HELP! Is there hope?

Hi..

This is just my opinion. I have a hot wife now and she's giving blowjobs to black guys while I watch and we totally enjoy it.

The fact that she was scared that you would have a black guy waiting for her in the hotel room is a problem. You must reassure her and promise that you will pull NO surprises. And tell her to tell you the same. NO SURPRISES. And that your relationship comes first. The black guys and fantasy talk are just your foreplay. You will both talk about everything that you do beforehand and both feel very comfortable with it and that you will take baby steps to test the water.

Your relationship comes first. Keep reassuring her of that. And that this is just a game and it should NEVER feel uncomfortable or scary in any way.

Put an ad on the internet (craig's list?) and find a black guy who's willing to just come over and be laid back and get a massage. Have her wear something sexy (whatever she is comfortable with), and have a take with the guy while you watch from the corner in the dark. Have her give the guy a hand job to completion. But that's it. No kissing, no dick kissing, just a hand job. That will give you a good indication as to how it all feels and how you both will react and if you have bad feelings about it, it's just a hand job. You'll get over it.

Meet the guy first for coffee or a take and then invite him over the next night, explain the ground rules first, be honest with everybody and make sure you are all on the same page. Just be honest with the guy. Tell him about your fantasy and that you and your wife want to take it slow. Find someone compatible.

He'll come over, get a good hand job from your sexy wife and you can both find out if you really like it and want to do more. On the next visit, have her kiss his dick, and then suck it a little. Until you work up to a full blowjob and then more.

Go slow, take baby steps, talk a lot, and most importantly HAVE FUN. Don't take this all so seriously. It's supposed to be fun. Have fun with your sexuality.

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wil,

I can tell you permisterally that when I'm having sex or even jacking off and fantasizing, I am TOTALLY turned on to the idea of many wild things that I would do sexually but as soon as I cum, I would NOT do what I was thinking about. Maybe your wife is the same way.

My advice still stands, TALK to her. Get her a little takes if you have to, take her to a romantic place, get her comfortable, assure her that you love her and that you want to have fun with her, reveal a secret to her, ask her about what she really feels. Butter her up but be honest. Find a good looking, good acting black guy and just have her agree to go have a take with him while you are there. That's it, just a take.

Take baby steps, you see?

Do whatever you can to have her take BABY steps toward reaching your goal. Even if it takes two years, you'll have fun along the way.

jamesriske,

please check you yahoo email.

thanks,
Wil

Anything that's fantasy between the two of you allows her/you to stay in complete control of the situation, since it's only in your minds. In a fantasy there are no repercussions or consequences that could develop ike in real life. A lot of times the reamister something is a fantasy for a permister, is because it's something they don't want to ever actually do in real life. In other words, the parts of it that they don't like, that are negative and don't ever want to experience, outweigh the parts of it that they think they could get into and would actually like try.

In your situation (with what you want to try), there could be many different negatives aspects that she doesn't want to ever do but, a big one would be, her feeling safe....you being able to protect her to the point where her safety is not something she will have to worry about. She may not feel that you could do that, especially with you surrendering/sharing her with a black lover. If that's the problem or one of them at least, she probably doesn't even want to tell you that and have to feel like she's insulting you.

If anything would work though, it's the baby steps like the others have said. Perhaps that may be a way of gradually erasing those negative things that would be holding her back. Although just meeting a guy, even for a take, I think would already be way too big of a step. My idea of a baby step would be maybe going dancing some place where the crowd is very well mixed and her getting asked if she would like to dance by a black man/men that are there dancing with other women as well. The guy would know nothing about what you're eventually seeking, he's just a black man (one of maybe even a few) that would might ask her to dance that night (give him enough room to be able to ask)....don't even bring up the idea of her having a black lover at all that night...even when you get home. Do that a few times (or maybe another place that's very mixed as well). To me, that would be a good baby step for your wife...that's how slow you need to go.

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Here's a little subliminal suggestion which I tried with my wife. She would go out with two girl friends (both of them married & pretty wild) now and then about twice a month or so. We had many times talked of her doing another guy, but she was not overly cooperative. I then placed a 3 X 5 card in her purse and scotch (transparent) taped 3 condoms to the back of it of different styles. I wrote on it: "HONEY, YOU KNOW IT WOULD PLEASE ME IF YOU CAME HOME TO TELL ME THAT YOU PICKED UP AN FUCKED A GUY ON ONE OF YOUR NIGHTS OUT WITH THE GIRLS. I HOPE THAT IT HAPPENS AND THAT YOU TELL ME ABOUT IT. YOU KNOW IT WOULD PLEASE ME. IF YOU DO HAPPEN TO GET LUCKY, I DO NOT WANT YOU TO CONTRACT ANY STD'S SO HERE'S A LITTLE SOMETHING FOR YOU TO PREVENT THAT. MAYBE YOU OR ONE OF YOUR GIRL FRIENDS CAN USE THESE CONDOMS ONE NIGHT. I LOVE YOU."
My wish eventually came true and I was treated to a story she told me about a very erotic encounter with a guy she met one night. She said it was an added turn on for her to know that her own husband had supplied the condoms and had encouraged her to take on the stud. You can get creative like that and sometimes have positive results. Good luck.

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wil,

Get the black dildo, that's exactly what my wife and I did. Now, she's sucking black cock to completion while I hide in the closet and watch. It's GREAT.

If I were you, I wouldn't write black whore on her ass or degrade her. Just keep getting her turned on to the idea. Get a black dildo and have her dominate you a little bit. Have her tie you up or make you lay still and kiss her feet while she sucks the black dildo to tease you. Talk her into teasing you with it. Pretend that it's real and have her suck it in front of you while you are 'powerd' to watch.

Get it?

That's exactly how we did it.

It's a fantastic and positive step that she's willing to get a black dildo and play with you. THAT IS A TOTAL FIRST STEP.

Just relax and take it slow. Even if it takes a year, who cares? Have fun and don't scare her.

I like little dom games so my wife likes them too. She doms me and makes me worship her stockinged feet while she sucked on the black dildo. She would put it between the cushions so it sat upright and suck it as if it were real. It really looks real too if you get a good one. She even told me that while she was sucking and pretending, she thought it was real too.

It is a fantastic way to break the ice and take a first step.

Go for it, my friend.

It took us about 4 months after that before we actually had a black guy over here and she gave him a hand job while I hid in the closet and watcarbonsmudged. Now, two months later, she is sucking them off to completion and they are going down on her and sucking her tits.

It's just amazing. Total turn on. FANTASTIC sex.

Don't wreck it. Take baby steps and recognize this as your first step.

Keep us posted more often.

James

Thanks James!

how's it going wil29..any progress i am rooting for ur success. how did she do with the black dildo?