risking my marriage??

I found this site after an internet search

Confusing times

Years ago an old gf cheated on me with a black guy, when i found out i was real upset and we split up- but for months after i would often jerk off at the thought of some hung black stud fucking my ex

A while after i met my now fiancee, a real sexy blonde blessed with lots of curves, pretty face,lovely personality- we have been together for a while now, are engaged, live together and plan to get married next year.

Thing is i have started a big fantasy for my fiancee to go with a black guy- i guess for a number reasons-my experience with my old gf?, the fact that recently two things have happened- a friend of mine, a young black guy, told me he thought my fiancee was gorgeous, i shared this with my fiancee and she responded she thought he was attractive to?, also a black guy who is a friend of her closest gf has asked my fiancee out for a date- she laughed it off saying he must not have realised she was in a couple?

For whatever reason i am so turned on about her being with a black guy and am considering raising the subject with her but am worried about her reaction and where it could lead us??

Next time you're in bed with her, bring up the thought....you never know what her reaction might be until you say something!

If you want to marry her you might want to leave it alone

You could open a huge can of worms, there'll be no turning back once it's happened. On the other hand it might lead to the most fantastic relationship/marriage you could have - it's your risk to take. Like ninto advised, bring this up in bed when you're fucking her, you're more likely to get the response you want then!
Let us know what happens.

I second Kennyboy82: it can end in wonder or disaster. If SHE wants it, disaster is less likely to happen than if you "f o rce " it on her.

This is a classic example of just how addictive cuckolding can be. You tasted it once, with your ex, and now the thoughts are creeping back in. I've been through the exact same situation.

It's important that you play it correctly, because you're right... there is a risk to your (soon to be) marriage with your fiancee. Bring up the subject ONLY at the right time and right place. The key is to ease into the subject very slowly, and only bring it up when you two are sharing an extra close moment, and when SHE is receptive and feeling frisky.

I would bring up the two examples you already mentioned. Act casually... like it's something that intrigues you, but don't let her know you're obsessed with the idea. Read her reactions closely. Let her know you find it strangely exciting... and see how she reacts. Don't be surprised if she brushes it off at first (women can be reluctant to admit they have slutty thoughts).

Introducing this idea is a VERY delicate moment in your relationship, so be prepared to ease into a tiny bit at a time. Go slow. Be patient, and read her reactions closely. If you get negative feedback, all is not lost (my Hotwife was reluctant at first). Just back away for a while, and then look for another window of opportunity to mention it again a week or two later. It often takes time for women to adjust to the idea of fucking someone outside their primary relationship. But it can be done. Good luck!
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker

Tread lightly please. Have your friend come over for dinner or d r i n k s. At some point leave your fiance alone with him, go to the bathroom, get a d r i n k. Right before you leave her side, whisper to her, "now you leave him alone", or "you two better behave"...or something like that. Her reaction might allow for you to to gauge how she might really feel about him. Make this an extremely slow process. At some point it might come up with the feelings many women have. "Why do you want me to have s e x with another man?" , "Why don't you love me?", or even "Does this mean you want to have s e x with other women?". You should do a lot of study on this. Have your answers ready for her.

Another idea: Tell her you had a dream last night, a dream that you saw her making out with your friend or that you caught them having sex. But for some reason you were frozen and couldn't move. You just had to sit and watch them. If she asks if it turned you on, say yes.

Good luck. I hope to hear some great updates. Thank you for sharing.

I wouldn't do it. Maybe mention it as a fantasy, but keep it as fantasy.

Find out how receptive your GF is through role play and fantasy in the bedroom. If she is OK with it then ask directly, if not then keep it a fantasy!

Cheers guys

Good advice- like the idea of pretending had dream of her with black guy as way of starting talk , maybe build it into some sex play, sometimes when i wake during the night we have half asleep sex, she loves it so maybe try a) pretend have dream b) wake her up for sex c) she will ask me why horny? d) i can tell her dream while i fuck her, describe her being with a black guy while we have sex

Agree with all above will tread careful, no way pursue if she not into it and yes maybe back off even if progress if not feeling right, see it could be playing with fire.

Had some private messages wanting her photo- couple below

Oh **** dude, she's hot!

Wow, she is beautiful!

Cheers guys, below a fav photo of mine, her with me recent, know she is gorgeous-i am lucky.

This weekend am going to try out- pretend dream, turn on, sex role play, discuss fantasy angle as suggested in thread and will update on how goes and how she reacts and feels.

Thanks for ideas, points and views

Great looking couple Jerry. Make sure you remind her often how good she makes you look.
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do you have a small dick? if yes did she notice and or comment on that ?

Whats small?, think fine in that department ie 5/6 inch, fiancee fine with it, good sex life,must admit my ex gf who cheated on me with a black guy said in part "my fault, useless in bed" but she was a total bitch anyway trying to justify cheating on us, as i mention above appreciate BBC fantasy is part of the turn on.

jeremy80 : Sometimes we have no idea that we are prime cuckold material. We think we are normal and even feel jealousy when we perceive our wife/gf may be looking at or thinking about another guy. Then it suddenly happens to us such as it did you with your ex gf and you suddenly realize that you've been a latent cuckold one all along, waiting to come out of the closet, only you didn't know it until she cheated on you and you found out it turned you on like nothing ever did before! The flood gates have been open and you will dream about being cuckolded from that time on, knowing full well that sooner or later, consciously or subconsciously to you WILL make it happen again....and again and again! It will be your new goal in your sex life! You are experiencing growing pains right now with your indecisions, but I predict that in a few years being a cuckold will be quite normal to you. Enjoy the ride!!

she really is a beautiful woman you are a lucky man. enjoy the ride I know a lot of people on here are telling you to back off and don't rock the boat but do you really want to be married to a woman who does not know who you are and what your needs and wants are ? she should at least know that you are interested and leave the choice up to her.

Not bad advice at all. I sprung my little surprise on my wife after we were married. Like most wives, her initial reaction was NOT positive, and it did lead to some friction as we sorted things out. So yeah... Married Dom has a good point. You might want to sort it out before you get married... and if she's opposed, then you may need to decide how important it is to you.
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker

Ok thank you all for views and opinions, have tried out some of your ideas

Last nite/this morning a lot happened-

We had a great nite out with friends, got pretty d r u n k together and went to bed, i waited for fiancee to fall asleep and with a raging hard on, put on condom and woke her up and we started to have sex, while i was fucking her i told her i had woken up with a hard on after a dream of her fucking my black friend Chris (the guy who told me she was gorgeous and she told me she thought was attractive), she gasped and i swear i felt her pussy clamp on my cock, as we were fucking i asked her to call me Chris, she went quite and then said "don't be silly" but i started to pay attention to her big sensitive boobs, she loves this, and i said "just some fun" and was surprised but happy when 30 secs later she moaned "fuck me Chris", i shot my load a few seconds later, it was such hot sex- she was so wet and vocal,i was super hard but came pretty quick.

This morning before she went out to shops she was pretty quite and i raised subject of what hot sex last night.

We had a good talk,she knows all about my ex gf leaving me for a black guy and asked if interracial was a fetish of mine?, i dodged this and said i just thought the idea was hot, she re-assured me she loved me and would never cheat with any other guy, i just said i wanted us to be happy, any idea/fantasy that helped our own sex life was great for us as a couple and apart from interracial had always found it hot when guys hit on her (this happens alot). She re-assured me again and said lets talk again later,i re-assured her just wanted us to have great couple life including sex life.

She is out for a few hours now.

I've been following your post, and all I have to say is, if your wanting to marry this girl, you better think strongly about crossing this line. On the other hand, I can really see were this could be a huge turn on, almost to the point were you can't control it. Again, just saying, be very careful.

The seed has been planted!

Lets hope the fruit is as sweet as her hot little pussy.


Cuck who loves a creampie.

Glad to hear it went well. One of the biggest mistakes I made with my wife was getting pushy with this. So please take it slow. It will be hard to resist the urge to bring it up often. Taking your time with this might pay off.
Or at the very least allow you and her to role play with toys...at some point.

Thanks for the update.

Allen is spot on. Guys have a tendency to push too much, too fast. It can take a woman time to adjust to this new fantasy. If she gets the sense that you're pushing it on her too quickly then it will backfire.

On the other hand, she didn't seem offended by the fantasy which is a VERY good sign for you. If she brings it up, take advantage of that opening and talk more about it. If you want to bring it up, try to do it subtly and at the right time.... and don't let it become the ONLY thing you talk about. It's a balancing act... trying to find that happy medium where you keep the idea alive in her mind, but not so much that she thinks the fantasy is more important to you than she is.
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker

Thanks guys.

When she got back in we had a long talk. As could guess she concerned something wrong with us?, concerned i want to see other women-open relationship?, concerned i not into our sex life?- i assured her all fine and just wanted do stuff that would add to us as a couple.

Really exciting she questioned what i meant by flirting?, i said when her gf black male friend asked fiancee for a date that was real exciting to me, same when my friend Chris told me he thought she was gorgeous, she said was i sure i could handle it as if it was a fun game for us and good for us she would flirt if it turned me on for her- she told me her gf black male friend had actually got fiancee number off her gf and text fiancee a few times-this shocked me and i felt my dick twitch, i asked her had she replied and fiancee said no and had not told me so i would not worry about nothing and i said maybe flirt back with the guy a bit?, fiancee said probably a dangerous game and close to home, i said what about something more remote eg set up a profile on an adult dating site to virtual flirt?- she went quite again and guess i was too pushy and over excited so may back off for while.

What i do know is she goes out with the girls at least once a week and often bumps into this guy who has text her so maybe something can happen there?, don't know lets see.

Posters are probably right saying danger me push too much

encourage your GF to flirt with your friend, Chris. Then watch and see how you feel; if jealous and anger then cuckolding is not for you; but if excited and horny then go for it and talk with your GF more about becoming a cuckold

Did you ask her to save the texts so that you can read them together?

I'm fairly sure she's going to flirt and then some... are you going to be able to handle this hot wife to be?
Win some...
Lose some...
Few are rained out

Update- we have discussed subject alot , think she is very awkward about any "flirting" close to home eg my black guy friend or her gf black guy friend, will see how this goes as she socialises with them in our social groups, however progress on registering on a "dating" site, re-assured her virtual flirting does not have to lead anywhere and she is going to consider at work today given re-assured her just some hot fun for us both, turn on we can use in bed ourselves- knowing fiancee and her wish to please us both i think she way go for internet profile focused on flirting with a black guy.

J

This is great! Thank you for sharing.