Observations on the Cuckold Lifestyle

I recently discovered this site and I think it is probably the best cuckold site on the net. I downloaded the movie "mary" which appears to be the "real thing"....absolutely amazing.

However, I wonder how widespread the cuckold lifestyle really is. Like many guys in here, I too am a cuckold wannabee. Yes...I have discussed it with my wife and got the same response as most of you will have. She loves me and she doesn't want other men. So I make do with trawling the net for pics and movies of cuckolds in action.

Apart from the the output from the mainstream porno producers, there is very little from "real" cucks. Even people who discuss their experiences in here often show the normal porn pics to illustrate their stories.

I find this very disappointing, as I would love to think that there are many real couples out their who do live the cuckold lifestyle. But I guess it takes a special kind of woman to be able to act like we want her to. She must be sexually confident and mature enough to be able to enjoy having sex with other men, whilst knowing that her marriage is robust enough to withstand any emotional fallout from her activities.

I guess that real cuckold couples are very few in number, and because of the social stigma attached to this lifestyle, they are obviously not willing to show pics and movies of themselves in action. This is a great shame, because porn pictures of teens, celebrities, or ordinary women having sex are not a great turn on for me, and the porno cuckold movies always seem so false......I want to see real wives & real lovers, with real hubbies watching and joing in.

Good luck to all you real cucks out there, I hope you really enjoy the lifestyle.

Yes, even though going to sites like this it is easy to believe that this lifestyle is catching on like crazy. However, remember that porn makes up approx. <2% of the Internet. (However it grabs about 40% of the traffic!) The actual white female to black male relationship is around 2% of the population. Not exactly a majority. So, yes, there are many, many people who fantasize and enjoy this lifestyle, but as a whole it is a very, very small percentage of individuals in the total as a whole.

P.S. the numbers above are representative of the U.S., I am not sure of the rest of the world, but I beleive it is very similar to even less.

Well here is a pic of my partner in action, hope this helps! ;)

I have never found a problem connecting with wives and girlfriends, so I really do not think this lifestyle is "few in numbers". I cannot relate to why men want their wives to fuck other guys, but I am also grateful there are such cucks in the world. If you want your wife to do something like this you can't just ask her. Start off slow with some simple porn that you can watch before sex. Then buy her a vibrator she can use while you're fucking her. Then get her to do some risque things like maybe doing it in the car (and that is lame by many people's standards, but start slow). Eventually work it up to voyeuring, going to a club and watching other people have sex. Make it clear it will only be watching. Then escalate it to the two of you having sex while others watch. Then get to know a bull that you think would be appropriate and have him show up the same time you plan to have public sex. If he is a smart bull he'll know what to do and when to do it. I met one couple once at a club where all she was suppose to do was allow another guy to finger her clit while the boyfriend fingered her g-spot. Well, I knelt down in front of her and she quickly gobred up my thick cock (its average length and definitely above average thickness, but it is not a monster cock). He clearly was upset with this and started to move things away from me and the other guy and focused things on himself. I left and shortly after that the other guy did too. The boyfriend then doggy fucked his girlfriend. Once he was done the other guy, lol, just mounted her and started fucking her too. Once he was done she rolled onto her back in exhaustion. I walked over, spread her legs and started fucking her as well. Then she wanted it doggy style. The tension between them for the next hour was so thick you could cut it with a knife, though they stayed at the club for some time longer. My point here is that my experience has been that once things get started women have a hard time holding back. If it is erotic and stimulating for them they get lost in it all.

thanks for the photo QueenB, that is one hot pic....love the way she rests her hand on hubbies while she kisses he boyfriend....would love to see more of that.

I cannot agree more with MontrealDom "My point here is that my experience has been that once things get started women have a hard time holding back. If it is erotic and stimulating for them they get lost in it all." Very well put - that's the beauty of the whole thing!

Panos, well put. And I'm addicted to providing women that high. Sex for a woman can be 10 times as good for a man. If those in the vanilla world saw women cum in exctasy like I have they would be absolutely amazed ... they wouldn't believe it unless they saw it. For me the most enjoyable thing is when a hotwife or hotgirlfriend takes a strangers cock in her mouth or pussy for the first time. It is incredibly erotic for her and for me.

Yes, yes! The strangers cock is important because it reflects pure lust - the feeling that they have of being indiscriminantly used ...and used. Never-ending source of inspiration - and perspiration !

Aaahh....all that advice about starting it off slow. It is many years since I first hinted to the wife about my desires to see her with another man. It started off in a joking manner, just odd comments I would say at an opportune moment. She eventually caught on to what I was getting at. She was shocked and disgusted, but since then she has learnt to understand what my desires are, even though she says she will never do it. We have pushed our sexual boundaries within our marriage. I got her to go dogging, and on one occassion we had five guys wanking around our car, watching us, but she would not even open the window to have a quick touch of them. I guess I am lucky to have such a faithful wife, but I still have that overwhelming desire to see her orgasm on another mans cock. We enjoy a good and healthy sex life, and we fuck most days. Just a shame she will not go that extra bit further.
I still life in hope.......lol.

Hmmm. It seems to me that if you have got her to go dogging, you have made serious progress.

However, I'm not sure that is what is meant by people when they say "go slow." My advice would be to make sure that she is on the same page - or a complimentary page - as you. It isn't necessarily about time, it is about psychological and emotional security. For her to engage in this fetish, she needs to feel really, really safe in her relationship with you and really, really sure that you have no ulterior, hidden or scary subconscious agenda. She needs to feel that this will not threaten what she and you have in anyway. This can be a challenge for someone in your position since it is exactly playing with that risk - the eroticization of that fear - that is why you are in it.

But let me also say that there is zero guarantee that you can ever get her to go there. You are asking her to make this an activity that you do together. To, essentially, learn to be into what I am into. (They way some spouses learn to like their partners sports or hobbies.) This may simply be something she is always to scared or/repulsed by to actualize. If you've managed to move it to a place where she incorporates it into your fantasy play (even to the point of exhibitionism) that is impressive and it may be the best you can do. (Depends on her and you, obviously.)

The only other way it works if if she is into it herself either for the same or her own reamisters. In other words, it isn't something you do together and she gets comfortable with out of love for you; it is something she does because she gets off on it herself or on some byproduct of it. (This is what I mean by complementary.) In these sort of marriages, the wife might get off on the cruelty, or the transgressive nature, (cheating, having a secret from other, being unfaithful, kinky, etc.) or a side benefit. My own wife originally did it because she it relieved her fear of being tied down. Then she came to enjoy the thrill off feeling like she was "getting away" with something. Still later, when those had faded, she enjoyed the benefits of having a clean house all the time (We did domestic discipline as a part of it. Do not underestimate the long-term appeal of a husband who does his share of the "women's work.") and of being relieved of responsibility for my sexual pleasure. (The interest of some women in sex with their partner fades with familiarity and time. That I am at her beck and call to give her an orgasm, but she need never put me in her mouth or pussy again is, I think, a relief for her.)

So if your wife can't get into it out of a desire to cater to you alone, perhaps you can see if there are side benefits that would make it worth her while? Alternately, perhaps you can try more long, deep, honest conversations about your (meaning both of you) deepest fears and fantasies. You might find that she has one that you can combine with yours to make it a turn-on for her too. For instance, my wife was turned on by the idea of gay male sex and seeing guys submit to other guys; incorporating that in really helped for her. (It became clear there was a vicariousness to this and a later benefit to her was that she got to explore her own presentation to a male without the risk of her stable home and social position by finding a dominant top boyfriend. On advantage of cuckolding for women is that you can experiment with the kind of guys you want to fuck but would never want to live with or build a life/family with.)

On the other hand, you might even find that she her reluctance springs from similar fears about loss and betrayal and find that you can eroticize them together.

Or not. As I said, this may not be a thing she is ever willing to actualize. If so, you need to ask yourself if a loving marriage with all its benefits and the inclusion of your fantasy into your dirty talk and role play isn't enough for you. Many would think it is. But only you can decide.

Good luck to you both.
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