New Poll - [CUCKOLD COUPLES] Are you "out" about your lifestyle?

I'm curious - for those of you who planned it to be "out", did you find this lessened the excitement of it all? Or increased it?

I would think keeping it illicit would be far more exciting, but I suppose if you're more into offense, it might be more exciting to out yourselves.

Do you think that's the main difference between those who do NOT want others to know, and those who DO?
Wannabe - see my captions at http://www.cuckoldplace.com/27_74912_1.html

You're dead on cuckaliciousr. I found it increased it hugely because I am into offense. My wife found it took a lot of the thrill out of "sneaking around." In some ways it led to some decrease in her affairs. But she also found it was a relief to be able to talk to friends about it and all her feelings and to have people introduce her to boyfriends, since she has never been an assertive seductress.

Even for me there were some mixed outcomes. As I say, I loved the offense and I still get off on the memories of some of the "coming outs." But on the other hand, the "out" lifestyle has led to a normalization of my status that has left me a bit isolated and deprived of the thrill of potential exposure. I guess you can't have both the anticipation and the memory.
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Cuckaliciousr:You raised a great question that helped cause a breakthrough. I really appreciate it. That's why this site, though much of it is just for fun, has at times been so helpful.

When it all started, I never wanted to be a cuck. I played football, served in a combat unit in the Marines and still have a big cock. But from the time I met my wife, she slowly started digging into my psyche. When it came time to resist getting fucked by a bull, I opened my legs and took cock like a bitch. Immediately, she told her parents and as she started transforming my body, it wasn't a big shock to the rest of our friends when we "came out."

Over the last four years, we've moved from the Bay Area to San Diego and over the summer we moved to the deep South because of my wife's job. We've done the coming out party several times.

My wife runs in a crowd of dominate females and her parents endorse her cheating, so she's never felt the thrill of doing something illicit or the need to sneak around.

Shockingly enough, even in a place where people still casually throw around the N-word, I had no problem finding clients when I opened a yoga studio after relocating. All of our new friends know about me and I'm barely teased about it.

My man-in-law, a former Marine pilot and successful businessman, bought me a golfing skirt and top as my Christmas present to coax me into playing eighteen holes with him over the holidays. He's about as butch as a guy gets but realizes, I am what I am. He let's me tee off from the forward tees and didn't feel odd about touching me to help me fix my slice. He did get pissed when I beat him and my lady-in-law won't stop teasing him about it.

The breakthrough came after I started thinking about your question.

I realized the real source of my offense. It's not the teasing because that kind of implies I could "man up." Every time I come out, people tease somewhat but more or less act like it's not a big surprise. At bottom, there's still the lingering tension of accepting that I'm not a man but a completely submissive feminized male. Having what appears to be the one contrary opinion, obviously, I've got the wrong one.

Thanks again for prompting me to get closer to accepting the truth.

Wow, luvembig!

Thanks for sharing! I've read a few of your postings and am amazed at your life, and feel honored that what I wrote helped you have a breakthrough.

Would love to hear your story from the beginning... how it all came about.
Wannabe - see my captions at http://www.cuckoldplace.com/27_74912_1.html

Hi Cuckaliciousr:

Thank you so much for your kindess. I'm man enough to say it made me cry.

It took considerable begging to get my wife to agree to let me respond, and considerable editing by her, so it took a while. Hopefully, it's ok to send you a private mail.

We met my first day of college. Most people did some stuff at 18 that they probably wouldn't do when they got older so she didn't want it in a general post.

I voted yes - after people were told.

mrs two used to be the one that wouldn't when she went out with her single friends, it was very strict before we slowly got into this lifestyle. Then she became the one that was most likely to pull (in part because she is the best looking amongst her friends )

So she has had to educate her friends and her sister that yes she now is available, and looking. Just read the post I put on today on our main story below and you will see what I mean...

https://www.cuckoldplace.com/6_58380_1.html