Girls, help me describe it - please!

Hi everyone. I have never cheated on hubby, but recently he told me he wants me to go out and relax with a very well-endowed man. He pointed me to this website and several others.

My guess is - he's not serious. He wants me to pretend that I'm going out and cheating on him. In any case, even if he is serious, I'm not ready to do it yet, so I'm going to pretend at least for now.

I had a few BF's who were fairly well endowed, but nothing close to the size hubby is talking about. (He was disappointed to hear that I consider 7" to be big!)

So, I know this is stupid, but I would really appreciate your help: what does it feel like to relax with a very well-endowed man? I can imagine how stretched and filled-in it feels, but what else can I say to hubby? I've got to describe to him - in detail - what it felt like to have sex with this fictional man. Thanks!!

~ Andrea

You say he isn't serious, but haven't given us enough information to determine whether that's true. For all we know, he is serious!

My advice is to first play with him in bed, find out just how serious he is. Talk about other guys, even if you have to invent them. The more detail about their cocks (size, texture, flavor of cum, etc. -- them's "keywords", hon), the better. Gauge his reaction. If he's serious, he'll pop like a champagne cork when you bring that subject up.

How hard can it be to determine how serious he is about this, hon? Think about it. When he's fucking you, and you start talking about other guys/other cocks, does he get harder/thicker/hornier? You'll have your answer.

If you're quite satisfied with your hosband as it is, then I feel sorry for him. My guess is, in time you'll discover the joy of superthick realman cock, fall in love with it, and lose all interest in your hubby. Just be sure to leave hubby an "out" in case he wants to change his mind. It's only fair. (Fantasy and reality are two quite harshly different things)

And if he consents to your intro to [real]/] man cock, and you fall in love with it, it'll be his fault anyway, the dumbass ...

Andrea, , if you are even considering this, why are you waiting? I've told my wife for over 5 years that I find the thought of her having sex with another man, then returning home and making me eat her the most incredibly exciting scenerio ever. All she'll say is "I could never do that" WHY NOT? Like I say, if your even thinking about it, make it so. You could tell him on a Monday that your going out for a take Friday evening with a male friend. On Tuedsay evening, hit him up for the money to get waxed on Wednesday. Don't give him any after your waxed, but tell him you need some new panties before Friday. TRUST ME! If he's serious about this, he'll LOVE YOU so much for the build up. I WISH my wife would do this to me! GOOD LUCK!

Andrea, please email me at [email protected] and I will try and explain how much I want my own wife to do the deed. I'm a STRAIGHT man, 51 years old, still fully functional. I love my wife, and the idea of her having sex with someone else is just such a huge turn on!

Andrea, I'm 20, and live in Texas. Let me know if you need somebody.

Thought I'd check in from somewhere maybe a little less out in the ozone layer...

A good way to gauge whether it's best left fantasy is to go out on a few innocent dates with someone you find attractive. You don't have to land in bed with the guy...just spend some time getting a little romantic attention with maybe nothing more than a little kissing. If your hubby adjusts okay and maybe even seems disappointed things didn't go further (that's how mine was), you probably have a clear signal to take things to the next stage. Or, if he gets upset to the point he can't handle it, maybe back off before anyone gets hurt.

Good luck

My husband tells me he wants to see me with other guys too, but I get the feeling it's all role playing. I know he likes me to be flirtacious with other men though. So maybe I'm not getting it.
Lately he has suggested that I get all slutted up and go into a bar so he can watch me flirt wth other men.
It would be easy for me, I'm 27, built and blond.
Then his plan is, pretednding to be a total stranger, to step in, take control, and leave with me - making it obvious we were leaving to have some hot anonymous sex.
I think my husband is more of a voyeur. He's not submissive at all.
All of this gets me really hot though and lately I've been checking out other guys.
Heather27

Big cocks:
My husband has a nice 7 incher. But I went with this black guy in college that had like a 9er. It filled me completely and was a little painful at first. His browness was a major turn on for me so I used to get very wet when we made out. He was a good lover too, taking his time, easing it in. It was so hot watching it go in and out of me.
My favorite position with him was doggy style, it seems he could perfectly rub my G-spot at that angle.
And I loved sucking his cock. He packed big loads.
As it turns out, he screwed lots of white chicks.
Heather27

God Heather, you think that all he wants is "roll playing"? This site is all about the mental part of a husband giving up his wife to someone else! Especially (in my humble opinion) to a very Virl Big Black Man, who has the ability to fill you up, give you that very snug feeling, and send you home dirty for your husband to enjoy afterwards. You say this has been getting you HOT lately, well HELL Woman, DO IT! Give your "loving husband" exactly what HE wants! If you were my wife, you wouldn't be still wondering if it was just roll playing that I wanted. YOUR BEAUTIFUL! [email protected]

We tried the hotwife thing and although we were able to avoid major blowup based on jealousy or whatever, it has damaged our relationship in subtle ways -- at least from my perspective

Bypassing all the issues we had to go through to keep things on track, as I look back on things after about three years, I have to conclude that opening the door to this was a mistake.

First, the fantasy thing that so many men seem to be caught up in on this site dissolves real quick and you are left to deal with some stark realities.

Although they may not say so to your face, most of the people who find out what you are doing think you are a bit weird at best and some sort of a twisted pervert at worst.

And this doesn't even count the people who are doing some of the same things but could get pissed at you for whatever reamister and start talking about your lifestyle to their sexually repressed friends.

But beyond this there is a much more important issue: the issue of what it does to your relationship with your wife.

Even though I've tried to factor out jealousy -- I think I learned to deal with that after a while -- the once close relationship my wife and I had has been damaged in subtle ways.

It's hard to describe, other than we are not as special to each other as we once were.

Although she never flaunts the experiences she has, which I know in many cases go beyond what we do together, there have to be comparimisters.

..Out of deference to my feelings, she's pretty quiet about her experiences, but I know she thinks about them. Keeping these things inside sort of puts me on the outside, if you know what I mean..

I've thought a lot about it and I think it mostly comes down to "the new and exciting." For the guys she goes out with she's new and exciting, and so it ends up being kind of mutual -- at least for a while.

Ummm, Gruntman? I don't mean to be at all disrespectful of your content, but it seems to me this is the second thread where I've read the exact same post. It is OK to share thoughts on the same theme in different places on the site, but can you keep the cut and paste to a minimum? The posts can be short. Thanks.
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hi,I like my wife to do sex with limitted number of guys , . I tryed many times with her but she is refusing ,.. tell me yur advice how to get her to accept (making sex with other men) .
turanter66

Most women I have talked to have said that after a certain length it is a negative - it hurts. The exact length seems to vary, but somewhere between 7 and 7 1/2 inches seems to be common. Thickness is the same thing. I am 5 1/4 inches and it leaves all but the very active women soar after one fuck. I'm guessing that anything beyond 6 inches would be too much for most women. A recent exception on the length thing is a current fuck friend. Her ex had 10 1/2 inches and it was thick. She says she loved every inch of it and it only hurt just before and after her period, particularly if they were doing it doggy style.

I am a muslim , realy I like to try with my wife go with anotherb man making sex ,because I can not stay with her more than 15 minutes in bed ,and she asking for more ,. for taht I adviced her to make sex with another guy she like . but she didnot accept , I LIKE HER TO GET MORE PLEASURE ,AND i love her too much .
I asked her many times to try that with another man .

tell me how to convince her for accepting my idia . please .
turanter66