Journal - from traditional sex life to ???

I finally read this thread all the way thru, good stuff!

Interesting about the strap-on, I have mentioned to my wife about getting one of those hollow strap-ons so I could use it on her. That way she could get the feel of getting fucked by a big cock for as long as she wants. I hadnt thought much about her using it on me...i bet she would even be into that!

Wouldn't it be nice to have a better balance in life between the things we are obligated to do, and pleasure time. Sounds like we could both use a little more pleasure time. Hopefully you get that sex sooner than later. Bet you can't wait for her to strap "Insert Guys Name" on and fuck your ass. Or is that going to be her bf doing it to you?

Just curiouse to know if how you guys are doing. Hope you and the wife have something special planned for Easter.

Oh man. I have been sick for almost two weeks. I finally feel back to normal. Between being sick and other obligations, we have done nothing fun. Tomorrow will be 3 weeks of no sex. We are both ready for some time between the sheets!

Easter will be very busy as well - the whole family will be here at my house (25+ people)! It'll be good.

Its one of those things...great to see everyone come over, but great to see them all leave. Eat and get out! I completely understand. Good luck this weekend. Don't forget to self medicate...Whiskey and Coke!

I'm finally finished!

Any new developments? Please tell me that you've had sex since your last post.

Have you gotten her to share any experiences from her past?

Its been a rough couple of weeks since Ive posted. The cold held on longer than I wanted it and me and my wife ended up getting in an argument that took a week to finally resolve. We finally made love on Saturday which was only twice in 5 weeks! However, we are all healthy now and things should go back to normal.

She still hasnt taken my the strapon but we talked about doing it in a week or so. We also have not been playing with chastity with everything thats been going on. But, after telling her that I wanted to play with chastity more, she agreed to do something soon. I even ordered a book titled "Male Chastity" and she agreed to read it! It might be more intense than what she wants to do but it should get her thinking about trying some new things. She doesnt understand why its enjoyable but I think once she understands that I REALLY enjoy being locked up and denied she will get more into it.

Someday, when I bring up cuckolding with her, she will have the same issues. She will have a very hard time understandding why I would want her to fuck another man. I expect that it will take some time to process and, to tell you the truth, I dont know if she ever will understand it. Hopefully, I will be able to convince her that it would make me happy and we can begin having those discussions toward really doing it.

I think that most wives do/will have issue with this. Exspecially when first brought up. Keep your chin up, and keep taking it easy. As you already know, and don't need to be reminded...reassurance is the best way to go about it. I am sure she knows you love her, but our lovely wives like it best when we keep reminding them how much we love them. As much as cuckolding is for us...they have a hard time understanding how much we want it for them...to experience better than we can provide sexually.

As always...good luck and hope to hear of some new (positive) developements.

I do have couple of new developments. Nothing big, but baby steps that may help in the long run.

But firstly a status on the whole strapon thing. My wife still hasnt used it on me yet although she wants to. I keep asking her when "Hank" is going to come out and she just smiles and says that we will have to come up with a date. I think she wants to make it a special occasion, lol.

We made love on Saturday morning. It was good but she couldnt cum. I gave her oral for 30 minutes until we gave up. I timed myself - it was a full 30 minutes. We discussed again about getting her movie to stimulate her mind. She agreed. But heres the shift: Normally she says she wont watch porn without me which is next to never because we always have the kids around. This time when I mentioned that she watch a movie while I was at work and the kids were at school, she agreed!

So, I went to ebay and started looking for suitable movies. I have posted the question on this site about good porn movies that might gently introduce cuckolding without hitting her over the head with it. I received a few suggestions but they were not exactl what I was looking for. Anyway, I found and ordered two movies.

The first movie is called "For Couples Only". It is porn specifically geared towards couples. I'm not sure how good it will be but it should be more loving and romantic than the typical porno. It may also be too tame to get her going.

The second movie is the one Im excited about. It is called "Housewives Unleashed 4" and appears to have lots of fantasy themes such as seducing the cable repair man, etc. Every scene has a housewife cheating on her husband. I am really nervous about this because this is the sort of movie that she would NEVER want to watch. I ordered it because it is amatuer (the girls are more normal looking - not perfect porn stars), the women are older (not super young hardbodies which sometimes makes my wife self conscious about her own body), and it has lots of fantasy themes. Pictures on the back of the box showed guys going down on the women which my wife LOVES. She will be totally turned off by the whole cheating theme but I am going to tell her that it is almost impossible to find a fantasy movie without that and that I want her to just ignore that part and just focus on the sexual fantasies. This could backfire in my face or it could be a turning point. I am going to monitor the dvd to see how often she watches it. Below is a description of each scene if you are interested.

"Brooke goes to meet a florist to discuss the arrangement for her sister's wedding. Flipping through the books gets her thinking about her own wedding, which gets her horny. She somehow has found a straight male florist, so she attacks him right then and there.

Gypsy Rose has a problem with her cable. She shows the repairman her tv in the bedroom. She disses on the way her husband had set up all the wires. Apparantly, wiring is not her husband's only short coming, because she starts rubbing herself and asks for help, which repairman gladly gives!

Bliss gets hit by a door and falls down with a hurt knee. Her accidental attacker takes her into his place to get some ice for her. She is being sort of a bitch, so he asks if she is going to sue him. She says "I won't sue you if you fuck the cuckolds brownie out of me!" He wonders what her husband will think about that, but she does not care. She is a very loud fuck and agrees not to sue!

Kaitlyn is a beautiful blond, young housewife. She comes up with some bogus water cooler problem to get a cute guy to come by, then she invites him to stay and chat. She confesses that her husband doesn't make her happy. Seems that he is a business, professional guy, when she really needs "someone who is good with his hands."

Xena has two guys come help her with her lighting issue and then ends up seducing them both in her kitchen! They have a great time and end up cumming on her mouth!"

The movies should be here in a few days but she probably wont watch until next week. I will post anything that comes of it. I am nervous and excited to know that she may soon be fantasizing about having sex with strangers!

Your wife might just be ok with the second movie. You telling her that its hard to find a housewife fantasy video...without the cheating...is a good idea. Funny thing...it is actually hard to do just that. I hope your wife gives it a chance, and takes to the videos with an open mind.

It would be interesting to be in her mind when she views the housewife video...to know what she is actually thinking. Can't wait to hear any details over then next week or so.

One other thing that is happening this week. The "Male Chastity" book came in and she will be reading it this week (its not long). I only read the introduction up to the point where the author tells men not to read any longer.
I hope she finds some fun ideas to try. The book is supposed to help explain to women why chastity is exciting to men so I hope it will encourage her to lock me up more often.
We had a passing discussion yesterday about edging. I told her that I had read about where the wife released her husband, played him for a while, and then locked him back up without a release. My wife was surprised and asked why would someone do that? I told her because when he finally does cum, it is like the fourth of July (explosive orgasm)! She actually got a gleam in her eye and told me that maybe we will try that!

I hope some of this stuff comes to fruition sooner rather than later. Keep us posted on the porn, and the strap-on and the chastity!

This morning I talked to my wife about the movie I got for her. I told her that it had a lot of typical womens fantasies but that there was one aspect that she may not like and that she should just ignore that aspect. She asked what it was and I told her it was about houswives having sex with strangers while their husbands were away.

To my surprise she was relatively unphased. She said "well, isnt that was most fantasies are?" I said "yes" but inside I was thinking about how most of my fantasies were about her. Of course they are mostly about her giving herself freely and often to other men.

The next hurdle will be getting her to watch the movie by herself while I am at work.

I can't wait to hear of her reaction to actually watching that video. The next thing you know...she will be asking you "I bet you wish that was me getting fucked by a stranger..."

As always...good luck.

Has she watched the movie with you? If so, did you talk about it?

No, we havent watched it together yet. With two teenagers in the house we hardly ever are able to watch porn together.

I have two reamisters for getting the movie. The first is to get some fantasy scenarios in her head that she can use to help her get off. She has benn having a hard time achieving orgasm lately and I think she is not fantasizing enough.

The second reamister is to get her to start becoming accustomed to fantasizing about someone other than me. My hope is that she will find one or two of the fantasy scenes that remisterates with her. After numerous times of watching and masterbating to these scenes, it should be engrained in her mind. I am hoping that this will cause her to start fantasizing about men she sees while at the store or out and about. I hope that when we finally do watch it together that we will be able to talk about what she likes about the scenes and I hope to someday be able to give her permission to act on her fantasies if she wanted to.

A lot of hopes and wishes I know. But I am just taking things one step at a time and seeing where it will lead. Right now the big hurdle is getting her to watch the movie without me. She has always been opposed to doing this but I am hoping she will since we never have time together to do it. I will use the excuse that I want her to have some go-to fantasies that will help her cum when we are having sex. I think it will work but it may take some time. I'll let you know when it does.

Reading your last post here, does remind me of something. My wife did begin to watch more porn by herself just before she cuckolded me. I am going to say it might have been a small part to her doing it. I think she still would have cuckolded me without watching the porn, but it did help.

Post cuckolding, she does not watch as much porn, but rather uses her imagination and masturbates a lot with her bullet, or the butterfly kiss, and a lot more with just her hand.

I think in this case, it will help open your wife up to more fantasizing. She might have a hard time admitting to it, but hopefully it REALLY gets her imagination going.

Today my wife finally took me with her strapon "Hank". We will definitely need some more practice to get it down as its not as easy as it seems. I have to admit that it was enjoyable (we used lots of lube) but I wouldnt say that it was mind blowing. She enjoyed being in control though, so it was worth it.

I still couldnt get her to come by oral. She is very frustrated about that. She even sighed and said "I guess I need to watch some movies, but we never have time". She feels guilty about watching them by herself, so I need to keep letting her know I am fine with it.

Nothing else to report. Still waiting for her to decide to lock me up. We joke about it a lot, but it never goes anywhere.

Hey! It's good to hear your making progress. Did you guys do any kind of role play or anything to get you built up and in the mood for something so dirty?

That's quite an orgasm drought your wife is having. I hope you find a way to break out of it soon. Sometimes there is so much pressure for a woman to have an orgasm, that they get a mental block and can't cum. I wonder if that may be the case. Perhaps try to find a way to get her focused on anything but trying to cum.

My wife STILL hasnt watched the movie. She says that she hasnt had time (she watches some kids a few days a week). Anyway, my kids will be out this evening (hopefully nothing changes that) and we have tenatively made plans to watch a few scenes from the "Housewives Unleashed" movie! I cant wait!

Also, we keep talking about locking me up but she wont take the initiative. Arrrrrrg! We are going on a cruise in a few weeks and she has promised to lock me for a time before that. I'll try to mention it again tonight.

Im hoping that if she responds well to the movie, I can start bringing the subject up during our cruise. Theres supposed to be a lot of singles on this cruise. Id like to point good looking guys out to her and offer to stay away from the cabin if she wants to have a fling. That might not be received well but itll be worth a try.

Thats great to hear she finally took you with the strapon.

Wouldn't it be great to be able to read her mind the first time she watches "Housewives Unleashed". Hope your cruise goes well, and I don't think that mild teasing with the staying away from the cabin comment will be all that bad. She might just tease back.

Several Updates:

Firstly, we watched the "Housewives Unleashed" video last night while the kids were out. It...how do I say this...SUCKED! Bad acting, bad directing, bad filming, ugly actors and actresses, etc. You know a porno is bad when you dont feel like having sex afterwards (which we didnt).

I felt really bad and kept telling my wife that I was sorry. She laughed and said that it OK, how would I know if it was going to be that bad. Anyway, we put the other "For Couples Only" movie on for a few minutes to see how it was going to be, and it wasnt half bad. I fast forwarded through some of one scene and stopped it just as a guy came on this womans face and mouth. My wife didnt like this very much.

Another thing that happened was that I told her about a conversation I heard on Cosmo XM radio Get-in-Bed where a woman called in to say that she likes girl-on-girl porn because the lovemaking is much more sensual than some guy shoving his cock down a girls throat. My wife said that she never thought about it that way. This morning she told me that she was now interested in watching some girl-on-girl porn! This is significant because she has always been totally disgusted with girl-on-girl porn to the point that we skip through those scenes in porn. I am encouraged by this because it shows that it is possible to warm up to an idea even though she initially rejected it. So, its possible that we'll be going to the porn store tonight to pick out a good girl-on-girl dvd.

Oh, one other thing about the Housewives Unleashed video. The women in the scenes made a point to talk about how they were married and that they didnt care about being faithful. The guys said things like "when is your husband going to be home" and things like that. When we went to bed last night, I cuddles with her and jokingly asked her when her husband was coming home. We both had a good laugh. I think that joke will allow me to make similar comments to her later on. That should be fun.

Lastly, this morning I was getting ready to leave for work. I was standing behind her giving her a shoulder rub. She said "You know, I was thinking..." I replied "What that?" She said "That movie last night was really bad." "I know, Im sorry about that" I said. To which she replied "I was thinking maybe you should be punished!" "What do you mean?" I asked. "Well, I was thinking tonight I should lock you up after we have sex" she said. Without even thinking about it I moaned. She was taken aback and said "I guess thats my answer!"

So, it looks like Im going to get locked up tonight! Yeaaaaaaa!

Cruise is on June 7. I cant wait!

I forgot about one other update. As we were in bed talking about how bad that movie sucked, I asked my wife what her ideal screenplay would be. In other words, what would be the perfect porn movie for her? She said she didnt know and that she never thought about it.

This morning I told her I was going to write her a screenplay just for her.

I got the idea that maybe I could use this to introduce new ideas slowly. So, this first screenplay would be fairly tame with lots of oral and basic sex. Follow-on screenplays would introduce chastity, maybe a threesome, and eventually cuckolding. What do you think? I like it because it would be a way to introduce cuckolding in a very loving way without any pressure because its just a fantasy screenplay.

Scene 1: Husband and wife get ready to go out. Wife is dressed in a sexy dress and husband has on a jacket and tie. Doorbell rings - its the cute 18 year old babysitter who invites her boyfriend over for sex in the livingroom as the kids are arelax.

Scene 2: Husband and wife having a good time while at dinner. Its their 10 year anniversary. She teases him by taking off her panties and giving them to him. They enjoy themselves at dinner and some slow dancing. She ends up giving him a blowjob and swallowing in the car in the parking lot. Scene 1 and 2 alternate back and forth.

Scene 3: Husband and wife come home and pay the babysitter who goes home. They have loving passionate sex in the bedroom with lots of oral sex and orgasms for her.

Scene 4: Wife and girlfriend are having coffee in the kitchen the next morning. Friend is congratulating wife on anniversary and kidding about sex. Wife tells her about the great sex they had the night before. Friend gets a gleam in her eye and says "I bet I can make you come even harder!" Wife smiles back at her and says "I'd like to see you try!" They both grin and walk back to the bedroom holding hands where they have an awesome girl-on-girl pussy munch.

Scene 5: Ladies are relaxing in bed after their time together and talking when they hear some noise. Wife tells friend its the pool boy servicing the pool. They peek out the window to see the hunky pool boy working. Friend says "I wish he'd service me..." They both look at each other and grin. Wife lets her friend borrow some lingerie and helps her put it on. Wife gets dressed in regular clothes and tells friend "good luck" and leaves. Friend seduces pool boy and they have awesome sex outside on the chaise lounge.

Scene 6: Wife surprises husband at the office with lunch. Behind closed doors they eat their lunch - pussy and dick is on the menu. Last lines of the movie is the husband telling wife "thank you for 10 wonderful years" and she replies "I cant wait to find out what the next ten has in store!" Then she smiles seductively and leaves.

What do you think? As I said the sequel will introduce chastity and some games for hubby and maybe a threesome for the friend.

Yep...that will work. I think your wife will love it. Hell, I think its pretty damn good.

The sequel, maybe something with the wifes gf talking to the wife about the pool boy experience, how big his cock is and how satisfying the sex was. The gf telling the wife she should try him out, the wife responding with a lot of reluctance, but curiosity eventually...Well, you know where I am heading with this.

Good luck.

That sounds like a good start. Nothing too crazy to turn her off. Especially given what she said about girl-girl porn. How how do you feel about her with another woman? I'm curious, but as I update my thread you'll see why I'm asking.

Like I said, she has always said she didnt like girl-on-girl porn. So much so that we would skip girl-girl scenes whever we watched a porno.

But now Im wondering if maybe she is turned on by it but is embarrased to say so. I am wondering if she might be using this excuse to say "maybe we should watch some girl-on-girl porn". We'll have see how that develops over time.

Update, she still hasnt locked me up yet, but she has teased me about doing it. Every night we were going to have sex and lock up, it got too late. We have also been busy with graduations. But she promised me that tonight was the night! Yeaaaaa!

By the way, I am going to post my lock up experience and feelings on Twitter. If you want to follow, go to Twitter.com/iwmwtcm

A few comments wrt the screenplay thingie - I don't know how detailed you want to be, but it seems obvious that a lot of pitfalls of porn is in details and representation. If you're going to be more detailed than what you outlined so far, this bears keeping in mind.

For instance - your wife didn't like the faceshot from the porn. As a guy, I can honestly say that I don't like them either, and I can take a guess why your wife does not like them...because they feel degrading. I don't like porn that is degrading myself (to women, that is). Lots of generic porn falls into this category, probably because it tried to tick as many 'boxes' and different fetishes as possible. Therefore, there is a multitude of otherwise good flicks out there that has been ruined for me because of faceshots, slapping, obligation and a lot of other stupid things.

Now, of course, what you suggested seems blessedly free of that. But what your wife will ultimately think is good porn might very well be something neither of you expected at all. I suggest picking up some more flicks, and tell her that you are honestly curious about what elements that she finds turn-ons and -offs. Perhaps more surprises are in stock!

Bootyz,
Great advice, thanks! I think you are right on about so much porn trying to please as many people as possible. I started another thread complaining about this and wondering why porn producers dont realize the market potential for couples porn. Maybe they think it would be too boring or something. I think good couples porn can be extremely hot while exploring new ideas and fantasies. I actually think a cumshot to the face can be hot and enjoyed by couples if its done in a non-degrading way.

Anyway, this was what I was trying for in my screenplay. I will post my wifes reaction to it after I show it to her.

You're going to show it to her! That's awesome. I do wish my wife would watch an occasional dirty movie with me...

Im starting day 3 of being in chastity! Remind me again why I wanted this???

Yesterday, during my commute home from work, I thought it would be interesting to listen to my "Loving Cuckold" audio file. I nearly burst my CB-6000! My cock was trying to squeeze out of every opening! Why did they put those vent holes on the side? They serve no purpose except to cause pain.

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