Ladies I need your advice... I think I'm being seduced!

In case you get bored with my story and can't read till the end- How do I find out if I'm being seduced by a woman who I think is a hot wife or a cuckoldress? I need your advice ladies, I think I'm being seduced!


I think I'm being seduced by a cuckoldress/hot wife. How can I know if its truly happening? Ladies I need your advice...

my situation:
I'm a very young looking 33 and very physically fit staff member of the local Gym/Fitness center. Recently I have had the pleasure of, what I am assuming to be, the early courtship of a hot wife or cuckoldress. Around the gym the male staff all know her as being in incredibly awesome shape. I see hot bodies all day but hers really stands out. She is married to a giant man without exaggerating must weigh 300lbs of pure fat. I'm terrible at guessing people's ages but I'll put them both in the ballpark of late 40's.

The reamister I think that she is a hot wife or cuckoldress is:
1. She is mature/married
2. She works out with the intensity of lance armstrong while he works out like you would expect of a 300lb man.
3. She brings me gifts on an almost daily basis.

Now I wouldn't even think anything of it but her behavior puzzles me. She walks up to me and gives me gifts of chocolates or homemade sweets all the time. No one else receives gifts from her but me. She always does this away from her husband and this may be to keep me relaxed. The strange thing is we have barely talked. We've had a few playful exchanges but she always a hits and run. It looks like she is shy because last friday she baked me cookies and I asked what her name was and she acted mysteriously and responded- Oh I'm just some old lady" Let me assure you she looks like bo derrick in the movie 10. Why would she not want to tell me her name? I've had a hard-on for this woman for weeks now and I still don't even know her name. Does she want me to reassure her that she is not just some old lady but the object of my young desires?

So I ate the cookies and wrote her a note for two reamisters. First, if she is shy then passing notes is mysterious and relaxing. Second, she is mature so I think the whole idea of passing notes should remind both of us of our teenage years. I know it made me feel young again. After the workout she found my note and immediately showed it to her husband. Behavior of a cuckoldress?? She simply showed it to him but never opened nor read the note. She just put it in her pocket on her way out of the gym. Maybe saving the pleasure of reading it for later. In the note I playfully thanked her for the cookies and the smile they brought to my face.

Ladies does this sound familiar or is their just a blur between my fantasy and reality?
Any advice on what my next move should be?

all responses appreciated,
T.

Does she want me to reassure her that she is not just some old lady but the object of my young desires?

This borders on the obvious, but yes. Ladies of all ages face a constant battering of negative reinpowerment about their looks ("Lose weight, get fit, shape up" etc etc) from Cosmo, Sex in the City and other assorted crap. For a woman older than you to hit on you - a fit, young man - would be going out on a huge limb.

After the workout she found my note and immediately showed it to her husband. Behavior of a cuckoldress?? She simply showed it to him but never opened nor read the note. She just put it in her pocket on her way out of the gym.

This is weird, but we didn't get to know the details - did you put it in her purse or something? And she just went, "Huh, where's this note from?"

If you leave her another note, why not leave a cell phone number, and ask her to send you a text message? Texting is a wee bit more efficient than passing pieces of paper, but still in the vein of the 'note-passing'.

In any case, the giving of gifts are an obvious opening for you to return the favor - ask her out for dinner, or a take, or something. The only harm that can come from it is that she says 'no', and I assume your ego can survive that. :p

I think she is definately! trying to get you to make a move. I know I always feel like I'm not pretty enough then I get like 15 emails from guys that want to meet me and have sex with me, and it surprises me.

I'm sure she is feeling she is probably too old for you. Remember society teaches us that the guys should always make the first move. I've been having sex with guys other than my husband for 3 years now and I still find it hard to make the first move with guys in permister. I'll flirt, but thats about it. She has gone all the way to making you cookies and giving you gifts. Of course she is interested.

The fact that she showed her husband the note, is probably a good sign she is a hot wife or cuckoldress. But, eventually you'll want to ask if her husband is ok with things, so you don't break up a marriage if she isn't.

If she was me, I'd want you to ask me to coffee or a take or a health take or something. Then you can start talking and see where it leads. Eventually you will want to just ask. Sounds like she has wanted you too for awhile.

Bootyz- "constant battering of negative reinpowerment about their looks"
Thanks for the insight. I've never been able to relate to someone that looks great but still has negative self images issues. I think your totally correct. Thanks for the insight.

"This is weird, but we didn't get to know the details - did you put it in her purse or something? And she just went, "Huh, where's this note from?"
Sorry I thought details like that were boring so I left them out. She delivered the cookies in a Tupperware container that after I ate the cookies I returned it to her by placing it on top of her belongings. My note was laying on top of the Tupperware container and in plain sight. I was apprehensive of leaving my phone number in case I misread her signals and her husband flipped out at my work. The gym has a somewhat relaxed stance on their "We're not paying you to hit on chicks" policy but I wasn't going to press my luck without more proof that it wasn't just me incorrectly reading into things.

Angel_Love- Thanks for the insight. I needed to see things from the opposite perspective to better understand it.

Update: Today she worked out and seemed to stall, waiting around for me to get freed up enough for a chat. Unfortunately I was busy, but in plain sight of each other. As I was finishing up my shift I clocked out and when I came out from the office she was there reading our crappy store newsletter. I wished a coworker good night and she filed in next to me as we left the building together. She had just come from the shower and looked amazing. Fresh out of the shower and still with damp hair mmmmmmmm:) She asked if she could walk with me and I gleefully agreed. I did most of the talking on the way through the parking lot. I had just gotten past the ice breaker but before I could get permisteral or ask her out, get her phone number, or remember, even get her name... she made a right hand turn and with a smile and a wave walked away to her car. I literally looked down as to not trip over the curb and when I looked up she was 20ft away. Remember I told you this womans always hits and runs. Incredible energy and stamina, she's definitely not a walker.
Her answers to my ice breaking questions are always mysterious. Never revealing, always keeping me guessing. Hmmm this cookie is unlike any that I have cracked before. I'll have to dip her in my milk to soften this cookie up.
At what point should I ask about the husbands approval. Prior to the first date, prior to being intimate????

Thanks again for the great insight and advice. Keep it coming
T.

I guess there is a good chance that the husband is aware and approves, but you probably should not initiate the subject to her. She is either looking to cheat or cuckold with his consent, question is - do you care? I believe in permisteral responsibility, and she took the first step with you, so if she's going to cheat, it's her decision and responsibility.

If you don't care, bringing up the husband could prompt her to tell you that he's ok with it...or it could make her second guess herself and feeling guilty for cheating (if he's not ok with it/aware of it). So if she doesn't breach the question, why should you?

She clearly wants you to make a move on her, so ask her out at the earliest opportunity. Again, she can only say no. Or report you to the gym (which would make her a rather unstable permister best avoided).


I guess I should fess up and say that I'm not a lady, tho. After all, it was their advice you asked... :p

Girls like to be mysterious. it makes us feel slightly powerful and controlling. if she is a cuckoldress then that is a positive sign of it. I love to tease. I leave the guys wanting more all the time. its fun watching them when I know they are going crazy for me. BUT there is times I wish the guys would just get the hints and make a move.
I suggest that the next time you talk to her take a step and make a move. Even if this is litterally stopping her and flat out saying that you are enjoying the gifts and short talks you guys are having but you need to know a few things before you move any farther with her.... you can start by saying that you would really like to know her name and some more about her and then even ask if you guys can hang out and chat. then if things go smoothly then start asking about her husband. But its smart to get to know her permisterally before jumping in and assuming things...
I hope it works out for you guys. I know I always have fun during my dates... im sure she would too.

Last week ended with her sharing sweets and more about herself. She told me that she has a mister and that she has a sweet tooth etc.

At the gym we offer professional massages. I think I'm going to tell her that I am studying massage and I'd like to offer her a free one so that I may gain some experience towards receiving my certification. We have a hotel next to the gym and I hope that is a comfortable place to do it since I can't offer it at the gym until I am certified. I plan on giving her my card with my cell number on it. If she calls or texts I'll know shes ready for more than just sweets & chatting.
Hopefully she'll be ready to take things to the next level.

I am blown away by her amazing body and I'd like to take photos of her naked and during sex. Ladies how should I approach this. Secrecy may be important to her or she might be a slut and get off on it.
Thanks ladies for the advice.
T.

Be careful with asking for nude photos, that could lead her into thinking you might take some photos/video of her without her knowledge, and that could fuck up the whole deal.

Try telling her that you're thinking of taking up photography as a hobby, and ask her if she'd like to pose for some pictures - clothed pictures, but perchance with a sexy dress. You might ease her into more racy photos from there.

Of course, this assumes you can take good photos...can you?

Um, tell her waht you want....she already knows....but want to hear it.


Do it b4 she looses interest. I'm sure you are not the only one she is trolling with.

FROM A MALE....

I just came across this thread and it sounds very interesting. First off, I’m a guy, so I can’t give a female’s perspective. I CAN tell you that my own wife has the same sentiments as Angel_Love does, in that she likes the men to make the first move.

Not to get into a long biography, my wife started very young and was influenced by older teenage boys (foster kids) living with her dysfunctional family. As they say, even use is better than being ignored, so when they paid attention to her, invited her to party with them, and supplied occasional pot

and holy water, she was eager to please. So from the get-go the ‘societal norms’ of guys making the first move, reinpowerd with her particular experiences as a submissive sexual partner, make her a female who is VERY into guys pursuing her.

She’s a flirt and a tease, but in a demure way. Unlike popular cuck themes, she doesn’t see other guys because I’m a cuck/wimp and she’s the wife/bitch. All she needs is a clean, good looking guy who’s either 1) confident with a good permisterality, or 2) a dominant bad-boy type. Most importantly, they need to take control because that’s what her submissive/masochist permisterality craves.

As for the gym lady, I think you should definitely ask her to coffee or lunch. She can get to know you and vice versa. Be confident, but not arrogant. During the meeting, ask directly, but with finesse, as to why you’re the target of her gifts. While it may sound over the top, try a “To what do I owe the pleasure of all the cookies and cakes.” Since she’s older, being gallant and a gentlemen will probably score points. Remember the golden days of Hollywood: Even the scoundrels and rogues had manners. If she’s elusive and not very forthcoming, you can throw out suggestions and see how she reacts.

As for what’s happening between her and her husband, in my opinion that’s not really your concern, or your business. If she’s walking in the front door with him and bringing you goodies, he must know something is going on. That’s between them as a couple. She may not be comfortable discussing it. I know my wife isn’t. We adore each other, and she doesn’t like anyome to think bad of me, even strangers. So if questions are asked, her story is that I’m a committed, loving husband. She’d much rather be considered a slut, cheat, sex addict, or whatever, then tell someone the details.

As mentioned by Bootyz, gym lady is an adult and capable of making her own decisions. Whether she is cheating or cucking, that’s her business. You might be the first guy she’s ever approached like this, or you might be in line to be fuck stud number 100.

I’d provide a gift of goodies to her (reciprocating is always nice) and in the card, give your email addy or phone number, asking for hers in return. Also suggest coffee or lunch. She might be too shy to call/email, but if you can at least get her to provide her info in turn, then you have a way to contact her.

Oh, girls who like to be mysterious like to see men overcome little obstacles. Since she hasn’t told you her name, find out what it is using the gym registration info. If that’s not possible, the next time you talk to her, say something like “Since I don’t have your name, and couldn’t find it (that lets her know you’re interested enough to make the effort of finding out, which will flatter her) I guess I’ll just have to give you a name.” Pick something cute, like Sandi, Jennifer, etc. What do you imagine her name is? That’ll give her a couple joices, either hand over her name (since you’ve done sometying to earn it) or go along with you. She might like the latter since it is more anonymous and ‘mysterious.’

I’ve nailed six married women in my day. Five of them while in college and of those all but one were 15-30+ years older than me. Those older women all liked gentlemanly manners and conduct. Now once we were in the bedroom passion did take charge and they knew what they wanted. But outside the bedroom, it was intelligence, manners, a decent physique, good grooming and a sense of adventure that caught their interest.

Good luck and keep us informed. If it doesn’t work out, don’t hold a grudge, or take it permisterally. Her husband might get cold feet. She might get cold feet. Or life might throw in a zinger that eliminates the opportunity.