she's actually leaving me for him

It was way too easy for this guy to come in and take her from me. She's so hooked on that big fat cock of his! I got to watch about four times, before she started telling me she stopped with him, that she was done fucking him. That's what she had me beleive. I caught her last week, having sex with him. They had never stopped fucking each other. And now she is filing for divorce. She hasn't even so much as let me touch her or see her naked for going on three months.

The best possible outcome for you would be to get her talking about what her sex life is like with her new guy. My GF has told me that if she ever left me for a guy, she would continue sharing information with me about the sex they have. (Mmmm!)

Of course I told her I would be fine with that.

xoxoxo

Christine (a sissy m)

Things are pretty delicate with her right now. What she's done has been so hurtful. If she just didn't lie so much it could have been so different. Keeping everything from me has caused a lot of friction with us. We're pretty messed up now. She looks amazing too. I'd do anything to get in her pants again. She's denied me from even seeing her naked or feeling her up for such a long time. Still though, it was only supposed to be a game. It was agreed that is was only sex and she would always come back to me. Now she just tells me flat out she was wrong.

Win some lose some...
You will do much better with the next one.
Win some...
Lose some...
Few are rained out

Sounds to me like you had some real problems in your marriage before you started this, given that she was so quick to cheat and lie. I am sorry to hear of it. I'm not optimistic that you can turn this situation into an erotic one. She didn't pay any heed to your preferences before,why would she start now?
Pantalone, Wittol, oblate, abnegator, fellator, pathic, irrumatiophile,fop, epicene, cotquean, skivvy, thrall, and pilgarlic.

I can relate to this, except mine didn't leave...I have been relegated to panty sniffing tho as she continues her affair...As good as it gets for me these days...Your situation is much worse...Hope it gets better.

Then shame on her. She broke the rules of the game, by not living up to her agreement.

You very well may be better off without her. Either that, or she is too easily led by someone who gets into her panties. In the end, same conclusion.

I'm going to bet, because I just have a feeling about her from what you've said, that she is irresponsible financially too. Am I right?

xoxoxo

Christine

Yes, she is, and has been. You're absolutely right about her.

Okay, that being the case, I suggest that you look at the bright side.

I don't know your permisteral situation, but here's a prediction. (You can write it down, but I already have...)

Eventually you will retire and live off of your savings. She won't have any, and she will be old and poor when that happens. Fortunately, that's a number of years away, and she won't stay in touch with you in the meantime. That's a whole 'nother story, as we say where I live.

Try to keep with people who live up to their word. There are plenty of us who do who are also kinky enough to satisfy your needs and desires.

xoxoxo

Christine

Au contraire. Simply put in this game you have to be care what you wish for. If a relationship is fuck-up to begin with, it likely ends with this.

Listen to bpop! She's totally right. At the moment, my girlfriend is seeing her lover and we agreed it is only supposed to be a game. However, her lover is her ex and she's now talking about being with him so I know how you feel (I've been with her for 7 years and planned to marry her). If she's not into taking care of your needs too then you have to move on or just get hurt more.

There is definitely some risk in having your GF get together with an ex. On the other hand, there's also a reamister he's an ex.

Some people are more in control of their emotions than others. Others manage to come to their senses before they do something catastrophic, but they still manage to give you a lot of anxiety in the meantime.

But as Joe said, be careful what you wish for.

xoxoxo

Christine

Difficult as your situation is, I have to say that I don't think it is the same as the one mskarenc24 is facing. You girlfriend is talking to you and talking about where this might lead, how she is feeling, what your relationship is right now. That is what happens whether you are into this fetish or not. (I honestly don't know that many women who wouldn't be raising such possibilities if they'd been with their boyfriend seven years without getting married.)

In mskarenc24's case, they talked and she lied to him. She then had a secret affair with this guy, feeding him lies him and stringing him along the whole time. I think everyone on this board knows the difference between cheating (which is what she did) and fetish cuckolding (which is what you and your wife do.) There is also a difference between couples who start to grow apart in their visions of their individual or joint futures and talk about what they want and discuss whether they can make it work, which is what your situation sounds like, and couples where one member betrays, deceives, and cheats on the other, which is makarenc24's experience.

I know it is powerful wanking material for people, but I think we should be careful about attributing a girlfriend or wife's decision to leave entirely, or even significantly, to indulging in fetish cuckolding. In the case of mskarenc24, her behavior clearly indicates that she would have found screwed around on him regardless and found the out door somehow.
Pantalone, Wittol, oblate, abnegator, fellator, pathic, irrumatiophile,fop, epicene, cotquean, skivvy, thrall, and pilgarlic.

Exactly.

I see the points made, however I do feel a bit betrayed because we talked beforehand about this being just a game for us and now she promised it would be just sex between her and her lover. Now she is talking about being with him instead of me which means I'd be losing my best friend (my girlfriend). She's also cheated on me several times before with this particular guy. I think bpop is one of the few on here with helpful, encouraging advice. Thanks!

Thanks for the compliment.

Also... You may be losing the permister that you have viewed as your best friend (your GF). But it's not clear to me necessarily that she has seen you the same way.

xoxoxo

Christine

I'm sorry to hear about your situation my friend. Maybe a summary of my story will give you hope. I've been married for right on 8 years. I'm 28 the Misses is 27. We're both military, for anyone who know anyone in the military, cheating is as common place as breathing air. I stole my wife from another guy she was daiting, we dated then as in all relationships we got married.

My suspicion from the get go was she was fucking other guys. As shes a very fit, 5' nothing Latina. Well, I was gone from home for about 3 months when I came home she was at work & I found some pics of a guy we both know naked in our bed, dick hard & a few of them in bed from the shoulders up. But no "smoking gun" pics so to speak. I confronted her, she denied it of course & said that she let him barrow the bedroom to take "fake pics" so his wife would find them and leave him. Needless to say, this is how I found this website after dealing with the confusing feelings of anger & yet being turned on. That was back in 06'.