14PLDR18
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At this point, we don't know. BUT she has opened the door for talk. It is going to take lots of talk and thought before it happens. She wants to know how far you will go and what you will do to make it happen. Take it slow. Don't nag or bug her. Watch some non porno movies with interracial themes. (Mandingo is the genre maker, but it is such a horrible movie, don't go there!)
Be clever, be devious.
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JUANITO
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My wife, although she had several white guys, had not wanted to do it with a black man because she always placed a lot of importance on looks and she said that black guys just didn't turn her on...said that she wasn't attracted to them. She always picked her few and far between (white) sex partners because she thought they were either 'cute' or 'handsome' or just looked 'hot'. When she finally was able to let go of her inhibitions towards black dudes and she let herself go (she was actually pretty high the night she did it) with a mixed guy (he had a black dad, white mom)...the guy fucked her so well that she later admitted she had cummed like horse...he had about 8 inches and knew just how to work it into a hot white wife. From that time on she was 'broken in'...she no longer needed a lot of convincing about black men, and I even catch her checking out black dudes with sexual glances that she later admits to me is because they look like they'd be a good fuck! I hope within the next year to take her to Jamaica where she can get all the BBC that her hungry pussy needs!  |
JUANITO
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I guess there's something true about the old saying "Once you go black you won't go back"....she still enjoys sex with me (and some other very good looking white guys), but she says it's mostly because she loves me and all the other kinky things I do to her(licking her clit, etc.)...she has admitted, however, that when it comes to just a straight fuck, missionary or doggy style, she would much prefer to have a young black man with a big cock! How things change with a little convincing!!
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Gnostic
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I think she is letting you know that she's willing to consider it, but that she has a number of unspoken concerns (these may be based on her background, life experiences, stereotypes picked up from different sources, as well as on some insecurities that she may have about your relationship).
The fact that, even before admitting to actually "considering" it, she is insisting that you be present would indicate that she has some concerns about her permisteral security and/or how you would react if she were to have sex with a black man. These are easily enough addressed: you will simply have to agree to be there and make sure that, no matter what happens (as long as the guy is respectful and does nothing to harm her), you react in a positive and loving way towards her before, during and afterwards--no matter what you may be feeling (ie, if you get jealous, you must suppress and hide it at all costs!). One way to reduce or eliminate any concerns that she may have about her permisteral security would be to arrange for a "no pressure, no sex" first meeting--over takes or preferably coffee--to get acquainted after you have selected someone to get together with. By exchanging emails and talking on the phone, first, you can eliminate anyone that might make her nervous or overtly concerned before arranging a first meeting in a public place on neutral ground. If the guy you select is "for real" and a decent guy, he won't object to such an arrangement.
Don't rush into a first encounter. Take your time in selecting a nice guy that she wants to meet--preferably someone with experience dealing with "newbies". There are plenty of nice, decent black men out there, so don't just jump at the first guy that comes along unless he meets your--by which I mean HER--criteria.
And, as a number of people have suggested, take it SLOW.
There have been some good suggestions offered on how to proceed and I would follow those suggestions. But, ultimately, you're going to have to end up talking to her and I would suggest that you try to find out what her concerns are and do everything that you can to reassure her that you will be there with her and for her and that, above all, you will love her just as much, if not more, afterwards (and stick by this, no matter what!!!).
One other thing: DON'T show her interracial or cuckold forums on the internet at this point unless it's one that has a forum just for beginners! The people who post on a lot of forums are folks who are either very experienced and have done a lot of things that she would probably consider "way out there" or people who are posting fantasies. If she reads those kinds of posts, it will scare her to death and she will never consider actually having sex with a black man. I would limit what you show her on the internet to photos, some select videos and stories that you select on a site like Literotica or Dark Wanderer or maybe ASSTR.org Keep the themes of what you show her consistent with the kinds of things she likes and as seemingly "vanilla" as possible for now. If she decides to have sex with a black guy and her interests begin to evolve from there, then you can expand the range of what you introduce her to. But, for right now, I would be very careful about not exposing her to too much. She needs to be reassured at this point, not scared (and some of the stuff on these forums and sites can be scary for a woman at this stage).
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