How should you really do it???

The cuckold/hotwife fantasy is a really attractive and exciting, but how does a couple incorporate it in to their life? In reading stories everything is wonderful, but what is truly feasible along the lines of careers and youngren. You could burn fast and bright in the life style and run haphazardly to a mangled mess with divorce and screwing kids up. Or you become a tourist and play your little fantasy on the weekends. Where is the middle ground? My wife and I have been playing the lifestyle hard for about a year and there has been a lot of really hot time with it. I would like to take it to a committable lifestyle, but with all commitments require a return on your investment. What are the responsibilities of the hotwife and the cuckold? In answering the question don’t give me the fantasy answer of: "the cuckold has to please the hotwife and the hotwife feeds him cuckolds brownie" while touching yourself. Im talking about having a true life where the wife is promiscuous and the husband is monogamist. What responsibilities does the wife have, to keep the husband form finding his own relationship, and what responsibilities does the cuck have to ensure his wife doesn’t develop deep emotional relationships that could cause divorce.

basicly if shes already having sex with other guys you are already in the lifestyle.all the other way out self degration b/s is all additions and fantasys people try to add to it.relax have fun remember the other guys are just add ons to your and your wifes sex life and sex play you come first.if some guy told me what i was going to do in my house or around my wife one way or another i'd bounce the fucker off the pavement.being a cuck doesn't mean you have to be submissive or second rate in any manner.me and my wife love the addition she likes the freedom it allows her.and i like hearing about it in detail and see her get taken by another man.in the end he goes home and were still together.we keep things very descreet and we also have two small youngeren.and in the comunity big balence act we are prob a little more active than most real coulpes she hooks up two to three times a week

I would agree balancing this lifestyle while maintaining a "what most people will tell you is a normal lifestyle is a challenge". Like jbrown no dude that I'm allowing to fuck my wife is going to cuckolds brownie on me. We have a simple arrangement, she can play when ever she chooses with whom ever she wants just as long as she shares all the details. I love it when I get to watch or have her after. We just love it and it has been working for us. She plays on average twice a week.

Jbrown, how do you keep it from getting around town? I remember my buddy didn't want it getting around town, but within a year everyone knew. Luckly he was ok with it by then.

We can either one play whenever we want. We enjoy mfm where I join in and also swapping. This is normally reserved for the weekend when we have spare time and can get away. She has several guys that she feels very comfortable with that she sees when the opportunity arises. One guy she gets with at least once a week, another once or twice a month and another that she sees only once or twice a year.

We are just in this to have fun, no big offense bit for us.

I just have to say in all this that sometimes a cuckold relationship is more then the cuck bargains for.... and things get around no matter how you try and keep it under wraps. I for one as a sissy cuck never dreamed or fantasized that my life would end up with my little cock locked and denied even a rub on my wifes pussy, being shunned for being a faggot, exposed and humiliated in public, or my wifes lover laughing at me as he kissed my wife while I am on my knees sucking his cock hard and licking her pussy getting them ready. It has been worse at times with some lovers. I will just add it is a slippery slope indeed, you start just cucking, then you get feninized, then locked in chastity, then denied, humiliated and exposed and the deeper we get in and the happier our wives feel and act the more we are willing to accept as cucks, and we are always developing and carrying our fantasies farther in our minds and even more willing to live those fantasies that we believe will make our wives happy. Even if what happened to me doesnt happen to you, you will find the more she cucks you the more submissive you will become and the more dominant she will become all in the name of your fantasies you masturbate to and her reality of having you at her beck and call and her lover fulfilling her sexual needs like you never could..... Just my thoughts on the whirlwind we get caught in . Best of luck to you findingand living what you fantasize.


Sincerely Sissy Faggot Jess
I have finally decided to take control (total) and have sissy in panties daily lock sissy in her CB 6000s for good. No more feeling sorry after a few weeks and no more giving into her pleas for mercy! Welcome the NEW MISTRESS!

There are many different variations in the cuckold lifestyle. For example, my wife plays on her own and I only hear about it later. Most of the time we are a typical married couple, but about once or twice a month, my wife will have a date with another guy. We both love the anticipation of her dates and I find helping her get dressed almost as much as welcoming her home later that night or the next day.

I never meet her lovers except on the rare occasion where we will bump into them at the store or at a restaurant. Because she tells them she is cheating, they never overtly put me down although I can always tell when a guy has fucked my wife by the sly smile or the way they are familiar with her.

We've been in this lifestyle over ten years and we're as happy as ever. We're best friends and I love having a sexy, adulterous wife. She likes the attention and the sex she gets from other men knowing that she has a faithful, loving husband waiting at home. It certainly works for us!

we are very careful in who we pick localy.they have to be able to keep there mouth shut.she messes with two different guys here in town and neither know about the other.they both have alot to lose also the other two are farther away and are not local.but none know about any others.we keep pretty low key about it.she really loves the excitment of sneaking off and meeting her different lovers.but not getting caught is a top priority.

Ok, case in point. My wife is going over to her regular guy. He knows nothing about us or me. He thinks that my wife is cheating. He is inviting over with one of his friends with the intention of 3-waying her. The thought of this is exciting as hell, but I’m not going to see it. I usually send her with a mic so I can hear, but that doesn't works every time. Sometimes the T.V. is on, or he starts in one room and moves to another (without the mic). It’s *******ing me that I can’t see this. What would you expect from this kind of situation, just a steamy story? Am I being selfish by expecting something more? Is she not giving enough? What are the responsibilities each has to the other?

I feel that there a few levels of cuckolding, one where the "cuck" if you want to call him that is in reality in control of the affairs that take place in a way playing in an equal roll or even dominant to a degree. Not what I have come to believewhat cuckolding is about that is more on the lines of swapping, or swinging okay maybe with creampie duty.

The next degree would be where the wife has the upper hand maybe discussing what she will be doing before it takes place but ultimately retain control, and the cuck is there in the corner fulfilling her wishes as well as the cucks . This would include clean up, fluffing, and so on.

Then there is where I am at with my sissy faggot cuck in our relationship.
I decide who I will talk to, email, chat, phone, and see on my terms NOT SISSIES! I will do as I please with my lovers and they will do for me what my sissy can not, I will be seen in public with my lover if I so wish, and act accordingly to his comfort level, NOT SISSIES! I will do everything for my lover sexually that he may want or need from me and give not one second thought of sissies needs EVER! Since I do not respect sissy faggot as a man and do not rank her in the relationship between my lover and I she has no bearing on anything between us. Sissy faggot Jess has given up all control of her pathetic life to me and my lover, yes she is there from time to time, for instance last friday sissy was allowed to play with us while locked in her pink CB2000 of course denied any release but permitted to suck my lover, lick my pussy and ass, clean my lovers cock from my ass and pussy and lick my lovers ass and balls while I sucked his big cock to a nice thick load which we had sissy faggot suck out of his big cock. Saturday was different I invited my lover over Knowing sissy faggot was finishing the final touches on our remodeled kitchen and the kids were gone, as sissy faggot was working in the kitchen she was to serve us coffee when we needed it and my lover an I snuggled on the couch watching a movie as sissy worked. Sissy was quite suprised to look around and see I was naked on the couch sucking my lovers cock and then climbed on and fucked him right there while sissy worked so hard to please me by getting the kitcen complete, there was a little dissapointment in sissies face after all day I boasted about the reward she would get for finishing her job. I gave sissy a very nice reward, I had her strip to nothing but her panties and CB2000 and when my lover came deep inside me I had sissy do her regular clean up or us both before stradling her face and releasing my warm pee in her thirsty mouth,she drank all of it with out a missed drop and cleaned mu up beautifuly! "There you go sissy" I said "your reward for finishing today was working so hard to get done while I fucked my lover for the nice job you did because I only fuck real men" Now in my relationship thats a real ultimate cuckold relationship.
I have finally decided to take control (total) and have sissy in panties daily lock sissy in her CB 6000s for good. No more feeling sorry after a few weeks and no more giving into her pleas for mercy! Welcome the NEW MISTRESS!

I like my wife to have sex with other guys, don’t get me wrong. And in the privacy of our bedroom I don’t mind entertaining some extra's that would *** some social norms, but at the end of the day I couldn't step that far. I'm not judging, I'm saying your tougher than me, my ego couldn't handle that. I think that this "lifestyle" has its benefits. It adds a whole sexual excitement to the bedroom. It makes me more competitive in the bed. If she says she like something someone else does, I’m going to try to do it better. I gives her self-esteem a huge lift. A lot of women validate themselves through me (regardless if that is right) and having men want them does that in spades. But I have my jealousies, which is part of the fun. What is the exchange? A husband gives his wife her sexual freedom back, and he remains monogamist. What is her exchange; do you guys feel that a steamy story is enough? Mred4682 said that everything is done together, we did that. She screwed a guy with me there that she had been with without me, but she said it was different. He wasn’t as focused, didn’t last as long, she didn’t even cum.

The wife here.....I feel that the cuckold lifestyle is something that my husband would totally enjoy if he were to accept that not everything in this lifestyle is 50\50. For example, he enjoys when I meet with my regular lover and is excited to hear about the boundaries that we cross with each other. I love to explore and try things with my lover that I either have tried with my husband and did not enjoy quite so much or that I have never tried with him. The scenerio that he gave of being DP'd is something that I have never done, and would probably not be very comfortable doing with my husband. However, my lover and I both have a strong desire to do it together. I have never nor will I ever been open to the idea of having a threesome with my husband and another girl, but it is something that excites me and something I would love to give to my lover. I would love to see my lover being satisfied by another woman. My husband is not invited to be involved with us for 2 main reamisters. (1.) I love the cheating scenerio and most of the excitement for me is having my lover think that I am cheating on my husband for sexual pleasure that only he can give me, and (2. something that my husband has not mentioned before) my lover and I work together and have a friendship outside of our bedroom escapades. Don't get me wrong, the sexual tension that we feel while in our work environment and having to keep it a secret among coworkers just adds to the excitement and that anticipation of what is to come is just that much greater. My husband has never met my lover and unless it was in a casual meeting, never will. Although I do see other men outside of my regular lover, sometimes even in front of my husband, he does not feel that I should be able to keep this one to myself. I do share the stories, the conversations, and have even recorded our meetings for my husband. I degrade my husband during sex with my lover's abilities and his inabilities to satisfy me, yet he does not feel that I am giving enough with this certain lover. Once again, this is where the 50\50 thing comes in to play. Should I be giving more than 100% honesty with my husband, shared stories of my meetings with my lover, and playing the role that he wants me to during sex? I have never enjoyed meetings with other men quite the same way as I do with this lover, and I will not stop seeing him simply based on the 50\50 thing. Especially considering that my husband is the one who talked me into making it a regular thing with this certain lover.