Falling in love again?

After a long period of casual dating with no emotional connection, my wife seems to have found someone special. She hasn't had a real boyfriend for some time now, but has been seeing a few guys on & off with no deeper connection.

When she got home from her date earlier tonight with a guy she's been seeing for a few weeks, she let me know that she's feeling something for him that's been missing with other guys she's seen. She's all flushed and happy and going on about how wonderful he is and how she can't wait to see him again on Friday.

I am thrilled at this development, and can't wait to see what happens. She has been in love with other men before, and we have both been waiting for it to happen again for a long time.

I would really like to hear from other couples/husbands/wives that have experienced this, or who are hoping to experience it.

In the meantime, wish her luck!

aren't you afraid that she will leave you? Love is a very strong word, a strong bond.

Tricky question. I hate to think what my life would be like if she ever decided to leave. But also, if she ever found someone she truly felt she would be happier with, I would want her to go and be happy. Her happiness is far more important to me than my own, which is what love is about, sorta, for me at least.

Does that make sense?

It makes perfect sense, rdvrk. I think the same way and I also am waiting for my wife to fall in love with another man.

I see, really considerate of you but have you both acknowledged the chance of this happening? Or are you just figuring things out as you go along? You must have mixed emotions about it. What does she say about all this? has she acknowledged the chance or does it remain unspoken.

We talked about the possibility of her leaving me when she was with her last (serious) boyfriend. I gave her my blessing, if that's what she really wanted. In the end, it wasn't. I know that what we have with each other is really special, and I also know that she doesn't feel the kind of passion for me that she can feel for other men.

Mixed emotions, a little. I have a lot of jealousy, in the sense that I would like to be on the receiving end of her feelings for him. I know that's not going to happen, though. Mostly, I am psyched for her to fall hard for him.

They had a great night out Friday, and she spent the night with him. Saturday morning, got home and talked about him all day. She's ready to spend more time with him. They haven't used the "l-word" with each other yet, but she's confided in me that she thinks she loves him, and wants a serious relationship with him.

I haven't seen her like this for over two years.

Keep us posted! very hot stuff, and interesting. Sounds as if she wants to become only his.

They had a long talk this weekend about where the relationship is heading.

He's known from the beginning that she's married, but they hadn't really gone much into details before. So she got to explain to him that she's looking for more than just a fling, but that she's staying married. (Apparently, it took a couple of times of talking through it before he really understood this idea.)

Anyways, she let him know that she's interested in a long-term relationship with him, and asked if this is what he wants also. To her great relief, he said he was on board for it. He said that he's been feeling more of a connection with her than just casual dating, and is ready to move to the next level.

There was some more discussion of her and me, and what that means for them. He seemed to be a little baffled by my role in her life (as, of course, I am, sometimes!), but after she explained that our relationship is no longer sexual, he decided that he's willing to make a go of it. Both agreed that they would stop seeing other people, and be exclusive with each other.

She spent Saturday and Sunday nights with him, stopping by the house on Sunday for a change of clothes and a quick check-in with me. I encouraged her to go back to his place and have an awesome time. She went straight to work from his place Monday morning, and we didn't get to see much of each other until last night.

She's really excited to be his "official" girlfriend now, and I'm excited to see her so happy. She doesn't usually like to go into details about her sex life with me, but she knows how much I love to hear about it, so she told me all about it last night. She told me that the first few times they had sex, it was a little awkward, but that after she was able to relax a little, it's become really great for her. I got really excited hearing her go on about how hot he is, and how much he turns her on. I asked if it was okay if I got myself off while she was talking to me, but she said no, so I went and took care of myself in the living room after she went to relax.

I've been turned on all day today, thinking about her having sex with him, and knowing that she'll be seeing him again Friday. She can't wait, and neither can I.

awwww, kind of sweet

Super Hot stuff rdvrk. Please keep us up to date on all the erotic details. Cheers, James

Very hot!

When your wife is gone your fun will be gone. It won't be hot anymore. It will just be sad. It's great you want her to be happy and in love, but she wanted to be happy and in love with you. Now, because of your hangups, you've powerd her to find someone else.

What you're talking about isn't cuckolding. It goes far beyond that.

WIth all respect, I disagree with blackside999's fatalism and his view of cuckolding.

First, while the risk is obvious, I don't think that it is inevitable that your marriage will break-up if your wife falls in love with someone else. Look around you at the tapestry of American marriage and you will find otherwise. Likewise, it is an assumption too far to say that she (and he) will no longer be in your life (and your sex life) if she moves out or divorces. Again, the real world is not so cut and dry.

In the meantime, the risk - the possibility that she might - is (contrary to blackside999's view) the very essence of the cuckold experience. It is what creates all those great typical cuck feelings of abandonment, fear, loss, sexual failure, masculine failure, angst, anxiety, etc. that fuel the fire of our libidos.

Of course, if she does leave your life all together then you won't be cuckolding anymore, but you will have the memory of an epic erotic experience. It is also overly simplistic to say that then the fun is gone. I have had several, 'no-going-back, burn-the-bridges' experiences. While they can be bittersweet in memory, the hotness of them can linger and bring you years of fun.

Of course I can't guarantee that this would be the case for you in any given scenario rdvrk. Nor do I know how far and in what direction you intend the situation to develop. Nor do you or I (or anyone) know what will happen. But I hope my perspective helps you keep a open and optimistic frame of mind.

Good luck.
Pantalone, Wittol, oblate, abnegator, fellator, pathic, irrumatiophile,fop, epicene, cotquean, skivvy, thrall, and pilgarlic.

Yes, if she left me it would fuck my life up pretty severely. It would suck. I very much hope that doesn't happen, even though I am happy to be where we are with each other.

Last time she had a serious relationship, her then-boyfriend explicitly demanded that she leave me and go be with him, or else he would stop seeing her. It was pretty emotionally traumatic for her and for me, but in the end, she stayed with me and broke up with him. Honestly, I wasn't sure for a while which way it would go. Afterwards she was very clear that although it was very painful for her to lose him, she was solid in her decision to stay with me. Honestly, the fact that she stayed with me through that suggests strongly to me that she's with me for the long run, but hey, I could be wrong.

Of course, she may end up leaving me at some point. So do hot wives. So do monogamous wives, all the time. Etc, etc, etc. I don't feel like our connection is any less secure, although it's not anything like a traditional monogamous marriage, or even like a traditional swinger marriage.

I don't know that this goes "far beyond cuckolding" or whatever. It's just how it's worked out for us, for better or worse.

For what it is worth, I think you have it just right rdvrk. If she had a chance - and a plea from someone she loved - to go and didn't, she isn't likely to change her mind now. She chose you. So enjoy! And please keep us updated!
Pantalone, Wittol, oblate, abnegator, fellator, pathic, irrumatiophile,fop, epicene, cotquean, skivvy, thrall, and pilgarlic.

Thanks for the kind words, MBBD.

All is going well. Her relationship is settling in some, and she is still quite happy with him. They've been spending 3 nights a week together, and visiting some on the weekends. They took off together last weekend, which was the first time they've vacationed together. She had a blast, and came home saying she feels even closer to him now. She really enjoyed being away with him, because they could just be a regular couple. While they were up there, she emailed me photos of them together, which I liked a lot. She looks really happy in all the pics, and they're clearly very into each other.

I have to admit, it makes me jealous knowing that she's in bed with someone else while I'm home alone. The fact that she's openly in love with him makes it even more intense. Luckily, of course, jealousy is hot for me!

Its refreshing to read your story rdvrk, for me its the connection that my wife and the men she sees rather than the sexual content of there relationships. Watching them acting like lovers or sweetharts is as or more erotic than watching them have sex.

Imagin
Graz

I'm with you, Imagin. The emotional part is what gets me steamed up most. It's like a whole other level of intensity.

I am into exactly the same kind of thing as you rdvrk, and possibly will at some point in the future reach your position.

My story is simple

Hey Mike. I'd like to hear more about what's going on for you, if you feel like posting it.

vaniaromano,

How are you a sissy whore now? For whom?

Hey, I hope I'm wrong. I'm just saying I've just seen relationships ruined. Cuckolding is a fragile thing. There has to be a lot of stability and trust.

I hear where you are coming from blackside999, and I think it is a good point. Cuckolding is a high-impact stressing of a relationship. Like exercising a muscle, it makes the relationship stronger - unless you are trying too much weight too fast in which case it can break you up. A very wise warning, I think.

One way some folks try to avoid that risk (and a perfectly valid one) is to keep the cuckolding activity to sex-only NSA relationships - essentially sex play with assistance from another permister. But like imagin, many of us find the idea of romantic connection to be intensely erotic and are ready to play in that direction. That involves higher risk, but also bigger payoffs.

And there are even some people for whom the situation can become a win-win in a certain sense.



No doubt for many people, the pleasure of the cuckolding would cease if the risk went bad and they lost their spouse, but as vaniaromano shows, for some the libidinous afterglow would be so strong that it would be a kind of a consolation.

Sometimes we regret things that happen, sometimes not. Can't really know until they happen.

Just my two-cents.
Pantalone, Wittol, oblate, abnegator, fellator, pathic, irrumatiophile,fop, epicene, cotquean, skivvy, thrall, and pilgarlic.

vaniaromano,

Your story intrigues and excites me tremendously! Please share more.

Did your wife try to fall in love or did it just happen? In other words, was there something different about their relationship from the start then other times she cuckolded you?

When did you first notice/worry? When and exactly how did she tell you? How did you take it?

How did you and she let family and friends know? Who kept the friends (and family) in the break-up? What about the other usual divorce stuff - house, funds, etc. (Kids?)

What happened to your life since? Do you ever se her/them or hear of them? Do you still think of her everyday? (With lust?)

Inquiring minds (who think they might follow in your footsteps) want to know!
Pantalone, Wittol, oblate, abnegator, fellator, pathic, irrumatiophile,fop, epicene, cotquean, skivvy, thrall, and pilgarlic.

rdvrk -this happened to me
got my ex to cuck me she got into it more than I thought
then finally left me for a bull
and it was stillll hot. her teasing me in email even after breaking up

now she dates a new (black, and well hung) guy and sometimes teases me

Wow, that's intense! I wouldn't want her to leave me, ever. Is she did, though, it would be extra-tasty to hear about her new boyfriend in detail, although I'm pretty sure she wouldn't want to tell me about him.

My wife's relationship with her BF has stabilized a little. They still go out together a few times a week, and they seem pretty committed to a long-term relationship.

She has had some difficulty dodging questions from her friends about what's she's up to (she is not open about our lifestyle with them), since she's been mostly unavailable for social time since the beginning of the summer. Whenever anyone asks me, I just say that she's been very busy, and that's why she couldn't make it to dinner (...takes, bbq, whatever). I get a kick out of showing up to things solo, knowing that we have such a huge secret: when I'm spending time with friends & family, she's out with another man.

It's still great for me sexually. I get to hear about what she's up to (sometimes in detail, sometimes just in general), but no sex for me. She's been pretty relaxed about letting me jack off in front of her, though, since she knows how much I love that. Nothing better than having her come home from a date, crawl into bed with me, and stroke myself while she falls arelax. She's not interested in sex with me at all, since she's getting more than she needs from him.

Not quite sure why this thread became a thread of warnings.

There are many types of cuckolding, and it seems that the most common is where the wife just has a sexual connection with the men that she's with. That's totally valid, and if that's what you like doing, more power to you.

There are some of us though who have significant others who not only connect sexually, but emotionally as well. We know the risks of this, and as long as you are open and communicate well, you can manage those risks.


My girlfriend is very much in love with her other boyfriend, and its a situation that works very well for us. She isn't going to leave me, I'm not going to leave her, and we are going to continue on with her being in love with two men. Even though he gives her some things that I cannot, and she goes to him for sex & romance, there are things that I give her that he cannot as well.

Thanks so much for your posts rdvrk, I'd love to hear more about your relationship & your wife's relationship.
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Well said Johnnyangplay!
Pantalone, Wittol, oblate, abnegator, fellator, pathic, irrumatiophile,fop, epicene, cotquean, skivvy, thrall, and pilgarlic.

My wife fell in love with one of our bulls. I think she still is in love with him although he's not fucking her because his wife found out. It never bothered me. I think a woman can love more than one man.