What's love got to do with it?

OK, this is my first time posting here.

To make it short as possible, here goes. I've been working at my current job for about five years. I made a pretty good friend there, he'd give me a ride home and we'd have a few beers, maybe a smoke, and he'd head home to his wife. (I have no license to drive, and we get off work at around 3 AM.)

My sex life with my wife has been pretty much non existent, and she's very self conscious about her looks, and it was a surprise when she actually agreed to come out of the bedroom and meet him. She needed friends, she felt isolated, and I thought it would be good for her, and we could have a mutual friend together. We all get along well together.

But see, I brought up the idea of her sucking him off... She has always liked to suck, even with all her previous boyfriends. I asked her before.. Anyway, before long that's what happened, although I'll admit I did do a little coaching.

OK, within a matter of two or three weeks, it's obvious that he adores her, from first sight actually, and I know she might possibly be falling in love with him, maybe not now, but maybe in the future and I cannot share her in that way. I mean, I watcarbonsmudged her suck him off and all, and it was exciting, but I couldn't really cum, and we've remained friends and all, it's just that now apparently my wife and I have been having all these problems that I never knew about, stuff she brings up from the past, and suddenly it's not about letting her get her ya yas out, it's like she's falling in love with this guy.

He's a good friend and all, and he says positive things to her about me, trying to help our marriage, but in the process it seems like I'm losing a part of my wife that I'll never get back. According to him, it's helping in his marriage (different, but non essential story) but all I'm getting is grief. Anybody have any kind of advice at all for me? I want all of her love, she can mess around all she wants (as long as I'm there, at least in the house) but I need her assurance that we will grow old together, her heart with mine, before this can go on.

What the hell do I do?

tred very carefully and comunicate mabe the focus of one guy is to intense
"there are no friends when it comes to love and war "it was once said you have to make your mind up whether it is worth losing her for her happness in bed and if she goes with him you will be cast aside where as if you introduced other guys the attention may be off him then again maybe not life is a gamble with every thing we do and comunication is the only thing that is realy effective as long as every one is being honest
the best of luck freaked i hope you get it sorted out im soon to be in a similar position but i have been thinking very very carefully about it

He's a good friend and all, and he says positive things to her about me, trying to help our marriage, but in the process it seems like I'm losing a part of my wife that I'll never get back. According to him, it's helping in his marriage (different, but non essential story) but all I'm getting is grief. Anybody have any kind of advice at all for me? I want all of her love, she can mess around all she wants (as long as I'm there, at least in the house) but I need her assurance that we will grow old together, her heart with mine, before this can go on.


as long as he's being truthful and not leading her away from you behind your back you're ok'ish... what's his marriage problem that's the crunch honey, if he wants out of his marriage he might well be worming his way right into yours to get another wife... you only got yourself to blame whatever happens, in your rush to savour some kinky sex fun you introduced her to variety and worse still let her fall in love with another guy... some women aint cut out to be kinky sex slaves, they're lovers not just fuck'ers and i guess she'd fall in love with any guy handsome enough to attract her by the sound of it.

you got to talk to her honey, you got to talk to him as well, you got to talk to them both together, you got to get the truth out of both of them.

it might work to try to turn her into a slut fucking with loads of different men, that might settle her love hankering and turn her slutty instead... which would suit you cos it would mean she wouldn't want to leave you while you were servicing her needs by letting her loose.

sorry hun, you got to sort this one out yourself, only you know her and her ways.

i love my husband in my own crazy way, even though he's a takesen lush at times and i have to go elsewhere for my lusting sex, but then we're all different aren't we.