Serious question for the husbands/boyfriends

This is a serious question, directed particularly at men who's wives or girlfriends took some "convincing" to begin hotwifing or cuckolding you. How did this begin for you? Was she the "innocent acting" type, did she say things like "oh I only need you" or "i don't know about all that" or "you have got to be kidding"?

I am wondering if anyone's wife was like this before, and then once she "tried it" did she begin loving it, and become a total cock addicted slut? Do they generally start liking it once the ice is broken, so to speak?

That is where I stand now, she's about to "try it" and I hope she become a cock addict and needs a new one every weekend...I can only dream!

It can happen. Once they get past the social mind set that's bad and start to enjoy it .. watch out.. you have no idea yet how far it will go.

I wish every day she'd sneak around behind my back...that is the part that is 75% of the excitement to me, but she keeps on asking me "well i want to make you happy so what do you want me to do?" I want about 4-5 guys to fuck her bareback each month. So far it's only been 1 and I loved it.

I introduced the concept to her packing it, in part, around the idea that I loved her so much that I didn’t want to limit her – that my love was pure and not tainted by the idea o male “ownership” of female “property.” Woman too know the fear of choosing just one guy and foreclosing any other sexual opportunities they have in the future, so she really appreciated this gesture. I got her comfortable with that idea first. That IF she ever wanted to, she could without having to pay the price of throwing “us” away. I also told her the idea turned me on and gave me a thrill.
The biggest challenge for my (then) girlfriend was believing that it was going to be OK in reality and not just fantasy. She was terrified the first time that I would feel different afterwards. She made a point of telling me that it would be OK for me to do the same. I told her I didn’t want sex with any other woman. It was only after we were together a little longer that she admitted that she really would not be comfortable if I saw anyone else. She had only said so out of a sense of “fairness.”
My advice is:
1. Get to know her. The more true and intimate your relationship. The more deeply trusting and honest. The more she bares her darkest soul. The more open she will be to trying new things, the more trusting she will be of you, and the more deft you will be in addressing her fears.
2. Don’t push or rush. Make sure she feels that it is license and the license is real, but that the option is hers to exercise or not.
3. Be patient. She will not want to take the risk until she feels so SECURE and comfortable in the relationship with you that she knows it can withstand it if it goes wrong. Do everything you can to make her believe that it really would be OK with you and not change anything.
4. Accept the lulls. After the initial novelty has worn off, she might not bother for a while. Don’t get petulant. She’ll get bored and want something more eventually.
5. Be supportive. When it does happen, be supportive and in her corner. DON’T make it about you. How did SHE like it? Is she OK now? Make sure she knows that you are DELIGHTED that it happened (and disappointed if it wasn’t good for her) and not feeling one tinsie ounce of regret or second thought. If the first experience wasn’t good for her, make sure to express your hope and confidence that she’ll have a better time in the future (But again, don’t push.)
6. Never waiver. The first sign from you that you are jealous or resentful or not 100% certain it is totally OK and she may decide not to ever go there. If you don’t like the guy, or you didn’t like the timing, or the way it went down, or the way she told you, or whatever – KEEP IT TO YOURSELF. You think it was great! You hope it happens ALL THE TIME. You are HAPPY and LOVING when being cuckolded.
7. Be loving. Again. When it happens, or when she takes any step on the road, reward her with positive reinpowerment. Don’t be a drag, be a cheerleader.
8. Address the fairness issue. She is a good permister. She doesn’t want to wrong you or exploit you. (After all, she loves you) Even if you say you want it, even if she believes you want it, even if SHE wants it, she might feel that you shouldn’t and she shouldn’t take advantage. You need to convince her that it is no injustice or disservice to you. Indeed, it is an act of love. That what you have isn’t sex and sex could never destroy it, but her having sex with someone else will actually strengthen your relationship by making you BOTH happier and more loving.
I hope this helps. In my case a tentative start grew as I ever tried to make it safer. Eventually, she became so comfortable we went far beyond anything I ever thought was possible. She saw a guy, then another. She settled into serial monogamy with some casual lovers. She went through dry spells when her attention and energies were elsewhere. Eventually she was so comfortable she took my suggestion that she try to find someone to have an emotional and not just physical relationship with. (To make the sex better, but also to experience the rush of new love again.) I don’t know if you want to go that far, but you can if you are loving, supportive, patient, and open.

Good luck.
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sounds like good advice. i am trying to convince my wife to indulge in the cuckold lifestyle and she is understanding and knows how i feel but she is reluctant to take the final step.

It started for me when she cheated on me. This was early on in the relationship, and it happened more than once. We were off-and-on for a while. We had some tough times but got through them, and it later became clear that she loved me and I loved her. She wanted to be with me, yet it was obvious she wouldn't be able to be monogamous -- not with me, and probably not with anyone in the long-run. That's just the way she was. So we developed an agreement that she could fuck other guys (with certain conditions) and that she would be honest and tell me about it, and that I would be supportive. What I initially viewed as horrible later turned me on beyond belief. I found it extremely sexy. Still, it took her some time (because she didn't want to make me feel bad, and she didn't want to make herself look bad or have me think lowly of her). And she has an independent streak and wasn't ready to surrender her freedoms/prerogatives all to me. It also took her some time to be ready to commit and to be able to keep perspective and balance -- between our relationship and what she might get involved with regarding another guy(s). But I was willing to be patient, even though it sucked for a while because I didn't know if she'd ultimately want to be with me, but I had faith in the love we had. Now it's just a normal part of our relationship -- a good part -- but it took several years. And there are no guarantees for anyone. The love has to be strong, and both the man and the woman need to know themselves and do some introspection.

You don't want to ruin your relationship. That's paramount. You want her to feel comfortable and accepted and sexy, and you don't want her to think you feel inadequate (you shouldn't feel inadequate, even if you role play). It takes time, and it probably doesn't always work. In fact I'm sure it doesn't. But if there is real love, and if both the man and woman can have some perspective, it can be fun and very natural.

You should have a healthy sex life apart from cuckolding, and you should have a healthy relationship and a deep connection. Trust is of the utmost importance. Even if the woman doesn't reveal every detail or every single thing (allow her that), she should at least reveal the main things and not threaten the relationship. You don't want to lose the permister you love -- period.

hi i flirted the ideal two my wife about my friend i knew she was hot for.for fun pure pleasure were not into all the cuck stuff but damn i love watching her get it.it took a little doing a lot of talking ground rules ectt...we are very carefull and she will not pull strangers it will be someone we know and trust.we have one right now which is working out good hopefully we can keep him as long as possible.

Because.........

You're not a sissy, your cock isn't inadequate...You just love the smell and texture of your girlfriend's freshly fucked pussy.


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Hi slidebaby, My husband talked me into trying it out over 20yrs ago. I was petrified! I thought our marriage would be destroyed (at the time we had 2 youngren) I thought he only wanted me to go with another man, so he could go with other women. I was wrong on every count! The first night was a turning point in our lives. This was before we'd even heard of Cuckolding. To cut a long story short, once I spent the night with Eric I was his, he took me out the following weekend, and for eight years he was my primary source of sexual fulfillment. He took me places my husband did'nt even know existed. And now all those years later we are still married, but every now and then my husband's place in the marital bed and between my legs, is taken by another more virile man, who knows how to own me. My advice to you is don't push your wife too hard be patient find out what exites her, women are less visual and more cerebral in thier fantasies. Good luck. Mt4

I agree with almost everything that has been said. My wife and I were happy after the first occasion, and again we talked about it a lot. Her first lover turned out to be more of a stimulation and a dud in bed, so she never went out with him again. I tried to get her to do my brother. Randy is cute. he is 7 years younger than I am and he would often come over during high school and would sit cross legged or hang upside down from the swings and his cock would show out the legs of his shorts since he was always minus the underwear. We would tak about it often in bed and although she would get turned on in the bed, she always said no family members. Until she did her brother one takesen Newyears eve. he was the best. 10 years younger, and cuckolduous! Wow!!!

she was just trying to get me horny with her "nasty talk " of her being a slut with other guys. Or so I thought , when she took a sales job and came home
after 2am and told me all about her boss and how great he is.. I was ashamed to have her see me get aroused. Finally after doing this for weeks, she would dress sexy and get ready for " work " in front of me.. She came home full of his seed and she sat on my face telling me " you get to taste it because i know you want to" .. She had me and she knew it. This went on for years. Be careful it gets heavy!
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