Is my wife really interested, or is she just playing along?

My wife and I have been married 13 hrs and almost the entire time I have been trying to get her to cuckold me. I have told her many times of my desire to have her fuck other men as I watched. At first she was appalled at the idea, but eventually started asking me questions about it.

Once she realized that it was all about her ( I wasn't saying it so I could be with another woman), she was more playful about it. She started telling me about her past lovers as we had sex, and even used 2 men that we know in stories she would tell me as we played. This led to role-play with us going out on dates, with me playing the part of one of the guys she was attracted to. We would text and flirt all day, as if she were sneaking around behind her husbands back. We would go out to eat and then to a club, dirty dancing, making out, and groping til we couldn't stand it. Then we would go home and role-play that she was sneaking me in to the house (we have kids) and then we would fuck like teens all night.

This eventually progressed to the point of me licking her clean after her "date" left. She liked playing these games, but swore that she could never really do anything like that. I had consoled myself to the fact that it would be nothing more than a fantasy.

Then one night we went out with another couple to dinner, then we all decided to go to a fun local bar where lots of people frequent. When we got there, she went to the restroom as i ordered us takes. I met her at the rest room entrance and gave her take to her,
then went to the restroom myself. When I returned, she was grinning and said, "I just got hit on by the bouncer". According to her and her friend, the 25ish year old bouncer (wife is early 40s) came over and introduced himself and shook her hand. Then he said, "oh you are married, damn it. Someone is a lucky man, you are fine!" My wife seemed to shine as she was telling me this. Her friend said that the bouncer walked right past several younger women and came straight to my wife.

And of course I miss every bit of it!

Every since that night, she has been much more flirty with me and really teasing me hard about really flirting with one of the guys we had role played about, I will call him Kevin.

I thought she was just playing about it until she started forwarding me emails that she had sent him, which were generic at first, but have progressed to trading nude pics and naughty talk. He keeps asking her to meet him for a minute for a " hug", but she has been putting him off. She has told me that she is enjoying the flirting, but doesn't want to actually meet him.

Fast forward to yesterday...I get a forwarded email that she sent to him telling him that she is running an errand at lunch if he wants to meet for a minute!! My stomach got that cucky feeling and I could feel my heart beating all over! I tried to text her and call her both, she didn't answer.

After about an hour, i get the email that he was headed out of town and hadn't been able to meet her. Last night when I got home, I asked her if she was really going to meet him. She told me that she knew he was going out of town, so she knew he wouldn't show up. Later in bed, I asked her what she would have done if he had shown up. She said that she didn't know. At that point I knew she was considering it! I proceeded to tell her that she knew I wanted her to do whatever she wanted, just to be honest with me and not worry about what the politically correct way to feel (she was raised very strict) and to know that nothing would hurt my feelings. I told her that I wanted our relationship to be built on trust and for us to always be honest with each other.

She laid there for a minute, then said that she had to admit that she was nervous and excited when she was leaving the store after her errand, she was hoping that he would be there!! I asked her what she would have done if he had been (as I began running my hands all over her). She said that she would have given him a hug, with her arms around his neck! I asked her what she would have done if he tried to kiss her. She took a second and then said that she would have kissed him of no one was around!!

By this time, I was soooo excited, but trying to not push her. I started to kiss her neck, which she loves. After a few minutes, she asked me what I would have thought if he had pulled her hand down to his cock as they kissed? I told her that I wanted her to do whatever she wanted. She reached down and felt of my cock, which was rock hard, and said "well, looks like you would enjoy that"! I replied by asking her what she would have done. She looked me in the eyes and told me that she would have squeezed his cock because she really wants to feel how big it is!!! I came all over her hand when she said that. She laughed and told me that she thought I was enjoying this more than her.

My question now is if she is still playing a game, or if I am truly on the verge of my ultimate fantasy. I have been trying to not push her to progress with this, but it is so hard to do.

Any advice on how to proceed? I will update the thread as things progress, if there is interest.

Lol, just read the completed post. We have been married 13 yrs. Excited fingers don't work to well!

I think you should try to focus on the trust part of this-
simply telling her you want her to go thru with it, would just make her feel "pushed"
Instead, tell her that you want her to do it, because you trust her, and you trust the marriage- you feel/know that this would be an exciting adventure- NOT a dangerous risk.
It would give you both something more to share, and enjoy. (I highly recommend you ask for pics of her with the other guy- it helps to "involve" you, and keep the jealousy away, and it gives her a "trophy" that lasts, that she can bring back to you.)
Starting this can prevent things from getting "stale" or boring- it will keep interest just like your first night together...

I have told her that I love how she has been more open with her honesty and that I feel like our relationship is growing since the trust is growing.

She told me this morning that she wants to fuck him, but is still scared!

I would say that you should be in "constant reassurance" mode. Telling her how much you trust her, and will be supportive of her...no matter what happens. Also tell her that as much as you would enjoy this, that it is more for her enjoyment and that your happiness comes from her.

Probably the biggest thing for you two to do before she would ever go through with it...is to set up ground rules that no one can change without the permission from the other permister. Safe words, allowing her/you to stop things without question. Communication is above all the most important thing. Make sure she understands that she has the reins in this, she is in charge of all the situations. You should also make sure she knows what you expect out of this...basically your reward for being a supportive, loving husband...allowing his wife to experience life to its fullest.

Good luck, and I look forward to your/her updates.

That's exactly what I have been trying to do...."this is all about you baby, you make all the rules"..."I want you to do what makes you happy, not what you think I want"..."I like knowing that you are confident enough I'm our marriage to try new things and be so honest baby"

It seems to be relaxing her and she is becoming alot more talkative about it. I have also noticed that she checks for emails from him on her phone all the time, so I know she is anxious.

She told me today that she wants to meet him, but she doesn't know if she wants me to be there and watch from afar, or if she wants to go alone. She says she may be more nervous if I am watching.

about the yrs/hrs I didn't even notice it. I just saw it as 13 years and continued. :P
Nice post

Allen is right- you need to reassure her.
You are telling her that "she is in control"- this may or may not be a good idea.
Tell her that SHE is in control when she is with him, but the choices about what she does with him- this is for the two of you to decide!
Otherwise- it puts too much responsability on her, and she will take the "easy way out"- you have to be a FULL partner for her to be confident enough to do anything.
that means you need to help her set the "ground rules" of what she can, and cannot do.
Don't just say "you can do anything you want!"
That makes her nervous.
TELL her what you are ok with:
You can kiss/make out. He can play with your tits. You can suck him off and swallow his load, or let him blow it on your tits. He can eat you out, he can ONLY fuck you with a condom on. NO anal. Rules like this are what she needs.
It will help her define the limits of how much she can explore, and you can always open them up more once she has tried something with him.
I've found it very helpfull for a woman to have a "makeout/titty play and blowjob only" session with her boyfriend, and let her come back to you (the sex for the next 2 days will be INCREDIBLE). Once she has done this, and is comfortable with your reaction (you fuck like rabbits), then she will be willing to do more.

For the year that my wife cuckolded me...I never got to watch. She basically told me that its about what she wanted, and that I basically get the leftovers. Which I did. It was very hard for me, wanting to watch so very bad, but if I wanted any part of it...I had to let her do as she wished. So, if she wants to go it alone, let her. If you are lucky, she might eventually let you watch.

I know that it is her decision, and will let her do whichever she wants. I just would love to see them together and hear their flirting until the relationship gets more serious.

She says she wants me there, but is worried that she won't be able to "be herself" if I am there

The real problem is the guy- your presence may "inhibit" him.
The best way is to try and be there at the start- watch them make out, watch him play with her tits- maybe even watch her stroke and suck him, but, beyond that, it is better for you to go out to an all night coffee or book shop, or maybe a movie. Making sure that they both know you won't be back for at least 2 hours.
This gives her support, until she is feeling free enough to do something, at which time, you give her the "privacy" to do it.
( I tend to leave a camera behind, and not mind missing anything in permister, but that's me! Usually, the guy is cool with taking pics)

Quick update....my wife is upset with him because he hasn't emailed her much this weekend and she is thinkig that he isn't interested. I have tried to explain to her that he is probably around family and can't risk getting caught.

I tried to encourage her to email him anyway, but she says that makes her look needy and she wants him to do the chasing. I am trying so hard not to push her, but it is increasingly hard to not talk about it constantly.

She has decided that she wants me to be involved and present eventually, but she isn't sure she wants me there as they getto know each other.

We were laying in bed this morning and she asked me if I had jacked off past night. I told her that I did and then she asked what I thought about as I did. I told her that I had thought about her sexy ass and how perfect it was. She then snuggled up to me and started stroking my cock and said " Now tell me what you really thought about".

I started telling her about my thoughts I had about us and her lover going out of town together and going clubbing. I told her about how we would take turns dirty dancing with her and making out as we ran our hands all over her and she could feel how hard she made our cocks as we rubbed it on her ass. By the time. I got to the part of the story of us making it back to the hotel room and starting to undress her, she rolled over on her back and said "get on top of me, I need you inside me!"

I happily obliged and when I got on top of her I was utterly amazed at what happened. She normally gets wet when she is turned on, but I still have to work my cock in her until it gets wet. Today I didn't even have to guide it with my hand she was so wet! Her pussy was sopping wet and even her outer lips were wet! I have never felt her pussy so hot!

I fucked her like that for a couple minutes and then she flipped me over and rode Me like a wild woman! She came and was moaning soooo loud. I was amazed at how hard she came.

After she rolled off, I felt and there was literally a big wet spot on the bed from her coming!!

I asked her what made her come so hard and she got all shy and said she didn't know. I am pretty sure. I know, so why can't she just admit it?

Very exciting story! Keep updating us. All I can say is pushing will probably hurt more than help.

I know, I bit my tongue all night and didn't even mention his name. I waited for her to bring him up, and she did alot.

I was in the living room and she was sitting on the bed grinning. She told me to go iron our clothes for work today (I never iron) while she chatted with him! I was sooo excited while I was ironing. I knew I was doing extra work to allow her time with him, the beginning steps of being a cuckold!!

Maybe you should write to him for her...
She doesn't look needy, but things might happen faster if you are the one setting things up...

I will mention that to her, but I think she is enjoying the flirting and attention and doesn't want to make it go too quick. They are back to flirting today. She told him she was thinking of him today, while she was in the tanning bed at lunch.

I think she wants to meet him, but she is scared

Maybe instead of being present during her encounter with him you could be sort of 'in the area'...you could watch from a good distance and wherever they go (to a motel I would presume) you can remain outside the place...she can then feel the reassurance that you are close by in the area and reachable should anything negative occur. Just a thought that might make her (and you too) feel better and more secure...the first encounter between a new cuckoldress and her potential lover can make her (and him too) very nervous.

She just texted me that she is meeting him in a parking lot after work and told me where, so I can go park away but close enough to see them. I wanted her to call me and sit thephone down so I could hear their conversation by she says that she would not be comfortable flirting with him this first tome with me listening.

I cannot believe she is doing this! I never thought she would actually go through with this, especially with a younger black man!!

I am walking around hard, jealous, and excited. I won't be worth a damn the rest of the day. Lol

You are a very lucky man. I hope to reach this stage with my wife soon. Right now its all bedroom talk and she swears that she culd never do anything like that to me. But that was a while ago. I can sense my wifes frustration with me sexually as I am unable to consistantly satisfy. I haven't had the fortune of her finding someone to be flirty with although she is flirty by nature and her work exposes her to different men almst daily I'm sure the time will come.

I can't wait to hear more from yur encounters as it seems ur path is parallel to mine. Good luck.
Ronald Curry

I am sitting here in the parking lot waiting for them to arrive. I can't believe how nervous I am. My hands are shaking, I can't breathe, and my stomach is in knots. But at the same time I am rock hard and literally have precome leaking in my underwear!

I will keep you updated.

Ok, she met him and they chatted in his car for about 20 minutes. She said they held hands and he gave her a long hug, rubbing her back. She said she didn't kiss him, even though he asked her to.

When she left, she met me at another parking lot and got in to my truck to tell me all about it. When she finished, I asked her if it turned her on. She blushed and said a little. I then run my hand down in to her panties and she was beyond soaked!! I grinned and said that is a lot more than a little excited.

She laughed and said "yes, I loved it". Then she got in her car and drove home.

Anyone reading this?

Sounds like she is ready for teh next step!!!

Wow! I'm reading. I'm sure she'll meet him again. You'll have to tell us all about it!

reading and waiting for more

Should be interesting to see if this does go further. The kiss asked for but not given might have sent to wrong message. Time will tell.

Yep...I am definately reading! What a great, nice, slow start. You are already on that emotional roller coaster of "angst". Hang on and enjoy the ride. Oh yeah, and try to relax...

I am trying to relax, but I am loving every seconds so much.

As soon as we got home yesterday, I stripped her clothes off and laid her upper body across the bed with her feet still on the floor. I knelt down and slowly licked her as she told me how much he turned her on. She was gooey wet, I mean it was thick and everywhere!

I just got another email she forwarded me and she told him she should have kissed him, and will the next time!

When my wife became interested in her first male lover he was scared I would find out. He actually stopped talking to her which upset her. It took so long to get her to that point that she was willing to have sex with another man that she wanted to give up entirely. I actually spoke to this guy in the men's room. I told him that my wife really liked him. He said he knew but was nervous about me. I assured him that she wanted to go to bed with him and I did not have a problem with that. I said that we are attempting a new lifestyle and would really appreciate it if he did take her to bed and have sex with her. He began to flirt with her again and became aggressive and finally fucked her in the privacy of his bed.
The greatest thing was telling another man that I wanted him to fuck her!