the cuckold who is in the dark

There are many, many cuckolds who do not know that's what they are because we (their wives) hide it from them. I know lots of mwfs who are cheating on their husbands regularly with Black Men but we hide it because we know our husbands would divorce us on the spot and the courts (here in the South) would side with the husband in such a case. So we have gotten very good at hiding what we do and fucking as much Black dick as we can. But that does not mean we don't have fantasies about telling our impotent or inattentive husbands...god I would LOVE to tell him! So how about some caps where the white wife does exactly that.....please?

Thats' hot just hearing you say that, because it sounds like something my wife would say. She has had several affairs during our marriage. I know a couple, because I caught her or found out. Tried all these years to get her to cuckold me but she acts like she's a virgin, wouldn't do nothing like that. She has fucked nearly every best friend I've had over the years. Acts like she never done anything. Any suggestions on how to begin the lifestyle together?

The keyword is COMMUNICATION! In the case of twainfriend you must let her know how much you love her unfaithful behavior...you must convince her that you are sincere because evidently she does not believe you would accept being cuckolded and hides it from you. In the case of jodired she should maybe hypothetically pose questions to her Southern husband...the macho thing is very alive in the south and men think they have to be possessive of their woman in order to be seen as a real man, but the cuckold desire can live within the most macho of all macho men...it must be cultivated and awakened by a conning and intelligent wife who can bring him around to not only accepting his role as a cuckold, but enjoying it as well. The fact that you like BBC serves to reinpower your control of him or that you wish to have over him...work on it slowly and some day you may have him sitting on a corner watching you fuck your BBC while he jerks off and later thanks you by licking your well used pussy clean and buying you presents. Good luck. It can work!!

This topic is hot , makes my dick throb !!

Had similar situations , when a girl mentions she like big black guys my dick starts to get hard and twitch.

JODIRED, That,s called cheating not cuckolding
eezdaze

And the difference is?
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"I waxed my grass today and threw up all over my wife's dandelions as I thought about her baking a table."

Because, Juanito and I_A_S_P, words have meanings. Cheating is a spouse who does so without the other spouse's knowledge. Cuckolding is done by the wife, with or without the husband's approval; but certainly with his knowledge.

As above, the words are good words but end up being total nonsense if used incorrectly. The definiton of "cuckold" has become bastardized much like the definiton of "gay" has.

How does one go about waxing grass?
Win some...
Lose some...
Few are rained out

The normally accepted difference is that a "cuckold" is a man who knows and tolerates that his wife/partner is being fucked by other men whereas when a wife "cheats" the husband does not know and has not given his approval. Its a whole different ball game especially psychologically. I've fucked a few cheating wives and cucked a few husbands. The buzz from using a wife in front of her cuckold husband is very differnt rom sneaking about behind his back

Regardless, it is much more fun and excitement for the wife and lover to sneak and enjoy an intimate cheat rather than entertain a third wheel, wanking hubby! Two is company, three is...........
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My wife sees other men, but I'm never allowed to know anything except what I figure out on my own. I've never asked and never intend to about what she does. She doesn't need or want my approval, and it wouldn't matter if I gave it or not. She does who she wants, when she wants, and as often as she wants and I fully support her doing so. She has the right to have all the sex she needs as I can't give her everything. Even if I could, she still has the right to do as she sees fit.
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hando
yes quite right

I love hand's attitude towards his cuckolding wife...we (good cuckys) should give our queens all the freedom they deserve and should support them in all their outside extramarital cuckolding activities. I even buy the condoms my wife likes to carry in her purse when she goes on the prowl with her single girlfriend to singles meat market bars...I love it when she ends up getting laid good and proper...even more so if she ends up doing more than one guy. It's good that her girl friend goes along (she's a total slut) because there's safety in numbers and sometimes they have picked up as many as four guys which have used and passed the two women between them until all were thoroughly exhausted from fucking each other's brains out!

I think it really comes down to philosophy. In a true Femdom/cuckold relationship, the wife is free to do as she pleases. It's her choice if she wants her cuck to know. Bull/cuckold relationships are different, the wife isn't in charge, but dominated by the bull.

I think jodired is an interesting example of the divide in schools of thought regarding the cuckolded husbands role in the adulterous sex life of his wife. Her husband is what I would call the classic cuckold in the sense that he is unaware of his wife's cheating, undoubtedly the most common form of cuckolding. All of us men who congregate here on this site account for the minority opinion in that we either do have wives or girlfriends who fuck other guys or wish we did and we approve and encourage. Jodired said in her opening of the thread and I quote "...we hide it because we know our husbands would divorce us on the spot..." The obvious conclusion here is that at least as far as she knows, her husband would certainly disapprove of her activities as do most men who discover that their wife has been fucking someone else. It's called dishonesty and betrayal. One thing about this site that I find fascinating and puzzling at the same time is the two separate camps of men's attitudes with regard to the knowledge they have of their wife's activities. A large portion of posters here are perfectly happy being kept in the dark about whether or not their wives are fucking around just happy with the hope and possiblity that her pussy is being tampered with. No burning desire whatsoever for details, no need to be included in any way. In straight terms, ok with being lied to. The other group of men here fall into the category of "I need to be aware of what my wife is up to" and included to some degree or another ranging from the wife providing details about her lovers right up to watching her and even being involved in the sexual episodes. I permisterally identify with this group. I think eezdaze who posted above also falls into this group because he stated that he belives jodired's infidelities to be "cheating not cuckolding." While he is technically incorrect in his belief (if your wife fucks around, you are a cuckold regardless of whether or not you are aware of it), that seems to be a common misunderstanding around this site. Sorry sissyfluff, you are wrong. The man having knowledge is not part of the definition. It's not difficult to reamister how that misunderstanding proliferates around here when most of the examples (stories, videos etc.) are authored or provided by men who are aware and involved in their wife's lifestyle. A guy whose wife is screwing behind his back isn't going to show up here with a video because he's most likely not into it and more importantly, doesnt even know about it.

Which brings me back to the "I'm ok being lied to" group. This idea completely baffles my mind. Don't get me wrong, I'm not attacking or criticizing anyone for their preferences, to each his own. In a way I'm envious of this group because they turn lemons into lemonade so to speak. The lies and betrayal coupled with the sexual aspects of the infidelity are what seem to get them off. I'm not an expert by any means but maybe the difference in the two groups is the level of submissivness in the man. I myself could never go for that. I would love it if my wife started fucking another guy but if I didn't know about it and was being lied to in order for her to keep it a secret from me, what good does that do me? Not to mention that their are many other important aspects of marriage (or relationships) that don't have anything to do with sex where i need to know that I can trust my wife to be honest, youngren and finances quickly come to mind. How can accepting betrayal even be an option? In a marriage, it's a character flaw plain and simple. For myself, whatever alternative arrangement my wife and I agree to go with is great and nobody else's place to criticize or judge because we make the rules and it's nobody elses business, but it has to be above board. Hopefully one day she'll realize how lucky she is to be with a man who allows and encourages her sexual freedom and take advantage. Or maybe she'll be an idiot and sneak around in the shadows with a new cock until she gets caught in which case I'll be single again. Or maybe neither...who knows?

As for jodired, you are a shell of a woman. You'd "love" to tell your husband that you're fucking black cock? Oh but you can't because he'd exercise his right to dump you and fuck you in court the same way you've been fucking him over all these years. What you are engaged in isn't sexy in the least, it's scumbaggery. You are a***ing your husband no different than if he came home and kicked your ass sideways every other night. Which he might do by the way if he finds out. Why don't you give him a fair chance instead of being a coward? Maybe he'd be into it? Sometimes it's hard to tell fantasy from reality on this site so forgive me if i just buzz*******ed the fantasy but if what you said above is true, I pity you and your husband. If you're not honest you're not cuckolds brownie. You're on here celebrating the fact that you could potentially put your husband in a world of hurt. Nice going, something to be proud of! Back pats all around!

geecrizz

Yeah but.....................

You are looking at things from what you perceive to be the viewpoints of men.

jodired is just stating the basic attitude that females have of cuckolding. I'm confident that most wifes reading her post would give high fives to her ideas!

Every man who fantasizes over cuckolding should diligently consider the female view of the situation first. Her post is a very good start. jodired is not a "shell of a woman" in any way at all. She is an honest woman who is speaking the thoughts of many a wife! It can't hurt to listen to her!
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What an interesting thread...

I tend to see cuckolding slightly differently than it's often spoken of. Yes, TECHNICALLY, a cuckold is someone who's had a partner go outside of the relationship for sex -- whether or not they knew about it. However, I feel like the definition of a 'Cuckold' is changing because of it's use as a porn genre and fetish term.

The original posting is on the topic of extra-marital affairs. The husbands do not know, and their willingness to remain in their relationships are based on monogamous arrangements -- that's most commonly referred to as 'Cheating.' Does that also mean the permister is a Cuckold? Again, technically it does.

There seems to be some confusion as to what we're talking about here. Cuckolding, the way I think of it as a fetish term, is a non-monogamous relationship that is open on one side. I also don't think it is gender specific, but that's another topic for another day.

I agree that the key fundamental difference between cheating on your husband and cuckolding him ('cuckolding' as the fetish term outlined earlier in this comment) is that the cuckold is a willing participant in the arrangement. Most often, the man is able to sexualize the arrangement in a way that adds to his sexual happiness.

I've said all of that to say this -- if you are cheating on your husband, he's not aware/willing, and you're not planning on telling him, you're not being fair to him. If a permister doesn't want to be in a non-monogamous relationship, they shouldn't have to.

Dishonesty and betrayal are serious offenses in any relationship. Justify it however you want to, but successful and consensual non-monogamous relationships only exist where great communication exists.

Now that I've made how I feel clear about that, there's still this pressing business of communicating to your husbands that you've not been faithful. Obviously, you should expect that the partner may not respond very well to that fact, and you need to be prepared to let that relationship end in that event. Let's not be too coy, you're the assholes in this situation.

However, if the relationship was already a 'female-led' one, and the husband is open minded, I can visualize A possible scenario where the relationship can accept new boundaries. If they already get off looking at cuckold porn and reading erotica to that topic, there is a relatively good chance of him accepting the wife's infidelities.

How do you tell him? You heat the water up slowly, and you fully accept the possibility that they might not want to remain in the relationship.

Just remember, being lied to and cheated on can be an emotionally distressful experience. I wish you the best in changing the relationship's terms -- it's not unheard of -- I just also feel passionatehe that regardless of your reamistering for going outside the marriage, if the guy is not willing to accept your extra-curricular activities, then you need to either pull up your big girl panties and find your happiness in more acceptable sources or you need to set the guy free... it's the right thing to do.
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Interesting arguments on both sides. Perhaps you might understand my behavior if you knew my situation better. I went Black at the age of 31 and that day had the first orgasms of my life. My husband believes that sex is ONLY for procreation, so we only made love once a month, and none of those sessions lasted longer than a few seconds (literally). Husband does not understand or approve of sex for pleasure.

Fairly recently, he became aware of an affair I had with the Black janitor at our small church. He has NO idea that this was only a small part of my sexual behavior over the years. But we have agreed to separate and divorce next summer, when out young (yes, it is his, i did not go Black till well after young was born) leaves for college. At that point i will be free to pursue a freer sexual lifestyle. In the meantime, I still hide my behavior as I do not want to give husband a reamister to fight be on property settlement issues. Yes i know that makes me seem like a money-hungry shrew, but I feel I deserve something out of a 22 year marriage.

However he found out, it's good that he knows. Too bad for him he's not with it. I must say in fairness, if what you say is true, he sounds extremely lame in an important department and for that I have great empathy for your situation. For the record, minus the deception, i'm digging the hell out of you! You look great in the pix, especially the ones where you are wearing stockings. I like hearing REAL women's opinions on this subject matter too so keep it up please! Picturing you cumming on a big black dick rates way high on the hot scale. I only wish I was your hubby so you could tell me hella good stories while I jerked off. Then i'd give you my blessing! Good luck.

He decided that he didn't want to be the man you married. Because of that you had to make many adjustments to your life to compensate for his lack of support. Including finding sexual relief elsewhere. Now you have to start a new life thanks to HIS shortcomings! Hire a good lawyer, keep him on the defensive at all times, take his ass to divorce court and give him the royal fucking that he so rightfully deserves! Stand your ground! You'll be OK......

So... What is wrong here? Let's start with the last paragraph of "advocacy". It is assumed that you were at least 21 when you married a man several years your senior. I'm sure one major reamister was his wisdom and knowledge and mature behavior over your contemporary males. It is assumed that you were aware of his sexual beliefs and performance, morals and philosophy when you married (other words: You had your eyes open going into this). But age is only a number, right? Maybe 10 years later you realized that maybe there was something more to age than a number. You went elsewhere for sex. Not love. Sex.

Hubby is a pillar of the community, has provided you a good, loving and stable home and life. Lives the life he believes in and practices what he preaches. Think you can go on the offence against his behavior in court compared to yours and win, huh? What ground do you really have to stand on here? Suppose that you do win and turn out OK. How many people will you fuck up besides the life of hubby and your young, as you drag the sex indiscretions of how many others into things to make your case? What exactly is your case anyway?

So, again, what is really wrong here? I feel that jodired is under great stress. I feel that she is overwhelmed with many legitimate concerns. She is 44 and dealing with normal physical and hormonal changes - which ain't easy for any woman. Her husband for all of her adult life is ill. Her young is growing up and heading out into the world. She may feel small, unwanted and unneeded. Possible past indiscretions now threaten her future financial and living conditions. She is sexually frustrated. She has zero self esteem. She is frightened and terrified of ending up alone. She feels absolutely lost and hopelessly beyond reach. Her dignity, respect and honor....... She is creating her own storm!

Can we fix this??? The only thing broken here is jodired's heart. She may feel like a grain of sand on the beach. Sand doesn't have a name, a young, a sick husband, friends that love and need and rely upon her like jodired does! Another poster suggested she put on her big girl panties, grow up and accept her responsibilities. I believe that all she needed was a little understanding. She knows how to live properly.

What about hubby??? He is ill. He needs a loving, caring wife more than anything right now. He has that in jodired! I suggest that she search her soul and then have a thorough heart to heart with hubby. I suggest that she select a suitable long handled hairbrush, present it to her husband, and ask him to correct her with it. She needs a damn good spanking and her husband is the only man on earth that can administer it to her properly! He will make her forget about bbc pretty quickly, I'd say!
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