Reading wife's email...

My wife asked me today if I have another business trip coming up? Sheesh, I have been back less than a week!

Create one and go! HA!
Sukebe

Youherus,

Isn't it ironic? We ache for our wives to spread their legs for other men. Even more, we want our women to themselves hunger for other cocks. When they do, when our hopes come true, we find ourselves displaced.

Your wife wants you to leave so she can fuck her lover again and again. She dreams of him, hungers for him, and almost certainly thinks of him, not you, when she masterbates. During sex with you, she's thinking of his cock inside of her.

That's pert of the fun though. Her wanting sex with him more than she wants sex with you, her illicit sex being better than sex with you, her enjoying doing it behind your back as she plays the good wife, we love that, don't we? I would.

Even if my woman plays with others with me present, I'd also want her to have secret liamisters. Why does that turn me on? Who cares? It just does. How about you?

LOL Sure sounds like you've let the "Genie out of the bottle" now !

It does feel different this time. Her affair with the ex seemed more like a trip down memory lane and recapturing younger days. This time, it is sex on top of more sex. Peter is someone whose hands that she had not felt before touching her all over. A cock she had not tasted before. A cock she had not felt inside her before. I get a little queasy thinking about it but also more excited than ever. She really is hungering for sex and fulfilling her desire like never before. What pleasure she must be enjoying!

I finally made love to her after my return this time. It was a few days before she felt up to it again. It was hard not to think she was last with Peter. What did they do I kept thinking? I started by doing what I thought he might have done. I came up behind my wife and put my hand around her waist, lifted her hair up and kissed her on the same spot on her neck where there is the love bite (starting to fade but still visible.) She sighed and immediately leaned back into me. It was like she fell into me almost. I cupped her right breast from behind and starting squeezing it through her clothes (we are both dressed still at this point).

After some time doing this she pulled my hand away from her breast and directed it down to her crotch. This is very rare for her. She is not one to direct me to do anything in bed. She usually is quite submissive and quiet about her wants. It takes a certain amount of coaxing and foreplay before she takes a more aggressive stance. But this time she moved my hand after only a couple of minutes. I wondered if maybe that's what Peter had done to her. He was more aggressive with her? It was arousing to think about all this during sex with my wife. All sorts of crazy thoughts went through my mind. How many times did they have sex? Did she beg him for more or did she beg him to let her rest? Did she guide him as he entered her? Did she give him any love bites? Did he spread her legs wide or lifted them over his shoulders? Is that why she was so sore? Did he cum inside her? On top of her? In her mouth? Is she thinking about him now? It made sex with her that much more exciting know that she has this hidden side to her.

I'm glad to see that her rediscovered illicit sex-life has reinflamed your passion for her. Whatever she's been doing, it is clearly having a positive effect, on her and on you. What more could one want... ^_*

I am off for another business trip next week. No sure what's going to happen this time. They seem mostly to just talk on the phone now.

I just like how this keeps on continuing. Sure hope that your wife has another great encounter with her lover once your gone again. Just too bad that you are not up to date anymore since she has been meeting her lover behind your back. No bad intentions ment. I think that somehow you need to get back in touch with Peter and find a way that you are always up to date. Not gonna be easy I know.
Anyhow wish that it was my wife acting like that. I am hoping now that my wife is gonna take the job that she has been offered in the club. It involves dancing takeing with other men and from time to time offer a private lapdance (naked or clothed, client decide) and the occasional blowjobs or sexacts with them.

Well, the week is almost over. I wonder how YouHerUs's business trip went. I especially wonder how many times his wife got plowed by Peter. I wonder if YouHerUs will be able to find out much about their time together. I wonder if she will tell him she is sore again. I hope they are close to discussing everthing together and putting it all out on the table.

I have not written anything until now because I am not really sure what is going on. I was away last week and I think they met again. There were a couple of emails between them setting up a date. But then nothing more from email. Does not look like any text exchanges either (or she deleted them). Maybe they just talk on the phone now that they have slept together.

One thing I did find though at the back of her closet is this lingerie I have never seen before. A garter trimmed with lace and cut-outs for the breasts. She has never worn this for me and it is much sluttier than the lingerie she normally wears. I mean come on...breasts just exposed like that? I wonder if she bought and wore it for him yet? Or did he buy for her?

Very nice. This is very common for a new relationship. In the begining stages of a sexual relationship people are much more willing to wear certain things and perform certain acts that they otherwise wouldnt do. I wouldnt take it permisterally that she is wearing sluttier lingerie for her lover than she wears for you. She is much less concerned for his respect than she is for your respect. She doesnt want you to think less of her because she acts like a slut. She needs your respect and love and thats why she will avoid doing anything with you that might jeopardize that. But with her lover, she knows that he is probably a temporary thing and so she doesnt really care what he thinks about her. Couple that with the excitement of a new relationship and you can be assured that she be doing some very slutty acts with him. She will probably do anything he asks her to. This is probably very exciting and liberating for her and she is probably having some of the best sex of her life with Peter.

Having said all that, I am concerned that she is doing all of this behind your back. Even though you gave her permission, she is still doing it behind your back which is not going to be good for your marriage in the long run. I would schedule some time with her to discuss this. Take her away for a weekend somewhere romantic. Wine her and dine her. When the time is right just tell her you know about her affair and that you are enjoying it. She should be able to come clean (to a point) with you and you can start bringing it into the open. This is when you will see your relationship with her blossom. Hopefully, you can encourage her to see Peter without waiting for you to be gone.

i agree with iwmwtcm... i think it is time for you to sit down and have a serious conversation with your wife, letting her know that you know and that you accept it, but also letting her know that you want to be kept informed and involved. im not sure as it can be hard to tell from text but it seems to me that you are somewhat angry in terms of how things have developed and with how you have lost the sense of control you previously felt you had from knowing what was going on throught the emails and texts. i think it is time to have a discussion as if these emotions continue to build it could result in a lot of resentment from you towards your wife in the long run. it is great that she has taken a lover and seems to be enjoying it, but in the long term it is your relationship which matters the most...

I agree as well. Protect your marriage!!!!! You got a great deal goin don't lose it! Communication is the key!

I agree with both iwmwtcm & mystTiger ...

It really is time for you to sit down and have a serious conversation with your wife, about this issue. While you can reassure her that it is ok for her to have a lover on the side, tell her that there needs to be something good in it for you. If I were you, I would tell her that you need something too. When she asks what... Tell her you'd like either be told exactly what happened, or have her make an audio recording of their encounters, or best of all, have her make a video of the encounters that you are then allowed to watch.

Given that you have given her your blessing to have sex with a lover on the side, ....it is not at all unreamisterable to demand that she do something for you, in return. That, would be a fair exchange...and a Win / Win situation for both of you.

If I were you, I would not suffer the current situation in silence...as it is not working for you, and will merely become the source of more and more resentment, frustration and stress. You need to re-negotiate the terms of this agreement....so that they are mutually favorable, and that both of you are happy with them. Until you do that, rather than bring you pleasure....the current situation will simply cause you pain.

Carpe Diem.

Thanks for everyone's concern. I appreciate it. And I thought you were all just a bunch of horn dogs.

I re-read my previous post and I did sound a bit cranky. But I sound worse than I feel. Seems like much time has passed but they only met for sex twice. Still a new thing for her so I am not expecting open sharing on her part. I do think after she gets more comfortable with this relationship and maybe others, I will be brought into the picture again. In any case, I like that she is enjoying herself. I can be patient and wait for my rewards.

I think it is great that you do have her best interests in mind, and that you are happy because she is having fun of that nature. I'm sure that you will get your rewards for allowing her this freedom. Good things come to those who wait.... or so the saying goes.

Hi all…an update.

Without control over matters, the time between my wife getting fucked by another man seems even longer. Even though I travel a lot for work, it is not always possible for them to meet. It would be better if she feels comfortable to see another man even if I am in town. In some ways, that is even more exciting. So I got a little bit impatient. A few days ago when we were making love, as I was on top of her, in a moment of adventure (or maybe just carelessness), I started to say out loud what has been going through my mind for the last few weeks.

I don't remember exactly all I said and I certainly did not say it in perfect sentences. But the basic gist was telling her how sexy she is. Do you realize other men watch you when you walk by? Don’t you want to tease them and show them your beautiful body? Wouldn’t you like to feel their hands on you? How do you think they kiss? A different tongue flicking your nipples. How would it feel to wrap your arms around a different body? Feel a different weight on top of you? How would their cock and cum taste? Would they taste good? Would you open your legs for them? Would you like to feel a different cock slipping inside you? Why don't you open your legs wide to show me what you would do? (She did! She lifted her legs wider and higher. Later she wrapped her legs around me and thrusted her hips upward to meet my strokes)

She was getting pretty excited with all this talk. I could feel her getting even wetter. Her cum was dripping down my balls. I took my chance then and said remember we talked about this before but I really don’t mind if you relax with other men. It does not mean I don’t love you or you don’t love me. It is just sex and makes our lovemaking that much more exciting. Just share your experiences with me however you want. Tell me about it. Or write about it for me if you don’t want to say it out loud. Show me what you wear. You don’t have to tell me who the permister is. It is just such a turn on whenever I see or hear you losing yourself in pleasure and I want as much pleasure for you as possible.

When I was saying all this, she did not answer back anything definitively. Just a lot of hmm and uh huh. Maybe I was just imagining it but it did seem to me something clicked in her mind and she relaxed a bit or kind of accepted something in herself. I am hoping things are moving forward in the right direction.

she might not want you to know. That might ******* it for her. You might have to live with that.

I'm pretty sure that at the time, she was just taking in all that you said...and thinking about it, prior to answering. Give her some time to think about it all, and sometime later, she may bring it up. For now though, at least you have said your piece...and she knows without doubt how you feel about this issue. Too many questions at the one time were probably a bit of sensory overload for her....and far too difficult to answer at the time. Rather than respond at the time...I'm pretty sure she did the Japanese thing, and focused on listening and thinking, reserving responding to a later date...after she had given it all careful consideration. You've been married to her for quite a long time, so I'm sure you know the way she is, far better than I do.

Just as long as her hesitation isn't because sex with someone else is more than - for her- just sex, and she doesn't want to upset you with an affair that goes beyond what you expect.

hey there YouHerUs.... just wondering how everything is going... its been a while since you posted an update... would love to know if there have been any more developments. i hope thinks are going the way you would like them to.... and i hope she has positively responded to your loose tongue letting all your fantasies slip to her.... keep us up to date!! we all love hearing about your enviable situation here...

She may regard your "okay to play" pillow talk as your horny dick speaking. She may think that you'd love it in excited fantasy, but problems might arise if she revealed things and then you reconsidered when the heat of passion passed.

Unlike other posters, I hesitate to offer advice. A marriage is too important to screw up so I don't know if I'd "confront" her with anything. Revealing your fantasies as you did and including it in your sex as you did ("show me what you'd do") sounds good. It's non-threatening, doesn't reveal that you're snooping on her email and cell phone, and allows her to relax about what she's doing.

Nothing new to report. Seems that when I brought the topic out in the open she went into a shell. I should have just kept my mouth shut.

Has sex been OK between you since then?

Maybe it only works for her if you are not involved (as far as she knows) in any way. Not because she doesn't love you, but there is a certain excitement in the freedom of no strings sex that doesn/t come with the many responsibilities of a relationship. So maybe it doesn't work for her unless those real life responsibilities are out of her mind, which is hard if you are a part of it and talking about it and such.

If it were me, I would not put myself in her mind but find a way to know everything I can anyway, including the naughty way she acts when she thinks no one knows. The best situation would be if you set it up with the guy to begin with, without her knowing. Then you can get all the info from him, preferably including sound and/or video recordings.

If I contact Peter I might really ruin everything so I have been reluctant to do that. Thought about contacting the old boyfriend to see if he will strike up something again but he lives a plane ride away so will not be a regular thing. I also think the flame is gone there. Maybe the best alternative is the proverbial pool boy.

Maybe you can find someone on this or some other appropriate venue to 'accidentally' bump into her and start something up, without her ever knowing you were in on it. Someone familiar with this lifestyle/fetish would be much more likely to work with you and to understand the psychological aspects you crave than some guy she randomly meets on her own.

Of course, you would want to be very careful in who you select, ensuring their loyalty, discretion, capability, and sensitivity to your needs and concerns. It would be worth being patient to find the right one. If you do it could be a win/win/win.

I'm sorry that rather than blossuming into a full blown cuckoldress in the wake of you bringing this topic out into the open, that she has instead gone into her shell. I hope that other than that, your relationship with her has not suffered in any way, and that it is instead, just as it was. Space and patience...is all I can suggest at this time. Perhaps it is the case that she's just internalising all this, and has chosen to take a time out while she thinks it all through.

My wife emailed me this picture last week. No text. Just the picture. Not even sure if she sent it on purpose or by mistake. And no, it is not our bed.

nice... in my opinion it is that she does not know how to let you know that she is already enjoying another mans cock as she is worried about any negative affect it may have and as such she is nervous to bring up the topic... so it would be my guess that this is perhaps her way of bringing up the topic with you and letting you know... did you ask her about it? i would love to see what other pics she has taken recently... hope all is good... keep the updates coming!

My guess is that this is her way of telling me. What confused me is that I got this picture when I was at work but not out of town. So was it a picture she had taken from before when I was out of town? Was she seeing someone during that day when I was at work? In any case, I am not going to ask her about it. I think talking about it might just set her back. I will just let her slowly involve me in her own way. I don't think she will ever come home to greet me at 3 in the morning with cum dripping out of her pussy. That's just not her. But this picture I see as a good first step.