daniel101
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If she's threatening you with the fact she'll "hold it against you" if you don't want to, then to be totally honest with you, you're already heading down a very unhealthy path. Although cuckolding is all about letting her get what SHE wants, the guy has to enjoy the sexual freedom of his woman as well, or else, frankly, it's not good at all.
All I can suggest is maybe just get her to kiss another guy in front of you, and see how you feel about that both a) when you're horny and b) when you're not. "Cuckold angst" is actually fairly common...Because I mean, it IS taboo to let your wife or girlfriend fuck another guy, and a lot of cuckolds can feel pretty cuckolds browniety about it after they've cum themselves. A SUPPORTIVE wife is therefore required, and if your wife's making threats like that, then I doubt she'll be very supportive. All in all, you both need to go away and talk a bit more. Sounds like she's almost trying to power you into this one.
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odyexplorer
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There is a very great danger that both she will become addicted and unable/*** to stop and for that matter, go ever further esp. in certain predictable ways, and as well that you will become addicted too. While greatly, no enormously, changing the nature of the relationship between you.
That doesn't have to be a bad thing, but it most certainly can be, and yes you could very well loose her. The powers involved are large.
Look, I'm unlike the great majority of the guys who might talk to you here. I'm neither in this lifestyle nor do I want to be. Well as a bull, when the wife is hot enough and young enough, then yeah ok. And I have had an experience like that. I come here sometimes for two reamisters: 1) for porn stories, identifying in my case w/the bull; and 2) for the stuff about male female sexual dynamics, that this take it to the max extreme sexual life style reveals. Cuckoldry is not just about voyurism, vicarious thrills through your wife's experiences which she tells you about, and reawaking her sexual lustful side. It's those things but the price of admission shortly becomes more and more male presentation, your presentation, to her, her dominance over you but almost always with 99% of the women that go this way, her submissiveness to her much more sexually adept, masculine, and big dicked bulls (who she and he will work to make seem psychologically to you, her and him are even more that way than might objectively have been the case when you start all this, and so on.)
Cuckoldry is a one way street. Once you start it and start submitting you'll find it's about impossible for you to stop it or slow it or climb out of it. It will all be up to your wife. She'll only stay with you if there's a side of her that likes to dominate a man, and yeah if you're very compatible and a good husband otherwise, and well yeah a good money provider or good compared to her alternatives there, because the side that likes to feel feminine and submissive to one will be satisfied entirely by a bull for some time, a few regulars, a regular and his directed cock carousel, and similar variations depending on her, how submissive she is, and how dominant and into her her #1 bull becomes. It won't at all be up to you.
As well though you might get more penetrative sex from your wife to start, as she feels sexually supercharged by experiencing other men, and greatful to you for allowing this, if you go the male submissive cuckolding route where it's entirely about her pleasure and your doing for her, your goddess, it's very, very likely to progress to her denying you any penentrative sex w/ her for longer periods, then denying your release from masterbation for longer periods, all to make you more nuts and more under her absolute control, willing to do anything, any chores or any humilitating thing serving her or serving her bull, that she wants. But she will probably want you to more and more orally service her, no release for you, all as part of the her control, your presentation thing, and her pleasure is all that matters to both of you as between you two.
Now if you're contemplating this but don't want it to get out of control w/your presentation and denial from penetrative sex with her down the road, everything totally up to her and you powerless with her as she instinctively drags you further and fruther that way, inspired by sites like this and the advice she'll get here for the skads of submissive men here (most of whom by the way are single, don't have girlfriends, and are at least bisexual - often after being left by wives or girlfriends after starting down this cuckolding route, unable to attract another for a good long while at least).
So if you have doubts about this getting out of control as you surely seem to, I highly advise you to consider what I've said. If you don't feel strongly sexually submissive to women/your wife, but you do want to jazz up you sex life and her feelings of sexual lust so that you too can fuck her more and she'll want to with you, then I STRONGLY suggest you approach this as a hotwife, husband in control or equal control couple, with anytime husband veto. See sites such as outhotwives on the hotwifing not cuckolding side as they call it there to see what I mean in detail, worked out in real life. Lot more truth to fantasy ratio there too; less hot extreme stories than here.
You can easily go from hotwifing to cuckolding and it happens a fair bit, but mostly not or not all the way. You basically can't go from cuckolding to anything but a breakup with your wife, which will be EXTREMELY difficult to impossible for you to initiate after a while in sub mindset, but not for her.
In hotwifing the husband retains control. And the beginning at least the wife asks her husband permission after details of the guy each and every time. he sets go slow rules to start with or might. It varies a lot but the point is in ways particular to the husband he's retaining control or at least veto. Which is made real and not just theoretic. There's generally an understanding that it's gonna be just sex for the wife and that if it's not returning dividends to the husband of more and hotter penetrative sex with his wife, but rather she's getting into her bull too emotionally and stops wanting to let her husband have as many sex priveleges as her bull, then she's got to break it off with that guy. And so on.
Unlike swinger lifestyles the hotwifing couple usually doesn't let the husband play with other women but that's not at all always the case. About by definition though he plays less and his wife is probably more tighly restrictive about who she's comfortable w/him playing with than he is.
At the polar extreme from cuckolding is hotwifing where the wife is fully submissive to her husband and fucking other men at his sole discretion to please him. This is rather a pimp/hot ho style, and yeah can involve her getting paid money too, though generally the main emphasis is on the sexual charge of it all. Here the sexual dynamcis betweent he married couple is clearly husband dominant and her #stud, at least mentally, wife his submissive to him slut.
In ending let me remind you. It's easy to go from a hotwifing couple to a cuckolding one, with or without limits to the male presentation and humilitarion in cuckolding (a mixed style). It's about impossible after awhile for men to get their wives once fully into and once she seems him as a sexually devalued male submissive, to go the other direction, or back to monogamy, unless she decides entirely on her own that's what she wants. (Rather rare it seems once she's been a cuckoldress for a good while.)
So be careful what you wish for, or contemplate. I've just tried to lay out to you what I've observed here and elsewhere. This is part of the fruits of my interest in the sexual/emotional dynamics involved.
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odyexplorer
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I also STRONGLY recommend that any man w/doubts about wanting to be untterly sexually and in other ways submissive to his wife, and being cut off by her from any masculine penatrative sexual role with her over time, that before you let her start, if you do, that she agrees that this will NOT BE a one way street. She agrees she WILL STOP if you can't handle it. You do not agree to try this with the notion, common around here among the male submissives and female dominants here that once to start, there's no going back. She should have to agree there IS GOING BACK.
Realistically you will have a hard time getting her to go back if you go in to fast and deep or wait to long to pull the plug on all this.
That's part of why I'm so recommending at least starting as a hotwife style rather than a cuckolding one, where you start slow. yeah "just" her kissing another man in front of you, and letting him feel her up. The idea being that she should have to make sure it's still ok w/you each step of the way.
Also finally just let me say that lots of men seem to get into this, though it's not so often mentioned but sometimes is here, due to diminution of their own sexual drive and "readiness". Well there is viagra and cialis. As well there are natural testosterone shots, which are fully legal w/ a prescription and recommended by many docs esp. for some older men.
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