Wife Wants It

Hey everyone--Ron, 51--new here...new as a member but have visited as a guest. I have been married for 22 years to my wife, Susan--she's 44--in the gym everyday--looks 10 years younger than she is. She has always been the type to look after herself impeccably.

Our sex life has always been challenged--right from our marriage forward. I have a small penis (4.5" erect) and have always had difficulty getting and maintaining erections. Years back we were fairly active doing everything else--and my lack of ability never bothered her when she was younger. Over the years--our sex life has more or less diminished (but we still have some fun) and as Susan has gotten into her 40s--her libido has actually started to explode. Shortly after her 40th birthday we had a conversation (after too much wine) where she confessed she fantasized about being with other men. The conservation turned me on to the point that we ended up fucking for the first time in many months. Since that time this topic has come up from time-to-time--always resulting in some sort of orgasm--the idea really does turn me on.

Now, only in the past year things have changed considerably. Two things happened--my wife bought a vibrator (and uses it generously) and one of her closest friends (50, but youthful and adventurous) got a divorce and started to fuck anything and everything--and revels in telling my wife about her wild times. My wife's attitude went from--'being with someone else would be exciting' to 'i need it NOW' This of course, is a turn on to me, and the source of some nauseous excitement.

Now--to wrap this story up to some extent--two months ago my wife was involved in a very complicated mishap on the freeway--no one seriously hurt, but some damage done. Through this accident she met Jamister--Jamister was one of the State Troopers who was initially there--and he has helped Susan out several times since dealing with reports, lawyers, insurance, etc--within days of this accident happening she started to talk about him ALL THE TIME. In my mind of course--I'm thinking, she wants to fuck this guy...I'm turned on, excited, scared. Anyway--I insisted on going with her one day to the police station where she was dropping off yet another bit of paperwork...and I met this Jamister and was floored. He is totally unlike anyone my wife has ever admitted attraction too--firstly he's all of 25 years old...and physically he's nothing like what I assumed was my wife's "type." I watched the interplay between them, body-language, etc--and it's obvious that she is very much interested. After this encounter I did muster up the courage to ask her if she was attracted to him and she admitted she was...but dismissed it saying 'he's a kid and i'm an old(er) married woman'...yet i know she looks at him with lust...I saw it.

Anyway...what do people think--in spite of my worries should I maybe encourage something here?

It sounds like you should at least keep her talking about him. Just hearing her fantasize about him would probably be a turn-on for you. I bet she could easily get him interested by your description of her. Maybe you should encourage her to take him out for lunch(or something) for all he's done for her. Make her feel that your own limitations entitle her to look elsewhere. do you feel that he's already interested in her?
joguy

I thought about suggesting she thank him over coffee or lunch. She will not admit much herself--but she talks about him all the time--insignificant stuff but his name comes up constantly. My wife is beautiful...incredibly sexy at 44--probably has the best body she's ever had--is in the gym almost everyday and watches what she eats--she would have no problem getting attention from men.

As for him--I met him once and given that he was in his workplace--it was tough to get a read. In my humblest of non-female opinions--he seems like the kind of guy that based on looks and physique could get just about any woman he wanted--didnt get a read either way in regard to Susan--he has been very attentive and helpful (probably excessively???) which makes me wonder a bit. I didn't get the impression he was an overly complex and intellectual guy--typical straight-forward military/police type individual. I catch myself thinking--even if he isn't interested...if Susan really turned up the heat, I think anyone with a penis would notice.

well, if you did suggest that it would only sound natural and even innocent. you could joke about giving him a proper thank you for all his help. it would be interesting to see her reaction to a little encouragement.
joguy

I think the suggestion would sound innocent too...I honestly THINK that if she suspects I'm trying to set up something between them, that it will scare her off. If it sounds innocent enough, I think she'll go for it--and it the very least it keeps them in touch and keeps her imagination working.

go for it ! you should tell her she should thank him with an invitation of sort..
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LOL...don't think I'm interested in sending her to Venice. I think there might be more than enough for her here.

so, are you going to suggest that she buy him a lunch?
joguy

right now im turned on enough to say definitely yes--im ***d over this...LOL...it's scary and exciting. I'm not even sure it will lead anywhere--she has mentioned he's not married and doesn't have a steady girlfriend (I was subjected to her going on about it--the whole..."can you believe a guy like that is single, I wish I knew a nice girl to set him up with..."...blah-blah.

So I think I'm going to suggest either lunch or a coffee as a thank-you because he's gone so far out of his way to help her navigate the paperwork and red tape.

Anything else I should do--or just see what happens with this?

it sounds like you're afraid of spooking her about the whole thing, but maybe you could get her talking more about how un-attached he is. Do you think theres a reamister, etc. See if she's checked him out physically.
joguy

It isn't a challenge to get her to talk about him--she's talked about him daily for weeks--jamister this and jamister that--no problem, like i said, i hardly mind.

Im thinking of approaching this two ways - suggest the lunch and leave it alone (im 99% sure she'll like the idea) and perhaps talk in more detail after the lunch--OR--if the mood is right, use the lunch suggestion to enter into a bigger conversation about him (i havent really asked any questions other than insisting on meeting him).

I think the thing to do is loosen up her inhibitions, have a couple takes, and get her talking about sex in a general way and see where that leads. do you think this guy will come to her mind at some point? I would be willing to bet yes.
joguy

I would say yes too--i don't doubt it for a second--she's definitely in a place where she wants something more from somewhere--and this guy has come along--and my sense...my strong sense is that she is attracted to him--whether she's admitted this to herself or not (I think she probably has--thus the generous use of her vibe). This guy is--like i said--way off my wife's usual "type" (she's never been interested in the tough/rough/blue collar thing)--but...as a straight guy, I can see--the guy has got a ton going for him physically--it's impossible for her not to be noticing.

well, your opening post said "wife wants it", and i think you want her to do it, too. doesn't it turn you on to think about her wanting more? keep her thinking about it.
joguy

yeah...sorry if it sounds like im not turned on by it--i really really am--i'm thinking it out in words in here - forgive me if it sounds disjointed. i'm going to try to mention it today (lunch/coffee) when she gets back in...see where it goes.

I'd love to hear how it goes
joguy

any hot pic of ur future cheatin slut, ron ??

I will let you all know how it goes. Wish me luck.

Ron,

Your situation is much like the one I was in with my wife before we got into the cuckold lifestyle. We have a very sexually challenged(we actually use the term "handicapped") sex life as a couple because of my sexual shortcomings. I have the exact same little 4.5 inch dicklet when erect as you. I also have those same issues with difficulty in getting and maintaining erections. It did not seem to bother my wife much in the earlier years of our marriage, but it was always quite obvious that she was "way too much woman for me to handle". I was unable to give her an orgasm during straight sex and we eventually turned to large dildoes and vibrators. This contbibuted to her "exploding libido", just like your wife.

Our venture into the cuckold lifestlyle started over a few takes one evening when we had an open and honest discussion regarding our sex life I was a little taken back when she came right out and said she needed a man "much more" than what I had to offer to be sexually fulfilled. She added she never would never cheat on me behind my back, however. After further discussion, I realized how turned on I was by the idea of my tall, busty, and beautiful wife being sexually dominated and fucked to multiple orgasms by some big stud with a huge cock. In fact, the same thing basically happened with us that very evening. I was so turned on that I fucked her for the first time in several weeks and although I lasted a very short time(as always), I could feel a sexual excitement and thrill I had not felt in years.

We talked some more in the ensuing weeks and soon decided to try the idea of her finding a suitable extra marital sex partner. We have been in and out of the cuckold lifestyle for almost seven years now. We look upon ourselves as being a sexually challenged(or handicapped)couple who need the help and assistance of a sexually superior man. We have met more than a few of these special men over the years and have achieved a mutual sexual fulfillment we did not think possible when we first got into this sexual lifestyle. We are still a loving couple and very married. If anything, our marriage and love for each other is stronger than ever these days.

I think you are already half way there with the discussions you have already had with your wife. The subject is not exaclty taboo with you two. I think you need another open and honest discussion with her, preferably over a few glasses of wine. I think you might be well-served if you admit to her the idea of it sexually stimulates you, too. You know, it doesn't necessarily have to be with this guy, either. I am sure there are other guys out there who your wife would look at with lust and who would be quite willing to help the situation.

amaze my wife--i really appreciate your input--thanks.

to provide an update--I mentioned in passing yesterday that I thought Susan should take Trooper Jamister out for lunch, or a coffee at the minimum. She was very receptive to the idea--and said it was something she'd already thought about doing. She had intended to drop off yet another round of reports/paperwork to him at work today--but she emailed him yesterday afternoon and they have decided to meet tomorrow (Tuesday) for him to look over her insurance reports--and that as a thank you they will be going out for a 'quick' lunch tomorrow. She mentioned his name a few more times over the course of the day--but there was no real opportunity for me to open up any further conversation about it.

Again...I will keep you posted.

Thanks...RON

looking forward to hearing how it goes. he does seem to be on her mind a lot!
joguy

I talked to Susan this afternoon from work--she's definitely really "into" this whole idea of going out for lunch tomorrow. She talked about it for basically the entire phone conversation saying she was really appreciative for all he'd done for her, and really wanted to thank him by treating him to a really great lunch somewhere, and asking if I think she should buy him some sort of gift for his troubles. I mentioned to her that she seemed to be really excited about going to lunch tomorrow and she said she was really looking forward to it--that she was really pleased that she was going to have the opportunity to say thanks, etc.

I have no idea of course if anything is going to come of this--but I'm finding the lead-up to this pretty exciting--I'm thinking about it constantly, imagine scenarios, etc.

Assuming no opportunity arises to discuss this on a deeper level with her, I'm just going to let her go and have a good lunch tomorrow and see what happens afterward.

just my two cents here, i wouldn't expect anything to happen tomorrow other than the lunch and if you are lucky, a hug/kiss that might be longer than "proper"
assuming that's the case, the next step is to figure out a way to get her to take that next step. remember, that unless jamister is experienced as a bull, he will be reluctant to move unless he gets clear signs from her that she is prepared to cheat on her hubby. i can only speak as a bull where i knew the score and so did the husband.
sounds like you need to slowly nurture this...let those butterflies in your stomach work for you...and when it really happens, when you know what she's doing with him.....that "nauseous" nervous feeling will increase tenfold...you'll love it.
Would love to see a pic of her!
Real Bull ISO Real Couples

Thanks for you advice socalbull. I think you're right--I really don't expect much to happen tomorrow--but I think it's important (it feels that way anyway) to keep them in touch. The complicated part is that Susan and I may not get to a point where either of us is totally comfortable saying "Go ahead and do it..." but the truth is, I'm really excited by the thought of her doing it, whether I'm in on it or not.

As for Jamister--like I said--I only know what I sensed meeting him and from the many things I've heard about him through Susan. I highly doubt he's an experienced bull--but who knows, right? My initial impression is that he's on the quiet side, but not in a bad way--i hesitate to say he's the typical big, dumb muscular guy--but you sort of get that impression. Who knows what they guys experiences are--but I doubt he'd pursue without some encouragement from Susan as he definitely knows she's married. This feeling is going to increase ten-fold...WOW...not sure I'll be able to stand it. Thanks Again...R

MD--no opportunity for pillow talk at this point--the lunch date is on for today--going to see how that goes, hopefully that will open us up to more discussion--or at the very least, for her to have an opporunity/excuse to meet up with him again. You're absolutely correct about women's egos of course--I doubt Susan would ever put herself out there into a situation where she could be rejected/embarassed--she is incredibly attractive and sexy for her age--and has never been want for attention for men--but you're right--this is potentially a different scenario.

I'll keep everyone posted...wish us BOTH luck...LOL

Well...I have a preliminary update. I talked to Susan by phone briefly--she's said lunch was "great"--they changed plans and didn't go until he was finished work at 2--then went for lunch and for coffee afterward. She said they had a great time and did lots of talking--and that she thanked him. I said she would have to tell me "all about it" when she got home...so we'll see if I get any details on their conversation...will keep you posted.

see if she talks about him even more
joguy

a big yes so far joguy--we talked in more detail last night--well...less so about how her lunch went and moreso about him--they obviously spoke in depth because she seems to know EVERYTHING about this guy now--i heard basically his entire life story.

they are going to continue being in touch--for one thing she isn't entirely finished sorting out all of her issues with insurance, lawyers, etc--plus i think she's just too interested in this guy and his life to back away just yet...fingers crossed.

so, has she been using her vibrator much? maybe you should ask her if she fantasizes while she's using it , and about who or what. tell her she should feel free to think about whoever she wants. after all its not real. at least not yet!
joguy