Finally Agrees to Black Toy Use!

I can really use some help and advice from this great community; the husbands/boyfriends, the wives/girlfriends and the Black Bulls.

After much pleading and begging, and I'm not even sure what did the trick, my honey has finally relented and is allowing me to purchase a black toy bedroom fun. I am beyond shocked, and may be seeing my longtime dream come true of seeing her with a Black Man. This is a huge step.

The help I need is what kind of black toy do I get, is it just black in color, or do I get the real life looking kind, what size, etc.

For anyone who has been through this, I can really use some help of how far do I push the verbal talk while using it, what should I say/do, etc.

Thanks!!

Great timing! I just bought my wife her first black dildo. i didn't want it to be small, but not too big, either.

I went to Amazon, went to the dildos section, and sorted by average customer review. (The hyperlink is visible to registered members only!) The first realistic dildo is a John Holmes replica which is too big and is white.

Scrolling down... the next realistic one is the "Adam and Eve Adams Pleasureskin dildo 7.75 inch natural". It gets very high reviews and isn't too big. It's white, so I searched for a black version and....bingo:

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But.. we haven't used it yet. We're on the brink, though. She's positive and excited, but also s little scared.

For sure get her a real life looking and feeling dildo. Not real big but make sure it's at least a couple inches bigger than yourself and thicker as well. Good luck an have fun

I would agree about the size. I started off too big and it kind of turned her off. Cyberskin products are excellent. I would use plenty of lube and have it warmed up to a good temp. Once you get her hooked you can move up in size.

Based on permisteral experience, I first got her a cyberskin and she turned out to be allergic to it. For us, 100% silicone is the way to go. It costs a little more but is worth it. We went with the captian silicone dildo and my wife loves it. I've also heard good things about vixskin silicone dildos.

As for the captian, just search for it. It seemed to be the perfect starter "big" dildo. It wasn't overwhelming, but was clearly bigger than me. I believe it's over 7" in length and 1.75" in girth. I found it and copied it below.

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Thanks for all the advice. Most likely going to the store today to make a purchase or at least take a look at some.

The more realistic looking in size, color, feel, texture, the better...get her used to imagining the real thing and getting off on it...it will make your transition to the real thing that much easier later on. It should be about no less than 10 inches, dark brown with raised veins. She will love it once she gets the hang of it, and soon she will be fantasizing about getting the real thing, particularly when she sees a black man she may be attracted to. It should not bee too difficult, particularly since she knows you lust about her taking on the real thing and you very much look forward to fulfilling this fantasy.

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this is my girlfriend's favorite dildo. She has a few videos on youcuck using it

littlewhiteboytoy

Links, please?

** Update

I finally bought the toy last Friday. The last couple of weeks I felt awkward going into a local store and didn't want to order it online. So I found a store in NYC and made my purchase. 8" Realistic C*ck uR3. We ended up using it that night and I have to say it was the best sexual experience of my life!!

She also LOVED IT. I can't believe that I even reached this point with her to begin with. The thing is so big I never thought it would fit, but without lube, (she was SO WET), the head was sucked in to her. She didn't take the whole thing yet, but I got very close to "balls deep". She came 3 times, which is 3 more times than with me so she definitely liked it.

While she was verbal and said things, "more" "deeper" and "oh my god, what are you doing to me" while I was using it, there was not "Big Black Cock" talk or things like that. At least not yet. She has given it a name "The Black Knight"

A couple things have come of this. One, she will not discuss this topic face to face. She will be very open about it in texts or in emails with me but not in permister, or in bed like on Friday night.

We have now started sharing links to movies that she watches, ALL IR themed and she sends me "feedback" on them, as I see this has conditioning her to the IR Lifestyle. And so far no push back.

I have not yet sent her husband watching the wife get fucked by a black man movies, but have sent her one with a bride and a black man, and other things, like 2 black cops with the white wife of a arrested husband.

She loves them. She has actually sent me just last night a 3 black man on 1 white woman with the subject line "OMG"

So things are progressing.

One item to note, she has promised, even though I said it was okay that she could use when I was at work or even out at night. She said no, that it was for us together. But I noticed in the draw that it has MOVED 3 of the last 4 days. She is using it on her own!!

All good signs!! Maybe one day this will reach the point where it happens for real!!

If anyone wants to contact me directly for advice or to discuss, please send me a PM or email to computermikenj @ yahoo.com

Good luck! Any updates?

Any updates?

computermike....I hope you the best of luck...I am a little jealous...how did you broach the subject with your wife...my wife loves the for play of me eating her out and deep fingering...I know she would love a dildo...I want it black...and realistic...thinking of surprising her but afraid...what should I do?

ohyea80

HEre's a surefire way to do this: talk to your wife about dildos. Tell her you're interested in seeing her play with one. HAve some foreplay to follow, fuck her and don't mention the dildo for a couple weeks. On a weekend night, get takes with her and bust out the big surprise dildo you'll have bought for her. Depending on the lighting in your room, she may not even know the color of it. Or if she does mention it, tell her you bought it at a sex shop and for the size shape and texture you wanted to see her use, that color was the only one on the shelf. HAve a laugh about it. Get her to fuck herself with it while you suck her neck titties earlobe or whatever. Fuck her. Enjoy the rest of your evening, then stash the dildo somewhere.

Some more unsolicited advice: You're going to want to maintain absolute control over the dildo for a while. This is for the same reamister as the surprise dildo gift method: good dildo play is seen and not heard. Talking about it too much will just feed the neuroticism, *******ing the physical joy of the dildo play and making it an unwanted cerebral burden. For a while, the less that the dildo is talked about with your wife, and the more that it is used on her to your sexual gratification, the better. This is only until you have both established a certain comfort level with the introduction of your new toy into your sex lives.

Stash it somewhere she will likely find it, or it may pop up when you don't want it to. This will help you avoid situations that could lead you to dispose of the dildo. You don't want that, or eventually you'll have to go get a whole nother fucking dildo. Like most porn aficionados, you are presumably familiar with the cycles of collecting and purging porn, and you don't want to have this happen with the dildo. The second time you bust out the dildo should be at least 10 fucks after the first time. Eventually, you should experiment with making the dildo a bigger part of your sex lives. Maybe ask her if you can make a sexy video of her fucking herself to orgasm with the dildo. Maybe a year after you bought the dildo. Slow and steady wins the race. The key is not to let the dildo take over your sex lives too quickly. That will make it uncomfortable and ultimately unsatisfying, which could lead you to get rid of the dildo and regret it later.

Remember, you've fucked her this long without the dildo, and there's no need to get overly eager about rushing it into your sex life. Your in this for the long haul, and you want to do this the right way.

Good luck!
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Computermikenj

This seems to be going excellent for you! Congrats!!!

How have things progressed since September???
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