melbhusb
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i wold love to hear what hapoens please tell us everything
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cder
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Yes please loved reading about it, hope all works out ok
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jacana
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#33 · Edited by: jacana
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I see a potential problem.
The pattern with my girlfriend and me was almost exactly the same as yours. I knew she was cheating, finally she confessed. She said she wouldn't see him again. I didn't believe her for a moment. I told her that she must see him at least one more time, this time with my knowledge, so that she could be assured that she need never lie again.
She went to see him, but avoided all of the cool stuff we talk about on this website. No cleanup, avoiding talking about it.
Bottom line. My experience. We men like the cuck things. Sometimes the women just want a new lover. It starts with thier perception that the magic has gone out of our sex because of their husband.
I believe that many people with low self esteem become addicted to the rush obtained when being with a new lover. We attempt to fulfill that rush with the cuckold thing.
But some women just want to have the freedom with no obligations. My relationshp progressed to where she was just gone and unavailable most of the time.
My first wife did the same. She ultimatley married the guy.
Of course, none of this is a problem if you are ok with yourself. When relationships end, it is difficult, at best. But if it is horrible for you, then you must take a look at yourself.
I accept responsibility for my share. Be careful what you get into. Look at most of the postings on this site. Not too many long-term cuck relationships.
But they are very exciting whether they last a long time or the relationship ultimatley ends.
As always, this is just my viewpoint, based upon my experience. Your results might be very different. I will make you crazy.
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drfarmer
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Sheesh! For two months, nothing happens, I'm gone for a mere four days and sb64 posts as whole new chapter in his life with a cheating wife. Well, that's the way of the world, sometimes.
It seems things are turning out as you suspected, but as others have suggested, there is more to the story she has not yet told you. You'll have to gently coax it out of her with patient and loving prodding. Stick to your guns about her never ever lying again, but give her a one-time pass to come totally clean NOW. You could still get burned by her behaviour if you don't play your cards carefully, but it's doable. Just successfully converted mrs. drfarmer to swinging and swapping after her 25 years of lying about her cheating, so I know it can be done.
Keep us updated.
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sb64
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Well as I said yesterday, we were due to discuss again. We spoke/cried/argued/hugged for almost 3 hours, here is what I have so far....
I told her now is teh time to come clean and tell me everything, she is adamant that she has told me the truth. She swears that the "strange behavior" i picked up in March was her comoing close to cheating but resisting. We has a repairman in the house in March, she told me he was very sexy and that she flirted with him and knew that all she had to do was say the word, but she managed to resist the very strong urge. She felt gulity afterwards for being so tempted and almost cheating on me. That was the behavior she said made me suspicious.
She also told me that her jokes about boyfriends etc were to gauge my reaction. She pointed out that she has no remister to lie to me as she has admitted to relaxing with a guy twice, how much worse would 4 times be she asked. Well I had to admit she had a point.
She told me all about her 2 adventures after I begged and nagged her. I will post her adventures later I promise. Well we sort of reached an undrestanding. We are going to try a cuckold arrangement to see if it works for us. I am very excited about this, but still very apprehensive, due to her cheating. We also agreed that we would let things settle down for a bit before we start and would have to agree all the rules too.
Last night I tried to initaite sex with her, I was so turned on all day!!! but she laughed at me and said why would I want that from you? Turned her back to me and went to relax
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melbhusb
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SB, please post soon and tell us the details of your wife's sexual encounters. Seems like you are getting yourself sorted out, good luck with everything.
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ooze
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Quoting: melbhusb SB, please post soon and tell us the details of your wife's sexual encounters. Seems like you are getting yourself sorted out, good luck with everything. sorted out? yeah, judging by his last post, it seems he's being sorted right out of the fucking bed. gl
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sb64
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I promised the low down here it is. As i said before she was thinking about it since December and almost did it in March. Well this is what she told me happened.
She does not work, so pretty much has the house to herself most days. Well she was having coffee with a girlfriend on the fateful morning and two guys started chatting to them, my wife said there was some sexual chemistry between herself and the one guy, the 4 of them joked around for a bit, the guys left and my wife and freind stayed about 10 minutes. When my wife got to her car the guy (Brian) had left his business card on her windscreen, he had written on the back "I would love to get to know you better, you are one of the sexiest women I have ever met."
Well she said she sat in her car outside the coffee shop for 10 minutes, torn not knowing what to do, she claims she was so scared, but she said she was the most turned on she has ever been in her life. So eventually she called him and he invited her over to his place, turns out he is married, but his wife was out of town on business ( Aparently a very regular occurance) So my wife, my conservative, shy wife actually went over to Brian's place. As she was telling me this, I was caught up in a mixed emotion of horror and eroticism. Well she claims she stood at his door shaking, finally a small knock and he flung open the door and grabbed her, they embraced immidiately kissing and tearing off each others clothes. I was in shock this is the women who would only have sex with me in the dark and didnt often even show herself in the nude to me.
They made it to the bed, my wife said she was dripping, before he even touched her, again a real blow to me, as we have to lubricate as she never gets even slightly wet. Well they "fucked like rabbits" (her words), she had multiple orgasms - never happened with me. She came with him inside her - again never happened with me, she only ever came by finger with me. She initally said that he was about 2" bigger then me, but now she said more likely 3". making him around 8". She spent 2 hours with him and again I quote " I left there feeling truely fucked for the first time in my life"
Well after hearing all this I was in shock to say the least, here is the woman I have know almost my whole life behaving totally differently from any behavior I have ever known. Well of course she did it again about a week later, pretty much the same as the time before.
Well its been a few days now since and I have had time to absorb everything, and I have realised that clearly I am not satifying my wife at all in bed, I did not realise how inadequate I have been in that regard. I still love my wife as she does me, she is prepared to give it all up if I want her to.
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melbhusb
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#39 · Edited by: melbhusb
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Thanks for the upadte SB64 wow what a story, I can see how your emotions are all over the place. I can't see how your wife would be able to stop now she has had a taste of whats out there. If it was as good as she said I cant see how she could go back to the way it was before. How long is it since you have had sex with your wife?
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noswald
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Great story! Can you also post the details of the conversation your wife had with her friend in December that started her down this road?
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sb64
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I dont know a lot about what happened in December, her friend seperated from her husband of 18 years and in December went out for her first date since she was 16 (when she started dating her now ex husband) From what I gathered the sex was very very good and she seems to have made my wife think/realise that she was missing out. The friend had only ever slept with her ex untill then. So the parallels with my wife in that regard are similar
Also some more developments, last night in bed the wife said she was horny and asked me to lick her, which I love to do, but she never encouraged me to do before. She was as wet as, nearly drowned me and came hard twice ( again a neww experience. After her second orgasm she fell arelax. This morning was as if last night never happpened. I was left so hard I took hours to fall arelax.
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drfarmer
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sb
I think you have lost control of your marriage, it is not a mutually satisfying arrangement anymore, not emotionally, not romantically, not sexually. You must somehow set some rules and boundaries with yourselves, but I fear she may have gone too far to be reigned in now.
I may be wrong, but I fear for your marriage. What take does anyone else have on this?
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Jayj
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Well I am no expert, as i am just a guy whose wife is teaing about having a boyfriend and a Cuck wanna be, but it seesm like you are getting very mixed signals from her. On the one hand she says she will not see him again, but on the other hand she seems to have frozen you out. My question to you SB64 is what do you actually want from her?
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sb64
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Jayj, thats a great question. I know that I love my wife and want to stay married to her. I also know that I dont satisfy her at all sexually and that I would like to try a cuckold relationship.
I cannot get the thought of her lying there in with some guy pounding into her, and her showing the passion that I have not ever seen from her. I do however realize that life as we known it has changed forever. That she will not be able to stop, she may belive that she can, but clearly she wont be able to resist when teh opportunity comes around again. Of course I am hurt by the fact that she lied and that she cheated on me, but I still love her and I knwo she loves me. In all our talk there has not been a word about seperation.
I think I will most likely tell her that its ok for her to go out with Brian again. Last night I offered her a massage, which I know she loves, hoping it would lead to something, but she fell arelax during the massage.
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cder
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Sb64, I think that you have no choice but to accpet a cuckold life if thats on offer to you. I dont belive that your wife is giong to be able to stay away. If she was truely repentant she would not be ignoring you in he bedroom
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sb64
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OMG big developments!!!!!! Last night in bed, she said "I suppose you are horny?" I said of course I am its been over 2 weeks. She rolled onto her back and opened her legs and said make it quick!!!! I was shocked but so turned on I was instantly hard as I have ever been. Whilst I put some KY on, she lay there looking more half arelax. This was nothing like we have ever done it before, normally we have a decent bit of foreplay. Well I climbed on her and entered her, before I could move, she put her hand on my chest and stopped me before I had even one stroke. She said "Enjoy it, god knows when you will do this again" well that was too much for me, I came so hard without moving at all. She said "It figures" and turned her head away. I pulled out of her and she said clean up your mess and threw a wad of tissues at me.
Then she said "I have been doing research on the internet and read up all about Cuckolding. I am making you my Cuckold, if you dont like it, then you can pack your bags. I still love you and want to stay married, but I am not prepared to put up with you feeble attempts to use my body to satify your pathetic needs, I ned a real man to satisfy my needs, this is not up for discussion, its simple yes or no. If its yes then I will set the rules, Well? I said, what do you mean.... she cut me off YES or NO? I whispered yes, good girl she said and turned her back on me.
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ugo1st
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Thanks for keeping us informed and hard with your situation. Whatever she wants I feel she will do from now on. I really think you should try manipulating or guiding her into doing something you know she is going to do anyway. Include yourself in her affair. keep complimenting her on how hot she looks since being fucked really good. Have a take with her, say that since her opening up to you about how hot she was for this guy you have never been turned on by any woman more in your life. Remind her of that sexy glint she had in her eyes as she told you the full story.
Suggest that she got turned on telling you the details, remind her if she doesn't remember it that way. Just go over quietly with her all the little detail what knickers she wore, how wet she got waiting for you to go to work knowing she was going to be such a hot sexy woman for another man. Admit the fact his cock was bigger makes you both more turned on.
Thank her for being so hot for him, as you would be embarrassed, if he did not want to fuck your wife, for being ugly or a dud fuck.. Tell her she makes you proud knowing he was desiring you more than his wife. Then enquire how hot she felt knowing he wanted her so badly instead of his wife. You have to get her to want to be fucked by him again real soon, next time she knocks you back in bed, tell her you have no intentions of fucking her again until after her next encounter with him, that you just want to get her hot and want to be even sluttier for him even more.
Ask her if she thought she was hot because she was cheating on you, say some women get off being a liar and cheat giving no respect their husband, I am glad your not like that and it was just hard hot cook getting you motivated, you say.
Remind her that your marriage will not be complete until she returns home from sex and achieves a final orgasm from you, as a seal of approval , that she is a good wife and adored by you.
Remind her it will be even better next time with you knowing and picking out her outfits instead of feeling deep down she's being a sly low life cheat. Ask her is this makes it hotter I read that she was not working, so you have more control than you think,
Sorry for waffling on so much, hope you get the drift of where I'm coming from because you have to start feeling and she needing you to be part of the show.
Hey even pay her.. to do it... The last lady I was with was a gusher, (I thought they were just a myth). One night in while going at it (remember I didn't get the crap lover speech) I offered her $50 to pretend my face was a bike seat and come all over my face and head.
The fact is I knew she needed $50, and was going to slyly con me for it later that day anyway, This way she felt better for fucking me over for $50, I felt I got something too.
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sb64
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Ugo, thanks for the advice its great, I see exactly where you are coming from, its making myself part of that part of her life. The funny thing is during the day, after work etc life and marriage is normal, we get on as well as we always have, its when we go to bed, its like a switch clicks and its a different woman in the bed with me. I will take your advice and try and gte on thr front foot to try to establish how thinsg are going to work in my "new life"
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cder
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SB love your story so far, I found special interest in her last comment to you, calling you a good girl!!!! has anything been said about femminizing you? and how do you feel about it, if that is what she is intending?
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Brutus2
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I hope she will have more than one lover and you will clean her up with your MOUTH, and NEVER fuck her again... Fanatique de l'infidelite feminine
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sb64
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Cder, that comment was very strange, she has never said anthing like that before. I plan to sit with her tonite and try and put some of Ugo's advice into play.
Last night she had a headache and went to bed very early
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bullfluffnswallow
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V V INTERESTING!!! SOUNDS LIKE YOU'RE IN FOR A ROLLERCOASTER OF A RIDE!!! COUPLE THOUGHTS,1ST OFF DOES YOUR WIFE HAVE SOME ANGER ISSUES WITH YOU?? MAYBE SHES FEELING CHEATED FROM PAST POOR PERFORMANCES?? I DO NOTE THO THAT YOU SAY THE REST OF THE MARRIAGE IS GOING WELL. YOU HAVE'NT REALLY TALKED A LOT ABOUT HOW TURNED ON THIS HAS MADE YOU FEEL...DOES IT ?? WHAT PARTS GET YOU HARD?? DO YOU FANTASIZE ABOUT WHAT IS GOING ON?? DO YOU MASTERBATE ALOT?? CHEESH...I SOUND LIKE A FRIGGIN' ANALYST !!! MY SUGGESTION WOULD BE TO CHECK OUT THE SISSY/CHASTITY SECTION....SOUNDS LIKE THAT'S WHAT YOUR WIFE MAY BE PLANNING!! GOOD CUCK YOUNG LUCK!!! I MEAN...WELL YOU KNOW Who's Your Bitch.single,cuz not man enuf to attract a woman.
Will meet for sissy sex with yor cuck!!
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oleeaglefeather
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She doesn't work and wants you to pack YOUR bags? Screw that. If things don't work out, kick her ass to the curb.
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sb64
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Thanks for all the posts and all the interest. Firstly, my wofe does not want me to pack my bags, she wants to stay married 100%. She does however want to get some sexual satisfaction, which I cannot provide her, she is one hot and sexy lady and deserves better.
Well to answer your question on how I feel, i feell incredily turned on by the whole thing, when she told me the details of how she was with the guy i thought i was going to burst. No I have not been masterbating, she told me not too, I am not really home alone to get the opportunity, thats why I post at irregular times as I get online for a bit when i get the chance, like when she is on the phone.
This morning over breakfast we spoke a bit about it, she wants to find another guy to 'play around with" her words, I asked her why not Brian, she said that she cheated on me with Brian and wnats a clean start in our new lives. I said that if she is going to see someone it may as well be Brian, as clearly she had great sex with him. She said she wil think about it, but would not do anything ever again without telling me before. I told her that I am excited with the way things are going, but that I need to understand more, she said we will talk more soon, but that she is very glad that I am excited by it all as is she, hoping myabe later tonite something may happen in bed, lets see!!!
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cder
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just love your posts sb64, i so wish i was in your position, you are so lucky, please tell us what happened last night!!!!!
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Jayj
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am hanging out to hear whats up with you sb64, whats the news from last night? some of us are living our fantasies through you, keep it cumming pleeeze
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sb64
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Thanks for al your support, too late to post details, will try tomorrrow, interesting last 24 hours
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bullfluffnswallow
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Quoting: sb64 # Posted: 3 Jul 2007 05:31:36 Reply Quote Thanks for all the posts and all the interest. Firstly, my wofe does not want me to pack my bags, she wants to stay married 100%. She does however want to get some sexual satisfaction, which I cannot provide her, she is one hot and sexy lady and deserves better. Well to answer your question on how I feel, i feell incredily turned on by the whole thing, when she told me the details of how she was with the guy i thought i was going to burst. No I have not been masterbating, she told me not too, "she told me not to" .....NIIIIIIIICCCCCEEEEEE!!!!!!! Who's Your Bitch.single,cuz not man enuf to attract a woman.
Will meet for sissy sex with yor cuck!!
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cder
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SB64, where are you, we are hanging out for an update??????
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sb64
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sorry for not posting for a while, I had to compose myself and put the last few days into perspective first. Where to start? Well something did happen in bed that night, alhtough not for me . We spoke some more about Brain, she said if I was cool with it then she would love to see him again, she said thinking about him drove her crazy and that she was wet thinking about him. I thought oh this is great maybe I will get some relief at last. She opened her bedside drawer and pulled out a huge dildo, i was shocked, my conservative wife with a dildo!!! Tis same woman was cross with me when i bought her a vibrator one valentines day, saying why would i use that??? She handed me the dildo, strange feeling I may say, lay back and opened her legs. I said what about lubrication, she laughed and said, do you really think i need any???? She was dripping she was so wet, I started slowly inerting the dildo, which must have been 9 inches. come on she said, fuck me!!!! now and hard, do it. So i did. There she was writhing on the bed like a wanton woman, she came so quckly, dont stop she yelled, harder fuck me harder Brian. Well I was the most turned on I'd ever been. She came 3 times, eventually saying enough. She looked at my hardon, sniggered and took the dildo from me put it next to my litlle cock, grabbed it and said look at your little clitty. That touch was enough and I came allover myself, clean up your little mess girly she said. there has been a lot more developments since, but you will have to wait, as its too late
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