This is a little long so i apologize in advance but i find it somewhat remarkable.
We've been married 15 years and since the beginning I've wanted her to be sexually dominant with me. Not the easiest thing to precisely express or for her to willingly do but it's part of what makes me tick.
It started with my foot fetish and she'd wear pantyhose or stockings and highheels during sex. Pretty tame really.
What's funny in hindsight is that 20 years ago when we first started dating she had told me about always wanting to have 2 or more guys at once but I wasn't interested back then so she dropped it. Funny how things change.
After a slow and reluctant start at dominating me (this took place over 5 or 6 years in fits and starts, she didn't "get it" and didn't really enjoy it that much I don't think) but finally she started being more aggressive, sexually bitchy and particularly over the last 18 months she has been incredible, creative and downright surprising.
To be honest there was a point where I was really paranoid that she had been on my computer reading stuff from the orgasmdenial, hotwife and cuckold websites I've visited but I'm in IT and take serious precautions on not accessing from computers she's familiar with.
Anyway she went out on her own and ordered a steel chastity cage for me that she just dropped off one day in a wrapped package with my admin at work. ! Fuck!
Good thing no one was around when I opened it.
Then it was a period with a lot of "girls night out" with her single Russian girlfriend from work, on those nights as she got dressed and made-up to go out dancing I'd get to perform some ass worship and jerk off on the floor until she left. Sometimes she left with panties and sometimes without. REally fucking hot fantasy material and I told her as much.
I think one major turning point was when I started pressing her to make me pull out after she came and lick her ass while I jerked off. She thought it was mean but after I mentioned how much it turned me on to be humiliated by not being allowed to come in my wife and then have to wack off while tonguing her ass and being denied her pussy it was like I had turned a switch.
I wouldn't say that she "lost respect" for me but I think she was truly grossed out when one morning I pumped a big load on her foot and then she told me to lick it up and I did. As I was slurping it out of her toe cleavage she just kept saying "that is SO gross, I can't believe you're actually doing that. Yuck! that is so disgusting"
She's got an media related job with some time on-camera and stays in great shape, (in fact she's been unknowingly shown several times on this site in various shots) she dresses well and overall she's taken great care of herself. But after two kids she just doesn't feel me inside her as much anymore. I don't think the sex is quite as enjoyable and we've started using cock enlargers and bigger dildos or I'll fuck her with a large strap-on, she's also became more open about the DP and 3way porn she's interested in as a way to get mentally turned on while we're fucking.
All these things have come together and lately she's started verbally degrading me and my dick size both while I'm fucking her and while i'm jerking off. She hasn't used the word "cuckold" but she has started with fantasy talk about other guys fucking her before I got home or how much she loves getting fucked by a "Big Black Cock" instead of my little white dick.
Or how pathetic it is that I'd be happy jerking off my "little white dick" while she's getting fucked. Do I know any big black cock she could fuck and suck, etc.
I know it sounds trite but this is SO out of character for her that I'm just blown away.....and hard as a ROCK! lol
We've broadly discussed a 3 way when we were takes or on vacation but with kids still at home, her high public profile locally and the potential for diseases it's pretty unlikely.
Things are going great right now and I just can't believe how we've come to almost the same point from very different starting conditions.
My wife plays and acts like exactly the kind of high-maintenance, sexually aggressive and demanding, dominant woman that I've always fantasized about. This really is my fantasy and I'm getting EXACTLY what I've always wanted and after damned near 15 years I'm getting all my sexual and mental needs met.
I hope the rest of you guys get what you need as well because it's nirvana.
Now I've got to figure out some way to make it perfect for her also.
