Need help...

Hello..my husband and I have been married for just over 7 years, we have a good sex life, and love each other very much. About a year ago my husband brought up his fantasy regarding cuckolding, I have to say I was intrigued by the idea, but non the less it did not come to fruition. Now he is talking about it again, and when we have sex, thats all he wants to talk about...he wants to me to tell him about fucking other men and how I will tell my lover how insignificant my husband is and so on.
We even went as far as getting on Yahoo chat, he created a profile for me, got some photos together. I spent sometime chatting and talked to some guys that I wouldn't mind getting fucked by. So here is where my problem is...I can't seem to make it out the door, I will come up with any excuse not to go. It's the kids, it's too late, or I dont feel good...I totally just prude up, so to speak.
I can see the frustration in my husband, he wants it to happen so badly...and so do I. Please any suggestions!!! thank you

Totally understandable. The first time is filled with a lot of emotions. Sounds like you are not quite ready. Reality and fantasy are two very different things. Be sure you are ready for the reality of it all.

Just take our time and do things at your own pace. You might chat for awhile to get comfortable with a guy and then have a simple date. If it works out great. We've been in this lifestyle for ten years and it's fantastic.

Start by sending me e-mail. I'll let you get comfortable with me and then we can meet some place with or without hubby. We can just see where it goes. If we end up with my cock in your pussy shooting long streams of hot cum then it's cool and you've got yourself started. Tell me how I can help [email protected]
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I suggest doing what my wife did for her first time when meeting another guy; that is meeting him first for lunch.

My wife and her now lover agreed for their first meeting that it would be for lunch only, and that they would email/chat later and they could each decide for themselves if they were comfortable getting together again. This really took the pressure off my wife as she was incredibly nervous at the time as this was her first time outside our marriage in over in fifteen yearss. She knew it was only for lunch and if she didn't like the fellow, no problem, finish lunch and say "ciao". Long story short, they did have a second meeting at his place and the rest is now history. She has a terrific lover that she sees at least weekly and has so for almost a year now.

Good luck,

D.

I suggest doing what my wife did for her first time when meeting another guy; that is meeting him first for lunch.

My wife and her now lover agreed for their first meeting that it would be for lunch only, and that they would email/chat later and they could each decide for themselves if they were comfortable getting together again. This really took the pressure off my wife as she was incredibly nervous at the time as this was her first time outside our marriage in over in fifteen yearss. She knew it was only for lunch and if she didn't like the fellow, no problem, finish lunch and say "ciao". Long story short, they did have a second meeting at his place and the rest is now history. She has a terrific lover that she sees at least weekly and has so for almost a year now.

Good luck,

D.

Couldn't agree more!! My wife also did a lot of chatting and e-mailing, but it never got her anywhere. It was only until she had face to face contact on a friendly basis that she found a guy she eventually ended up in bed with. Some people (not just women) need this kind of permisteral contact in order to feel secure enough.

rene.

Thank you all for your suggestions! I think that the meeting for lunch idea is great, I have tried the chatting and I really haven't gotten the feeling that this is the way to go. So now another question...is it better to find someone who knows about cuckolding as opposed to the guy who just wants to get laid? Honestly its the latter of the two that makes me the most nervous. Also, what about the guilt factor, not just the possibility of me feeling guilty for having done it, but also for my husband for having encouraged me to do it in the first place. I know I am new to this, but are this normal feelings to have? Sometimes my reservations and concerns have me to the point of giving up and not going through with it. Nether of us really want that.

Hey, I was exactly the same way in the beginning...it took me maybe six months to go from "okay, I'll try" to anything actually happening.

If you're like me, you're also worried whether your hubby is really ready for the whole thing to become a reality - it's not just you...you probably have that nagging question whether your marriage is going to be hurt by making his fantasy real.

Don't overlook how important it is to find the right guy. You might be telling yourself it's "just for sex", but being a woman, there's always some type of emotional connection needed if the sex part is going to be any good. I'd say better than the Internet is to just keep yourself open to guys you come in contact with..."act single" as my hubby used to tell me. You'll happen across someone you're attracted to quickly enough that way.

I also agree with those who suggested taking small steps at first. In our case, I guess I needed to know that it was something I wanted, but at the same time hubby's arousal over the idea wasn't just a fantasy thing.

In the end, I decided the only way I'd know for sure was to try - but rather than just hop in bed with someone, I took it slowly and gave the two of us plenty of chances to opt out. After a few casual dates with another guy, I could see hubby was still okay with it (he was probably even discouraged because things weren't progressing faster) and once I could relax over that part, I came to want a sexual relationship with my new bf.

Good luck!
Val