?? about safe sex

Ok, so I've done a guy for the first time in front of my approving husband. It was awesome and the guy was great. We've met up a couple times since then without the husband but my question is how do you know when someone is disease free and how do you hook up with someone without knowing them? Aren't the girls out there scared of being handcuffed in a basement never to be heard from again or getting AIDS??? The guy I am currently doing agreed to get tested with me for AIDS...great guy and is definitely disease free. But most guys who claim they practice safe sex want you to take their word that they are clean. Do you all use condoms every time??? Bareback? What about pregnancy? All advice welcome and listened to. Thanks everybody
Karen

1. Go on the contraceptive pill
2. Check his organ visually
3. ALWAYS use condom
But, where is the fun in cuckolding if you meet others in secret and away from your cuck partner? You are missng the point, I think.

Karen;

Safe sex can be approximated if both parties (3 if the cuck is active) have complete std screens. Then know that is only good ongoing if all parties are otherwise celebate...to the other.

Like any relationship, this one is built up over time. Believe nothing, but you will come to know over time. Riskier stuff is best saved for a time when the trust piece is built up.

Pregnancy? You should know how to manage that, and manage it you should.

Ignoring all these concers is a fantasy answer. You don't have to go there to experience what you want.

You can never be sure of anyone being disease free so we always insist that guys use condoms. We'd rather it was bare back but better safe than sorry!

the truth is vulgar....

Sa Tyr
ok, I get the birth control issue from the womans point of view but the pill is out for me. Hate the way it fluctuates hormones and decreases desire. And I do not see men in SECRET. Always clear it with hubby first, get his approval and tell him all about it later. Same as going on a date and leaving cucked hubby at home. Hubby works days and most of my boys are only available during the day so it makes scheduling very difficult. So most of you do the condom thing? I guess I'm looking in all the wrong places...the guys I meet say they practice safe sex and by that they mean they are clean and want bareback. Only one so far, has agreed to be tested and use condoms until proven clean. The rest outright refuse to use condoms. And I insist, so it's hard finding a good man around here.
Oh well, thanks for the advice, all.
Karen

My wife uses a diaphragm, ALWAYS uses condoms with someone other than me.

She did have one FWB she eventually went bareback with, but that was a particular situation... after a few months, we met his wife (she didn't know about he and my wife, she no longer enjoyed sex), we three were tested for STD's including HIV. We were comfortable that he would have sex with no one but my wife (and on a rare occasion, his wife).

I was always there for the first few months.

Loss of libido is NOT a commonly reported side effect of the pill.
In fact, I've never heard of it (nor has my physician wife)

Most women who take the Pill have none to very few side effects.

The side effects that some women have while on the Pill include:

* irregular cuckold women reding
* nausea, weight gain, headaches, dizziness, and breast tenderness
* mood changes
* red clots (rare in women under 35 who do not smoke)

Often these side effects improve over the first 3 months on the Pill or on anohter brand or formulation.

The Pill also has some side effects that most women are happy about. It usually makes periods much lighter, reduces cramps, and is often prescribed for women who have cuckold women problems. Taking the Pill often improves acne, and some doctors prescribe it for this purpose. Birth control pills have also been found to protect against some forms of breast disease, anemia, ovarian cysts, and ovarian and endometrial cancers.


this has nothing to do with preventing sexually transmitted diseases, but the pill is by far the MOST effective means of birth control short of surgery or abstaining from sex.

newdom


Well there are many alternatives to the pill, and btw, there are many flavors of the pill, sometimes one works better than another.

And... If you like your life, than safe sex until medically cleared is the ONLY alternative.

Crimps your style some would say, BS, I've been doing this for 15 years, and nary a problem, I'm a Bull, and I do control the situation... sure I'm edgy, but then I'm completely safe as well.

nylimey
About the taking the pill issue. I have far too many health issues to discuss here but let's just say I had NO sex life for about 20 years due to so many meds including BC pills. Weaned off everything, almost died in the process, almost died again from more crap and now am on NOTHING!!! And want to keep it that way. I feel again, I desire, I am happy again for the first time in 20 years, so you can now see why I am so reluctant to mess with meds and start chemically changing hormones. Anyway, thanks for all the responses, none went unnoticed. I appreciate all advice given. I take what I need and let the rest go, so thanks to all. And I guess the best advice is ALWAYS condom it, if they refuse, kick them aside and move on to the next who will use it, no problem. Thanks everybody.
Karen

I think nausea, dizziness etc would most certainly dampen libido whatever the symprons are caused by.

Well, consider an IUD, none of the above symptoms;

point is be in control of your permisteral safety and procreation, no mater how edgy you want to take it. Want a young? cool, but make it a choice.


you got this piece right!

"best advice is ALWAYS condom it, if they refuse, kick them aside and move on to the next who will use it, no problem. Thanks everybody."

you'll find plenty of "volunteers" sweety.

So any volunteers for her?

There must be another bull in residence, no?

Sorry honey, guess not.