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ValGal
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# Posted: 27 Jan 2008 03:11:51
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So we've been doing the cuckold thing for about three years now - mostly hubby's idea at first - and I guess I'm struggling with something that maybe some of you can comment on.
I'm noticing that over time, I get more and more physically distant from hubby...like my body just isn't capable of responding to him any more. My heart belongs to him as much as always, but the thought of any sort of sexual contact - geez, even the thought of him seeing me naked - is seeming really weird and nearly impossible to me these days.
Of course, I don't have these issues with my bf...with him, I get within twenty feet and the arousal lights up. When I'm not with him, I fantasize about him touching me and making love to me, but I haven't had these kinds of thoughts about hubby in a very long time now. It's like my body is pre-programmed to be exclusive to my bf somehow.
I talked to hubby about it, but I'm not sure he understands how deep this reflex goes. As a result, I walk around feeling sort of guilty and evil - like maybe I'm this terrible person just taking advantage of hubby or something. Hubby seems okay with it - we talk about my outings with my bf and I know he gets aroused by it - but he doesn't pressure me for sex and seems kind of turned on by the eunich lifestyle he's arranged for himself. Still, it really has me worried - has anyone else experienced this, and what's the solution?
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# Posted: 27 Jan 2008 03:54:09
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Sounds to me like you have gone all the way with the cuckold lifestyle, i see no reason for you to feel evil or guilty, as long as your husband accepts his role, and you are happy with your bf.
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Lvnu
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# Posted: 27 Jan 2008 18:12:54
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I understand your feelings of not being sexually attracted to hubby. You see, many years ago, even though my wife and I had discussed her being with another man, she didn't thing I could hendle it. Accordingly she started a relationship with two black brothers that owned a shop next door to her's. This was a secret (cheating) relationship. Even though I had fantacised about her with them after seeing the big bulges in their trousers, I never really suspected her getting involved with them. Well, eventually, it got to the point where she wouldn't sleep in the same bed with me. She made up other excuses, such as things that I had done that had alinated her feelings for me.
Eventually, with her business on a paying basis, yealding her independent from me, she chose to divorce me.
I still didn't know about the relaationship between them until years later from a neighboring shop owner.
As I look back on this, I would have gladly accepted her relationship with those well hung black brothers and be her prowd cuckold. I would have cherrished the denial if I had only known the real reason.
I say to you, you are definitely on the right track, and if you do love hubby, keep the communications flowing. Tell hem about all the hot lovemaking you and your bf are having. If he is into being humiliated, talk to him about size difference, the better lover, etc. Also take him shopping with you, while trying on certain things, make sure other people around knows that he is your hubby and talk about your bf to hubby whie others are listening.
I don't know your age or your attitudes, but a really hot button would be to discuss with hubby the possibilities of your bf getting you pregnant.
If you meat your bf in hubbys presence, be sure to run into his arms and give him a deep passinate kiss. If I could have seen my wife kissing her black lovers, I would have probably cum in my pants. Lol.
Well, ValGal, I hope this has helped you, and that the three of you have exactly what you want without any guilt or regretts.
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ValGal
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# Posted: 27 Jan 2008 18:46:58
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Lvnu, thanks for the perspective. I'm sorry to hear that you had a partner who cheated on you the way you describe. In my mind, that's a whole different thing - and it's based on deceit and disrespect, not loving in any way. She didn't deserve someone like you who was willing to give her the gift of her sexual freedom.
Believe it or not, I was never the cheating type - never even crossed my mind to want someone else...it was mainly my hubby that brought these thoughts into our relationship, and it took him nearly a year of pleading until I got comfortable with the topic.
I guess I'm sort of conservative and old fashioned in my thinking, so it's been rough for me to really get my head around the whole cuckolding thing. I understand what you say about hubby in an intellectual way, but I really can't say I totally understand his feelings or why he prefers this kind of stuff.
Still, I try to just go with the flow since it seems to work for all of us, but part of it is that it's natural for me to be faithful to the guy I'm having sex with, and that's not hubby at this stage. At the same time, putting hubby in a role more like my brother than my hubby also seems a bit wrong to me, even though I know it's what he probably wants.
The whole thing just feels awfully complicated to me right now, and I don't see it getting easier any time soon. I know you mention the pregnancy thing and it's probably a common fantasy for a lot of guys in here, but from my perspective as a woman nearing 30, there's also a very pragmatic side to it regarding whether I want kids, and if so, who would be the father and how would we raise them.
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Lvnu
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# Posted: 27 Jan 2008 19:11:35
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ValGal, in response to your last paragraph: I have been on this site and others for a number of years, and read many experiences. (one of my turnons. Lol) It appears to me that the ultimate in cuckolding is for the wife to have her lovers baby and the hubby accepts it as his own to love and rase.
You can read many experiences if you click on search herein, and type in the word "pregnant" in the appropriate box, then go to almost any of the topics and click on go.
Admittedly, most of the things you will read will be crap, however, there are some real experiences there and you can get some idea as to the feelings and desires are from all parties.
This is a good informative site if you can weed out most of the fake and trashy crap.
Question: Does hubby see you and bf togheter in public or private, and if so, do you display your affection to bf in the presence of hubby.
If I ever get married again, I hope that I will be lucky enough to get a woman like you that still loves me, but all her passinate sexual feelings belong to someone else. Therefore, I consider your husband a very lucky man.
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ValGal
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# Posted: 27 Jan 2008 21:17:32
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Quoting: Lvnu Question: Does hubby see you and bf togheter in public or private, and if so, do you display your affection to bf in the presence of hubby.
Yeah, we're pretty much out in the open when we're together, and sometimes hubby sees us this way. I tend to be the demonstrative type, and my bf gets into thinking of me as his "trophy gf", so it works all the way around. There've been a few occassions where hubby's seen us in public together, including once at an office party where everyone knew my bf as my "significant other", not hubby.
As for him being a lucky man...well, I love and appreciate everything he does for me, but I'll never understand why he chooses to have this sort of tortured life (but I'm glad he does  )
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Rodger
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# Posted: 27 Jan 2008 21:35:50
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I have followed this post with some interest as the replies have been posted. I won't make any long pontificating comment on your original posting, except to say that this growing physical distance is common between wives and cucky/sub hubbies. In fact it is a feature I regularly warn the ones I chat with to be aware of. If it is not dealt with somehow, the wife/cucky relationship will have serious problems in the future.
ValGal, your last comment interests me; what makes you think your hubby is leading a "tortured life"? Has he commented on this, or given you some other indication he sees his life/role as a tortured one?
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ValGal
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# Posted: 28 Jan 2008 01:38:07
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Rodger, thanks for the input. Curious what you mean by "dealt with somehow"...what do you see are the options?
As for him leading a "tortured life"...I guess I don't know if he really finds it torturous or not, so I'm probably just projecting my own ideas about how I'd feel if I was in his shoes. I do recall a few instances early on where he'd get so humiliated and upset, the tears would run down his face - but at the same time, he'd have an enormous erection going on...guess that's the essence of cuckoldry though, isn't it?
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Rodger
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# Posted: 28 Jan 2008 03:10:21
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After saying that I wouldn't pontificate in my reply above, I am now at a grave risk of doing so in answering your last posting.
You have very accurately sumed it up!! Of course it varies by degrees from Cuck to Cuck, but based on my contact with them, the life of a Cuck is best described by "Uncertainty, Humiliation, Angst and Tears, all the while maintaining an achingly hard erection"! Their life is in fact completely overwhelmed by their cocks and their relationship with the woman they love! (Notice I didn't use the words "Enormous Erection" as you did. It is a cliche I know, but in most cases "enormous" is overdoing the need for an adjective.)
The increasing "distance" between a wife and her Cuck hubby is not inevitable, but it is related absolutely to how the relationship works between the wife and Cuck hubby. And you need to remember that a marriage between a wife and a Cuck hubby does not necessarily have to have a physical side to flourish. But it does have to have intimacy of some sort. In most marriages (including Cuck marriages) the relationship includes physical intimacy, but it could just be spiritual or intellectual intimacy. But I do believe a marriage must retain intimacy of somesort to survive.
What did I mean by "dealt with somehow" when I commented on the growing physical distance between you two? Well I think there are only two broad options.
The increasing distance can be ignored. In this case I believe a breakdown in the relationship is inevitable as the increasing physical distance, will lead to increasing distance in all other areas of intimacy.
Or you can discuss the situation even more than you have already, tell him how you feel about what you are doing and then get him to talk about how he feels. This leads on to lots and lots of possibilities, all of which can be used "replace" the lost physical part of your relationship with something else.
What you have to remember during these discussions with your Cuck hubby is that you have the absolute upper hand. He is so besotted with you and the lifestyle he wants you to lead that he would agree to almost anything to keep you!!
So before talking to him, think about what you want and what you will accept gving him. My suggestion is that you accept that you will always be the main object of his desires, but have him accept that your sexual energies are being placed elsewhere, at least for now. Always discuss in detail with him what you and your bf plan to do, have him assist you dressing before you go out and then undressing on your return. (You can even use him as a taxi driver.) He will love the intimacy of knowing what you are doing, assisting you, but you also know that any sex between you two will go no further than you have agreed. (Just as examples, he might jerk off into your panties on your return, or even jerk off over your tummy but he must then lick you clean, or even have to remain sexless in your presence. that sort of thing. The possibilities are endless. I have even used the throw of a dice to decide what a Cuck hubby gets on his wife's return home.)
If you talk and talk and talk with your Cuck hubby, I think what you will find that as long as you replace physical intimacy with some other type and keep reminding him that he is important in your life, you will be able to do what you please and cuck hubby will even be happy to assist you!!
You raise another interesting question as to who should father your children. I would not even dare give you advice on this one!!! But I can tell you of three couples I chat with. In the first the wife has agreed that the first child will be from her hubby and at the moment that is as much as she has agreed to! In the second, the hubby has to wear a condom during the once or twice a month he gets to have his cock inside the wife he worships. However, some selcted lovers get to bare back her for special events. (2 or 3 regular and known cocks bare back her a month, out of the 5 or 6 extramartial cocks a month that she fucks.) I suspect that this wifey chooses the days she takes cum internally, but this Cuck hubby is fully resigned to the fact there is a good chance that he will be raising a first born that is not his. And the third couple? Well in this marriage the hubby only ever gets blow jobs. (But he does get 5 or 6 world class blow jobs a month!! This loving wifey saves her pussy for her lovers, but once again, wifey takes selected cocks bare back and risks the consequence of pregnancy!
(Sorry about the length of this!!)
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arthurarthur
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# Posted: 28 Jan 2008 06:37:47
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i think all is in line and good advice. i am not a cuck but have a few girlfriends that i have sex with occasionally that will tell me about the sex they have had with others...since it is a rather small town i am familiar with the men they see and sometimes the men will tell me about the hottie they fucked, not knowing my relationship... so in a sense i am a sort of substitute cuck with them...and from that i am gonna assume your hubby thinks a bit like me and say he is happy ,content etc..and yes you're transferring your fears and worries onto him. Free yourself of the guilt and keep a good open conversations with him, lots of talking. your relationship with him will be up on another level and even closer as a 'girl' friend then as a lover.
meanwhile...have fun until someone says otherwise..the rules are still being written in society and they seem to be changing towards this kind of relationship more and more. At the alter you promise your love and soul to the other...i feel i was cheated on by my ex-wife yrs ago because these things werent honored...love honor obey..hearing you still love him whole heartedly made me sigh and almost tear.... her cheating me of that ...well that is what killed it for me.
i woulda loved her sexing up others.
did ya have fun?
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ValGal
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# Posted: 29 Jan 2008 23:14:47
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Rodger, thanks for the advice about the need to maintain some sort of "intimacy" in marriage - I agree with most of what you say.
Hubby and I have been doing a lot of talking these past few days, and I guess if nothing else, I'm a little more clear about his role in my life vs. my bf's role, and I think maybe this newfound clarity lets me express it to hubby in a better, more open and direct way. I have to admit, I was probably less than honest about where things stood up till now, probably wanting to give hubby some hope that maybe someday things would change and we'd have a "normal" marriage again. I guess the good news is that hubby seems perfectly happy to stay married to a woman who belongs to another guy sexually.
Something I really hadn't considered is that hubby is also having much more sex this way, even if it's just masturbation. I guess he always felt like he never really satisfied me so sex was never all that enjoyable for him anyway. Under the cuck arrangement, he gets to feel like he's indirectly giving me what I want, and at the same time, he gets off all he wants guilt-free. He even gets a little something extra out of the humiliation. I suppose it works for him.
Arthurarthur, I see your point also and I agree that society is much, much more accepting of these "nonstandard" relationships than would have been in the past. I also agree that above all else, honesty and communications are the keys if the couple involved is going to stand a chance. Seems like that's true no matter what - cuck relationship or not...
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Rodger
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# Posted: 29 Jan 2008 23:41:58
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I am pleased that some of what I said was of help.
A few more points of clarification. You say that you had at least suggested to hubby "that maybe someday things would change". Well I think it is likely they will change and this is because all relationships change as they develop. Mad, passionate overwhelming feelings of lust and sex may never occur between you and huuby again, but things will still change. Your lover may change circumstances, you may find another lover, or even run two at once. You may even (heaven forbid) loose a bit of interest in sex (especially with the stress of raising children), but the important thing is that both you and hubby know you are important to one another and want to stay married.
And for what it is worth, I think it is unlikely that Cuck huuby is masturbating more than he was. The change is that now he is doing it more openly and admitting to you he does it. (Well admitting to at least some of it!)
But keep as much intimacy with him as you can, talk about everything (as he will continually have doubts about your relationship with him) and give him as much attention as you can. (Even if it seems to you like you are humiliating him.) Do all that, and he will remain devoted to you and any children you have!!
You said you agreed with most of what I said. Tell me, which bits of my post didn't you agree with?
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ValGal
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# Posted: 30 Jan 2008 03:11:08
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Quoting: Rodger Well I think it is likely they will change and this is because all relationships change as they develop
Of course, this is true...life is never a static thing. I was more referring to my own worry about making hubby feel he was coming in "second place". I suppose I thought it would be better for him if he felt it was "second place, right now" rather than some sort of final judgement.
I guess you're probably right about his masturbation schedule, but I still think it's a good thing that we can talk about it more openly now. I'm sure I was the type who saw her hubby's masturbation as a personal failure on my part (if I were doing my job correctly, he wouldn't need to masturbate), but now all that's different too. I'm glad he gets some pleasure that way.
As for the parts I don't agree with...well, mostly it's the stuff about involving hubby in my relationship with my bf. In my mind, the two are (and need to be) separate things...
I have my marriage to hubby, and I have my relationship with my bf. While I agree about the need for special intimacies in each, I have a difficult time blurring them together by letting hubby get too involved in the ways you suggest. I'm okay to talk to hubby and share the details about what I do with my bf, but only in an abstract way. I'm sure it's just me, but I need to keep the two "lives" separate and distinct or it feels too weird to me. Make sense?
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Rodger
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# Posted: 30 Jan 2008 03:37:37
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Makes absolute and complete sense!!
Congratulations on getting your life in order.
And remember of course that we would all love to hear how things develop over time. If you want to do this in a less public way, always feel free to PM me.
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# Posted: 31 Jan 2008 01:16:53
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Quoting: ValGal I have my marriage to hubby, and I have my relationship with my bf.
This is where our marriage has evolved to, as well. After experimenting with various non-monogamous arrangements, my wife finally realized that the only way this was going to work for her was to have a relationship with her boyfriend that was entirely separate from our marriage. She is monogamous with him, and we are no longer sexual together. This works very well for both of us, although it took a lot of experimenting to get here. Congrats to you on getting there without as many missteps as we had on the way!
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ValGal
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# Posted: 31 Jan 2008 03:59:50
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rdvrk, I wonder if there's really ever any other way.
I don't believe most women can have an ongoing sexual relationship without forming some type of bond, no matter how strongly you feel about hubby.
I certainly can't, and speaking for myself, my time with my bf is like a fairy-tale...we get together when it's convenient for us both, we laugh, we have wonderful sex, we exchange cute little emails on and off...both of us are always on "good behavior" in the little fantasy world we setup. Of course this adds up to a separate relationship altogether.
How else could it be?
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subserv
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# Posted: 31 Jan 2008 11:11:01
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I don't know exactly what turns us cuckolds on so much about being a cuckold, but I know I love it. I guess some of us are just meant to be submissive and some are meant to be bulls. It happens in the animal world all the time. I would have loved it if my ex had a loving relationship with a dominant bull and I could have been relieved of having to perform. I always felt a lot of pressure to please her in any kind of manly hard way. Because of my submissive nature, that was too much pressure on me. I really wanted her to fall in love with someone else and I could have been their total slave. Probably our lack of honesty about all this in part led to our divorce.
I really like your posts ValGal because you are so honest in your feelings. Please keep us updated and I assure you that your hubby is as happy as you and your BF are!
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Monica Larsson
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# Posted: 31 Jan 2008 11:36:43
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ValGal,
I'm in a quite similar situation as you and have sex exclusively with my lover who is a far better lover than my hubby aver was with a manhood three times longer and thicker that satisfy all my needs.
It was my husbands idea from the beginning and I don't have a guilty conscience for it.
I have no longer sex with my husband and even refuse giving him handjobs as I find it extremely boring - do you?
Monica
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stacey23
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# Posted: 31 Jan 2008 15:20:15
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ValGal,
Since your husband is no longer involved with you sexually and your BF is fulfilling your needs as any normal husband would do, do you ever think that someday you'll view your husband as extra baggage or a third wheel and leave him for your true love interest?
I get the impression that this is his fantacy and not yours, so it makes sense that someday you could ask yourself why your currrent husband is in the picture and want a normal life with the guy you're true to and who rocks your world. Do you think you might wake up some day and ask yourself why you're married to a masterbating sissy when your BF is the MAN in your life and the one you wnat to spend your time with?
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ValGal
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# Posted: 1 Feb 2008 03:45:16
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Subserv, I sort of understand the cuck thinking, but it doesn't come easy to me (and I imagine, lots of other women). I had a pretty traditional childhood and was raised to think of men in a certain way - and that's certainly not the way hubby wants to be. I love my hubby and try to understand, but like I said, it doesn't really come easy sometimes. But I do have limits, and the type of relationship you suggest - sort of a permanent threesome with dominant and submissive partners - is probably something I can't do...about the best I can handle is acting like I have two parallel and non-intersecting lives going on at once. Make sense?
Monica, it's good to hear I'm not alone out here, but I have to say you sound a little resentful or angry. I guess I feel that way too sometimes, but I try to see my hubby as sort of victimized by his own limitations somehow.
Stacey, who can say what tomorrow holds, but I really can't imagine life without hubby - we've literally known each other all our lives (we met when we were in kindergarten together). I guess so long as he can accept being more like my brother than my hubby, I will stay with him. At least that's the current plan...
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ValGal
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# Posted: 1 Feb 2008 03:53:37
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Stacey, one other point...
At some level, I know that what I have with my bf is a little bit of a fantasy and not necessarily real. Like I said in one of the earlier posts, we see each other under some pretty artificial circumstances and don't really have to deal with the day-to-day crap that most couples struggle with.
I know that if things were different, we might or might not have quite as much. I keep in mind that what we have probably works largely because there's no pressure on us to have some sort of "real" relationship every day. We don't argue over money or taking the garbage out or what's for dinner - almost all of our energy goes into making each other feel good.
Which isn't to say that I don't have very strong feelings for him...just that I know my feelings are based on the fact that we have this casual relationship. In a more traditional dating situation where we might be thinking of a long-term commitment, things might be very different.
I think this same thinking applies to my bf. He's older and recently divorced, and while I think he loves having a pretty, young "trophy girlfriend", I'm not so sure he'd be eager to settle down with me for the long haul if hubby weren't in the picture.
Make sense?
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# Posted: 2 Feb 2008 11:59:09
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ValGal I sort of understand where your coming from. My husband gave me permission to find other men to help satisfy me sexually... I was resistant to the idea originally and as such I didn't really consider everything that could go right/ wrong with our relationship.
Unlike you I'm still having a sexual relationship with my husband. But I know how difficult it is to get your mid straight with what your doing... I'm going through it myself.
Just a word of advice from a lady who is giving me advice... keep talking about what your doing in everything above board with your husband, as soon as you start keeping secrets from him, you can kiss your marriage, your husband and your reputation good bye and you'll become known as the local slut (although she said scarlet woman[she's in her 80's]). If you can keep him up to date with what your doing he will (most likely) cover for you.
Because of me taking lovers with his permission, I'm now much closer to him and he's much more supporting and open to me that I almost wish we/ I had done this sooner.
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# Posted: 2 Feb 2008 12:29:29
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Shrinking Violet,
I have to say, what an insightful and thoughtful posting. And it's wonderful to see such wise advice being passed down and shared.
Thank you,
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ValGal
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# Posted: 2 Feb 2008 13:36:41
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Shrinking Violet, thanks for the advice - I agree 100%.
Like you, I was resistant to the idea in the beginning. I thought it was somehow wrong and would lead to the end of our marriage. Took lots of convincing before I agreed to try, and a lot of the reason was because I saw how important it was to hubby.
In the beginning, I also tried to keep a sexual relaitonship going with hubby, but after a while, it started to feel a little weird (I think to both of us) and it dropped off. It was a gradual thing - not like one day I decided "that's it - no more sex with hubby". Following the good advice I've been given in here, I had more communications with hubby about it, and it seems that he probably prefers it this way.
I do keep hubby aware of everything that's going on in my life, especially with regards to my bf.
Our approach is that I offer him sort of the sanitized high level summary, and if he wants to know more, he asks, then I always answer anything he asks 100% honestly. So I might for instance tell him "saw bf for lunch today", and if he's not in a good state of mind to hear more, it gets left as that. But if/when he wants to know more, he asks and I tell him with complete honesty, no matter what he brings up.
I think hubby and I have a strong emotional bond - it's just become less and less about romance and any sort of physical connection. I try to look at the cuckolding thing as a gift he offers me, and I try to accept it as gractiously as I can. I value him in my life and would never leave him, but over time, any physical attraction and feeling I might have had seem to be fading away...that's the part that concerns me, even though intellectually I know it's part of what he might want.
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# Posted: 2 Feb 2008 15:27:52
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I find this subject intriguing, I am a boyfriend with an attractive girlfriend who openly tells me I have a small penis and that generally sex isn't great for her.. She tells me that athough she is still very attracted to me its the lack of girth which spoils it for her.... We often talk about her enjoying someone bigger but in the end she always says she couldn't sleep with someone else etc etc
My main reason for posting is the element of cuckolding where the wife no longer has any sexual relationship with her partner....as a cuck wannabe I would still want a sexual relationship... is there not a risk that by denying your partner any sexual relationship they will actually end up finding someone else...maybe some cuckold men are generally not interested in sex in the first place ?? ValGal did your husband used to have a high sex drive...?
Is there not a possibility that the physical attraction he used to have for you is also fading ? If he wanted to seek out other partners would this be ok for you ?
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ValGal
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# Posted: 2 Feb 2008 17:58:03
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Cuckky, first off, I urge you to be really careful with this...there's a lot of difference between fantasy and reality, and unfortunately, if you get it wrong, it's almost certainly a relationship-killer. Just my advice...
To answer your questions, I think a lot about whether hubby just might want someone different too. We've had lots of direct talk about it and he says no, that he's 100% committed to being loyal to me. I think what it comes down to is that he really *does* have "a sexual relationship", but for him, it amounts to hearing about my escapades from a distance, and then lots of masturbation.
I'm sure you feel bad sometimes that you can't satisfy your gf...hubby is like that with me. Makes him feel pressure and anxiety, and I think he'd feel this exact same way, no matter who he was with. To him, the idea of sex with a woman has almost a selfish component to it...maybe sex in the conventional way isn't all that satisfying to him (or you?).
He says that the alternative, being able to masturbate all he wants, is much less stressful and just as enjoyable, especially with the boost he says he gets from whatever humiliation and jealousy fetish he has. Somehow he also makes me feel like he's attracted to me - even though it's a bit of a weird way. After all, he would have to love me a lot to tolerate sharing me a guy who can make up for his inadequacies.
Bottom line is that it's not like hubby went absolutely celibate...we hopefully just found a way that both of us can get the sexual satisfaction we want - it's just a little non-standard in terms of society's views on sex and marriage.
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subserv
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# Posted: 2 Feb 2008 21:05:50
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Val Gal,
I find the way your relationship with your BF just fine. I have lots of fantasies, but mostly I would have been perfectly content as the hubby with just what you guys are doing. I think what you wrote about your relationship with BF makes sense. It's a far different thing to have a marriage relationship than the current relationship you have with BF.
Also, regarding what you said about your non-standard relationship, who really knows what goes on in marriages?
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heather1
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# Posted: 2 Feb 2008 22:14:40
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I have no problem with my hubby at all, it was my idea to get into cuckoldry well I kind of encouraged him.
I love my husband more than anything and without him I couldn't be a cuckoldress, I don't want just any little dick man to be my cuck, I want him
we both enjoy this kind of life.
Your problem is that you are not a cuckoldress you only done it because your husband asked you to and you thought what the hell let me fuck other men if my husband want me to do it then I do it, you misunderstood your hubby.
he wanted you to cuck him not just sleep around and then get bord with him.
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kapugi
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# Posted: 2 Feb 2008 22:54:03
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ValGal - You mentioned in your first post that the thought of seeing your hsuband nude is a little weird for you. Do you still allow him to see you nude? What about how you dress around him? For instance, do you wear sexy items with your boyfriend and simple pajamas with your husband?
I am curious how far you have taken it to that level. That would be the ultimate humiliation if I could no longer see my own wife nude in my own house!
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ValGal
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# Posted: 3 Feb 2008 01:08:32
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Subserv, thanks for the vote of confidence. Hubby acts like I'm giving him this wonderful gift of a cuck marriage sometimes...good to know there are others who'd find it desirable as well.
Heather1, you sound pretty sure of yourself...bravo - I hope I get to that point someday.
Kapugi, yes it's pretty much at that level where I don't feel too comfortable with hubby seeing me undressed, and he respects my wishes by giving me my privacy that way. It's not really something planned or "enforced" - it just seems to work out that way. As far as how I dress for bed, with hubby as often as not I'm in sweats...with my bf, well, honestly we tend to do without.
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