Should I just flat out ask her to do it?

mwc26, any developments with her? any progress on getting her to meet a BBC? Do you have any BBC friends (not from work) you could introduce her to?
idea- go find a black guy yourself, meet him check him out to see if you get along, then introduce him to her as one of the gus from work- something she could relate to, without actually involving guys from work
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no real progress. She brings up "black" stuff here and there still but we havent really talked about it for a couple of months.

Jerking off to the fantasy gets old.

Absofuckinglutely!

I wonder (and attention: I'm only guessing) if your wife isn't cuckolding you behind your back. What are people's opinions about that?

I really dont think she is doing anything behind my back...its possible, but I really dont think so. Our current situation does doesnt really support it. I think its more possible she may have cheated on me in the past. Iforget if I mentioned in this thread, but she has been attracted a mutual friend of ours in a couple of years ago.

I do think she "tests the waters" with talk because part of her would really like to try it (or MAYBE already has and wants to make sure I would react positive)

Thanks for the replys, it is interesting to think it is possible she has gotten some dick from another guy. The idea turns me on for sure.

I almost thought I worte your story, MWC26.Not to crush you completly but ,I could add to it 10 years later.We have been close a couple of times but never crossed the line.But I am the type that never gives up.I'll just let her go at her own pace and keep hoping.

My experiences are rather similar.

Four years have passed, since I confessed my cuckolding phatasies to my wife.

Since then she occasionally likes to play a phantasy scenario including other men an likes to humilitate me as her foot and ass-worshipper too.

But she strictly refuses to go any further and gets angry when I push her to include other men.

Sucks huh.

Im sure if the right guy hit on her it could happen.

I really dont want to wait another ten years bieng "close". They say women hit there sexual peak in there 30's, she is 31.

Basically when it comes down to it...this is ultimately for her. Don't forget that. You as the cuckold get the leftovers...the bye product of your wife getting better sex than you can give her. Its your job as the supporting, loving husband to take care of her before, (if your lucky) during, and after she is with her lover.

It took me several years to get my wife to do it, she did, but only because the circumstances were just right. She has yet to do it again, and most likely won't. My wife knows how bad I want her to do it again, but things have to be "just right".

Do not give up, she knows, and given the exact, right circumstances, I beleive your wife will. But then again, you might just be "jacking off to the fantasy". Its all up to her, let her be, and see what happens.

Hopefully we will be reading about your journey into the cuckold world.

Good luck.

I know, even though I really want this for my self, I am convinced she would love it if she tried it for many more reamisters.

Still hasnt gone black.

She does throw in more and more "black" comments into regular conversation. Playful, fun stuff that I always go along with and never push.

She has also been into "small penis" type remarks about me. When she does I always playfully go along with it. Yesterday we were talking about something that ended up with me saying I wanted to fuck her when we got home. She playfully said "I need more than two inches babe" and I came back at her with "its not the size, its how you use it" and she laughed.

I'm still hopeful that the right guy/situation would get her into it.

MWC26

I decided to offer some my thoughts/interpretations of your situation. You are fortunate, you wife seems to be both in love with you and values your marriage. She has been open to role-playing and persuing your fantasies in that way, all of which speaks volumes about your relationship. She has expressed genuine concerns about her emotional attachment she associates as one with sex, this is her heartfelt feelings, NEVER dismiss them, in part, she has the same feelings with you, at present, because as she said, 'you are the best she has had'. She undoubtedly feels it would negetively impact your relationship if that was not the case and that scares her. She is acctually completely correct, given her emotional association with sex, a lover who brings her satisfaction in a way you never have will have a profound emotional affect on her and possibly an unwanted affect on your very strong relationship.
However, there is hope for a happy conclusion in the way you desire. The thought of it excites her, it is the ramifications that stop her, as they should. You need to let her know you understand her feelings and appreciate everything she has done and her patience with you in endulging your fantasies. The most obvious way to remove the possibility of lasting emotional ties is to involve someone outside of your imediate circle, someone who a lasting relationship would not be possible. The easiest way to accomplish this is on a vacation, a one night stand with someone neither of you will ever see again. No numbers exchanged, no emails, no chance to ruin what she obviously values highly. But I'm getting ahead of myself, prior to that, after she understands that you really get and share her feelings, I would suggest you ask her, "What would you be willing to try if we go out to a club or something?" Maybe it's dancing, maybe a kiss, maybe a little more, what ever SHE wants take it and let her know for all your worth how hot it got you, how proud your were of her. Let that evolve, it will be slow, enjoy the journey and talk to her about her feelings and concerns. I would suggest you avoid repeating the same places, or certainly the same men, that will just raise her fears and set you back. Slow and steady, letting her feel she is taking this at her pace. When the time is right and you confirm her fears are as I've suggested and you've shared some 'innocent' fun times, mention the possibility of taking a vacation and the opportunity it would provide to have a "perfect" situation, by that point she will feel comfortable with the basics, flirting, kissing, getting felt up a little, and she may very well rationalize that there is no harm in making it happen, in the "perfect" situation, a stiuation that would in my opinion protect you both and your relationship....good luck

A very intelligent and thoughtful post Zinc. You have hit the nail right on the head. The impediment to sexually liberated fun is the emotional weight many women attach to intense sexual experience. Sure they might have the odd fling here or there, but bascially, if you do it for her, then she is going to love you, and invest her heart, body and mind to YOU.

I have been guilty of being too analytical about the excitement and benefits of cuckolding, when discussing with partners. If the woman wasn't turned on sexually by me, I wouldn't be having the discussion with her! The trouble with cuckoldry is that it works perfectly in some abstract detached Universe, but is a little more complicated in the real one.

You are right that the way forward is to get her to recognize what it is that she REALLY likes about you, and gradually explain that that is not compromised or threatened by including other men. Emotional intimacy is what it is all about. I frankly do not understand the purely submissive, offense based model of cuckoldry put forward here so fervently. It sounds like amusement for 6 months (at the most) but not any basis for an ongoing relationship. Well, not for me anyway - i guess some people get it to work.

I am between partners right now, but i am gravitating into a relationship with a very serious young woman who loves and respects me deeply, and i know the whole cuckoldry thing might not ever work with her - such is her nature. So the question is: do I even pursue it with her?!

Have you tried putting on some interracial porn while you have sex? give that a shot.