Bull-Wife work relationsihps

Hi All,

My GF, Amy and I have been together about 3 years, cuckolding her hubby, BIll. She and I work together, and met through work. Our relationship started as flirting at work, started growign into what was lookign like a regular office/romance affair and has become an all-out cuckolding of her hubby.

It occurs to me that a man and a woman can know each other at work in ways that a husband and wife can't in marriage. She sees my competitive & 'alpha' tendencies more than a regular GF would -- celebrates my achievemetns etc -- and I see her intelligence, strengths and initiative (as well as her judgment) in ways that her cuck-hubby at home really can't. This, as much as me being the alpah-man over her beta-man hubby is a big part of our bull-wife relationship.

I have seen alot of posting here about wives who choose their bosses as "Bulls" and am curious to learn what experiences others ahve had with at-work bull-wife relationships (whether with a boss or co-worker). I am not Amy's boss BTW. How do others feel that the office-romance/co-worker aspect affects the cuckolding? Are there ways other bull-wife couples incorporate it into the humiliarion/cuckolding aspect of bull-wife sex with the cuck. Also how does it affect the romance/intimacy when there is a serious rwork elationships that excludes the cuck entierely. We really like all of these aspects, and would be intersted in what others think.

Also curious if any couples have reached the hpoint where htey had to choose between cuckolding the hubby or her divorcing him and nre-marrying when an office/work-related romance got seriosu (and why you migh have chosen cuckolding -- or wish you had).

Can't wait to hear what experiences have been. Feel free to post here or to send me a private message!

Jsn & Amy

In our case, my wife had an affair with her boss at work. She was very attracted to him, for all the reamisters you've listed. One thing led to another, and we finally realised how much this turned us both on, and we invited him to our home. That was my first cuckolding (one that I knew about), about 17 years ago now, and it's been an absolutely wonderful marriage so far

That's kool rafish -- do she and the boss (or now former boss) still have an ongoing love relationhsip?

My wife had two relationships with co-workers through the years. (Neither was the boss.) Our experience was that this added dimensions or erotic charge. My wife really loved the illicit sneaky dimension it gave the relationships as they were careful to keep things quiet at work. One of the downsides to cuckolding in her view is that it removes a bit of the naughty thrill she would have felt of going behind my back and dating a coworker added a bit of that back. A second factor that she appreciated but that really turned me was that they couldn't help but to spend time and relate to each other in ways beyond the sexual. Relationships with "bulls" (we hate that term) can often become strictly sexual "hook-up" affairs. But when it is a co-worker, lunches together, stolen glances, furtive kissing and feeling-up in the elevator or copy room, etc. become pretty natural and make for a more intense and legitimate relationship than some guy who answered an ad or you met once at an event but otherwise isn't in your circle.

Another thing I liked was that they often got to spend as much or more time than I did with her since they saw her all day. When days ended with a quick phone call from her that she'd be spending the night out at his place, it could be 34, 36 hours before I really got to see her again. That was hot. (It happened more often with one of the guys than the other, but it happened with both.) One of the guys was engaged and sneaking around himself, so it was often unpredictable when the opportunity to spend the night was going to be available, which added a delicious uncertainty. (There are few things hotter than having your wife call and tell you she is blowing off a long planned evening out with you to go home with her lover. I had times when reservations, long bought theatre tickets, visits to friends, etc. all had to be cancelled last minute.)

I think there is something to your theory about seeing people in different roles depending on the setting. I know when I've visited my wife at work, I've always been struck by how competent, efficient, and in command she can be there (makes me feel bad about my own more slovenly task management at work;) it is very much a different side of her. And I am the same at work. When she first met me, I was working in a management position with people reporting to me in an office. I was very much the looked-to alpha command figure. These days I work from home in a consulting role, which is very different from hands-on management in terms of how you behave and engage, so strengths and personas that were certainly attractive to my wife when we met have languished or are at least less often engaged. More to the point, she doesn't love seeing them in this context. I still end up in leadership roles on collaborative projects and sometimes click into the old groove. But when it starts to carry over past work hours -- and deadlines when you work from home naturally bring it home -- she really doesn't like it. That mode of alpha behavior clashes with her sense of domesticity; the atmosphere she wants at home is not the adrenaline hyped, crisp get-it-done business environment.

So she rarely sees me in alpha mode these days and doesn't like it when she does (admittedly our incorporation of sissy maid domestic service is an accelerant to this.) She wants our home and off-work life to be calm, domestic, quiet, orderly. On the other hand, it is assertive, alpha men who turn her on sexually. So it only reenforces relationship and her inability to imagine me in that role anymore that she doesn't see me in that persona anymore.

Finally, regarding the whole divorce/remarry thing. No, we've never confronted that because there hasn't been a guy for her who brought her there yet. (She did present me with an annulment once, but it turned out to be a fake for my benefit.) Frankly, I keep hoping because I think it would be the ultimate in cuckold offense. But in your case, I think you should also consider the risks of being married and working together. I don't know your situation or professions, but that can be a strain and you wouldn't want to pressures of work life to surpress the pleasures of the private relationship.

Good luck to all three of you and thanks for posting!
Pantalone, Wittol, oblate, abnegator, fellator, pathic, irrumatiophile,fop, epicene, cotquean, skivvy, thrall, and pilgarlic.

Thanks for the reply,

There is defintely a status taht a lover from work has with a woman taht a love from home can't. We really enjoy that aspect, adn I like being her preferred man -- both emotioanllly and physically. I don't htink we would pursue the lifestyle otehrwise.

Of course we don't sneek around -- and we tend to plan things in advance; so she hasn't stood Bill up much (althoguht that could be hot). Curious if in those relationships if they typically shared the same room when traveling on bisuness. We always do taht and some of our most romantic times are when we travel together for business. Defintiely it is true that a BF from work will know her in wys that yo unever will -- and if he's better endowed sexually (as I am vs. Bill), that is embodied signficantly in the physical relationship.

I don't think they will divorce, and neither she nor I are interested in getting married because things work well as they are.

If U would like to chat more about the various dimensions of this please don't hesitate to hit me up on yahoo (add me, or just e-mail -- [email protected]); as we love this and are looking to get the most of it and learn from others' experiences.

Jsn

My wife and her colleagues are in an industry where business travel is minimal. With one of the guys she want on two work related trips, but they didn't officially share rooms for appearance's sake. They did share a bed each night, however. The other guy never went on a business trip with my wife.
Pantalone, Wittol, oblate, abnegator, fellator, pathic, irrumatiophile,fop, epicene, cotquean, skivvy, thrall, and pilgarlic.

Kool;

Also curious if the BF's she had from work had ever been "bulls" before or if they had to be introduced to it? I know that for me the idea of having a GF who was married to another guy -- even if she made it clear I came first -- it took some getting used to. Made me reluctant to pursue her at first, or to take the relationship seriously at first. Curious if that's how it was with her and her BF's -- and if so, how they got past that. Curious what it took for them to consider her a serious GF just as they would a GF who didn't have a cuck etc.

Also curiosu as to how the work relationshps started etc.

Did she ever consider having kids with either of them (or do you and she have kids)..since we're trying now, always curiosiu as to how that aspect may or may not have worked otu as well.

Love learnign from your experiences!

Jsn & Amy

Jamister, you do realize the only reamister you come first is because bill wants it that way, right? This wouldn't even be happening if it it didn't turn him on. It will be over when he says it's over. My wife may say that stuff to some other guy, but she's doing it to turn me on. If your story is for real, and your introducing kids into this kink, you guys need real help. The kids deserve better than that.

Manray,

Your input is interesting, however you really don't know Bill, Amy or I, the agreements we have or the terms of our relationship.

Just because you use your wife to attract men because it gets you off (adn I guess you both use the men she attracts in that way) doesn't mean that everyone in the lifestyle has the same dynamics. Amy, Bill and I have all agreed that Bill has no "veto" power when it comes to Amy's and my relationship. Amy makes the choices, not Bill. As long as I make the choice to be with her -- I accept her decision (including her decision to keep Bill).

In the future, please refrain from making judgments or leaping to conclusions about others' relationships based on the assumption they will work the way yours does. For some of us cucklding isn't about kink -- it's about who we are -- and the types of love relationships that work for us.

Respectfully,

Jsn

I wrote about my experiences in a work relationship here. It was a life changer for me and I will never go back to being normal again. Work relationships can be tricky but it can be very worthwhile.

My Story

Like I said. Bill agreed. He consented. If he has no say, fuck him. Amy and Bill agreed to this kink long before you came along. Having no control is what flips his skirt. If it it didn't, you'd be gone or never materialized in the first place. For the most part, ironically the cuck is in charge, and the bull serves for the cuck's pleasure. You came along and you met Amy. I have no doubt she may love you and prefer you at this point. This is also what Bill prefers. This really spins his head I'm sure. He's given up control and is third to what you and Amy want. This is what he wants and prefers. You are serving at his pleasure. Have fun.