pussycat
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My husband and I are having a lot of problems about how frequently I see other men. I'm interested in seeing someone once every couple of weeks or so, and he wants once a week or more. We had a big fight about it and this morning he said he wanted to call the whole thing off because I'm not doing it enough to meet his needs. I don't want to call it off, mostly because he's been treating me a lot better since he started acting submissive to try to get me to be with other men. He's been the loving and attentive husband I always wanted.
He had been trying to get me to be a HotWife for years before this, so I can't imagine he'll be more happy with none than some, but he feels that he's working too hard and not getting enough in return. I feel like I just can't do it as often as he'd like and can't compromise that much.
Has anyone delt with issues like this before? I don't want him to get so frustrated that he doesn't want to play any more, but I also don't want to feel pushed and that he's trying to control my dates. That's a total buzz ******* for me. Any advise would be great, especially from the ladies. Thanks so much.
Pussycat
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SheDatesHeWaits
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#2 · Edited by: SheDatesHeWaits
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I'm not a woman but your situation sounds much like something we went through as we felt our way into the whole Cuck-Hotwife lifestyle.
Being your typical Dominant, type-A, goal oriented businessman I became first intrigued then obessessed with the lifestyle, and pushed-pulled my wife into it with me. When I dive into something, I give it 100%. That's why I'm successful at most things.
Sex is no different. When I realized that's what I wanted, I dove in. I expected my wife to follow with equal commitment. At first she didn't. The harder I pushed, the more backlash I encountered and the friction began to affect our relationship.
One day we both had enough of the tug-of-war, sat down and had a heartfelt conversation about our needs and expectations. Bottom line... out of that conversation, and others like it afterward, we explained and recognized one anothers' desires and concerns, agreed that our relationship was worth the effort to solve the problem, and reached a compromise we could both live with.
Communication is the key to solving the problem.... not trying to out-asshole one another in a pissing contest. He needs to do a better job of understanding the female mind. The more ya'll fuss about it, and the harder he pushes, the more you will resent him and the further away you will feel. Compromise is the answer.
Also... if you can find someone you find REALLY attractive, you'll be more inclined to see them more often. My wife reminds me constantly that finding the right guy makes all the difference. Hope you work it out... we did!
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker
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broker90212
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i am in the houston area, billy, im trying to get my girlfriend to cuck me but shes not so sure. It would be great it you two could get together and become friends.
The Cuck
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thetdybrs001
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Hi Pcat,
You and your husband are at a crossroads. What you need to do honey is take control of the situation. He is trying to control you and this lifestyle is all about the wife or bull having the control. I choose to control my husband and my BF and find it works best this way for me. First put your husband in chastity. This way you get to decide when and if he gets to cum. He is going to ask a lot and even beg but like you deal with your kids you are the one in control. Next, You need to make it clear that you plan to date your BF while he is at home in chastity. This gives you the freedom to leave home and do what you want, even just go shopping. When you get home you can tell your husband what a wonderful time you had and how great the sex was even though you never even got close to a man. Let him out of his device so he can masturbate while you share your story. Slip a tube of KY in your purse and go to a bathroom while your out. Finger a little inside you after you pee. When you get home if you feel like being touched or licked he will think it was left from your BF. Your husband wants you to take control and needs to be treated like a young. If you want the freedom to have this wonderful relationship you do have to give some back but just make it on your terms.
I hope this helps you!
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