Reading wife's email...

Um, I would definitely ask her about it. It might be something very innocent. Like, she was at a friends place and she liked the bedspread and wanted to get you opinion of it so she took the picture. Then she forgot about it.

Or, this is Peters bed and she wants you to ask her about it. Seems unlikely, though. You have given her lots of opportunities to bring it up. Sending a picture of a bed seems like an odd way of bringing it up.

Of course she sent it on purpose, because she wanted you to ask her about it. You should have acted thrilled to get it, to let her know its OK and you love it. Your silence will have her thinking your not OK with it.

You act like you want your wife to play around, but then do nothing to encourage her. A little communication will go a long way.

If I were you, I'd just say thank you for the picture and smile at her...knowingly. I don't think you need to say too much...just acknowledge that you got it, and convey non-verbally that you think you know what she was trying to tell you. I agree with Smitty....you do need to react and give her a positive response for sharing. Don't be surprised if next time, instead of such a very subtle picture of two pillows on a nameless bed....that she provides something more juicy.

I did think the picture was a bit odd especially with the timing and that's why I wondered if it was a mistaken address. But the more I think about it, the more I think it is her way of a subtle hint. It looks too much like a hotel bed and she never asks for my opinion about bedspreads! Anyway, it if was about shopping then she would have asked me about it herself. I know I am over thinking this but it is a critical moment and I don't want to mess it up. Japanese style subtlety is quite the art form. Thanks for everyone's advice. Jumping up and down with excitement is not right but total silence will slady the spark as well. I will find a nice middle road...hopefully equally artful as her picture...but clearly welcoming of the next step.

That sounds like a good plan. Maybe send her a pic that demonstrates how much you love her and how strong your relationship is. Cant wait to see what you come up with.

maybe a thank you email. Thanks baby I love you and thanks for expanding our sexual horizons. Then.. if she meant otherwise u can say oops sorry... while at same time show ur approval if she did damn I'm smart This is how I played it with my wife fyi... over time it worked.

YouHerUs,
Any updates? I hope you and your wife have been able to come together on this. I'd hate for her to keep it from you too long.

Have you been able to monitor her activities via email or some other method? Have many times a week is she meeting him? Have you noticed a drop in sex with you or that shes more (or less) sexually agressive with you? Has she tried any new moves on you?

YouHerUs,

Any news?????? This is my favorite thread

Yea! We're on the edge of our seats waiting to hear what happened next!

wonderful turn of events... if all is as you suspect then it is great that she is finally open to letting you know about her activities and to include you. once she realises that you are accepting of the fact i suspect that she will become even more open and hopefully you will both be able to discuss it openenly... well best of luck and cant wait to hear the rest of this update.... this is my favorite thread on this site and i always get excited when i see an update!!

Not much happened after the last incident since we went away on vacation soon after. Had great sex throughout so that has not suffered. My work travel slows down quite a bit during the summer months but maybe she will be confident enough to fool around even if I am in town now.

What I did learn though is that I should not talk to her about it. I think texting her or email her or even writing notes to her is fine. But talking embarrasses her. I think she likes keeping that sexual side of her very distinct from the respectable wife side of her.

What I can't figure out is how to record what I hear. Voice mail does not last long enough. Recording off my phone's speaker will be of lousy quality. I will try it next time but I doubt I can get something good enough to upload and share.

That's awesome, although I suppose she could have been alone and just letting you hear that. Could you discern a man's voice apart from hers?

I could hear a man's voice. Not clear enough to tell if Peter though. I suppose it could have been the TV if she really wanted to create background noise. We will see what happens next time I am out of town.

I keep a voice activated recorder by the bed. It can take dozens of hours of audio, shuts off when there's nothing going on, and provides some great detailed sound quality. Only drawback is that the batteries only last for about 4 days. An AC adaptor would be a great addition to the setup...

Well, I can certainly record my wife and me having sex. Not really a turn on for me since I am interested in hearing her with another man. But I can certainly do it if there is interest in that. One good thing that has developed is that she is much more willing to pose for me. I took some nice pictures when we were in Japan a couple of weeks ago. Whenever we are in Japan, she tends to be a lot less self-conscious about being nude. It is this "onsen and public bath" mentality. Plus, when you stay in a ryokan, there is really no room to hide when you change.

Am I the only one wanting to see the pics? Post em please : )

you're not alone cyber...get 'em going mister!

Not playing hard to get by not posting yet. I just have not had time to properly go through them and do a "self-censor" to remove or blur out some things. Bear with me a little longer.

Here are 3 from vacation. She was taking a shower in the hotel room and the door was open. She knew I had a camera out. She was not really posing but did not hide herself or close the door as she normally would. She is not as shy as she used to these days. I know some of you may be disappointed that I cropped out her face. But that is a must do. I have other pictures that I will post after I have made some similar edits.

YouHerUs,
Your wife is very beautiful. As Peter would say, "I'd hit that!"

Does it ever hit you hard, when you look at her or pictures like this, that she is having sex with someone else? I mean, I know its exciting for you, as it would for me, but Im curious to know how it feels for you. Are the feelings of excitement fairly constant or do you experience swings? Do you ever feel jealousy or doubt when you think about how she is spreading her legs and inviting another mans cock into her pussy? Or that she may be giving him blowjobs?

Looks Lovely Thanks for posting!

I wonder if there is a headphone jack on your phone that you might be able to plug a recorder into. Of course you would still be limited to what her phone picks up to begin with, but not sure what else you could do about that as you don't really have any way to control it.

As for where you do have control, if you think she ever might cheat in your bed while you are away, you could set up a hidden cam video recorder in your bedroom. I think they make them disguised as other working things so they can be not suspicious even if out in the open. Of course, you can test it first by recording your own activity and checking to see what you get.

I think you are right not to directly talk about it. This way you get the excitement of her cheating without her actually cheating. Keep us posted. This is my favorite thread of all time.

Here are a couple more. I have a few more after this. I took all these pictures pretty fast. Clicked as many as I could so sometimes quality is not great. But hey...everyone is still a keeper in my book.

To answer some questions from above. When I first realized she was cheating on me with that first set of emails I read, it was a little bit like a kick in the guts. And then you get a little numb. But I kept re-reading those emails and then got more and more excited by the thought of her with another man. Actually I looked up cuckold on the web to look into this topic and stumred across this site and saw that it is not an uncommon thing.

Now, I would say it is 75% excited and 25% still a bit jealous. But I think the jealous part enhances the excited part. I don't know if that makes sense to you. She acts so differently in those emails and with other men that I wish she could be that way with me. Yet, knowing she has that hidden side is what's exciting so it is good she is not that way with me.

So does she use our bed at home for these trysts? I don't think so because I think for her it is also important to have that separation between wife and slut. But who knows, maybe over time she will invite men into our bed.

I have to figure out how to get some recordings off those phone calls. It would be good to share them and get everyone's opinion on what they are.

I think this kind of cuckolding is the most exciting one.

Something happened that really got to the issue of the 75% excited 25% jealous balance.

I woke up in the middle of the night a couple of nights ago. The bed was shaking a little bit. I guess that was what woke me up. I woke up with one of those "something is odd" feeling but my head was still pretty foggy. As I lied there getting oriented (no pun intended), I could hear my wife breathing somewhat irregularly. As my mind cleared more, I realized she was masturbating. She was very quiet and made no verbal noises. But I could feel the bed moving rhythmically and hear the sheets rubbing against each other rhythmically. Can not say I could hear fingers rubbing against a wet pussy. And believe me, I tried hard to listen for that.

I was frozen and could not move. I am sure my breathing changed when I woke up but she was too preoccupied to notice. I just lied there and pretended to be arelax and listened to her with thoughts running through my mind. She was clearly not sexually satisfied and felt the need to pleasure herself even as she lied there next to me. And I was jealous. I was right there. She could have woken me up if she needed sex. Though she is not the kind of woman...perhaps I should say wife...that demands sex. And who was she thinking about? What was she thinking about?

But I was also excited and as I lied next to her, I became hard as a post. I imagine her hand reaching down to explore herself. Fingers rubbing up and down her slit and playing with her clitoris. A finger gently pushing apart the lips and entering herself. Juices flowing out and down her fingers.

After only a few minutes she came. She shuddered and the bed shuddered with her. I could hear her breath cut short as she stifled her whimpers. After a little while, her breathing soon became heavier and more regular. She fell arelax pretty quickly. I stayed up for probably another hour replaying what happened and then fell arelax myself.

You may wonder if I masturbated as well. I did not. I did not feel like I wanted to. Maybe it is self-*** or punishment. Frankly, I felt a little ill after she came and needed some time to think things over. This all happened a couple of nights ago and I could not write about it until today after I have had some time to reflect. I have come to think that, like cuckolding (maybe her masturbating is a form of cuckolding) I like it and hope she would do it more.

YouHerUs,
I think this is a great development! We need to ask ourselves "Why do I want my wife to fuck other men?" For me, there are lots of reamisters. Yes, it turns me on something fierce. But most importantly, I want my wife to experience a great sex life. I guess I do all right, but after you've been married a while, things get a little routine and "comfortable". Nothing compares to the feelings of joy and sexual excitement like a new lover. Thats where she is now and thats why she was masturbating that night. Why didnt she wake you? Probably because it was more exciting to masterbate and fantasize about Peter than it was to have sex with you. Im sure you give her wonderful sex, but it doesnt compare to the "newness" of Peter. Dont take offense to it. Have joy shes enjoying a fullfilling relationship. Was that the only time she masturbated to Peter? I doubt it. Its propbably the only time you caught her. I bet shes doing it whenever she finds herself alone.

Im still hoping you guys get this out on the table and enjoy it together. Have fun! Im jealous!

Well, how many of us have never masturbated without our wives? She could have just been generally horny and didn't want to wake you up.

Or, maybe she was thinking about another man she is attracted to, fantasizing that they hook up. And maybe they will.

Or maybe she was thinking about a man who is already fucking her. Maybe they are so into each other they go at it like rabbits every chance they get. Mmmm that's a really hot thought.

Your wife is really hot, she looks a lot like my wife, at least naked.

My wife also makes herself cum when she thinks I am arelax. She enjoys sex with me but I don't satisfy her. I know she fantasises about being ganged by strangers.

I keep checking in for more details and I'm waiting to find out what happens...

I traveled the last two days and again my wife called. I was prepared this time and had rigged a way to record off the phone speaker. Sound quality not great. Many minutes of just muffled sounds. But I cut out a few sections that were "interesting"...

Be patient if you care to listen because there are long sections of nothing to hear.

Here are those files. I had to convert them to a form CP accepts.

Attached file: phone1

Attached file: phone2

Attached file: phone3