Do I want to be a cuckold?

In the past, the thought of my wife being with another man would make me very angry. I've always been into female domination and humilation, but never cuckolding.

Something happened a few years ago when my wife was away and the thought ran threw my head that she was going to cheat on me that night. I couldn't believe how aroused I was. I was incredibly confused. The past couple of years I have found myself reading threads on this site and find myself incredibly aroused reading the posts and stories.

Recently, I have become attracted to the idea of wearing a chastity device controlled by my wife. But I can only see myself wearing it for a few minutes before needing to have sex because of my arousal.

I love the cuckolding and chastity fantasy, but don't think I would like my wife to actually boss me around and relax with other men.

So my question is, is this just a fantasy for me or do I really want to be a cuckold in chastity?

I think it's just crap going around in your head at the moment, and it sounds great to you. But in reality it will destroy your marriage, it you're not both into the cuckolding thing.

I think what you're feeling is related to the fact your wife got assertive, took stock of herself and told you to wake up to her before she does cheat. I think it was a shock tactic she used to get more attention outta you. And it worked.

The other problem is, it stirred up some stuff for you, and I think you need to tell her what's going on in your head, just like she told you.

Best of luck
S

Thank you Shamusx! She actually was not getting assertive. She was staying with a couple we know, and they were playing takeing games with a neighbor. She did not even hint at any possibility of hooking up. It's just something that enterred my mind.

You never know where your desires might take you.

I got into being a cuckold completely by surprise. My first marriage I got married solely because I got her pregnant. I was never in love with her, but I stayed with her for 14 years because of our kids. Finally as my midlife crisis hit, I wondered if there was a way to leave my wife without hurting her. I starting thinking if I got her to fall for someone else than maybe we could split up and everyone could be happy.

It tottally surpised me when it really REALLY turned me on the idea of my wife having sex with someone else. I made a lot of mistakes with my wife at the time, like not being honest from the start and then pushing her into cuckolding and making her feel guilty about it, then when it didn't work everything else falling apart, but the seed had been sewn.

A little bit after my divorce I found a young georgeous girl that I fell head over hills for and I was totally honest with. We are now living a cuckold lifestyle and loving our life together. I never expected to be able to do it, because at my core I am extremely jealous, but somehow I turned that jealousy into pleasure. It's exactly where I want to be.

Who knows where your headed. Like Shamusx said, right now its just stuff going around in your head. But I gave you my background, because he is also right in saying it can destroy your marriage if both of you are not on the same page. Being in a cuckold relationship REQUIRES you to comunicate better than you ever have before if you want your marriage to stay strong.

So at this point keep thinking about things and start talking to your wife more. Find out what her fantasies are and see if you have some of the same. You never know where everything might take you, but if you want your marriage to last get to a point where you tell your wife everything.
Good Luck

I agree with Shamusx in that it could ruin a marriage. But then again it could accent your marriage as well. You need to figure yourself out first and know in your heart what you want. You can do one of two things.
1. Keep this a fantasy for you on those nights that she goes out without you. You can wonder all you want and use sites like this as an outlet for your jacking needs.

OR,
2. SLOWLY!!!!! Try to introduce in small amounts...certain aspects of cuckolding, into your daily life. Rent certain movies...a little comment every once in a while. Does she read? Look online for books that might have a hotwife/cuckold theme. Go to a book store with her..."hey hon, this book looks interesting"...

But first and formost!!! Figure yourself out.

Good luck, and by the way...I love being a cuckold by night...Bossman during the day.

Great commentry Allen, you elaborated on what I was hinting at. I'm actually a Bossman by day, and cuckold by night, but was out of the loop for 2 years and now a cuck again.

I forgot to mention that it can actually accent your mariage as well, but as Allen rightly pointed out, it must be in your Heart.

Otherwise you screw everything up cos you don't know what you want.

Listen to Allen my friend. I'm 38, and it took my many fuck ups and hard lesmisters to learn the ropes, and I started 20 years ago now. The road is long, dark, and tiring, weigh up everything. But you will get there if you believe strongly enough, just be prepared for the many, and I mean MANY twists and turns ahead.

If your wife aint interested though, forget it. Don't power your interests. Just open up to her and explain why.
S

Thanks everyone. Looks like I need to do some deep thinking.

Most of us find out by accident that we are latent cuckolds..there are many types and you do not necessarily have to enjoy offense. I was the very jealous type at one time and wasted a lot of years with that jealousy nonsense. I am not into offense, but I just thoroughly enjoy watching another man making love to my wife! I love whispering in her ear how much I love her for giving me such pleasure, and I even suck on her toes while he pounds into her. It is so erotic and so dam hott that it is all I think about now when it comes to having a fulfilled sexual life.

If I had only had a hint of how much I was going to LOVE being cuckolded by my wife I would have prompted her to do it to me much, much sooner. I find it ironical that while I once was jealous and suspicious of her and other men, now I am the one always encouraging her to take on new lovers and I even try to hook her up with potential bulls. What a drastic change this has made in my life...for the better!