When wives understand the game

There are so many aspects to cuckoldry that no two situations seem completely alike but in my humble opinion, when the wife finally understands the freedom and power that her husband is handing her when he admits it excites him that she is fucking other men, that's the best of all situations.
In our case, it took my wife a few years of fucking with her lover to understand and accept the fact that she was now in charge and not me. I had controlled things in the beginning but now she was the one who set the agenda. She gained the confidence to set up meeting with him, both with and without me there and stopped looking for me to suggest things. It was her who was teaching me things, rather than the other way around. She admitted that she had feelings for him and loved the way he ate her and fucked her and loaded her cunt with his heavy loads. When her and I fucked, she would always talk about how big his cock was and how she loved to suck it. She had long overcome the fear of making me jealous, knowing full well how much I enjoyed watching them.
It was her who drew me close to her when she sucked him and alternated sucking his cock and kissing me, getting me comfortable to be near his cock. I knew she wanted me to experience sucking it and eventually she succeeded. Now she could discuss how good it was to suck and how nice it was to lick up his precum. She was excited that we could share his cock equally, something she found very pleasing because we always had shared everything in our lives.
Now I was taught to orally prepare him to fuck her while he ate her and then guide his cock into her cunt. It wasn't long before she had me cleaning her cunt of his sperm and then cleaning his cock too.
She was now fully committed to being a slutwife and to the whole cuckold experience and loved the fact that we could enjoy his cock and cum together.
It seemed just a short time before, that I was guiding and encouraging her and overcoming her nervousness and now she was teaching and guiding me so we could fully share the situation together like we shared everything else..
I would enjoy hearing from others with similar stories.