoyed it, but by the time I finished the story she still had not cum.

"Are you ready for T.O.M.?" I asked. She nodded her head in that coy way that she does when trying not to seem overly anxious. I lubed up T.O.M. and slowly slipped him in.

"Do you want another story?" I asked, getting the same nod in return. "Is there one in particu..." "Cum Loving Wife!" she interrupted.

I went into the other room to retrieve our printed copy of "Cum Loving Wife." I returned to discover that my wife had taken the liberty of starting the clitoral stimulator on T.O.M. without me. This really got my inner cuck excited, knowing that she was willing to take her pleasure into her own hands like that.

I started reading the story. She always asks me to "skip to the good part," where the sex starts. Every time she cums at one of two points in the story: 1) When Aaron stuffs her pussy with his 9" long and 3" across cock. 2) When another character in the story gives her anal even though she had previously promised that anal was being kept special for her husband and her husband was the only one she had done that with. This time it was the second one that made her cum, and she came hard!

Then it was my turn. As I began penetrating her stretched out pussy, I was asking her about the story. She told me how much she LOVED that she let another man do her anally even though that was supposed to be sacred to her husband.

To be continued

"What would happen if you got fucked by Aaron's huge cock?" I asked. "I would probably squirt!" she said. This got me right on the verge of cumming as she's never squirt before. Her mentioning that a bigger cock might be the key to getting her to do that put me in ecstasy.

She started going into detail about how good Aaron's huge cock would feel. I was too outta' my mind to comprehend or remember the exact words she said after that point. However, the faces and noises that she was making as she was talking brought me to a mind-blowing orgasm!

We actually had sex again on Tuesday (3 days in a row!). I read her [imgs=http:/www.shorteroticstories.com/judi-draws-three.php]"Judi Draws Three"[/imgs] again, although she didn't remember it from the last time. Unfortunately she didn't cum this time.

We did some of our own dirty talk as I was getting ready to cum. Once again, the conversation went back to "Cum Loving Wife." I told her that if she just wanted me to listen, I would just listen. I told her I would do whatever she wanted!

Ted...thats a great update. Just like most...we all have our ups and downs. Glad to hear that things seem to be on the upside and hopefully going forward.

What was her response to you telling her you would do whatever she wanted?

Allen - She said that she would make me listen to her sucking them off, and then make me watch her fuck them!

Thanks for the updates Ted. They're always enjoyable.

I'm still just trying to get my wife to open up to dirty talk / fantasy sharing.

I was sick all last week with a bad cold. When I'm sick, I for some reamister will have very lifelike, very graphic sexually charged dreams. I was finally on the mend, and right before I woke up in the morning a few days ago, I dreamed that my wife was fucking these black guys while I jerked off at the foot of the bed, and she would be in doggy style position so that she was facing me, and she would tell me how big and thick their cocks were and how she wanted to milk their cum from them with her tight pussy. And after they would cum in her, they would turn to stone and then she would put them in her closet to add to her collection of nightly fuckers.

So of course, I awoke extremely horny from not only the dream, but also from not cumming at all in the last week due to being sick. I roll over to my wife, and I'm completely nude (I must of taken off my boxers while having my dream). Her arm is by her side, and my hard cock falls right onto her hand. She starts to rub it, and I tell her about the dream, which I can tell she's not that into. But I'm so freaking horny I don't care, and I close my eyes and continue to dirty talk about the dream and how hot it was seeing her getting fucked by these black guys. She didn't object to it, and if she did I would of stopped. But instead she went with the flow and continued jerking me off till I came against her tits. We haven't said anything about it since, but hopefully she'll open up a bit. I know I need to talk to her outside of the bedroom about my desires, it's just hard to find a time when the two of us can get together alone.

fotomatt - Wow! That's really hot! The fact that she went along with it says a lot.

I'm not certain that I agree about needing to talk about it outside the bedroom. Seems to me that early on it's best to talk about this stuff when the hormones are really flowing. However, you have to proceed the way you see most fit.

Love your updates, Ted. When are you going to start the conversation about doing it for real?

iwmwtcm - Considering it was less than two months ago that she broke down in tears over the suggestion, I think I'm going to do my best to stick with bpop's advice for now.

Ted: Must be somewhat frustrating for you. Has your wife given any signs of interest lately?

Allen - None outside the bedroom. It can be frustrating, but I just have to remember getting her to play along with the fantasy is more than a lot of guys ever get.

So a few times when we've been playing with one of her bigger toys, I'll call her a "size queen." For whatever reamister she really doesn't like that term. I think the word "queen" makes her think about gay men, which I found it is where the term originated when I did some research. Anyway, I was hoping that you guys could help me try a few different substitute phrases for "size queen." I can't come up with any!

size connoisseur
size aficionado

Maybe its just the label she does not like. Some women like being called something, labeled in a way...size queen, slut, your my whore...etc.

Maybe try just phrases. "you really love the feeling of having your pussy stretched...don't you?"..."my lovely wife really loves her big cocks...doesn't she?". I know my wife does not like being called names, but when we play around, I usually use just phrases...and it seems to work.

To bad we don't have a "All About Women" manual. They have us all figured out...tits and beer!

meme & Allen - I actually used both of your suggestions to come up with a solution! Here goes:

Friday October 8

Right before we took our morning showers, she asked me if I wanted a quickie. Usually when she asks if I want a quickie it's because I've been hinting at getting some. She doesn't often cum from a quickie.

We spooned for a couple minutes while I caressed her breasts with one hand and caressed her pubic area with the other. Then I slipped my cock between her legs and started thrusting back and forth.

"Stick something in me!" she ordered. I slipped in a finger and easily found her swollen g-spot.

"Can I tell you about a dream I had the other night?" I asked, knowing the answer. I told her about a dream where she was getting it doggy-style from a huge cock while I sat at the corner of the bed. She was telling me all about how good that huge cock felt in her tight little pussy. She said something like, "With good foreplay and a huge cock I can cum in lots of positions (she ordinarily only cums while laying on her side with her legs closed, but will occasionally cum in missionary). If I had known how good this was going to be I would've started fucking big ones a long time ago!"

She was really getting into it and asked me to rub some of the lube from her pussy onto her tits. I readily complied with this request and then gently slipped two fingers in when I went back to her pussy. I started twirling her g-spot between the two fingers and she was cumming hard in no time.

I then immediately slipped inside and she adjusted her angle and spread open her pussy so I was just sliding in and out with no problem. She started telling me about how good Aaron's big cock feels and I came in no time myself.

Later that afternoon I came home from work and saw the responses from Allen and meme. I started thinking. She has no problem with the word size, but aficionado and connoisseur are not exactly the best words for bedroom use. I understood Allen's response, but my wife actually likes being called a whore. My wife was leaving straight from work to go out-of-town, so I sent the following text:

"R u my little size whore?"

Her response (28 minutes later):

"YES!!!"

Admittedly the 28 minutes it took her to respond made me nervous, but I think we're going to be using "size whore" a lot now!

P.S. - I think reading about fotomatt telling his wife about his dream probably had something to do with the inspiration of my dream.

Glad to be of an inspiration! So does that mean that I'm partially responsible for your wife's orgasm that morning, ha ha...

I think "size whore" is pretty good. I loved that story about your morning interlude.

The other day I tried talking a little dirty to my wife in the bed, nothing to naughty, but of course got no dirty talk back from her. I joked around about it a bit, and she said that "it's ok, but it's just not my thing". That leaves me a bit confused about how to proceed. It's like my biggest desire (amongst many) to use dirty talk in the bed, and for her to reciprocate. But if it's not her thing, do I just let it go and not do it at all, or do I do it in moderation and not expect her to do so.

fotomatt - Yes, I'd say you are partially responsible. Pretty hot, isn't it? I wish I had the answers for you and your wife. Is she not into dirty talk at all, or just not into dirty talk about her fucking huge cocks?

Thursday October 14

We took the dog for a walk around the apartment complex and down the street a bit. We passed a fit, handsome, young black gentlemen who gave my wife a big smile and wave and said "hi."

My wife said "I should see if he's available for 'Sharon'." "Sharon" is a single black lady that my wife works with. I joked, "yeah right, for 'Sharon'." She blushed and said "shut up!"

After the walk I made dinner and then my wife cleaned the kitchen. As soon as that was finished she was ready to try her The hyperlink is visible to registered members only!!

We got into the spoons position. I slowly and gently caressed her body and kissed her neck and cheek. In no time at all she grabbed one of my hands and powerd me to really squeeze on her ample breasts. I knew she had been thinking about it all day and was ready to go!

It wasn't long before we were talking about Aaron and his big cock. My wife said "can the guy from the parking lot be Aaron?" I said "you do want to fuck him, don't you?" "Yes," she moaned.

We did a lot of dirty talk about Aaron's big black cock in her pussy, while inserting the new toy. Shortly after she got comfortable with the toy she told me her backdoor needed attention. I said "do you want your husband, or one of Aaron's big cock friends?" She said "one of his friends."

My wife was laying on her side with her legs closed. I grabbed the buttplug and said "so you want Aaron's friend to play 'just the tip' with your backdoor?" "Yeah," she moaned.

I lubed up the buttplug and slid it in blindly with amazing ease. The intensity of dirty talk about what Aaron's cock would do to her pussy picked up and she had what seemed like the longest orgasm of her life.

Once she came back to earth she asked "is that buttplug all the way in me?" I said "pretty sure." She asked me to wiggle it around. I did. "That's odd. I don't feel it," she said.

As I proceeded to remove the new toy from her pussy, the buttplug came sliding out as well. That's when it hit me, she had both toys in her pussy! I couldn't quite see because of the position she was in, and in her case there's a fraction of an inch between the two orifices.

We took the toys out and I got into position to enter myself. I must've looked like a kid in a candy store. "What?" she asked sheepishly. "We've never talked about a real guy before," I said. "I know, because I'm afraid you won't shut up about it outside the bedroom." I took the hint.

"I'd look so white compared to him," she said. "Wouldn't that be hot?" I asked. "Yeah," she said with that sheepish grin that let me know that was the point of asking the question in the first place.

She started talking about how much she's love to fuck Aaron. I could've cum right away, but I held out for several minutes just to hear her moaning as she talked about it.

Today I sent her a text:
"Only a size whore wife like u would cum hard from two toys shoved all the way in her pussy! That seemed like the longest orgasm you've ever had!"

Her response:
"It sure felt that way..."

great progress! obviously, you have to meet the handsome black neighbor, get to know him, invite him over for takes, get the wife a chance to meet him and relax. Then substitute him for Aaron in your sex play, and you're a lot closer. don't put him the category of "lover", that connotates emotional involvement which is probably scary, just "sex partner" or "sex trainer", like a trainer in the gym. someone to help her work out and get better at sex, especially if she likes big things in her pussy
phredd2003

Damn I got cotton mouth reading your update, Ted. My mouth was open the whole time, eyes wide reading...this is a great update!

Hopefully the weekend will be a continuation of this.

She's just not into the dirty talk at all. And I'm pretty sure she's not interested in a cock larger than mine. At least not longer, as mine already is too long for her. Her gyno said that she has an abnormally shallow vagina. I can attest to this as if we don't take it slow at first, I can feel my cock head banging against her cervix, which hurts her. I'm right at 7", so it's not like I'm huge. But I'm sure she wishes I was smaller in length. Though if she's really turned on, and we start off slow so that I can gradually stretch her out, then I can usually pound away at it. But even then I have to be careful cause if I hit it wrong, that's it for the fucking.

Great update.

I agree, you've got to get to know this black guy, have him over for dinner. You never know where it could lead to...

That's hot about the butt plug being in her pussy and not her butt. No wonder she came so hard!

That reminds me of a time once when I was fingering my wifes clit, and I was positioned so that we were spooning with me behind her, and us on our sides, with her leg raised up. With my right hand around her waist and fingering her clit, my left arm was kinda trapped under her positioned under her tilted ass. So with that hand I felt up until I could feel her pussy opening, and began rubbing it in a downward stroke so that I was rubbing the bottom half of her hole.

Normally, she doesn't like to be stimulated in more than one area, but she seemed to really dig it this time, and soon was cumming real good. When she was done, I went to the bathroom to pee, and what did I smell on my finger but ass. I thought I had been fingering her pussy opening, but I was then sure that my finger had been in her ass all that time.

phredd2003 - Thanks for reading, and that's great advice on the "lover" aspect. I don't think that's what either of us are looking for. As far as inviting him over for dinner, I won't be doing that unless she suggests it. If she does suggest it, it's on!

Allen - Always good to hear from you! This weekend was a bit of a continuation. No huge steps, but I post some highlights soon.

fotomatt - Your situation sounds on the surface a lot like mine. My wife is very tight and shallow. However, the more a woman is excited, the more her vagina grows in depth and width. I would suggest trying to use tons and tons of foreplay, moving very slowly and taking lots of time. My wife used to really struggle with being stimulated in multiple areas. We've slowly worked her way up to it and now she begs for it. The thin piece of skin separating her front door from her back is usually a very erogenous area for her.

Saturday October 16

Saturday was a lot like Thursday, but with a few differences. For one, we didn't use the buttplug. She had her new toy in her pussy and against her clit while I rubbed my cock along the area between the front door and the backdoor.

My wife was much more vocal herself on Saturday. While fantasizing she told me that she invited Aaron over. She said that was only after she gave him a "handshake" to ensure that he was of sufficient size.

I told her to imagine how strongly she would feel the spasms of his cock when he came inside her pussy because the size of his dick would be creating so much pressure to begin with. That went over very well!

She repeatedly mentioned how she needed more than just Aaron and me so that she could be "airtight" (DP) AND have hands all over her body.

She essentially brought herself to orgasm with her dirty talking. She came when she started talking about Aaron cumming in her mouth. I said "you're going to kiss me after he cums in your mouth because we're dirty, right?" She moaned "Yeah!" in agreement.

Side note: I found out part of the reamister why the term "size whore" went over so well. Coincidentally the week before I called her that, she had watched a training video for her sex toy business. In the video they tackled the subject of "size." She said most of the women said it wasn't that important as long as it's not TOO small. However one woman confessed to being a "size whore." Exact phrase!

It's amazing how much differently a woman may act after being told by another woman that it's "normal" (or even enjoyable) to act or feel a certain way. The buttplug is a perfect example. My wife was always back and forth about it, but as soon as her friend told her she liked it my wife bought a buttplug!

Its hump day! Half way to the weekend, I hope to read of another great weekend for you and your wife.

obviously she needs a girlfriend to tell her about the "hotwife" lifestyle, that it is ok and good for her marriage and husband, especially if she gets trained by a BBC master.
I think you should make friends with the cute black neighbor guy and have him over for takes. Does your complex have a pool? You and your wife can meet him there, be sure to buy her a nice sexy bathing suit to show her off to him-
phredd2003