Protecting your wife's reputation?

lonestarlove
Based on the info given it would appear her reputation is wall established, an easy fuck for men who have the courage, and a well respected saint for those who do not. It seems she has established the balance she seeks, provided the religious crowd doesn't try to save the town fornicators.

me and my girlfriend had a short break 3 years ago. An older guy kept on calling her and at the end she agreed to meet. They ended up in bed

6 month later, he started working for a compeny our company works close with. When he knew he had fucked my girlfriend he started to brag about it. Soon, everybody knew

She is a high level business woman, and not a slut. Now, everybody thinks of her as THE slut

Will follow this link to see if someone can give advise
A cuck to my GF - A bull to all other women

I think Oddone is right. It was a big step for us to decide that we would not keep them apart any longer, but it was based on our desire to be public, not a necessity.

I'm not sure what to tell you about protecting a reputation among people who think that a single woman who relaxs with a single guy she is dating is a slut. I guess my best advice in that situation would be to find a better class of people to associate with.

In our case, we wanted to go public to old friends (carefully selected at first) and we were already married. Since the main point was to destroy MY reputation, we had few qualms there, (We did go carefully. Work colleagues still don't know and probably never will.) but it was important to my wife that people not paint her as the villain (she is not really a dominatrix type) who somehow corrupted me. Our solution was to convince people, by a combination of implication, hint, and confession, that I was a closeted homosexual (and cross-dresser, and wannabe slave, and extreme kinkster) and my wife emotionally and sexually neglected as a result.

We found that under such an impression, it was far easier to introduce people to the various aspects of our relationship - especially cuckolding - without engendering negative judgements of her. (As all the opprobrium attached to me.) In fact, it made her a sympathetic figure and many of our friends became supportive, even encouraging of the idea that she date. In fact, the biggest challenge for her wasn't criticism of her dating, but rather disarming those who became so angry/pitying that they urged her to leave me for her own good.

I'm not saying that this all worked perfectly. We did lose friends and have others drift away. But to your point, there was no criticism of her for being "unfaithful" or a "slut" or anything like that. (Although we do live in NYC and travel in circles where the scenario you described - of a single woman being regarded as a "slut" just because she slept with a guy she was dating - is inconceivably medieval and sexist.)
Pantalone, Wittol, oblate, abnegator, fellator, pathic, irrumatiophile,fop, epicene, cotquean, skivvy, thrall, and pilgarlic.

Totally respectable and understandable. My advice is to keep the cuckolding private by not involving any workmates, neighbors, or family. Safest course is to only play out of town and/or with a steady who is reliable. Find lovers less than a days drive from your home, but far from your immediate neighborhood or social and work circles and keep that life separate from real life. It isn't too hard. We did it for sometime before going public.
Pantalone, Wittol, oblate, abnegator, fellator, pathic, irrumatiophile,fop, epicene, cotquean, skivvy, thrall, and pilgarlic.

Does anyone have any insight on how you're supposed to protect your wife's reputation when she might have been around with a lot of different men? Especially if she's the type that's well respected or religious or something.

I think you should totally get in the face of someone slandering your wife's reputation, even if it's not a lie (think Me, myself and Irene). Make a scene, get into fisticuffs! She's your wife, and you should (try to) protect her.

If you can fight, you would add a cost to someone flapping their tongue about her...if you can't, and if you're into offense, getting your ass kicked trying and failing to protect your wife's reputation will be adding spicy injury to sweet insult!


Seriously, tho...'Discretion is the better part of valour'.

I agree entirely with you. I'm not into the offense myself. We keep discreet by keeping it away from the home. We live in a small building with gossipy neighbors, so seeing the wife come upstairs with a strange man would be gossip fodder for months. Anything we do, we keep strictly seperate from the normal life. Less hot? Well, yes. But we prefer our privacy.
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As nice as it would be for our wives to do daily romps with other men, work sometimes gets in the way ;) We have to stay pretty low on the radar because of it.
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Permisterally I take it with a sense of pride, that my wife can have more than 2 or even 3 lovers and she still wants to have me around. I would think most guys would be jealous of that. So those that look down at it in anyway are most likely living sad sexually repressed lives. There marriages a sham because they are cheating behind there partners backs. You only get to live it once enjoy it.

yes but It would be fine if all I ever got to do was hump her leg ;)

I agree completely. It seems to me your basic challenge is this: You are looking for a decent permister as a third and you don't know how to feel them out. You know decent people, but are afraid to let them know of your alternative desires because they might not approve. You can seek out alternative minded people, but then you don't know if they are going to turn out to be decent people because the lifestyle attracts a lot of damaged types. (Especially because so many of the games involve transgressions in terms of consent and trust.)

It is a classic problem.

The best advice I can offer is to seek out alternative people and invest the time in getting to know them as people first before your wife gets naked with them.

Good luck!
Pantalone, Wittol, oblate, abnegator, fellator, pathic, irrumatiophile,fop, epicene, cotquean, skivvy, thrall, and pilgarlic.

If you are going to live this lifestyle then you have to accept a certan level of risk to your wifes reputation. We have always taken great lengths to keep what we do private and to screen the men my wife relaxs with.

However you can not always be in controle, in the middlle of a gangbang my wife looked up to see a fellow she worked with. In fact he was a subirdinate to her and he took great delight in servicing his serperior. This situation turned out fine and he relaxed with her many times after that but my point remains.

All you can do is as Mrs black said take the time to get to know the men you involve in you life.
Imagin
Graz

I don't know if this qualifies as protecting my wife's reputation, but with us, my wife always plays the cheating wife role. Over the years she has been with many men, but has always pretended to be screwing around behind my back. Although I'm sure that a number of these guys have told others of their good fortune at finding a hot, willing, married woman, to date we have not had any negative repurcussions. It also gives us some comfort in that we won't have guys stopping by our house, or threatening our marriage.

My wife is always honest with them in that she tells them she loves me deeply, but that she needs other men to be fully satisfied and to bring out her inner slut. With some exceptions, most of her lovers have been married as well so there is also some good reamisters for them to remain discreet.

In my permisteral experience, it is ultimatly impossible to completely keep things secret and protect your wife's reputation. You must be willing to except that people will find out and take steps as best you can to mitigate the damage. Bulls will brag, that's just a fact; and I have found that the worse offenders when it comes to trashing your wife's reputation will be her female friends and co-workers.

If reputation is a concern in your community, the best thing you can do is not go on dates in your home town and put it directly in the face of the people who love to trash other people's reputation. Recognize that when your wife is ultimatly discovered you the cuck will be looked on as a victim. Protect your wife by discreatly going to the people your conserned about and tell them that you and your wife have an open relationship and that you love each other and you are aware of what's going on. Do not mention that you are a cuckold, if they think you're a swinger it will create less of a stir (although people are going to talk). The main thing you can do to protect your wife is not to let others think she is huring you.

They do exist lonestar, I know a lady who by day is a deputy principal of a primary school throught the week. On the week end she and hubby travel 90 km or 1.5 hours to my home town. She has a regular lover and attends a gangbang maybe 4 times a year. She is very low key with her way of life and goes to great lengths to protect her professional life.

However there is always the risk.
imagin
Graz

I think that annonimity is the main reamister why Ashley Madimister has taken off like it has...most of the people using A.M need the annonimity and are more likely to respect the other's privacy.
I have always preferred it when my wife chooses a bull who is himself married...although a younger, single stud who doesn't get laid as often can maybe give her a more ardent fast and furious fuck, such a guy is more likely to fall inlove with her and screw up the whole thing...a married guy is more understanding of the need to protect the home front and to maintain the privacy of everyone involved!

I agree that if the bull is a married guy then maybe he has the sense that if he gives anybody trouble then we can give him trouble back with his wife and family. Unfortunately, you need to have a balance that makes the whole sexual freedom a mystery and an honor! We can always talk and act in an anonymous fashion to get us charged about the sexual freedom.

I have always found that a little distance helps...my wife mostly plays in cities within 1 to 2 hours driving distance from the home..(about 50 to 60 miles) ...this can make all the difference between running into her bulls with any frequency or just hardly ever...in many years we've only once ever ran into one of her bulls while shopping in a department store and the guy was with his wife & kids, so after they recognized each other, then they totally and purposely ignored each other, which was great for everyone! My wife even commented that she felt a little guilt knowing that she had recently fucked that woman's husband...I guess it was kind of like having betrayed another married female by having fucked her man without her knowledge or approval. Not something she was particularly proud of!

SheDatesHeWaits: My sentiments exactly...best to keep her extramarital activities limited (whenever possible) to guys who don't frequent your social circles! Always best if she and he strike up an agreement that should they ever accidentally meet in public they are to ignore each other! Works best for all involved!