My Personal Journey Toward Creating a Hotwife

Damn...well I certainly hope you don't have any problems with your cable installation and have to have him come back. Assuming you can request the same permister.

Allen

It seems to working as "Dhani" was successfully recorded. I said something to her this week about helping her use her toy after watching the show together. I'll letcha' know how it goes.

Love it, Ted. Good to see both of you enjoying yourselves. Any idea how you are going to introduce the idea of doing it for real?

I won't be introducing it for real for quite a while. I think I'm liking the direction we're going with the "stories" thing for now. When we get comfortable with that, I'll think about the next step.

Part of the problem is that I feel like every time she has a period, our momentum is completely shot. She's been battling some (non-yeast) infection down there since her period, so we've had sex once in the last 2.5 weeks. When she goes without sex, she loses that "dirty" mindset altogether. For now, I'm going to try to start a few times, going really slowly, and hope that she asks for a story.

wow, the same thing happens to my wife! If we go longer than a week without sex, she loses her libido completely. Then it can be a huge effort to get her in bed.

I think you are doing great keeping things slow.

It can take time but you are doing great! Fantastic read so far.

charge

Thanks for the support!

I texted my wife yesterday and asked her if she wanted to watch Dhani and then play with Dhani (as I said, her dildo is named after her favorite football player). She responded YES!

So we finally watched Dhani Tackles the Globe this morning. She started it on DVR during breakfast knowing exactly what was going to happen. I asked her if watching Dhani compete in sports made her horny. She got a very coy smile on her face and said "yes."

She was sitting on the couch next to the clear glass patio door with the blinds pulled all the way over in our ground level apartment. At the end of the show I immediately started kissing her on the neck and touching her through her clothes. It was obvious that she was getting warmed up when she watched the show, because she was moaning and gyrating in no time!

Shortly thereafter I slid my hand into her panties and she was SOAKED! This is a big deal because of her long-time use of high-dosage birth control, we often need the assistance of lubrication. NOT TODAY!

I asked her if she was thinking about Dhani, and she said "yes." I asked what she was thinking about Dhani. She said "him licking me and touching me. Him licking my pussy and putting his fingers in my pussy." She stopped short of talking about him fucking her, and she asked me to rough her up a little. I started kneading and slapping her DDs and she had a small orgasm.

After the orgasm, I dialed it down. It is rare that she has more than one orgasm in a day, and she's very sensitive immediately after the orgasm. However, I could tell it was a small one and thought there might be another one in there. Slowly but surely, before long she was riding my fingers while I was slapping her ass and telling her what a slutty wife she was. She had one of the loudest orgasms she's ever had! Her eyes watered BIG TIME, which is a dead giveaway that it was a big one.

Now it was my turn, so we moved into the bedroom, which by the way had the blinds opened. I asked her to talk dirty to me, so she kept asking "what would have happened if someone would have walked by?" I responded with simply "they would know that I'm the luckiest guy in the world for having such a sexy, dirty wife." In retrospect, I wonder if maybe she wanted me to say something about inviting the permister in. After all, I introduced the role play MFM building on her dirty talk about being watched. However, since she started the whole "being watched" thing, maybe she just has a strong exhibitionist side. It's tough sometimes because she seems reluctant to talk about sex much unless she's already having it, or extremely horny.

I realize this occurrence wasn't anything earth-shattering (and unfortunately we never got to the part where we played with her dildo), but I thought the handful of people following along might find it interesting. Please let me know what you think!

We had a session yesterday (Sunday) morning. While I was fingering her, she was talking a lot. She doesn't normally do that without me asking her to do so. She started talking about having "Dhani's big black cock filling up my pussy." Needless to say this had me very excited. Then she started saying that she wanted me in her backdoor while Dhani was fucking her pussy! It was great, but a rather short-lived session as we both had things to do on Sunday.

Random note:

I read something on a recent Savage Love column about a lady who was showing off to masturbating guys on chatroulette.com. My wife has made comments about enjoying being watched, so that got my brain (and cock) going. I don't know how to bring it up to her. She talks about "being watched" in fantasy roleplay, but I'm not convinced she wouldn't be upset about me mentioning taking it to that level. Also, she can be very uptight about anything involving the internet. For example, she scolded a good friend of hers for hooking-up with a guy she met on craigslist.

How are things coming Ted?

cuckjay

Things are going great! Thank you so much for asking! This weekend has rocked. I probably don't have time to tell the whole story, but I'll start from the beginning:

Friday May 21

I got out of work early and went past the warehouse to pick up our latest purchase for permisteral use. The hyperlink is visible to registered members only! is the most amazing thing of all time! I've seen vibrators with a rotating shaft and a clitoral stimulator before, but I've never seen one that does all of that AND thrusts!

Apparently my wife had been thinking about how much she wanted to use it all day, because as soon as she got home from work she was ready to go! She was naked on the bed waiting for me in no time. I started kissing her body and then slid my cock into her pussy. 5 minutes later she was begging me to put the toy in her pussy.

I got the toy and covered it in lube. She was very nervous about the girth at first. I started talking sweetly in my "soothing" voice as I very slowly slipped the toy into her. My ploy worked. I put it in so slowly and soothingly that when it was half way in she asked "there's more, isn't there?"

Once it was all the way in, I started the thrusting and vibrating shaft. She wasn't sure about it at first, and then I turned the power up and she was loving it!

Sorry, continued:

Then she asked me to turn on the clitoral stimulator. As soon as I turned that on, she made "that face." You probably know the one I'm talking about.

I slowly increased the speed of the clitoral stimulator and I could tell she was getting close to orgasm. I started telling her how big the toy was and how it was stretching her out. Every time I brought up the size of the toy I could see her shudder until she erupted into orgasm.

She's not a squirter, but when I pulled the toy out, it was covered in her cum!

She's actually never had a truly "clitoral" orgasm, she's strictly a g-spot girl. After using T.O.M. she said that might have been a clitoral orgasm.

That's it for Friday, I'll talk about Saturday soon. It's much better than Friday.

Saturday May 22

Saturday morning we went took the dog for a walk/jog. We grabbed some bagels and came home. She started telling me that earlier in the week she watched some of "Cathouse: Menage a Trois" on HBOOnDemand. She said that she really got off on a scene that had two girls and a guy. She said she had a small orgasm without touching herself. Apparently, she was imagining being the girl who was getting doggy-style while performing cunnilingus on the other girl.

While she was in the shower getting ready to run errands all day, I pulled up one of the local news websites. Much to my surprise her black crush, Dhani Jones, was autographing his Seamister 1 DVDs at a nearby bookstore that afternoon. I knew I had to take her.

All day she was giddy with excitement. She was making comments about sitting on his lap and saying that she was going to ask to "see the size of his hands." I was really excited for her.

When we finally got there an employee asked if we were there for Dhani. I had a hard time containing my laughter when she responded with "who?" trying to act cool. Funnier still is after we bought the DVD and got in line another employee called her out on her bullcuckolds brownie.

When we got to the front of the line, she got tongue-tied and forgot all the questions she wanted to ask. Questions that she seriously wanted to ask as well as the ones she joked about asking. They both leaned in VERY close together when I snapped their picture.

She was still very excited about meeting him afterward, but unfortunately we weren't going to be home to consummate the excitement until after several offers after meeting her crush.

By the time we got home and started getting busy, she didn't seem interested in talking about Dhani. She started the dirty talking about being with another guy and a girl. At first most of the interaction was between her and the other girl. Then I was permitted to fuck both my wife and the other woman (in my wife's story of course). I was kinda' shocked because any other time we've had other women in our role plays, I've been forbidden from touching them for the most part. However, I just rolled with it and continued working her pussy with T.O.M.

She came shortly thereafter. I put my cock in her pussy, but she said she was sore. So she pulled out "The hyperlink is visible to registered members only!". I asked her to continue her story. At this point she switched the story to it being about her being fucked really hard by the other guy and his huge cock. It didn't take long with her talking and stroking to make me cum HARD!

After this I'm feeling satisfied, but also confused. It seems we've reached a point where I would prefer to fantasize about a MFM threesome and she would prefer to fantasize about a FMF threesome. The thing is that we both realize this, but don't have the ability to talk about it much outside of the bedroom.

Is this a weird situation? Would anyone care to share their thoughts?

Your wife, Dhani, and another woman together in an FMF while you watch - problem solved!

Just joking. What a great problem to have.

Ted...amazing journey so far...and it promises to get better and better! I am so very excited for you and your wife. Keep up the great work!

iwmwtcm - That's a great idea!

Allen - Thank you for the support and the encouragement!

Sunday May 23

I was actually ready for bed, but my wife was ready to fuck! She wanted a story. I told her that I had one on my laptop that I was saving for her. The name of the story is "My Wife Sheila." I'm pretty sure I got it from this site, but I can't remember where. I saved it as a Word document. I can post it here if anyone would like me to.

Here's a synopsis of the story: A husband and wife have two fantasies, a MFM and wife to take a black man. In the beginning the wife blows a friend in front of the husband. Later the husband comes home from work to find his wife banging a black man. First it is told from the perspective of the husband, then the perspective of the wife.

So I read her the story from the husband's perspective while I fingered her pussy. I was getting a little concerned because at the end the husband cleans up after the black man. Fortunately just before that part my wife said "Oh God, I came! I came with Sheila."

I skipped down to the part where the wife tells the story from her perspective and asked my wife to read it to me as I fucked her missionary. She gladly did. I erupted in her pussy when it got to the part where the wife was describing being stretched out by a huge black cock! Thank God for birth control.

I have a great web site for you! I have read and sent my wife many stories from this site. You can even do key word searches for specific content. Check this story site out...look under "interracial" or "loving wives"...or go to the search area.


The hyperlink is visible to registered members only!

I agree Allen. I think Ive read every cuckold story Literotica has!

This is my favorite.

The hyperlink is visible to registered members only!

I dont think its right for your wife right now but its so well written that it blows my mind every time I read it. Enjoy!

Allen - I linked to a literotica.com story on my Friday April 16 (actually posted on the 21st) post. It's funny that you mention it because that site came into play on Monday. Yeah, four days in a row makes Ted a happy boy! What I've used so far has come from Loving Wives. We may be using Group Sex in the near future. I'm a little hesitant about Interracial.

iwmwtcm - I'll have to read your story soon. It's a bit too long for now. I'm reluctant to use the "c" word (cuckold). I'm not sure what she would think. I'm not sure that what I'm looking for really is a cuckold. I just wanna have a hotwife. Are they the same thing?

Speaking of stories, does anyone know of a story about a woman or couple showing off for others over webcam? We've talked about getting a webcam/camera for her to skype with her family at home. I've been having thoughts about using it in dirty ways since I read something on Savage Love about a wife getting warmed up for her husband by showing off for masturbating guys. I was hoping to read her a story about this type of activity soon.

The story I posted is definitely CUCKOLD. And, as I said, I dont think its a good one to read to your wife in your situation. The reamister why I suggest it is because the writer focuses on the mental and emotional aspects as the wife goes from faithful (in the begining) to confusion (as shes being seduced by the black man) to black cock only (at the end). Sorry about the spoiler alert but its not too surprising.

Read it when you get a chance and let me know what you think.

By the way, everyone seems to have a different definition of cuckolding and hot wife, but here is how I define it:

Hot wife: The lifestyle where the wife is free to date and enjoy sex with other men but who still has an active and enjoyable sex life with her husband.

Cuckolding: The lifestyle where the wife is free to date and enjoy sex with other men but also enjoys denying sex to her husband. She may also involve some offense, chastity, feminizing, creampie eating, etc in order to make it clear to her husband that he is not her primary sexual partner and that she actually prefers sex with others. The husband endures it because he enjoys the mental and erotic stimulation of being cuckolded.

I am in agreement with iwmwtcm on this. My same thoughts along these lines led me to describe my/my wifes relationship with her (now-ex) bf as a "hotwife with a splash of cuckold".

Allen
iwmwtcm

I agree with both of you on your definitions. That's why I don't think I'm looking for a cuckold relationship, so much as a hotwife.

Monday May 24

My wife was sooo turned on by the story about Sheila that she insisted that we find another story for tonight. I pulled up literotica.com and told her it was her turn to pick one out. She agreed (another first for us).

The story she picked was a long story about a FMF. She used T.O.M. on herself (yet another first) while I read the story. It didn't do much for me, and she called me out on it. I made it a point to be more erotic as I read and she came very hard about half way through the story.

I wanted to put my cock in her while she was freshly stretched from her big toy. She asked if I wanted her to read the rest of the story. I didn't directly tell her that the story wasn't doing it for me, but I suggested that she could make one up for me.

Backstory: We seem to have quite a few lesbians living in our apartment/condo complex. There is one couple that we see frequently because they have several dogs to take out. They are both really pretty. "Alicia" is extremely pretty, but rather standoffish, which is off-putting to me. The other, "Erica" is not as feminine, has very short hair, but very attractive and extremely friendly. She always seems to be out when my wife goes to take the dog out or get the mail. She always has a lot to say to my wife as well. I always joke with my wife about Erica having a crush on her.

As you can probably guess, my wife's story was about Erica joining us in the bedroom. It was very erotic, and I came hard, but I was very confused. We have had a longstanding agreement that no "real" people were allowed in the bedroom. This was established when I mentioned a female bisexual friend of hers during dirty talk. She was really upset. I'm starting to wonder about my wife's sexuality.

Tuesday May 25

We didn't end up having sex on Tuesday. However, my wife asked "do you want me to have sex with the lesbians, because I will?" I was so stunned that I didn't know what to say. Then she said "I'm going to do it, but I'm not going to let you watch."

I said, "that's definitely not fair!"

Again, I'm quite confused. It's hot, but oddly I get more insecure about another woman in the bedroom than I do another man.

Thursday May 27

I pick out The hyperlink is visible to registered members only! because it has both a MFM and a FMF. We both really loved it! My wife came during the FMF part.

Saturday May 29

My wife was getting ready to leave for the rest of the holiday weekend, so she wanted us to have a quickie (as I mentioned, if we get the first part of the cycle started well, she's horny for the next 3 weeks).

I told her that I wanted to talk first (total role reversal). I just leveled with her. She was being so blatant with the lesbian play that I though maybe something else was going on. I thought maybe she was afraid that I was going overboard with the MFM fantasies and was trying to use FMF to steer away from it, or that she was trying to freak me out so that we would stop using other people in our fantasies.

She told me that it's just easier for her to talk dirty to me about two girls just like it's easier for me to talk dirty to her about two guys. She said that she merely brought Erica into the dirty talk because she thought that I would like it since I'm always teasing her about that.

She talked about a story, and I said that I had one started and I would make it up as we went along. She was completely on board. I started it out with us trying to set up a webcam, and she "accidentally" ended up naked in front of a strange man. She started showing off and then he started touching himself. He was very well endowed. Then we started doing different things for the strange man with her dildo so he could imagine what it would be like if his cock was doing the things the dildo was doing.

It was great fun! Afterward we just kept saying to each other how happy we were that we decided to make time for that before she left.

I've got a birthday coming up in about 4 weeks. I want to ask her to show off for a guy on webcam while he masturbates as a birthday present. I really would like some feedback. Is that a good idea? Has using a birthday as an excuse for fantasy fulfillment ever worked? If I do ask, how should I approach it? Please offer your suggestions.

I would definately say you two are moving along quite nicely. Use your birthday to get something naughty?...Absolutely go ahead and ask. All she has to do is say no. And being that you guys are already doing a lot of fantasy talk, it won't be much a surprise to her.

If she agrees to play with herself on webcam with another guy...it will allow for you to mention to her how hot she looks while thinking/playing with another guy...also mentioning how you wish he was really here playing with her in front of you.

Keep up the kinky fun...its great reading about you and your wife.

actually, you should encourage her lesbian tendencies, and not be intimidated by them. she may find your fantasies of another man doing her too stressful and causing her to be doubtful about being a slut, unfaithful to you, concerned about falling in love with another guy, getting pregnant, etc., where she wouldn't have these concerns with her and another woman. she may be bi, and not know it and all this talk may be bringing it out in her- that's a good thing, you can't lose on that one. getting a bull dyke to screw your wife with a nice strap on is almost like a guy screwing her, and you may get another pussy, too!
phredd2003

Allen

You're right, she probably won't be shocked by the request. I have a feeling she will say no, but I think we're at the point where asking won't be shocking. In fact, I started to ask on Sunday May 23 (forgot to add to the post) if she really wanted to show off. She said "in fantasies, yeah." We've come sooo far in the fantasy world, but moving it to reality may never happen.

phredd2003

You make a lot of great points! In fact, I may ask if she will show off for "someone or a couple" over webcam. Although I think a couple will be more difficult to find than a guy, and a single girl more difficult than a couple. You never know, though.

Tuesday June 1

I'm kind of ashamed to be writing this: At about 11pm my wife indicated that she was ready for some playtime. I was exhausted and sore from an earlier run in the scorching heat and torturous humidity, so I declined.

As I dozed off in the recliner my wife read The hyperlink is visible to registered members only! that I had bookmarked for us. After reading the entire story, she went to the bedroom and worked her clit to orgasm with a vibrating bullet. You may get tired of my pointing out firsts, but they are exciting for me. This was the first time she touched herself without it being for me (ie doing it in permister, over the phone, making me a video with her phone, or wanting me to walk in on her doing it).

This morning I was asking her about it. She said she thought I picked out a good story. I asked which one and she said "the interracial one." I was afraid of what she might think about me "shopping in that section," because when we've looked together we've either looked at "Loving Wives" or "Group Sex." She said that she liked it and where it came from and what it was about without flinching.