Obsessed with the fantasy but scared of the reality

I enjoyed reading your post. I agree that deep down you are probably not ready for this.

It took me at least 2 years of coaxing and gentle persuasion to get my wife to go with another guy and when she finally did, my initial joy was replaced by feelings of insecurity. I enjoyed knowing my wife was out with a younger guy and it was great hearing all about her evening when she got home. The plan was for her to see this guy once or twice a week. He was a customer in the shop she worked in and I really fancied the idea of my wife having "a bit on the side".

A couple of days later however, I started feeling bad and told her my fears. This upset her and she vowed never to relax with another guy again - and hasn't. To make things worse, the guy was not that quick at calling her after their date, which made my wife feel dirty and used. Perhaps he saw my wife as just some easy lay, and to be fair, she had been easy for him to bed, but in reality we had just been waiting for the right opportunity to come along. He was in the right place at the right time.

Although my wife worked in a town 15 miles away from home, I was still worried about her lover causing trouble here. He was by all accounts a bit cocky, arrogant and had been in trouble with the police. I was scared he might want to fight me for her - I knew I'd lose. I'm tall, but skinny - a bit of a wimp, I guess, and he'd beat me for sure.

I was also worried that if he fucked my wife well and better than me, she might go off with him, leaving me with the kids. She reassured me that I would be always be her number 1, but the fears were still there.

I worried that he had a bigger cock than me (he didn't appartently) and all sorts of things went through my mind. Hindsight is a wonderful thing, but in retrospect, I wish I had held my nerve and let them carry on seeing each other, at least for a few weeks. He did get in touch with my wife eventually, hoping for a repeat session, but she was adamant that she "would not go down that road again".

I have asked her to re-consider a few times. I'd really love another guy to fuck my wife again. Maybe if I'd let her carry on seeing that young guy she would have had a number of lovers over the years.

That said, there are a lot of men on this site who's wives never play, so I suppose I should be grateful that my wife has at least tried it. I don't know if any of this helps you in your situation, but I hope so. It's nice to read an honest post on here. Good luck!
Peter C

I think you and your wife need to be on the same page with all of this.

Ok be patient with me please because I love to write and create but I absolutely despise the keyboard to use as a way to express myself...at any rate, allow a guy who has ( I think) gained some valuable insight into this whole fetish over the years.
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At some point you need to understand there's a major difference between the fantasy and the reality.
Imagine you've just stood naked jacking off in front of your wife and your buddies and maybe even sucked a dick or two in the process...ok the sex is over...now what? Do you think anyone is ever going to talk to you like you are an equal again? This is so hot in the mind but to act it out....most marriages could never make it work for a billion reamisters.
My wife isn't interested in this idea at all. She became irritated when I kept bringing it up and eventually I gently worked her into the idea of doing this together in play only.
Now she actually gets as inventive as I do in her roleplay and we have a weekly to 3x weekly session of watching some interracial, orgy or cuckold porn together and she humiliates me most of the time comparing me to them..etc..
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No need to be scared and heres why! Almost every woman who leaves her BF or husband never had a cuck husband who let them fuck others. Point is woman cheat behind their husbands back and leave them all the time. So if you think your secure by not letting her fuck others, your wrong! However, when you let a woman play she doesn't feel like shes chained down and needs something new in her life. Your more likely to keep her if she has freedom to play.
The fact is, after you let your wife fuck other men, life is the same. You still get up in the morning and put your pants on the same way. You still love eachother just the same as before.

read your post,
point blank you better not have second thoughts before you do it. your gut feeling is the one you listen to when it comes to this. i started letting her kiss other guys in front of me while we were out takeing or partying. nothing too crazy but it built from there. try that first. if you can handle that which im sure you, will coax her into heavier play but only at your pace. it wont take long for you to find out if this should stay a fantasy or you are ready for it. Permisterally i am just a voyuer. Not into anything gay or offense. Just want to see my wife get rocked by a 10 incher or better!!!! Have yet to witness but still trying!!!! GOOD LUCK!