Journal - from traditional sex life to ???

Did your wife put you into chastity? If so, it's great to here she's still into it. As far as why you wanted it, I can't answer that. Not to be a nerd, but I'm pretty sure the vent holes are to keep you from getting a fungus or infection. Glad to hear about your progress!

Shes not really into it right now. She is just going along with it because I wanted to try it. I am trying to get her more into it by trying to make it fun but I dont know if its working. I think it will take some time before she really grasps the erotic nature of it (if she ever does). She has been a good sport, so I cant complain. Im not trying to power her into being something that she isnt. I am just trying to get her to explore being a little bit dominant in hopes that she will discover something she likes.

I have read instances where it has taken a year or more of playing around with chastity before the wife really starts to enjoy it. I have a feeling that it may take a similar amount of time for her. Or, we may decide that this doesnt do much for her and abandon it. We'll see.

Meanwhile, I will keep trying new things like porn and see what clicks with her. Porn seems to really open her mind up to new ideas. Theres a dvd I found the other day about women who fuck their boyfriends with strap-ons while he is wearing womens clothes and lingerie that sounds like fun.

The other thing I want to do is get some porn with MFM scenes in it. If I can talk her into fantasizing about a threesome, I think I can begin slowly revealing my cuckolding fantasies.

Crap! My cock is really straining in my cage just typing this! It hurts! Must take a break. Thanks for your comments and suggestions.

The hot and cold of it all can really be frustrating...I know! I really hope your wife and you find that "magic key", that she might take it and run with it...the strapon thing, hotwife thing, chast thing,...etc.

I can say from my current situation is that my wife is really not into much kink unless it involves the old neighbor. Or if I catch her at the right moment she will play along.

Don't give up, keep playing the game...even if it seems like you are digging a hole. Maybe...just maybe ( I really hope she does )...come around to at least trying it. Keep your chin up and your cock stiff thinking about your wife cuckolding you.

Last night my wife unlocked me after 72 hours. We didnt have sex - she said she felt bad because she knew I wasnt relaxing well.

I kidded with her by telling her that the only reamister she should unlock me is because she wanted to use "her property". She just laughed and said again that she felt bad about not relaxing well.

I asked her if she was enjoying the chastity, and that if she wasnt, then we shouldnt do it any more. But she said she was enjoying it and thought maybe she would lock me up again when we get back from our cruise next week.

I enjoy the eroticism of being in chastity, but I have to admit IT FEELS GOOD TO BE OUT!

That sucks, getting out of chastity, but still no sex.

Here's a mild suggestion to try since you seem to be in a rut, but take it with a grain of salt: Kids don't want to play with 95% of their toys until someone tries to take them away. Sometimes adults can be the same way. Maybe if you acted like you weren't into porn or chastity for a while, she may come around. It doesn't work 100% of the time, but my wife and I were "casually dating" for months until I told her I was seeing someone else.

I'm eating sushi waiting for our cruise ship to depart. My wife is resting in the cabin.

I'll be offline this week. Going to miss reading posts on this site.

Hopefully I can get my wife to be a little daring this week. Look up "Ensenada shooters" on YouTube. I showed my wife a few of those clips and she is saying "NO WAY"! But maybe after a margarita or two...

Damn I wish I were getting ready for a cruise right now. We only went one time...it was a great time. You two have fun...and hopefully you get that wish of the wife opening up a little more.

Have a safe trip.

Back from the cruise. Had a great time. Nothing "cuckold" related to report., though. I will say this: There are a LOT of HOT young HORNY women on cruises to Mexico!

Had sex with the wife several times. She stillcannot reach orgasm by oral and she is very frustrated about it. She mentioned again about getting a girl-on-girl movie. Will definitely do that when we can.

Im thing of a set of cruise themed captions. I'll post them on my captions thread after I finish them.

I'm glad to hear you had plenty of sex on your cruise! Welcome back.

Update:

On my way home from work Friday night my wife sent me a text indicating that she wanted to go to the sex store that night. This is the first time asked ME. The other times it was me who asked HER. Anyway, she wanted to look for a girl-on-girl movie to watch. I cannot tell you how big of a step this is for her. First of all, whenever we watched porn it was of my urging, not hers. Second of all, she has ALWAYS expressed disgust about lesbians. I am having a very hard time wrapping my head around the fact that she is interested in girl-on-girl porn. I feel like I have to tread very lightly. I feel like if I make a big deal about this too soon, she will get embarassed and will stop the whole thing. Anyway, we went to the store and were both apalled at how much $ they wanted for a porno. $30 to $50! And, they didnt have that many lesbian selections. I told her there were a lot more selections at much better prices on ebay, so didnt buy anything.

The next day, I did some searching on ebay and "watched" some that I felt she might like. I was looking for the seductive, loving type. There arent too many of those it turns out. Theyre mostly hardcore, in your face, made for men pornos. Anyway, I did find some that looked ok and some male strapon vids as well, including the one where the man wears female clothes while the woman fucks him with a strapon!

She looked them over and we picked out 2 girl-on-girl vids plus the strapon vid. They should be here within the next week. She was so excited that she was checking her calendar and figuring out how to get our youngest mister to spend the night at a freinds house this weekend. Im dumbfounded that she is so excited. I have to admit she wasnt too excited about the strapon movie. I may be pushing my luck with that one.

The other thing I told her was that I found another movie I wanted to get. I told her it was about a woman who did a lot of oral sex. She said I could get it but I missed to auction. I'll have to watch for it.

Although these movies are not cuckold related, I feel like they are a step in the right direction. They are definitely opening her mind up to new ideas. And I hope the strapon/feminizing vid will start some conversations which I hope will lead to her buying me panties to wear under my clothes. And that, in turn, might make her start seeing me as less masculine and be more open to introducing other men into our bed.

Firsts are almost always good! I've heard that Girlfriend Films are female friendly girl-girl porns. I can't say that first hand though. Let us know how it goes.

I cant remember offhand what the titles are but one is definitely a GirlfriendFilms production. Hopefully the movies will come in time to watch on Friday or Saturday. Im planning on giving her oral while she watches.

I like that you bought the strap on video. I have a couple and discussed the idea of a strap on with her. For some reamister she is not comfortable with the strap of idea but has used toys on my ass numerous times. She always wants to control the size that she uses on my ass and it is always towards the smaller size. Every once in a while on a gift giving occasion I will tell her all I want is her in a strap on.

I got away from my exercise routine and put on some weight. The other day we were talking and she about how hard it has been for me to lose this weight. Her suggestion was that if I get down to my target of 210 she will put all of her sexual wants and fantasies out in the open and mine also and give them all a try, at least once.

Guess who is off their fat ass and working out again.
ShortSupply

Thats a great incentive to lose those lbs!

We have a strapon that she has used on me. Its not as easy as it sounds, but I found it to be very enjoyable. So the strapon video itself isnt what I am excited about. Its the fact that the wife/gf makes her man dress up in womens clothing before fucking him that excites me. I dont think shes especially thrilled about it though. Shes never been too thrilled with crossdressers. She will either tell me she doesnt go down that path and I will be ok with it. Or, she might go along with dressing me up in panties or stockings. We'll see. The idea is very exciting to me but I know she will think less of me as a man. I know our relationship will always be strong. But in my mind I imagine her more willing to cuckold me with a bull just to experience a more masculine fucking than I can give her.

Whatever direction you go, just her willing to open up is a great news no matter what happens later. She may be just starting to find herself and with that opens a lot of new doors.

I am having some serious second thoughts about introducing the strapon/wearing womens clothing video. Its too much too quickly and gets away from my primary goal. I am going to tell her that I shouldnt have ordered it and put it away. We can watch it if she ever had a desire.

I think it makes better sense to let her enjoy the girl-on-girl porn and let explore that fantasy. After a few times of watching (which may take some time because of the kids) I will mention that I would be ok if she wanted to try to find a real woman. She will be kinda freaked out about that and will say "No", but the idea will be planted. More importantly she will know I gave her permission to do it. From there I hope to figure out how to expand that permission to being with another man.

The plan seems to make sense on paper. The devils in the details though - implementation.

I still cant believe she wants to watch a girl-on-girl vid. It blows my mind how she has opened up in just the last 6 months. Where will we be 6 months or a year from now? Only time will tell, but Im hoping she will be enjoying the attention of an occassional lover!

girl on girl is a great way to crack open the door. it's a lot less scary to her than big cocked stranger guy screwing the hell out of your sweet wife. her interest in this is very good, your plan of the girl vids then getting her to try another girl is sound. she have any bi-girlfriends with big tits she could fantasize about?
forget the cross dressing idea, it's too confusing, stay focused on what she responds to
phredd2003

Your wife watched porn with you and you had sex twice this weekend. Pretty good times overall, I'd say!

Ok, let me tell you what happened last night. My wife was exposed to the idea of a creampie! And not just any crwampie, but the creampie from a black man!

Heres what happened. My wife and I went out to dinner. We were listening to "Get in Bed" on the radio which is a sex and relationship talk show on XM Radio. If you havent listened to the show, I recommend it. Its hillarious and interesting. Anyway they usually have some topics they like to cover and last night the topic was "Revenge Sex", which is when you have sex with someone to get back at someone else. Its usually done after a bad breakup or to make someone feel jealous. So they ask listeners to call in with their stories about revenge sex. We listened to a couple on the way to the restaurant but the interesting one happened when we pulled into the parking lot and parked. This lady called in to tell this story of what she did to her ex-husband during their divorce. She said that he was a racist pig and so she went out and had sex with a black man. Then she immediately drove over to her soon-to-be ex-husbands house and came on to him. One thing led to another and they started having sex. He went down on her and after a while she asked him how it tasted. He was in the dark so he just said it tasted great. Then she said "Good, because you're eating black CUM"!

You should have seen the look on my wifes face and heard they laughter from the radio show hosts!

Theres more to this story but I've got to go. I will post more later.

Continuing...

Later on last night we watched the last scene in the girl-on-girl porno (which wasnt bad, btw) and then had sex. I gave her oral for quite a while until she lost her orgasm (arrrrrg!) and then had me fuck her. We fucked missionary (her favorite) until I came. We relaxed for about ten minutes and then she said she needed to go to the bathroom. I took that as my cue and slid down to give her more oral. I only gave her a lick or two but as I did it I said, "Mmmmmm, tastes like black cum!" She just laughed as she remembered the radio program. Nothing else was said.

It may not seem like much but my wife responds much better when she isnt surprised by new ideas. This gave her an initial exposure to sex with black guys and with creampie eating (even though it wasnt done for fun). If it ever comes up again in conversations, I am going to tell her that creampie eating is actually a fetish for some people. She knows that I like to lick her after Ive come so I hope that will lead to a conversation about letting me (or powering me) eat my creampie more often. I would love for her so sit on my face and let it all flow out!

What station and time are "Get in Bed" on? I have XM, but typically stick to the comedy stations.

Its COSMO, XM 162. M-F 8-11 EST, 5-8 PST

The hosts are Sara Benicasa and Greg Johnmister.

Sara is especially hillarious. Me and my wife went and saw her comedy show in SF last January.

Its kinda funny, though. They call themselves sex and relationship experts but their experiences are actually fairly limited.

I am glad I checked in on your thread. As I read I got more and more excited to read more. Outstanding! That had to have been a rush for you...knowing in your mind that you want her so bad to feed you that interracial creampie! Or do as my wife did...suck his cock, and only his cock! My wife still refuses to suck my cock..."nope, thats only for him"

It even got to the point this last weekend where she wanted him so bad she told me she would even take it up the ass. But not with me.

Your baby steps are doing you a great service. Keep it up, and great update.

Ok, its been a while since I posted. Things have been going along steadily. Not much has changed. My wife orgasms still allude her (wtf) and we have been watching girl-girl porn whenever we have the house to ourselves. The second movie we got was much better than the first one. The one scene we both like is between a cheerleader and the woman teacher in charge of the cheerleaders. Guess who "earns" the right to be head cheerleader? My wife was a cheerleader in highschool so its extra hot. We still have one last scene to go (maybe tonight). AFter that we are going to watch some Wifey videos!

Lets see, what else? Oh yeah, I ate my own creampie from her again on Saturday! And not just a lick or two, I cleaned her out! It was awesome. She's still uncomfortable about it, always offering to go clean up first but I dont let her, lol.

The other thing I should mention is that the frequency of our sexlife has increased dramatically in the past few weeks and the passion has gone through the roof! She is starting to take steps to losing some weight and I can tell is feeling really good about life right now. I think I'll just keep going slow with her and be ready to suggest finding her a woman to experience if the subject comes up.

Somehow, somewhere inside her is a roadblock to that orgasm. Without a window into her mind...thats a hard one. Seems like everything else is going in the right direction.

I just can't help but wonder if she is not being 100% honest with you about her thoughts? Something she just is not comfortable with. Just a thought.

I am very glad to hear that sex frequency is up and she is still open to exploring.

Allen,
We think her orgasm problems has to do with some medications her doctor has her on. He once put her on a have that is well known for keeping women from having orgasms "no matter what"! We stopped that pretty quickly. These new haves are trickier.

Tell me more about this feeling you have that she isnt being truthful with her feelings. What do you mean?

Without knowing about the medication, my thoughts were that she is somehow holding something back. However, now that you mentioned the medication, I do know what you mean.

When my wife went through post pardom, she was on some meds, and then also on the depo shot. That really messed her up. She wasn't horney, and when she was...she was dry as hell. That led to my wife not having orgasm...and our frequency was terrible.

A quick add on here...Being that I think you and I might be very similar in our thoughts...I don't want my wife to do something she does not want to do...to do it only because she thinks that its something I want. I truely want my wife to get into "it" only if she is also interested.

When she cuckolded me with the neighbor, it was something that she wanted to do with him. As of right now, she has no interest in doing it again with someone else. So for my wife to randomly cuckold me again, I would question as to if she was doing it just for me (even though she does not want to do it)...or is she doing it for her. Obviously I want her to do it for her...and as a side effect, for me.

My thought was, is your wife really into what she has been doing? Or is she doing it just because she thinks you want it?

Being that your frequency is good and if your wife is wet...I would tend to think its the meds. Sorry, hope I didn't freak you out.

Haha, no you didnt freak me out. Just wondered what you meant.

Yes, we think the meds are the major cause but we are hoping we can overcome with more fantasizing. The big difference is that she can orgasm using her vibrator whereas she couldnt "no matter what" when she was on the bad haves.

Interesting comment that she may just be doing this to please me, not her. You may have a point. We should be open to doing things for our partners that we wouldnt necessarily want. But girl-girl porn is not something she would have done before just to please me. It would have been outside of her comfort range. I think she is trying to be more open about trying new things. So you may be partially right. She is definitely enjoying herself though (even though she isnt reaching her orgasm).

Ok, the vibe thing makes it clear - yes, its the medication... probably affecting flood flow/pressure. The vibe works because the stimulation is sufficient to achieve orgasm even with the reduced genital red flow/pressure. It's up to you two to decide what to do about it.

Great thread, keep posting.

Thanks for the advice UGCP. Maybe we need to try some other methods to get her there.
I have an idea I might be able to try tonight. I will post results tomorrow if I am able to.