Not sure about cuckolding

My husband is interested in me having sex with other men. From what I've read about cuckolding, I'm open to being more in control of our sex life and having him be more attentive to me, in bed and out.

The problem is the actual sex. I've had sex with other guys while he's watched several times, but I don't enjoy that at all. I've had a really bad time and can't imagine enjoying it in the future. I'm not guilty about it or anything like that. It was just really bad sex. No arousal, no orgasms, no fun. I hated it.

My husband isn't going to give up on this. If we don't find a way to work it out it's going to ruin our marriage. It's already coming close.

Does anyone have any ideas about how to satisfy a husbands hotwife/cuckold obsession when the wife doesn't want to have sex with other people?

Thanks.
Pussycat

Hi,

I have been through that... I would suggest that you try to make him jealous. You can play the cuckolding lifestyle without engaging in actual sex, at least to start with. Dress sexy, no panties, get out with your female friend and come back late.... you see the point. Good luck.

I think dominos is way off base, you sound like you want the decision to be your and how you would the event to go! I would recommend getting the best of both worlds. You should go for the sensuallity your looking for not just a wam bam thank you mam kind of happening! So this is my suggestion, For the both of you to agree on a permister you both accept, and have a goal in mind of what you wish to get out of it! Such as maybe you just would like to be made to feel beautiful, sensual, wanted and particullarly by your husband! My guess is he is pushy(your husband) so tell him what you are looking to get out of it. Set boundries and when you cant hold it in anymore from all the attention you have received you would say that your ready and then he could get what he wants to see you be pleasured by other men! But i would suggest that it be more in the form of a threesome! So you have the man you love and he has the women who completes him with the other man! The build up is one of the greatest parts of sexual relations. I think that is what your missing! Hope i helped and if im off base atleast thats how i feel and im a man who thinks the women comes first!

Actually, I think dominos is closer to the base than you barbus. Listen to what she said. Not interested at the present time. Which part of that don't you understand?

Sex, and arousal is as much mental as it is physical. A good part of cuckolding is the interplay between you and him. Control is a key word to me. Once you have it, you may feel more comfortable taking it to a different level. Without knowing the specific needs in your relationship, it's all generic, and general advice. If you're looking for ways to begin asserting a sexual dominance, shoot me an IM or email on powerd_entry12 on yahoo.

Have you considered having sex with another without your husband present and letting him know about it later? To really enjoy the sex you will need to get in tune with your partner. Develop a lover you can have great sex with and later on let your hubby watch.

Thanks so much to everyone who wrote. Right now, maybe making my husband jealous is the best plan. I doubt he'll be very happy about it.

If I end up having to have sex with other people again I appreciate the advise on how to make it not so bad. Maybe you guys have some tips on taking more control of our sex life. Barubus is right that my husband is super pushy about this and most stuff about sex. How can he be interested in cuckold and yet be so pushy and controling. If he were actually interested in my pleasure and my happiness he'd back off and let me do what I find exciting rather than just thinking of himself.

Any thoughts?
Pussycat

then do it....that is what my wife would say, and as far as having sex again and it being nice ......just wait for that right special guy to make it nice and special

men cant help themselves we are pushy and he is maybe desperate to show you how much he loves and trust you, you can never tell... or can you?

hmmm, you want more control of your sex life and having him be more attentive to you, in bed and out. You say he's asking you to cuckold him too.

geez Pussycat, this situation sounds perfect for chastity. I'm suprised no one has mentioned this yet.

Cuckolding is made up of many things - Lets talk about orgasm denial and permissive promiscuity. If you lock him up in chastity, you are half the way there. He might even clammer up and stop being so pushy about it. Allowing you some breathing room for what you really want.

When you see him in chastity a switch may go off about how you see your husband and his penis making it easier to look elsewhere for sexual gratification. That gratification doesn't have to come from others. masturbate in front of him, have him use his tongue or fingers. depending on the relationship and the people involved, add some offense to the mix.

There are lots of things you can do without having sex with other men. Cuckolding is for you - not him. His turn on is created a byproduct of your priority to be sexually satisfied with or without him. Like the spoils of war, he's left with the evidence of what came before him -if you so choose...

...and if you love him, you will choose to tell him a story or two.

but first: Chastity! *Mwa ha ha*

have fun
Vancouver BC, Canada

Fully agree with a lot that was said here. Buy a CB-3000, lock him in it (tight so he can't wiggle out), and then watch the fun begin. His control will turn into submissiveness, and you can simply say, WHEN the right guy comes along, I intend to fuck his brains out. Now stop hounding me or you'll never get to cum yourself! You'll be shocked at the attitude difference after a week in chastity.

I agree with the chastity advice..It is a place to start and my hubby just started wearing his..It is so arousing knowing I have total control of when he can cum,but I can see my lover when ever I choose..Good Luck and it gets easier to be dominant once you have taken the first steps..

My wife also has quit fucking other men, which *******s me but, the whole point of cuckolding is what the wife wants, not what us little dick losers want. I discovered the idea of chastity here on this site. And even though I still dream of her doing others, the control she now has over me is a close second. And who knows, maybe now that she knows I can't cheat on her or even jackoff without her permission maybe she will again someday. Plus I am loving being dominated, spanked, nipple and cock ***d.

She has taken to calling me pussy boy, and I wear her panties, shave and when I do her nails for her, she says I should do mine to match. I total new meaning to the phrase pussy whipped... and I love it! So I totally agree with the chastity suggestion as I have not brought up the subject since she locked me in 3 months ago. By the way, I have only been allowed to cum twice since then.

My viewpoint. It is all a dance. You must find a 'dance', or a scenario which is exciting to you and exciting to your husband.

It sounds like your husband is "topping from the bottom". It is impossible to be submissive and dominant at the same time. You are uncomfortable because you are receiving conflicting signals.

I agree that, first, you must develop a dominant position over a submissive husband. Chastity games can be fun. If your husband would be excited by cuckolding (as we define it), it would also excite him to be placed in a position of presentation.

Placing someone into a submissive position is a dance. Try little things and watch for his resopnse.

The methods of domination for a woman can be found all over the internet. Do some resiearch and try things you enjoy until you find those things which will make him excited as well.

A summary of cuckold as I understand it on this site. You develop a postion of dominance or control over your husband until you are able to develop more control over your own pleasure. The ultimate act of pleasing yourself is in taking a lover of your choosing, which act is exciting for your husband and ultimatley pleasurable for you.
I will make you crazy.

Hi PussyCat
I had the same problem with my wife she didnt like me around when she was with her lover. so what we did was make some rules and it worked out fine.
the rules we set are,
#1 when she went out i knew where and who she was with
this was to help me with any issues i might have and also a safty factor.
if anything went wrong i knew where to look for her.

#2 As soon as she got home we would go into the bedroom and as i was eating her she would tell me about what they did, how big he was and so on.

#3 was to be completely honest and not hide anything . this is so i felt more comfotable with the situation and knew what was going on .

Well i know there are peeps here that like to humiliated, denied, and are totaly sub
and that is great if thats what you are into .
you can do all that and still keep your relationship on the up and up.

I am sure if you are at this point you should beable to sit down and come up with something that will work for both of you.

i hope this helps a little if you would likw to chat or discuss this
please feel free to shot me an e-mail
Licks And kisses

PUSSYCAT,HOW HAVE THINGS PROGRESSED??? HOPING TO HEAR SOME POSITIVES ABOUT WHAT'S GOING ON!
i AGREE ABOUT YOUR HUSBAND BEING "PUSHY" AND THE TOPPING FROM THE BOTTOM SOUNDS RIGHT TOO. FROM MY UNDERSTANDING OF THIS TERM: THE SUPPOSED SUBMISSIVE IS REALLY IN CONTROL, GETTING WHAT HE/SHE WANTS,AND PLAYING AT BEING WEAK.
MY ADVICE .... BE ASSERTIVE WITH YOUR NEEDS.ESPECIALLY IN LIGHT OF THE FACT THAT THE OTHER SCENES WERE NOT ENJOYABLE FOR YOU!!
SOMEONE SUGGESTED FIRST MEETING OTHER LOVERS BY YOURSELF. I AGREE, AND I THINK YOU SHOULD TELL HUBBIE (IF THAT'S WHAT YOU WANT!!)
LASTLY, AND I CAN'T BELIEVE I'M SAYING THIS, BUT IS COUPLES COUNSELING IN ORDER HERE??? YOU DID SAY YOUR MARRIAGE IS "CLOSE TO BEING RUINED"!! HOPE THINGS WORK OUT ...PLEASE LET US KNOW.
Who's Your Bitch.single,cuz not man enuf to attract a woman.
Will meet for sissy sex with yor cuck!!

"CUCKOLDING IS FOR YOU -NOT HIM".....SAYWHA'!!!! I THOUGHT IT WAS ABOUT BOTH!!! FOR THAT MATTER THERE IS THE BULL/LOVER MIXED IN!!!!
Who's Your Bitch.single,cuz not man enuf to attract a woman.
Will meet for sissy sex with yor cuck!!