Could she be close?

My wife says she hasnt thought about having a boyfriend seriously. She has said though that if It did end up that she had a boyfriend she wouldnt think any less of me and in fact she would think me more of a man for allowing it. She also assured me that our relationship would never extinguish and that she plans to be with me forever.
Does this mean that she would have a boyfriend or has she already ????

Justaman
justaman2810

How should WE know if your wife has a boyfriend or not? But let me ask, "Does it matter"?

I would say that if this is something that you want, then you need to lay down a good foundation and discuss what each of you desire/expect from the relationship.

The first thing you should do is to tell her the same thing she told you. That you wouldnt think less of her for taking a lover outside the marriage and that you would even think even more highly of her for doing it. Discuss any related desires with each other (chastity, denial, offense, creampie eating, etc) and see if you have common ground that you can both enjoy.

Of course I am not you but if I were in your shoes, I would put your permission to take a lover in writing. It could be a contractual statement or just a heartfelt letter to her from your heart. Later on, after you both have talked at length about what you want, you could even write a contract like I have seen elsewher on this site.

Good luck and keep us informed!

That is some excellent advise from iwmwtcm!! It soulds as though she is getting ready to do the deed (if she hasn't done it already)...you must constantly reassure her that you are thrilled with the prospects of her taking on one or more lovers, and that it can only make you love her more for being so open with you. Best of luck...I believe you are on the right track!

iwmwtcm and juanito, you both exude wisdom and experience. I couldn't agree with you more. I might add that you could encourage her by assuring her that this does NOT give you rights or cause to look for another woman, and that her "adventures" would do nothing but cement your dedication to her and her alone. Keep her reassurred of your fidelity, and her confidence will soar. Just keep in mind the end that you are fantasizing will become reality. Be ready; it's about to start...

Yummmmmm!!!

Good luck!