Facers
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I've been part of this community for YEARS. I've posted a few pics, a video clip, shared stories and fantasies and some of our real life experiences. It was all fun, exhilarating, exciting. She and I always fantasized about more, but it never escalated from her bull being just a very short term FWB. Until this year.
Long background short: Her sex drive died for years, so no play at all. She told me to find a girlfriend to have sex with. I eventually did. It was great. It didn't last that long though because the girlfriend ended up moving. Shortly afterward, I was medically retired from the military. I've already suffered from PTSD and depression, so this blow caused me to sink hard. I went to such a dark place, I even lost my libido. I never lost my libido. So that started the vicious circle - depression, loss of libido, obsessing over loss of libido, more depression - around and around we go. At this same time, her doctor convinced her that if she wanted HER libido back, lose weight and get into better shape. Now my wife was a complete stunner even at her heaviest (which was never really all that heavy). Still, when you are out of shape, self-esteem isn't the only problem. There are health problems. When she took on weight lifting, the pounds melted off, she felt good, she looked AMAZING. Her libido came back like a raging wildfire...just as mine left.
She met a guy. She wanted it to be in our cuck dynamic. He had never been a bull before but, like any normal guy - he wanted her so bad he was willing to learn and try. To his benefit, I had checked out. I said I wasn't into it (no libido, no cuck angst, no caring about anything) so just go be happy. She did. They changed it up from trying to be a bull/hotwife to just boyfriend/girlfriend. He screwed up. She was hurt. She started to look for someone else on Tinder. He found out. He panicked. And again, like any guy with such a gorgeous, highly sexual woman - he was willing to do whatever she wanted. She wanted to try Dom/sub (he being the Dom). He dove right in. She dove right in.
I started to get testosterone treatments. They worked. MY libido came back like a wildfire. It came back too hard, too fast. It caused confusion. In an effort to clarify my confusion, I got a little mental. We had our first fight in over 15 yrs of marriage, and it was bad. She was ruthless. She referred to all the cuck fantasies we talked about. She threw them in my face. Fast forward six weeks later, everything is ok. Fight is over, healing began, we're in a good place again. Still work to do, but now it looks bright, not bleak.
One of the realizations - I am a cuck. I am now and always will be a cuck to the woman I am in a serious relationship (ie married) to. Once you truly accept it, there is no going back. I'm not talking about playing it, having a guy come over once a month for a few visits and then never hear from him again. I came to the realization that all the fantasies I shared, I wanted to fulfill for her...the life I really wanted her to have - it IS who I am. I thought about it with a hard dick (sexually amped), and I REALLY focused on it with a soft dick (no horniness or sexual desire at all). The answers are always the same.
So I told her. She's weary, a little paranoid. It was that bad of a fight. So we set some new ground rules. The first being far better communication. We thought we were great communicators. We weren't. Another rule is baby steps. No jumping straight into the deep end without thought or care. Another - experimentation and testing. This one is the bread and butter. This is she sees that I have accepted who I am and what my role is for this marriage. This is the one where she can push those limits and boundaries, slowly acquire that power we all want our hotwives and cuckoldresses to have. Let her really feel internally the way we see them: strong, powerful, confident, comfortable in their sexuality.
These tests and experiments help her see that not only are things fine again, but that I am 100% invested into delivering not just the fantasy, but the entire life.
I put the cage on myself. Usually we used the cage as foreplay. I gave her the key. I said let's start slow, but build up to longer and longer time frames. Tease me, tell me the stories, no embellishments or fantasy talk. I want to hear the real, the raw, the true. The only times I want her to unlock me is when she wants to use it, or when I get to see a girlfriend (if I ever meet one).
Our rules will mostly be made as situations arise. We will talk it out and come to an agreement.
She said she fell in love with him, and he fell in love with her. She said that since I was "checked out" for so long (sexually, emotionally, mentally) that her relationship with him began to feel monogamous. During our arguing, that hurt and that was where I focused my attack. I will NOT be replaced, I will NOT be second in my marriage. You can't say you are poly because you are in love with him and married to me, but then call your relationship with him monogamous. Now, I fully support it. I support it as a cuck, I support it as a poly. I support it as an ethical non-monogamist. Now I feel the need, a damn near obsession, to help her nurture it.
Over the past week along, she has seen him four days. They never saw each other more than twice a week before, and that was rare. They had spent the night before, and I expect that to increase in both occurrences and durations. I actually want it to. I see how happy she is when she comes home from seeing him.
My wife is not a cold, cruel, or mean person. She will never be the kind of cuckoldress we talk about often here. She doesn't do the ***********, but she sure loves seeing me humiliated. She can't pick on me, bully me, cause me any physical or emotional pain/angst, but she does love to make me squirm and suffer. She knows where my physical buttons are, and while locked in a cage she takes full advantage to make me squirm, to want, to desire. Still, she can never get to THAT level. So I take that into my own hands. I changed my lock screen to say "Hello I am a Cuck". I told the couple we are friends with (they are swingers) that I am going to become a full time cuckold to this relationship she has and that I am wearing a chastity cage. The female of that couple, generally a submissive herself, has really jumped on board with the teasing and torturing. It's a little embarrassing because this girl thought I could fit the mold of a dom. Well, never again in her eyes.
My wife calls me bitch, sissy, and wimp in front of them (and she struggles to do that, lol. She still has to be in "playful" mode to do it). I accept it. I take it. So it encourages her to do more.
Her birthday is coming up. We're going to invite all of our lifestyle friends. We really want her boyfriend to come, but he's weary (he knows about the fight, so it's understandable). I want her big day to be in front of all of our friends (and some of his) while she is with him as a couple. Me? I'm grilling, serving, and wearing an "I am her cuckold" apron. I literally want to do this!
During our argument, I dared her to go live with him full time for one to two weeks. I said "since you made me feel replaced, go see if you really feel as much as you do and if so, we can end this marriage". Now, I want her to go spend that time with him for other reasons. I want them to build on their love and devotion. I want her to wake up with him every day. I want him to know he truly has her entirely. I want him to hear her say these things to him so he sees she feels it too. The thought of them not just doing Dom/sub scenes or fucking, but making deep, soul penetrating love drives me up a wall sexually, and comforts me outside of "hard dick" thinking.
She loves me. We still kiss, cuddle, hold hands. We go to a club and slow dance. We talk and laugh and have fun. We connect on the level we always have. I don't want that to change at all. But I want him to be her Alpha, her true man. I want to be her cuckold. I want to be caged while she's out with him, for however long she is gone. I want to cook, clean, do the laundry so she has more time to spend with him (and then, later, me - I want the "aftercare", the love and comfort and bonding).
Our cuckold play had me being a submissive, wimpy bitch in the bedroom and no one dare even think that about me outside. Outside the bedroom I WAS alpha. I was full man.
Too much work.
Now I am ok if people know. I am ok to submit to my wife outside of the bedroom. I want this to be a female led marriage. She's the boss. Whatever she wants, I will deliver. I swore to always make her happy. I made her real miserable for awhile there. I now want to spend the rest of my life making her happy and making up for this slip.
She can't get enough of this guy. He fills the voids I never could (a strong argument in the poly community). I want him to fill those voids. I will fill others, we will share others still.
Since we're not just in a "take it forward further than ever before", we're also in recovery mode. Now that we both have a sex drive, we both want to have sex with each other. Since she goes condomless with him, I'll wear a condom. We need to reconnect and then diminish that as if this just started and I never checked out. Eventually, I expect her to go back to that monogamy, that loyalty and dedication to him and being his. I'll settle for handjobs and then eventually her just watching me masturbate - just like we fantasized about, just like I promised she could have. At the same time, she has been dying to ***** with him more. We read that there is some science behind a woman becoming addicted to a lovers semen. Their bodies start to need it, crave it. They get depressed when they lose it. The mere thought that my wife biologically NEEDS him hits me in every case. When I tell her that I want her to take this fix to new levels, her eyes lit like stars. She IS that in love with him.
This is the ultimate cuckold subforum. I know most of it deals with permanent chastity, a monogamous and faithful cuck that is cut off completely while married to a hotwife. I know it's a lot interracial and extreme. Still, this experience and path we are on now - I think THIS is about as ultimate as you can get (short of pregnancy, still a possibility btw). I will become docile in my marriage. She is going to take over. She will be so well loved in her own home with me. She will have a clean home at all times, all her laundry done, meals made. I want to give her the world. This is how I do it. I don't just want her to see how strong, powerful, beautiful she is. I want her to know it, feel it, live it.
I am going to become the PERFECT cuckold husband. 24/7. Not because she wants it, because I do. She'll love it. She's dying to see it happen. She's not ******* it. She's not demanding it. That makes me want to give it to her even more.
He gets all of her. He gets to take her out, introduce her to his friends. They'll see the wedding rings. They know he isn't married. He'll be making out with her at those gatherings. They'll hear each other talk about how much they love each other. They'll even let their friends know that cucky is fully aware of it. She doesn't have to outwardly humiliate me, make me feel cucky. It'll happen naturally. All she has to focus on is being happy, getting everything I promised, as well as everything he promises.
This is the ultimate cuckolding. Everyone knowing, she and him being THE couple, and me happier than ever that she is happy, and dying to find new ways to make her happy and to serve her. Sexually, I am dying to be teased, denied, ********. I want to hear the stories, see pictures and video. I will NEVER get to watch them in person. He made that clear when they went to the Dom/sub thing. He might fuck her at a lifestyle party in front of HIS friends and other couples...but I know he doesn't want me anywhere near him or her/him as a couple. All I can do is accept and respect. That is my place. I embrace it. I love it.
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