A fellow cuck needs advice

I am currently gently treading the cuckold waters with my own wife. Recently my wife and I have been experimenting with some porno, sex toys (dildo and such), and dirty talk, but I am reluctant to go too far too soon, and end up freaking her out.

What are some creative ways you guys have found to let your wife know about your fantasies of seeing her get fucked by another man?

How did your lady react the first time she found out about your cuckold fantasies? Did you find that she was aroused, disgusted, confused, or just plain blown away!?

Any thoughts or ideas would be greatly appreciated

I think she was initially confused and surprised rather than revolted or disgusted. Once wshe got over the initial shock/surprise, I gave her Cuckold Paul's Cuckold & Cuckolders Guide to read, and showed her some of the cuckold forums on the internet, and let her read some of the letters..
It still took quite a long time to persuade her into the cuckolding lifestyle- I think initially she thought I wanted the freedom myself to relax around-so I had to dispel that notion!
I supported Stacey as she took baby steps to sexual independence, and this included supporting her with her first lover even though it was more like an affair than a proper cuckolding arrangement,and did little for me..

Our current situation is much better- she has taken a much younger lover who spends weekends with us, and this has proved positive for both her and me.

The one thing that has always freaked Stacey is that our unusual arrangements would become public- she has quite a high profile job and is well known in the city.Permisterally, I would have been prepared to go public- it gave me an extra tingle of offense, but I've never pressed matters.

Having said that, even here there have been some developments since last summer- some of Stacey's friends and one of my friends now know about my cuckold status, and this has added a certain frismister to our everyday life.

So my advice is go slowly, but be honest about your feelings and upfront about what it is you want, otherwise you are going to get unhappy and frustrated.Eventually you may both get something out of it you might not have expected!

If she is watching porn then you have the perfect opening. While watching a scene in which the woman is taking on more than one guy just breach the subject of if she ever fantasizes about being with another guy. If she seems ever remotely open to the idea then you are set. If she snarls her nose and gets a pissed look, run. LOL

Seriously, it is my experience that a woman open minded enough to watch porn and use a dildo has at least fantasized about other guys or about getting DPed or gangbanged.

It seems to me to be a natural progression. If you are in the room with her but she is using a dildo on herself then there must be some fantasy involved. Why would she be fantasizing about fucking you if you are right there?

Pay attention to what scenes she seems to enjoy more. Watch to see what scenes seem to turn her on more or push her over the edge into orgasm. As a standard rule, most people orgasm when watching a porn scene involving something they fantasize about actually doing.

Good luck!!!
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My first wife embraced the idea quickly, and with a bit to much gusto. and it turned very ugly, in the end. ALthough my current wife, i was pretty upfront with it, right in the begining. Man was that an uncomfortable conversation.

We have been using it as fantasy in bed allot, incuding toys, for both, talk, and she is starting to enjoy the humility aspect. i think it takes time. allot of security, and a small dick helps too.

Talk about her ex-boyfriends and get her to talk about what she did with them in bed, in detail. Using that info, try copying them while having sex with her. Get her to imagine you are one of them and ask her to direct you how to simulate what they did. Even if you do not feel extremely horny, pretend that you are wild with excitement and make sure she has a very good time. Reward her by giving her a few orgasms (by hand, orally, anyway you can make her have them). Tell her that this is making you very horny and you cannot imagine how horny you would get if you actually watched her doing it with someone else. Tell her that from the way she is acting you sense that she likes the fantasy too and that you are really alike in getting horny with the thought of someone else fucking her. Ask her if she would fuck someone else , just the one time only so as to see how both of you feel about it happening in reality. Do not be dishartened if she refuses to start with. Make it sound like it is an experience for the sake of both of you, not just for your own. IF it happens, make sure you reward her by giving her extra attention, extra cuddling, extra sex, make her feel precious and loved by you.
I have tried this technique on 3 women in the past and it worked on 2 of them. Of the 2 that it worked on, only one let me be there to watch. The other felt that my presence would inhibit her so, I had to be satisfied with getting detailed descriptions of what she did (or claimed she did).
Good luck. Do not push to hard, do not appear too eager, make it sound like you want it for both your sakes-not just yours.

I think it might be important for you to hold off on the domination and classic cuckolding motifs with her; a lot of people (myself included) find them off putting. The central thing you are after is for her to fuck another guy with you somehow in the loop (watching; listening; hearing about it after; participating in her choosing or preparing for him; etc.). I would keep it simple: you are turned on by her having sex with another guy. Why? Because men are visual, and people are way kinkier than they like to say. I would also recommend that you be totally honest and up front with her rather than playing around and trying to manipulate her. She will know there is some sort of sub-text if you keep giving her nudges without saying anything, and might be confused. Women aren't mind readers. Rather than showing her some porn and hoping she gets the message, tell her you are really turned on by porn about wives who fuck other men while their husband watches or knows, and you want to watch some together.

Good luck. If you want any other advice from me, check out my recent post on a 'soft cuckolding' experience (within a couple of threads of this one).
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I am taking it slow with subtle hints and trying to phase myself out of her pleasure - see the "Progress" thread.

For us it was simple. My wife has always loved giving head and is quite good at it. (On rare occasions she has even orgasmed just by sucking cock.) When we first started dating she wasn't secretive about her love for sex and the number of lovers she previously fucked or sucked. After dating six months she told me, "I've never been faithful this long." She buried her urges to fuck multiple partners when we first got married.

I was always turned on by the idea of watching my wife fuck other men. I would go to crude chat rooms (this was some 11 years ago and nothing of the quality of cuckoldplace) and would talk to other guys about fucking my wife.

I chatted frequently with one guy, W, about him coming on a business trip nearby and fucking my wife. I sent him pictures and he readily agreed. Now it was just convincing my wife to go along.

I had never mentioned the idea to my wife until one night during foreplay I straight up asked her if she would like to suck another man's cock while I watched. Surprisingly she thought about it for about five seconds before saying yes. Needless to say we had really great sex that night!

The next day I asked her if she was serious. She said she would give it a try if that is what I wanted to do. I said yes and then spilled the beans about how I had been talking for months with W.

I gave her W's email address and they sent emails and videos to each other for about two months until W had a business trip nearby.

We met W for dinner and takes the first night. My wife had already said she wasn't fucking him, it was just a meeting. The plan was if the first night went well we would meet him again the second night to "see what happens." Well the first night went well so we met W the next night.

That night is an entire story in itself, but my wife wound up giving W's 10" cock a thorough sucking while I watched.

That is how we started. Hope my experience helps you out getting your wife to follow suit and fulfill your fantasies.

Thanks to all for the good advice.

Things have been moving along pretty well. Last weekend I got her to tell me some of the sexual experiences she had with her previous partners. This topic has always been taboo between us, as it was hard to look past my macho attitude to envision her with another guy. She hasn't had much experience in the past, but one story she told me really stood out. It was about a guy she was dating in college, they would study together then began fooling around. I asked her to go over all the details of what they had done together. As she was telling me all the steamy info, I was getting incredibly aroused, and she could see it as my dick was getting harder before her eyes. When I asked her if they ever actually had sex, surprisingly she said no, because as she described it this guy had a really huge cock and it wouldn't fit inside her. At the time she had only been with one other permister, and as he tried to push it inside her, it had hurt too much and she made him stop. Well the thought of this guys huge dick pressing up between my wifes pussy was incredible, with every word she spoke I became more and more excited. The best part was I asked her if she regretted that she never got to have his cock inside her, and she shyly said yes, and I also asked her if she ever fantasized about what it would of felt like, and she also said yes! Having my wife admit her cravings for another mans cock was so sexy. We had sex for hours, it was truly intense for both of us, best sex we have had in a long time.

I know to some who are definitely more advanced this sounds like no big deal to hear about wife's previous conquests, but that night was a great start for both of us in opening our minds and boundaries to reach outside the basic marital sex norms. One step at a time, I look forward to seeing where this will go next.

That's the way it started with me. Small steps.

I got turned on too by hearing of my wives' past sexual adventures. That is a good sign that you are a cuckold.

We just had her jack another guy off while I watched quietly from the corner at first. Try that. If it doesn't go well, no harm, no foul. It was only a handjob. But if that goes well, try for a blowjob the next time and so on. Just take baby steps and before you know it, she'll be full on fucking right in front of you and you'll both be loving it and it will bring you both closer together.

Any progress reports, John?

You can watch the movie Animal Instincts with David Carradine. It's about a man who watches his wife have sex with other men. It will bring up the subject in a natural way.

Bringing a dildo into our routine lovemaking and fantasizing about it being one of her ex-boyfriends was what got things started for me. Once she realized I was enjoying the role play (I would tell her to pretend the dildo was Pedro, one of her favorite old boyfriends whom she said was very well hung) and to fuck herself with the 12" dildo just the way he used to fuck her. She would do it and would become red-HOTT and would cum like a horse! Of course she realized I was enjoying watching her do it, and it wasn't long before she was asking me for permission to date some guy who had been coming on to her at work. Of course I said "Yes, so long as you come home and tell me all the little details".

I let her go out with the guy, who after taking her out to dinner and a lounge then took her to his apartment and fucked her brains out. She came home and confessed all the details. I wanted to eat her alive, knowing she had just been fucked by a stranger! Later as things progressed, we graduated to my being present with her and her lovers for 3-somes or just for me to watch her get laid by the bull. It has been great to say the least, and I sure am glad I let her know how much this cuckold thing turned me on. She loves performing for me with a well hung stud, and really lays it on thick when she knows I'm watching. She will talk dirty to the guy and will thrust her hips into him like a totally wild woman! She will say things to him like: "Fuck me, fuck me hard...oh your cock feels so fucking good...don't stop...fuck me hard...pound my pussy like I'm a bitch in heat...fuck me, fuck me harder...I love it!!!" She loves acting like a super-slut for me, and I totally love her for it, and I am sure the bull appreciates having such a hot woman! It's a WIN, WIN situation, no matter from what side you look at it!