fleshlight instead of sex with wife

About a year ago my wife and I purchased a 'fleshlight' for me to use. Our schedules do not line up often and sex is a rarity for us on the best of times. However, now that she has a somewhat regular lover, sex has stopped alltogether. I have had to use my fleshlight more times than I care to think about, while she and her lover enjoy sex much more often than I. Yes, I know this is how many people on here think it should be, but for us, it has been diffferent...until now.

I know this will reverse itself in time and I will someday have the pleasure of sex with my wife again, but yesterday, while 'making love' to my fleshlight, the thought occured to me that this wonderful device could be used by those few women out there who are "true Cuckoldrix" as a way to wean their hubbies off of sex completely. This device doesn't feel exactly like a woman, because it has no muscles, but it is very close!

All you would have to do is first, put your hubby on a restricted 'diet' of sex, say once a month or so. After a few months, when it is time for his 'special day', substitute the fleshlight for your own body. Encourage him to cum hard and fast in it, take pictures and/or videos. Once he has cum in it, remark about how quick he was and how much he produced. Use this for the next month as "proof" that he would rather have sex with the fleshlight than you. After a few months of this, he will miss your pussy, but only think of the fleshlight as his release.

The result is that you no longer have to have his cum inside you at all, freeing you to persue your lover's sex as often as you like. This would also be the time to bring up the idea of moving him to teh guest room and bringing your lover in full time. My wife and I discussed this several times, but never took it that far.

...just some random thoughts...

An excellent notion pirateinthemountains. My own wife weaned my off sex in a similar, if more time consuming way. She transitioned me through humping her bare leg and butt without penetration, to humping her through her clothes, to stroking off, to humping the bed, and then the carpet, etc. We finally transitioned to something similar to your fleshlight - a latex mold of a porn stars pussy and ass from a sex shop. From there it was an easy step to an inflatable doll. Overtime she also moved from being a sometimes encouraging, sometimes commanding participant, to a supportive one, then to a disinterested one, and then to an infrequent one, humoring me from time to time. Now she quite rarely participates at all.

I have to say that in my experience this really works for those who are deep into humil-iation and degradation. The humil-iation of foregoing your theoretical prerogative of penetrating your wife is so intense that you have a powerful orgasm. Just as the scenario begins to lose its sting, she moves you down a notch - keeping your kink supercharged. If all the time she is little by little reducing her participation (as my wife did), it adds to you offense and shame, but more importantly you really begin to associate sex with the item or activity and not with her.

Now I am at the point where when the idea of sex pops into my head it is usually an image of the doll (or the -male - doll made real) and almost never my wife. When I'm horny I yearn for the doll and not her body anymore. It took years, but we've come far.

As for your situation pirateinthemountains, I suspect that your dry spell is just a phase and she will soon be back to you. I was a willing participant in my own weaning (although admittedly, I never really thought it would work). I don't think you need to worry too much as you have a solid, communicating, loving relationship with your wife and she is not likely to try to power you a direction you really don't want to go.

Good luck in the meantime.
Pantalone, Wittol, oblate, abnegator, fellator, pathic, irrumatiophile,fop, epicene, cotquean, skivvy, thrall, and pilgarlic.

this is my biggest fetish! Being totally sexually denied! My gf isn't totally into being a dominatrix or anything, but she has no problem with my submissive desire to lick her pussy. Once she has cum from that she is quite satisfied. She used to feel guilty and want to let me fuck her, give me a bj or an hj, but she has come to realize how much I get off on being denied.

I haven't had my cock inside her pussy since new years 2010 and I can't remember my last bj. I usually get off by jerking off in her presence of humping her feet, which I have a huge fetish for. I still get a hj once in awhile.

Its tough I'm very torn on one hand I want to experience all the pleasure her body has to offer, but on the other hand being denied all that and have to jerk off like a little boy is super hot! Oh our crazy fetishes!

A few days ago, my wofe allowed me to have sex with her & it was amazing! She didn't allow me to cuminside her, which I usually do, but the fact that I was allowed penetration again is a big relief. However, she has been seeing a new guy that I haven't met yet. She says they aren't having sex yet, but I know from experience it is only a matter of time.

I am 100% devoted to her and renewed that promise the day she allowed sex. I also appologized for cheating on her, even though she is the one that set it up and still tells me it is my choice, she is okay with me having another sexual partner, male or female. We love each other and both have a level of trust that most people nevere achieve, so I know this is sincere, but I truly only want her.

I am thinking of asking her to place me in a chastity device. We played with a CB2000 years ago, but it won't stay on me long term. I slip out of it when I am completely soft. If I do suggest it, I want to have a different device in mind, hopefully one that isn't super expensive, or requires a piercing to make secure. Any ideas would be most welcome...

there was a great caption about this in the caption forum..

But it seems to me that even with a fake pussy, i only deserve sloppy seconds, so I would have to convince her boyfriend to fuck it first.

what a great concept. my wife and i are starting to explore this possibility. can we be weaned off sex with a fake pussy? loved your random thoughts pirate

Deep down inside we must feel that all white husbands should be in chastity and only cum when performing cuckold duties.

A good job of cunt sucking might be rewarded with a vibrator on the prostate.

Then again, it might not.

Agree. Does anyone else have thoughts on being denied real pussy?

When was the last time you fucked her?
HIT1969

Have you thought about getting a piercing to power it to stay on (and be more ahhh... secure... ?
HIT1969

I am really resistant to the idea of a piercing, but would be open to one of the more secure types of belts, if it weren't for the cost...I simply can't afford that kind of price.

Castity is more in the mind than any other place. We must simply train our minds to accept the thought. One idea, somewhat proposed here, would be to slowely wean onself off of sex altogether via a device such as the fleshlight. Once this step has been firmly completed, and it will not be quick I'm sure, the next step would be to limit the frequency of sessions with it until it is only a memory as well.

This would take a bit of eagerness on both people or it would not work....and we men tend to be weak in that department.

Hi,

nice topic. My wife loves the idea of the fleshlight, as a way to tease me about not getting any real pussy. I suspect she might get me one for my birthday. But as for "weaning" me off-- that went cold turkey! She decided one day that we would not have sex until she got fucked by someone else, and though it took over a month, she stuck to it. After that, though, she decided not to go back to my rather disappointing little penis at all. As a true wimp, and someone who in fact is just embarrassed and ashamed that he can't satisfy his woman, i did not resist her denial. It has been well over 2 years now since i had pussy (apart from sucking it).

My birthday, 2001.

My inflatable lover and I have been together over five years and will be celebrating the fourth anniversary of being totally exclusive soon! (To clarify, I have performed sexually with others in that time, but my orgasms are exclusive to him.)
Pantalone, Wittol, oblate, abnegator, fellator, pathic, irrumatiophile,fop, epicene, cotquean, skivvy, thrall, and pilgarlic.

So it turns out that I will be giving up sex for my fleshlight after all. I have been promised sex for the next few months, on occasion, then I will be cut off for a year. Not really sure how I feel about it...

...but to make it 'easier' on me, I won't see her naked either. I expect she will tell me about her lovers from time to time, but sex will be only with my fleshlight, and as often as I want it....I hope I don't wear it out...

pirateinthemountains - Do you know when the last time will be before that year starts? Or is she planning to surprise you. Please keep us up to date how it goes? That sort of event is overflowing with potential for some serious taunting and teasing

not sure of the exact date, but I expect it to be sometime in July

...although, I do have to day that the last few times I have been allowed inside her, I did not "finish", if you know what I mean.

Wow! My wife allowed me to have sex with her, after her lover . Naturally, he is much larger than I and she was rather loose and very sloppy with their cum. But, I was able to both bring her to orgasm (again) and cum myself! I have been told the end for me might be in mid June...we will see....

we've had similiar discussions about the 'last time' as well. it turns me on and scares me at the same time

When my wife told me that she would never let me enter her again I came in my panties. It was ten years ago and we were in Europe. We were in bed, with the french windows open to the iron railing that looked out on a romantic, travel-poster view. After she made her pronouncement, I asked her if it was for real. She said yes. I asked if she really meant never, ever for the rest of our lives and she repeated that. Then she had me thank her for it. The next night she had me thank her repeatedly and beg her to stay true to her commitment.

I never shouted, but she did have me speak-out in a clear voice in the quiet evening. We were traveling with friends. They were in the next room and the hotel had very thin walls. I've always wondered if they heard and suspected that they did because they were cool on the return and we never heard from them or saw them again after the trip.
Pantalone, Wittol, oblate, abnegator, fellator, pathic, irrumatiophile,fop, epicene, cotquean, skivvy, thrall, and pilgarlic.

That is hot! I suspect it will help. My wife and I have often talked about something like that, but she felt it would be too much work for her logistically in terms of home life, so she opted to put me in chastity instead. It did not make it easier (as I think not seeing her naked would have) on me, but it did make it easier for her on-balance.
Pantalone, Wittol, oblate, abnegator, fellator, pathic, irrumatiophile,fop, epicene, cotquean, skivvy, thrall, and pilgarlic.

Any update on the denial yet?
Natural Born Cuckold
Pussy-Free For Life starting 02-26-2017, 2633 days as of 05-13-2024

Yes...last time for sex for me was a few weeks ago.

I think what makes it worse is that I didn't know it was the last time until later.

You most likely wouldn't have done anything different if you knew it was the last time, anyway. Falsely looking forward to one more time is a big disappointment, though.

I never know if it will be hours or months for me. We usually have sex in groupings, like three times in a weekend, and then nothing for weeks or months. The longest I've gone since being married was 7 months, and I began to wonder if I would ever have sex again. If my wife even comes to bed with me, she will announce in some way she isn't interested, like saying she is tired or has to get up early or something similar. The rest of the time, she will watch TV until she is sure I'm arelax, and then she will sneak into bed without waking me. Right now, I am at four weeks and counting. I've kept track for the last 4 years, and we average about once a month, but that is very typically 3 times in 3 days, and then nothing for 4 months. As you can imagine, I get very excited and usually only last from 10 seconds to maybe a minute after such long periods in between penetrations. 10 seconds a month isn't much, is it?

She and I used to have sex nearly every day at least once, but she seems to want to avoid it the last 10 or 15 years. I don't know if she is seeing somebody else or what. She has plenty of opportunity if she wants others, and I'm sure she has taken advantage of her freedom at least a few times, but I'm always left totally in the dark

At least you have some kind of timetable to work with. I expect nothing all the time, for years, even.
Natural Born Cuckold
Pussy-Free For Life starting 02-26-2017, 2633 days as of 05-13-2024

once when wifey let me out of my cage she wrapped my cock in bubble wrap, and told me to get on my knees at the side of the bed and insert my cock under the matress of the bed and fuck it as though i was fucking her, it was very humiliating as she watched me, i was so desperate to cum having been locked for a month, when i came, she said "that's all your getting this month, no real pussy for you" she laughed at me and humiliated me all the time.

We've talked about the possibility of her using her strap-on on me, but she isn't excited about the idea yet. In the past, I have managed to cum without stimulation, other than the penetration of her huge toy, so all hope is not lost. I am thinking I may be able to convince her of at least that.

Kinda of sad, isn't it? Knowing sex is out of the question and begging for her to penetrate me in this way.

...although it does remind me of a fantasy I once had where she has a live in lover and I am reduced to a weekly session with her strap -on. Hmmmmm...maybe she has this in mind...

It seems I spoke a bit too soon. We had sex last night, in our usual pattern, except it was late enough and I was tired enough that I had some trouble keeping hard. After my initial penetration, I had to rest about 15 minutes before continuing. I lasted about 10 minutes the first time and about 2 minutes the second time before cumming. Better than my usual minute or less.


Do you ever use it on her? Maybe you could get a hollow one that lets you fuck her with a large tool while getting no stimulation for yourself. That way, she gets all the penetration she wants while you stay chaste.
Natural Born Cuckold
Pussy-Free For Life starting 02-26-2017, 2633 days as of 05-13-2024

I have thought of it, but haven't broached the subject yet. We do, howevere, have a strap-on with a large penis for her to ride as well...recently bought and not tried yet. She is afraid I can't handle it, since it is pretty big. In fact, we talked about it yesterday. She mentioned a two month break of all contact other than cuddling. After that, she may be open to the strap-on.

We'll see...