Quoting: stewart
You make a very good point about 'larger' men Oldnemesis! My wife enjoys taking big cocks and has learnt to be very accomodating. However her (and my) pleasure is dramatically increased if the man is careful and considerate.
I agree. For a man sexing somebody's wife - whether it is a threesome, a partner swap or just an affair - being diligent, respectful and creative is very important, and makes you a better choice in a long term than a big black football player with 13" dick. Permisterality is very important here; being a good looking stud will help you to get it the first time, but if that's all you have, it will always be your last time. Forever.
That is the reamister we are currently reluctant doing any swaps on parties, even though we still having fun there. Every time we try it, a guy behaves line a 14yo teenager who got a chance to get a pussy the first time in his life, and expecting his parents to return every minute. This even looks funny when the guy is much older; last time it took me a lot of effort to suppress laugh. And it's very boring. Who's got the idea that people do threesomes or go to swinger parties just to get plain fucked? They do it for adventure, for new emotions, they want to play, they want to feel.
And what happens with people creativity? Recentry we made it with a guy, who was just plain boring. "What you want me to do? What I need to say?" C'mon, pal, do you have any imagination? Have you seen any good old porn, which actually had a storyline besides "a guys meets a girl, she sucks him (3 minutes), he licks her (5 minutes), they fuck in three different poses (4 minutes each), and he comes on her face"? Seems like people
expect that if they're invited to a threesome, it's always because the man cannot do the job, and the wife just wants a plain old back-and-forth for 10 minutes (and sometime even less). It might be the case, but it should not be expected case all the time. And no, we're not interested to hear about problems with your girlfriend and your mortgage. Maybe when we meet seven times, we would listen (and maybe even help), but sharing such details on the first date is kinda silly.
It might look like we had only negative experience. This would be a wrong impression - there are still a few positive, drama-free and creative men and couples we had fun with - and share the fun, which is important, - but infortunately it looks like they're in minority. Unfortunately.