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I’m 26 years old and my wife of 7 years is 28 years old. About a year ago, my wife had what I would call an “emotional affair” with another guy. She assures me that nothing happened physically between the two of them. He was from out of state and was in Ohio for the weekend. They met by chance in a club and hit it off. For three months, they carried on through Instant Messenger and E-mail.

I was extremely upset and hurt when I found everything on our computer. However, in working through things with her and discussing everything out in the open, I found myself more and more turned on and had to hide the bulge in my pants during these discussions. For about nine months, I’ve found myself more and more interested in Female Domination and Cuckold sites.

I don’t think I could handle my wife having an affair with someone while I’m not present as I see that as truly cheating. But I constantly fantasize about her sexually involved with another guy while I’m watching either by being there, or watching from a room near by with hidden cameras setup.

Last night, we ended up playing an interesting game while sitting in our living room and watching television. I jokingly asked her if there was someone she knew, who got her juices flowing when she thought of him. She in turn asked me the same question while she was thinking. Ultimately, she never came up with a “real-life” permister to name and ended up naming a celebrity.

While our sex life is great, and I am “well endowed” as she puts it, I would love to see her with other men. Are there any good suggestions or tips that have worked for other couples that could be shared? I don’t know that this will necessary be easy with her, but who knows… I could be surprised.

Any help would be greatly appreciated!

Just to add to what I already said... I'm looking for ways to broach the topic to see where she stands and what she would be willing to do. I am in no way trying to power her into anything that she doesn't want to do. Thanks again!

Hi Chastitycuck, I am in a similar situation minus the online affair business. While my wife and I have engaged in a lot of fantasy about her with other men, I seriously doubt it would ever really happen. It is a powerful fantasy for me, because I see her as so uninhibited and wild with these strangers. Out of control, doing things that she is hesitant about (anal, swallowing, ect). I see her in different light during our fanstasy play.

You might try this during sex: She is on top, you reach around spreading her ass cheeks, playing with her anus. You ask as you start to insert a finger, "do you wish he (maybe the celeb you mentioned) was here? Would you like me to get your ass ready for him to put his cock into you?"

This might give you an idea of her interest.

Something my wife and I recently tried: She emailed me from work to let me know she would be late. I emailed back, stating: "Does your "late work" involve a big, fat, hard cock?" The email exchange became more hot and nasty. We had glorious sex when she returned home.

Remember you need to support/reinpower her reactions. Explain how how it made you. How much it turned you on thinking about what you discussed, ect.

Maybe you guys will someday really act it out, maybe not. But if you have a ton of wet hot sex for the fantasy, who cares.

I should mention, and this is a big deal. The manner of delivery or choice if words is the thing. The last thing you want is for say the email I mentioned to sound accusatory. There is a big difference between "Does this late work invove having an affair and Does this late work involve a big fat cock!!!

I agree...good advice Crazy Cukcold

I am in the EXACT position as you as well--my girl has never cheated (that I know of), and I'm DYING for the same thing...to see her take another cock. The thought of it makes me so hard.

The GREAT thing about the relationship with me and my girl (together 8 years), is that we can be 100% honest with eachother. And although when I first brought this whole thing up, she thought I was a little nuts, she told me she was glad I could share my inner most thoughts with her. She took it as an important milestone in the relationship--me being able to share something so "strange" as most people see it.

We've never went through with "it," yet--and she still swears she never will be with another man, ever--but we play so many fun games and it has improved our sex life 100%. She'll tell me about sex she's had with guys, sucking cock, talk about how huge the cocks were and how they touch her stomach, and how I have such a tiny dick, etc.

Sometimes we'll play for a week straight, where I have to be the "good boy" and check in with her all the time, answer my phone on the first ring (even at work), and ask permission to do ANYTHING! Yesterday I left the house (we don't live together) to run some errands, and when she caught me out without her permission told me she was going to leave me. When I called her last night, starting at 2AM (and then a call at 3, 4, etc.) there was no answer. I knoo she was home and playing along, but the thought of her out with someone getting cock (even if the chance was .000000001%) drives me wild.

I bought her an ankle bracelet that says "I LOVE BBC" and she's going to put it on and wear it in public. Wow.

Anyway, back to your original question--if the two of you have true "trust," I believe you should be able to talk about ANYTHING.

If anyone has more suggestions on fun things my girl and I can do, minus her taking a real cock, please let me know. Wanna take this thing to the next level--looking for that next thing that makes my heart race, ya know?

From the "other man's" point of view I have to agree with the other posters: Fantasy talk and play acting in the bedroom is a really good way for her to get comfortable with it. Even if your wife never goes "all the way" at least you're putting you're desires out in the open for her.

I've met a few couples where the wife has said, "I never thought I'd even be here talking with another man let alone thinking I might be going to have sex with him with my husband's approval!"

Chart a slow and steady course...Communication is the key! Good Luck!

Thanks for all of the comments thus far everyone! So far, this has been very valuable information.

Tonight we're meeting up with some friends of ours (another married couple) for dinner and cards. I've been teasing her all day about her and the "guy" friend sneaking off an messing around. I've thrown in different scenarios and how she has to tell me what it was like with him.

She has never once told me that she wouldn't do it... or doesn't want to do it. Heck, many times... she has blushed and had a twinkle in her eye. I don't expect for anything to happen tonight. But in the advice above, I may keep this going well after we return home and in the bedroom tonight. Sounds fun!

I can't believe it. I am quite frankly dumb-founded. Last night, I ended up gently revealing my fantazies about Female Domination and Cuckolding with my wife. She was a little taken back and confused at first. But once I explained everything... she was actually game for it.

We agreed that if another guy were to be brought into the picture at some point, we would both have to be present. Playing by the "Couples who play together... stay together" mentality.

Even better, after getting everything out in the open... she was wetter than I had ever seen her. I hadn't even touched her and she was dripping. And I was hard as a rock. In the true femdom spirit, she made me eat her and bring her to orgasm as she teased me and ultimately provided me with no sexual gratification.

MY WIFE IS AWESOME...!!!

P.S. Thanks for all the great advice. Guess I'll just have to be patient and wait for her to find a lover...

Ya lucky bastard!

Mambo, Wife and I did this the other night:

She had previously ask about a good night to shop with a coworker. I knew this was comming up and emailed near the end of work day. Basically asking about her night out with the "coworker" and how she was going to be fucked for hours" I called periodically while she was out, asking if she was still sucking cock and getting fucked in the ass. Are your panties full of cum, is your ass stretched out, yes they are so much bigger than you, ect.

It was so hot for both. Her friend knew something was going on and kept asking her. I was sitting there just about to explode in anticipation of what would happen when she returned and thinking of what she could be doing as we spoke.

When she returned I was blindfolded on the bed and nude. She put a load of warming lube in her panties and came to bed. She stroked me as I ran my fingers in the hot "cum" and fingered her. As I did, explaining that I was pushing her lover's cum back inside of her.

As she was riding me, I asked if she was thinking of her lover. Did she wish he was here now? She told me that soon she would bring him home making me prepare both of them and watch as he fucked her. She laid flat on me and asked if I could feel his cock (pushing on the tissue inside of her) as it was sliding and out of her ass and I fucked her pussy (She loves when I put a thumb in one and finger in the other, each applying pressure toward the other inside of her).

I have considered Jizz Lube, a semen scented lube that I have seen. Smell, sound, ect are such powerful senses. Could be interesting!

Holy cuckolds brownie, they have "jizz lube???" I actually just googled it now. WOW. We talked about trying ot make "fake cum," but never could figure it out. This stuff will be great!!!

I'm going to buy some today. Do you know, can you swallow it, or no?

Another couple of hot ideas.

1. We role play as I am the lover. She talks to me about how much better I am, ect.

The other hot one:

2. We are with another couple. The other wife comes to me tied and blindfolded. She tells me that my wife is with her man. This is what he is doing to her. She is in there screaming in pleasure. No wonder she wants another man, look at your little dick. Then a grudge fucking, just to keep me busy while my wife is truly pleasured.

Lets here from some others who engage in this tamer version of the lifestyle!!

This is turning into a great post.

One of my favorite things to talk about is pregnancy. "Please don't let him cum inside you, what if youy get pregnant?" And then she explains that "I" will be the one playing daddy, and do I have a problem with that??? Even if it's a black baby. That's my job. Wow.

Very hot! We always use the specific words and phrases such as sperm, hot fertile, deep in your womb, without protection, ect. We have also engaged in my begging that she not allow her lovers to cum inside of her and her rely that is exactly what he is going to do.

Come on, lets hear from others! I would love to hear from a lady on her ideas.

This whole experience is playing out better than I expected. I bought a chastity device about 6 months back. I showed it to my wife… but because she didn’t really understand the purpose, nothing happened.

Monday while she was out running errands, she bought me an addition to my chastity device. She stopped at the pet store and made a dog tag that said “Property of” and her name. Upon returning, she asked me if she could see the chastity device and upon her wishes, I brought it downstairs for her to see. At that point, she promptly locked me in the device with the dog tag around the lock… and took the keys.

I went to work yesterday and could hear the clanking of the dog tag against the lock all day long. It turned me on knowing I was now owned…

Property of

This morning, my wife’s alarm clock went off at 4:45am. She turned it off and went in to take her shower as I rolled over and fell back arelax until my alarm went off. About 15 minutes later, she returned to the bedroom. She crawled back into bed for what I thought was a quick rest before she finished getting ready.

I was stunned when she sat on my face telling me that breakfast was ready and required that I eat her until she was dripping wet. During one of the breaths she allowed me, I asked what that was all about. She told me “I need to be all warmed up before going to work. Who knows what can happen while I’m there…”

I happily complied with her mandate imagining what could take place during her work day. Not that I expect anything to happen based off of our previous discussions. But anything can happen! She is working a long shift today and left the house looking extremely cute...

WoW Sounds very promising. Love to read about it.

So do you think she is just playing along, or maybe she's allready got her eye on the prize?

Either way Enuro... I think it's a win/win. If she's already got her eye on the prize, kudos to her. If she's just playing along, I think it will turn her on more and more until she begins looking for her prize.

I'm just enjoying the ride. The main point is that she didn't think I was nuts when we discussed this and it actually turned her on. It's that first step that always seems to be the problem!

I agree. We are currently looking for her first experience here. My wife isnt nearly as creative as yours. It really sucks, she cant come up with new thoughts on her own.

Anyway, enjoy the reading cant wait for more!

Chastity,
Great to hear how things have gone for you!

And i do look forward to regular updates and your life as a "cuck" progresses!

Chastitycuck,

Enjoying your story! Any pics of your wife to share?

Dan

The fantasy is one thing the reality is very intense and you may not be able to handle it but you will have to - the fact that you are here talking about it means your wife has planted the seeds in your head - you obviously got aroused seeing her flirting with other men when she thought you didnt notice, etc. If you know of a guy she is already interested in- you can help by arranging times when you will all be together- maybe even invite him over for dinner, watch the game, etc. Create opportunities by running to the store for more wine, etc. Find ways to leave them alone and let nature take over. This is probably stuff your already unconciously doing and any man will take advantage of that opportunity-
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