Hello Ladies,
I'm hoping some of you cuckoldresses can give me a little womanly advice here. I'd also welcome advice from any hubbies that went through this.
My wife has just recently cuckolded me for the second time with a guy she met when she was out at the bar. The guy was an absolute stud and a very sweet guy, from her description.
See our two previous posts for more details if you're interested:
https://www.cuckoldplace.com/2_74305_1.htmlhttps://www.cuckoldplace.com/2_70188_1.htmlShe was with him tonight for the second time and she was trying to explain to him how this works for us. After explaining it to him as best she could, he said something to the effect of "If you were my wife, there's no way I would share you". He said it in such a way that he kind of felt sorry for her that I would be ok with that. She basically left it that this is what works for us and we enjoy it, but it's hard to explain.
The thing is, she has alternated between being incredibly turned on by the idea of cuckolding and the fun that she gets to have with it and feeling like I must not love her enough if I'm willing to share her. These feelings swing with her moods, but it's hard for me to figure out which sentiment I should take as her true feelings.
She knows I love her immensely, and I'd be completely devastated if I ever lost her. She also knows that I have no desire whatsoever to ever cheat on her. I would never want her to do anything sexually if she wasn't just as turned on by it as I am. If you read my two earlier posts, you'll see that she's been the one driving this from the beginning. She knew it turned me on so when she found someone she wanted, so she went for it. I never imagined that we would be going through with all of this after only a couple of years of marriage, but I certainly didn't stop it when she wanted to go for it.
My question is if you ladies have had or still have similar feelings, and how you think I should address them. It's as though she has completely opposite opinions about the whole thing, depending on her mood. When she loves it, she loves it. When she doesn't, she's disgusted with the whole thing and me for introducing her to it.
Did you guys go through these conflicting emotions at the beginning, and how do you think I should approach it. I'd be perfectly happy putting my foot down and saying that we're never doing this again if I thought it was hurting our marriage. For the most part we've never felt closer when it's going on. I think the worst of it was when she was feeling guilty about things after things had mostly stopped with her first lover.
I'd love to hear everyone's opinions and experience with this. There's no one else we can talk to about it, so we'd love to know what you guys went through at the beginning.
Thanks,
-jh
