chas allen
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Experimenter, your Jan 2nd posting is absolutely spot on the money.
We all, cuckolds, that is, realise how crazy it must seem but even in my case with my marriage breaking up, it still represents, for me, the sexiest thing by miles on earth.
It is not that the cuckold is not interested in sex, far from it, in fact, but a huge part of his enjoyment comes from his total adoration of the female. And even though during our marriage Barbara often orgasmed with me, particularly when I was performing oral sex on her, I was hugely turned on by wanting her to be fucked by better lovers than me, even if it was only in my mind, well, at least until she became involved with her great lover, Dave
I well remember even years before my ex-wife finally cuckolded me, being almost entranced by her look when being fucked and I was so turned on by that aspect of her sexuality, dying for her to be behaving and looking like that with other men, that it became almost over-whelming.
And even with the women I have sex with today, although I won't go down this cuckold path with a woman again, knowing they have all had many sexual experiences, is so much a part of my desire for them, is such a huge turn on.
I revel in this part of a woman.
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MrsBlackBlowupDoll
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#5 · Edited by: MrsBlackBlowupDoll
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tobias,
That sounds delicious and it makes the point that not all such breakups are unqualified bad news. Having said that, I'd like to weigh in on this question about whether fetish cuckolding increases the likelihood of breakup. (By the way, excellent contributions from all - great thoughtful thread. Thank you all for sharing!)
It seems to me it is too general a question to answer with any certainty. There are just too many variables. Each case involves different individual personalities at different stages of their lives, different relationship dynamics, and different external social support structures and social pressures. For some, it may be the straw that breaks the camel's back, or the blow precisely at the faultline that shatters the marriage. For other couples it might be just the breathing room, or the shared challenge, or the catharsis needed to make an otherwise iffy situation sustainable.
All we really know is that some monogamous marriages last, some don't while some fetish cuckolding marriages last, some don't. Consensual Cuckolding is so marginal an activity in our society that stats are prety much of no use. (And, of course, they are notoriously unable to determine causative impact. I mean, if cuckold marriages were somehow found to have a lower divorce rate, would that be BECAUSE of the cuckolding, or because of the kind of people and relationships who indulge in the activity in the first place?)
I personally agree with SheDatesHeWaits that the whole fun of cuckolding is in the risk of losing. How real that risk is - and how real we want to believe it is - is different from relationship to relationship.
Pantalone, Wittol, oblate, abnegator, fellator, pathic, irrumatiophile,fop, epicene, cotquean, skivvy, thrall, and pilgarlic.
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joejoe
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To most men, it is about the sex. To most women, it is about the relationship. We project our importance of the sexual aspect in the posts that are a part of this forum. We also stress the sexual component in our assumption of what our wives are feeling, thinking and doing with others.
If our wives develop a relationship with another man, the marriage could be broken. That is what we risk. By having a strong relationship with our wives, we reduce the risk but not totally.
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