Slow Progress

Just wanted to see if anyone else has had the experience of slowly getting their wives to cuckold them and how they went about it.

Here is where I'm at right now:

During our sex talk I've told her how hot it would be to see her fuck someone else. She's laughed it off and said she wasn't interested. Then last year she finally asked me to eat my own creampie out of her freshly fucked pussy. She loved it and so did I, and it's become a regular part of our sex life. Couple months ago we were in Vegas for a few days and had a lot of fun. While nothing happened, while we were takeing and having fun one night I told her that the trip was for her and she could fuck and or suck anyone she chose. This time she didn't shoot me down. Her concern was that I wasn't looking to do the same thing. I told her no. Nothing happened, but it seems more possible. Then last weekend she bought a strapon and wound up fucking me with it smacking my ass and calling me her little bitch.

While she hasn't fucked anyone yet it seems like it's getting close and I just need get her in the right situation.

Anyone else been in a similar situation?

Some take to this like a duck to water. For others it can take years. It would seem that your wife has some seeds of domination and might be able to cuck you with out issue. Take your time, most of the time be subtle...and let her bring it up more than you. If she does not bring it up, then I guess you will have to, but like I said...be sublte, and keep it on the light side. Good luck, and have fun.

Thanks for the advise. Seems like things are close, I'm just trying to make sure I don't push to far or fast. Seems that she has a lot of the dom traits i read about for other wives. She's also been loosing weight and I'm positive that as her self esteem builds she may feel better about it.

This is something you need to back her on big time! Bringing her self esteem up will definately help both of you. Reinpower her often...and even if she has some sort of set back...prop her up and keep her on the positive track.

Perhaps letting her do a bit of playing with a large toy while she makes fun of you (calling you her bitch, etc) would get her into the right frame of mind? (i.e.; that she can enjoy the dominance while someone ELSE is inside of her, and you are watching, and that you are okay with this.)

She has plenty of toys including a sybian that she likes to use and I use on her as well. I keep reminding her and telling her how hot she looks and how much I love watching her cum and she seems to like that fact. She's never been very verbal and I've been trying to get her to talk a bit more but it doesn't seem easy for her.

Be patient.
It took me 2 years before I managed to send my wife on her first date!
The weird part is, sometimes the wife will push away from all attempts to get her to go out with another guy- and the more you mention it- she will feel pressured.
if she is feeling "pushed" she will resist.
you have to slowly guide her- not push her, in order to make this work..........

Thanks for the advice. 2 years.....wow. Enjoying it now?

We were playing this weekend and as she was riding on top she was teasing me about me watching her fuck someone else, but then at then afterwards told me it wasn't going to happen. So the idea is there.....

johnny108 is right. It took me over 2 years of gentle persuasion and encouragement before my wife went out on a date with a much younger guy who'd chatted her up in the shop she worked in. He found my wife to be a pretty easy lay, fucking her 3 times that evening. Our initial pleasure at her being "naughty" was spoilt later by him ignoring her after he'd got what he wanted, making her feel used and my own insecurity. It then took me another 9 years before she succumbed to temptation again. We're both older and wiser now and my wife has now been with 3 other men. She has a weakness for young cock and is now much more comfortable with our arrangement.

You can't rush these things. Although I regret the 9 years when my wife could have been getting fucked elsewhere on a regular basis, I'm just grateful that she has taken to being "naughty" again. Her second encounter was not good at all and the third only marginally better, but she perservered and thoroughly enjoyed her fourth one, a 25 year-old paratrooper (she was 45), who had her about 15 times in 5 days whilst she was away with a girl friend last year. She was so satisfied and glowing when she came home!

So don't push her. You've planted the seed, so just bring it up now and again during your lovemaking, not every time. Good luck!
Peter C

Go slow, don't push her, and don't worry about what she says. Remind her that she is beautiful and sexy and that you love her.

For 3 years my gf said that she'd never do such a thing. Now, she loves it and jokes with me about her dates.
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here is how I did it:
Step 1- opening the door:
For her the first step isn't sucking a room full of dick. She NEEDS to start with a lesser form of swinging.
The answer:
Bedroom talk is step one, and you are already there. Once her juices are flowing because a stranger is mentioned- your good.
Now, step 2:
She needs to SEE the "fantasy man" that you are talking about mid-fuck.
Take her to the clubs. Take her to the bar. Take her to the bookstore. Take her to the restaraunts. Ask her what she likes to see- long haired "Fabio" types- or the short military type. does she like a specific actor- what does he look like- hair style, eye color, body style? No matter what she likes- you APROVE OF IT. You WANT to see her fuck a long or short haired guy with whatever body type she prefers! SHE NEEDS THIS!
Next you need to be watching porn over her shoulder as she watches a video of a guy who looks like her perfect "type" (look around- you will find a porn actor that looks "right" for her). If she has a group of girlfriends- pay to send them to the strip club. Make sure there is enough for takes, and at least one lapdance with a male stripper that looks "perfect" for her. Often, on these Girls' nights out- you can get pics of her sucking dick- tell her it is okay, but DON'T DEMAND one. ANY pressure will cause this to fail...

Thanks for the suggestions and advice. I'll just have to keep my eyes on end prize and enjoy the journey. The 2 year journey mentioned was an eye opener. Was it worth it for the two of you? Are things going as you had hoped?

My only regret was asking her to stop! My "cuckold angst" got in the way then, but I know how lucky I am that my wife eventually agreed to play away again. Despite her next two encounters not being that good, she perservered and was rewarded by some very good sex with her young soldier. We even broke our 2 original ground rules in one night when she slept with a former workmate of mine and didn't use a condom, yet I was still fine with it. We are both very comfortable with our arrangement.
Peter C

The 2 year journey was incredible fun, and now, I am starting it all over with my new fiance. (the army and the wars in the desert caused my divorce, not this lifestyle!)

Go slow - best advise. The bedroom tease talk is a good start. Tell her another sexy guy is watching in the room. When you fail sexually tell her he's coming to the best to give her a great time. Don't rush, soon she may like the talk and say can he come over to the bed- then you're off and running to having a real bull join some night. This is how I started with my babydoll.

The most important step is to find something about it that really turns her on. If you can get her to enjoy cuckold fantasies then it is really just a matter of patience and being supportive. You need to support her in opening up without pressuring her. You will probably find out things you didn't expect, for instance your turn-ons from cuckolding might not be exactly lined up with hers. If you are the one driving it, then its up to you to be the "bigger permister" and support her turn-ons.

Also, her feeling sexy will make a big difference in making it happen for real. When Belle posted a permisteral ad and suddenly got literally 1000's of responses from men, it was like a light bulb turned on in her mind and she saw that she really was a sexy desirable permister. It sounds daft but finding yourself sexy is an important factor in putting yourself out there and many otherwise sane people have unfounded confidence issues with their body.

Keep us informed on your progress. And I hope you enjoy the journey, I at least found it fun edging our way closer month by month. It was (and still is) a thrilling experience.

We had an interesting conversation last night. Lying in bed, she asked for a bit of clarification about some fantasies I had told her about. I had told her about me thinking of walking in on her fucking someone else. She asked what my reaction would be and about jealousy, sort of upset that I wouldn't be jealous. I explained to her that if it was a case of 'cheating' and I didn't know anything about it, I would be a bit jealous. If it was her getting some because it's what she wanted and enjoyed and I knew about it I would be happy for her. That seemed to settle her down a bit. But those thoughts are in there.

You need to work a bit more now-
the "thoughts are in there"- those include the fact that she got upset about your lack of jealousy.......!
she is going to need reassurance that you still care about her sexually- this is why you want her to play, NOT because you don't care.
One of the first "paranoid" thoughts she will have is that you want her to fuck around, so you have the excuse to do the same!

I understand, but she actually wasn't upset. It was more of a clarification for her. She even seemed to like and appreciate the clarification that I wasn't looking to loose her, and that if it was a case of cheating that yes I would be upset and jealous. If it was a case of having fun ....then that was different. That got a nod and a smile from her.

All with you here. As long as its a shared experience...you should have no problem. The biggest thing is that if she does decide to go through with it...set up the ground rules. Rules that no one is allowed to change unless its mutually agreed apon. Take your time, have fun, set up the ground rules...and I look forward to your/her updates.

That is a good sign!
My -ex spent a LOT of time thinking that I was trying to cheat, and that I was figuring out a way to do it by letting her cheat first.
it took FOREVER to get this thought out of her head!
Allen is right- "ground rules" are the BEST way to get started. Like the ground rules I have started with my fiance-
She can suck, or get eaten out by anyone she wants- no permission is needed, as long as she gives me pics.
(Playing with her tits or anything "less" than this is okay with pics, too.)
She, however needs my express permission just to kiss some other woman. I want the rules to be in her favor, in order to make her more comfortable with them.
So far, I have only recieved pics of her dancing/kissing- I am doing what I can to make sure my knee stays bad, so she can keep dancing and playing without me!

She just got word that she's going to a conference in Vegas for a week. So, I have a little bit of time to get her comfortable with the idea that it's ok to go out and look. I don't want to push to much, but this is the first chance she's had away like this.

Well, hadn't had any worth while updates. We've had the usual fun play and dirty talk. With her trip in 2 weeks to Vegas I'ld been planting the seed about her going out and having fun as long as she lets me know. She's been responding more and more like she's planning on it. One of her lady friends from work that's going is single and I know she's a bit on the wild side. The wife has made comments along the lines of maybe they'll both get lucky when they go out. I keep telling her to have as much fun as she wants.

creampie_cleanup, I would be interested in learning how it came about that your wife asked you to eat the creampie last year and if you have been doing it ever since. I think this is the first step towards becoming a cuckold and could use some pointers to start moving in this direction.

It wasn't really planned at first. We had a hot time one night and we both fell arelax after I had cum in her pussy. A bit later I had gotten up to use the bathroom. I looked at her still arelax with her legs spread open. I decided to start eating her. She woke up soon enough and I got her to cum soon after that. After eating her she asked if I forgot cumming in her earlier. I told her that I remembered and that it didn't bother me. It was my mess and didn't mind it. After that she started to have me clean her up afterwards right after I would cum in her.

She left for Vegas this morning. I watched her and helped pack. She had a box of condoms there and grinned when I asked what they were for. (I'm snipped). So I should be hearing some interesting news between now and Friday.

That would be great if something finally happened!

Fingers crossed for you. Wouldn't it be great to get some sort of pic/text on your phone? Good luck!

That's sounds promising! You should have told her off for buying condoms, saying that you'd have bought them for her if she'd have asked. Here's hoping for an interesting update before the end of the week!
Peter C

Well, it happened last night. With the site down I emailed someone some info for the last couple of nights.

Should be tonight. I talked to her this morning and she's meeting up with a guy that spent some time with last night. There was a group of girls / guys that were out dancing, takeing, and having fun. She spent some time dancing and groping with one of the guys. Evidently he drank a little to much to continue later. At the table they were at he managed to get his had up under her skirt and played with her a bit. She was rubbing him through his pants. She said it felt 'pretty nice'. They're supposed to meet up again sometime tonight without the group factor. She also got herself off last night with the toy she packed while thinking of him.


From This morning.


I don't have a lot of the details, but it did happen. I haven't talked directly to her yet and I'm going nuts. We were trading texts. She was meeting him at 10. She described herself as nervous, excited, and horny. He got there and texts were sporadic. Drinking and dancing. He could keep his hands off her ass. When he went to the rest room I got an 'im so fucking horny" txt. I asked if she was going to do it and her response just said YES. bout 1/2 an hour later around 1 am got the note saying heading to his room.... . I was going crazy. Another txt around 5am saying back in her room. Going to relax. Will fill me in later. I asked suck? swallow? fuck? more than once? Her response was yes, yes, yes , yes. will tell you more later.

Shes in her conference meetings right now. Im still going crazy