A 'soft cuckold' dream fulfilled

My wife recently gave me an incomparable gift by fulfilling my fantasy of watching her have sex with a hot stranger. The experience taught me two things: It was more honest to talk about it as she was doing for me — she enjoyed it, but much of that joy comes from knowing how important and satisfying it is to him (the rest of the joy comes from a big cock…). For a long time I made the mistake of wishing she could be slutty when she really isn’t. Better was to hope that she would agree to act slutty to satisfy with my sexual desires. Once she saw it as an ‘act’, she happily tried on the permistera of the sexually voracious woman, even though she is basically monogamous and wouldn’t consider defining herself that way. I also learned that much of my pleasure in this fantasy has come from the journey rather than the destination. The sex itself was great, but even better was the months of unburdening myself, telling her what excites me, of her acceptance of my kink, of her gradually agreeing to willingly and enthusiastically participate. Once she decided to go for it and felt good about herself for doing so, I got into a several-week-long ‘zone’ of excited anticipation that I’ll long remember.

The tipping point came in the middle of a night when she crawled into bed after wakefully owling around the house. She had been looking at porn and sexually oriented discussion sites on the web — mostly things she found in my browser history (which, as a gesture of openness, I rarely clean out unless I think some third party could use my computer). She had known for several years that I was turned on by fantasies of her having sex with others, but had only just come to understand this as something deep seated about my sexuality rather than just a porn-soaked whimsy. What she saw on the sites I’ld been visiting let her connect the dots among things I’ld previous said to her in pillow talk. It also really turned her on (it helps that I go for porn with good looking, well-hung guys; most women are disgusted by the ugly, hairy dudes and abusive gang-bangers that populate a lot of sites). She could picture herself doing the things she saw. When she crawled back in bed, she woke me by whispering, ‘I’m going to do it’. I was confused and had to ask what she meant; she told me ‘I’m going to give you your fantasy’… and then swallowed my cock like it was a snorkel to the last air on earth.

Of course, the next question is ‘how’, and it’s a big one. She had serious misgivings about diseases. Unfortunately, we could see no way around this risk because we were committed to it being someone we don’t know. In the end, we just had to accept that sex with unknown permister, even wearing a condom, is not totally free of risk. I’m actually surprised she came to terms with this because it is scary! We spent a few weeks waffling about finding someone in an add on line, but most had a creepy vibe and we didn’t like the idea of hooking up with someone who might be hard to avoid later. In the end, the answer fell in our laps. We were on vacation at a resort north of LA and got talking to a group of good looking young guys who were there as part of a ski vacation. My wife asked one them to join us back to our room for a take, he accepted, and the rest is cock-sucking, bend-her-over-the-bed-rail-and-fuck-her-silly history. We did it as a sort of round-robin (his turn, my turn, his turn, my turn, take a bottle of wine, his turn, my turn…) rather than try to solve the three-body problem. I actually found this by far the hottest way to go: I got to sit, enjoying a glass of wine, watching her go at it like a pro, slowly jerking off, over and over. Awesome.

Our intention is that this was a unique event — something she willingly gave me once but shouldn’t be counted on to give again. However, it was such a positive experience for us both that I would be surprised if we didn’t do it again (perhaps after pausing for a few months to re-assure ourselves that this doesn’t define our sex life).
darslangly

congratulations.....it sounds like you've gone the right way about things for you....thats what is important, reading about other peoples experiences and having fantasy's is great but it must in real life always be whats right for you as a couple...

Best Wishes

Tony

Yes. Congratulations. As essentiauk says. Whatever is best for you as a couple. In the first instance your wife will have been doing this to please you.,but once she sees there are +tive benefits for her and your relationship,I'm sure she will want to continue in some form.
I'm surprised more couples dont go down the route of letting the wife flirt on sites like AFF ,just to dip their toes in the water. Surely thats less of leap than from everyday type wife to Hotwife. One thing for sure is that you have benefitted by being able to discuss this fantasy of yours with her.
I tried that years ago,and my wife was disgusted.

Thank you SheDatesHeWaits. At last !!! someone making the point that we who look for this are not all Sissies or wimps.
From the point of view of those of us who would like their wives to try this,it would certainly help if couples and wives posted more often.It always seems to be the husbands or Wannabes like me. If uncertain wives saw posts from other wives who may have had the same reservations before they tried,it would reassure them. Anyway.Good luck Dars.

Yeah, this is a sexual kink that definitely spans a spectrum. I know I sit at an end of that spectrum that looks relatively 'normal', but I try not to judge - for every permister who seems more out there than me, there are probably 10 who think I'm a freak.

I will say one thing though: the extreme variants of the wife-sharing fetish are not for the women (for the most part). Quite a few women would like to fuck someone other than their partner, and with the right lead-in I would guess many will do it while their partner watches (yeah!. But, not one woman in a billion is into the male chastity belts, diapers, etc.

Anyway, this post was about showing the side of this that I like. I'm glad someone related to it!
darslangly

my god civilization at last ! thank you ! i thought i was the only one that thought that the wife was the most important permister and should be worshiped and looked after and encouraged