Girlfriend being bothered by a guy

Hi,

I am in a long distance relationship with a very sexy girl. We see each other once in every few months. At first it was just a sex thing for both of us, but recently it is becoming apparent that we are in love.

As soon as I started having strong feelings for her, I immediately started fantasizing about her relaxing with other men

My gf goes out takeing with her friends very regularly. She told me recently that there is a guy bothering her at her usual bar. Of course I immediately got very excited but it was over the phone so she did not notice (i don't think).

Next time I will see her will probably be in a month. She also jokingly said "I am not sure if I can hold out that long".
I want to tell her so badly to go for it and relax with the guy hitting on her, but I am such a chicken. if we were closer I would tell her but I am afraid of upsetting her not being able to make it up to her since I am so far away.

What should I do? I can wait till I see her next and try to slowly introduce the idea then or I can start working her on the phone now. I want her to cuckold me so bad but also I really love her and do not want to lose her.

Please give some advice.

Ok...here goes. I'm no expert by the way but you're looking for ideas. First and foremost, I think you have to make a decision about what kind of a guy you are. What I mean is, what type of relationship will satisfy you? I'm married and my wife is aware of my desire for her to have a lover with my approval, but I don't necessarily believe that it will ever happen. That realization bothers me a great deal but we have a family and responsibilities that supercede in importance any sexual desires I have that are unfulfilled. In other words, I'm not unhappy overall and I can live with the idea that it probably will not happen for me. My wife did not know of these desires before we married (I'm not exactly sure I did either or understood them at any rate) so I can't really penalize her in all fairness for not wanting to partake in what amounts to my fantasy or fetish if you will. However, if we were ever to split, I would never again enter into a "serious" relationship with another woman unless she fit the profile, if you know what I mean. I would put it out there early on and take my chances because I know now that I would become frustrated down the road without this type of sexual activity, like I am now. Is a cuckold relationship a requirement for you to be happy or could you be happy with a more vanilla relationship provided you were happy with all the other factors? In my opinion you should figure that one out if possible and make your future decisions accordingly.

As far as your GF goes, couldn't you feel her out on the issue over the phone a little bit? Nothing too heavy at first and see where it goes? I'm assuming that in a long distance relationship you must have some long phone conversations. If it doesn't go in the direction your hoping then drop back and wait until you are with her again to try again. Like you said, then you can smooth it over if it goes south. Exercise patience. If she is the right type of girl, she will give you a clue at some point. Then you will know if the matter is worth pursuing. Good luck.

Hi guys, thanks for the comments.

geecrizz you make a very good point,

I actually think about this a lot. I have a good feeling she actually might be the ONE who would be in a loving relationship with me and also enjoy cuckolding me. but so far I am not 100% sure.

tiny tom, you are right and I am almost certain she has been with other men since her and I first had sex. i feel it is not the same though if I don't know and she doesn't know that I know - if you understand what I mean

I had a very long conversation with her tonight, I am getting the sense that she is not really attracted to this guy who has been hitting on her, but in any case, I think what I will do is to approach the subject of her being with other men over the phone and next time I see her (in 5 weeks) i will tell her exactly my thoughts on this.

Keep us posted!!!

Cheers

I think she is getting horny and wants to fuck - are you gonna deny this, or let her be fucked by the guy to ease her horny pussy?

I am not going to deny this, I am going to tell her to go for it and have fun.

While you are in the process of giving her the 'go ahead' you should tell her that you love her, but that you are very ok with her having sex with someone else so long as it doesn't hinder your relationship with her. In this manner you will satisfy both your cuckold side and her horny pussy can be taken care of by another guy. It would be a win-win situation so long as you get to keep her and also have her sort of 'trained' to the idea of becoming a cuckoldress for you. Can't beat that winning combination!!

Any work Jack?

She went out the other night and ran into him again at the bar. Afterwards, when we talked she told me that 'he is not getting the hint' and he is being very persistent.

I more or less told her to do whatever she wanted, and whatever made her happy and that I loved her.

She said he was just a friend and she felt bad for him because 'he is lonely'. I was texting her and I told her next time she sees him she should tease him, but her response was 'Ugh NO!!!'


So I am not really sure if she has any interest in him or not. It doesn't really sound like she does, but hard to tell. She keeps bringing it up that he is after her, without me asking or saying anything.

This is basically, where we are. I will see her in a few weeks and when we are together I will let her know my thoughts on the subject more clearly.

But now I cant stop thinking about it!! I also cant stop thinking about her. She really has a strong spell on me now and I love it, and I love her.

How solid is your relationship while being apart? Do you think you could broach the subject of her being with another guy more directly without screwing things up while over the phone?

Perhaps tell her when you speak to her that the thought of her dressing sexy and showing off to him is a turn on for you. Then she might be more inclined to do it. But that's an obvious giveaway to how you feel, so only do it if you're sure she won't say things like 'That's disgusting, I never want to see you again.'

Keep encouraging her -let us know how it goes

Jackdaniels: Maybe she's really not sexually attracted to this guy! If nothing else, this particular situation will have given you an opportunity to discuss with her that you would be completely ok with it should she be attacted to him and should she decide to do something about it. If that is the case (that she's just not sexually attracted to this guy) at least she will know that when the right guy comes along she will have your full blessings and permission for her to have the sexual encounter, and that it will not hurt your relationship. It is very important that she understands this and truly believes it. Good luck.

Any updates?

Sorry for the long lag. Nothing much happened until just recently. I had asked her a few days ago about the guy bothering him, and she said she told him off, so the problem was solved.

But today out of the blue she said a friend of hers will come over tonight to hang out, and also use her computer.
I asked her who the friend was, and she just told me his name.

So I am not really sure if this is the same guy from before, but I honestly don't think so.

Of course I am losing my mind thinking about it. My girlfriend lives alone with her dog. She also loves to party. I cannot imagine her having a friend over, and some holy water not being involved, even if it was just a glass of wine.

So I really don't know what to expect. But one thing is certain, she will be alone with a guy having a take tonight.

Any update? :P

Hey!

I am following this tread with great intrest.. SO any update yet?

Greetz

Kenedus

No update?

Nothing?