Gf and her coworker

My Gf and I have been recently engaged, we are relatively happy, our sex lives are average. Lately she has been buddying up with this single guy she works with. Texting eachother, going out for lunch, talking on the phone. She comes home and talks about him, how funny he is, and she tells me that he has been telling her stories about all these different girls that he has been relaxing with. From what she tells me this guy is with a different girl every week. When I ask her why he is talking to her about all this, she claims it is because he is looking for advice from her. I cant help but notice my Gf's excitement when she is talking to him or when she hears the stories about all his conquests.

The other night we out out to a dance club, and he showed up, he is 26 and I am 32 yo, he is a good looking guy, much more muscular than I am, definite gym body, and he is about 2 inches taller. When my Gf saw him it was like she lit up. She was hanging by his side the whole night laughing and flirting it up. He kept complimenting her, making her feel good. They both barely talked to me, except every once and a while she would turn to me to give me a pat and ask if I was having a good time, then she would turn away to him. I ended up walking away a few times out of jealousy and anger. I felt helpless because I did not want to look like a fool, and this guy was so much bigger and could have easily put me down. When I would come back sometimes they were dancing together, or were no where in sight. At one point they disappeared for 15 minutes. When I asked what happened she claimed there was a line at the bathroom, and asked what was my problem.

On the way home I was furious, and we barely talked. I did not want her to know that it had upset me so much. We went to relax as we both had some to take. As I lied in bed angry as hell, I realized I was also very turned on by what had happened. How the offense and submissive feelings I felt were really arousing to me. My Gf seemed so much hotter when I saw there with this dominant, aggressive, sexual guy.

I myself have always had undercover cuck fantasies, and I do not know what to do about the coworker situation. I was really surprised that I even ended up in this situation because my Gf is very conservative, and always laughed at me whenever we would joke about her being with another man. Is she showing me a side of her that I didnt know existed? Should I follow through with any of this. Any comments suggestions appreciated.
Thanks in advance.

I'd say if you can handle her cheating on you while you're married then do it. But if you can not, call it off. Also remember, she must know that you like her to cheat as well. She kind of knows you are submissive anyways by letting yourself get put out on the outside that night. Maybe she just might like a real man. Get your ass to the gym man if you dont want to feel like this.

"I was really surprised that I even ended up in this situation because my Gf is very conservative, and always laughed at me whenever we would joke about her being with another man. Is she showing me a side of her that I didnt know existed?"

My wife is also conservative. We've been married 7 years. When I first brought up the idea of her cucking me (I had been cucked before and missed it), she said she couldn't see herself ever doing that. In theory, to a conservative wife, it sounds out of character, because such a wife does not want to *** any vows or commitments. They also tend to place a high value on marriage. They see swinging or cuckolding as a *** and they would feel guilty.

On the other hand, when they feel strong physical needs, such as how your wife's co-worker affects her, or how my wife's strong sexual appetite was not being satisfied by me, they begin to see it differently.

In order to let (not make) it happen, she must be convinced that she can trust you to not freak out and shame or guilt her. She needs to know that, if it goes badly, you will be the same, or even more understanding. She needs to know that if it goes well, you will support her 100% if she wants to see him regularly.

Conservative wives like yours and mine tend to want a relationship, not a shallow affair. If you can handle it, you must demonstrate your support at every level, beginning with where their relationship is now.

You made these statements:
"I ended up walking away a few times out of jealousy and anger."
"On the way home I was furious, and we barely talked."
"it had upset me so much"
"As I lied in bed angry as hell"

Here's my concern: These strong emotions can cause you real pain and create a divide between the two of you instead of bringing you closer. In my opinion, until you can get into the mindset that the lifestyle brings you pleasure BECAUSE IT BRINGS HER PLEASURE, it is too easy to be reactive and it could destroy your marriage.

Many of us guys have hot fantasies, and in those fantasies, whoever is involved are simply our puppets to act out hot scenarios. Real life cuckolding means that you have no real control. You'd have to be very secure about yourself and your relationship to allow it. I suspect that you wife, like mine, would need to make room for this man in her life, permanently, if she were to go there. Can you handle that?

My ex told me she wanted two husbands, me and an alpha male. I couldn't handle it 10 years ago. Now, I can, and do, with my wife. I trust her more than I did my ex because the ex had emotional issues that made her inconsistent. My wife is in love with her boyfriend. Since she is a one-man-woman, I haven't had sex with her in over six months. I love it because I like how happy he makes her, and he is a good guy. Our relationship has changed, but I trust her to stay with me, even tho she is really his woman in many ways.

Your situation turns me on. I am a happy cuckold. I can tell you this, as much as I love the lifestyle, I would give it up in a heartbeat if I thought it would ruin our marriage. So far, it has helped.

Good luck! Please keep up posted on what you decide and how it progresses.

Well, first off, relax. He's younger and already getting other girls. She's older and already attached. He's not gonna marry her. He wants her as a regular backup fuck toy. She probably wants him to prove that shes still got it. It's a common solution. Women's sex drive doesn't peak until later. Most women need at least 2 guys. One for cuddles and the other for raw fucks. That's just the way it is.

You should apologize for your behavior and explain how you were afraid she would leave you because she's so much hotter than you are. Tell her she can do whatever she wants but please don't leave you.

Ask very nicely if you can lick her pussy.

Thanks for the replies. Definitely good advice across the board. I definitely need to start putting her needs first, and see what happens. If she has the strong physical need to be with this guy, then me holding her back will just probably fuel her urges, and create a rift between us. I know she wouldn't leave me now, but her sexual side is showing itself, and it is hot. I'm not sure if I can ultimately deal with her being with someone else, but nature should take its course. If it doesent happen now then it might in the future.

Our sex life has definitely picked up since that night. I am definitely thinking about her being with him while we are having sex, and I think she might be thinking about the same. I like your advice Kittensucker, I will ask nicely if I may lick her pussy, she deserves it.

My first wife was known to have her flings with my co-workers. I was in the military throughout my first marriage... so there was never a shortage of willing "barracks buddies" for her to entertain! She put a whole new meaning to the phrase "Supporting the Troops!" However, in this letter, I'd like to relate one of my current wife's adventures. Several years ago, shortly after having our second young, my wife had an affair with one of her co-workers. She has told me that they confined all their activities to the work-place...which was always fairly crowded! To hear her tell me of some of their trysts...it's a wonder they never got caught. (And they didn't, because they would have been fired.) It happened during a period when she was pretty tiffed at me and was thinking about a divorce. She confided in her co-worker, and he took advantage of her vulnerability. Things started fairly slowly with some kissing and "accidental brushes against her breasts and butt. That quickly led to some more serious pett...but they both wanted more. Finally they found a way to sneak into a storage room, where she pulled his dick from his pants and started to give him a blowjob. My wife absolutely loves having a dick in her mouth and has always been willing to do that for a man...and she always swallows! After that, things really progressed at a rapid pace. On one occasion, they snuck into an out-of-the-way bathroom, where he went down on her and then they screwed right there on the floor! On yet another occasion, they found a secluded stairway and she stood at the bottom and bent over to put her hands on a higher step so he could take her from behind. He even had the chance to put it in her butt for a while! I had introduced her to anal sex early in our marriage, and needless to say...she took a liking to it! Hearing all the details of their get-togethers filled me with mixed emotions. Initially, my stomach would knot up and then I'd get mad for a brief moment. Ultimately, however, I just got immensely turned on! Oh how I wish I could have been a fly on the wall when thet got together! I have since then encouraged her to screw around some more...but so far she hasn't...or at least she hasn't told me about it! My ultimate fantasy would be to be able to watch her with somebody...and maybe even join in!

if you at some point realize don't like how she acts, go out flirt with other women - she'll get jealous over you and you have kinda reversed the game. has worked for me anyway, i don't like being put down by anybody, yet i ain't no dominant guy. i was looking for a balanced relationship you know, when you sometimes are on top and sometimes the girl would have the last word.

when things shifted and she was beginning to get dominant and started having an affair with another guy, the whole thing broke apart because she also started lying and stuff, and trust is the most important thing about relations.

maybe she already lied to you that night out, who knows. if you like being lied at, there's definitely no problem for you. if you do have a problem with lies, but kinda like being cheated on and that whole thing, you should talk about it openly with her. like, she can do what she wants to, but you want her to tell you and stuff, because it makes you hot.

anyway, i think most women aren't into that, they're more like doing things in secret because it kinda turns them on to do something which is a taboo (like cheating on your spouse). plus, if she's not a real dominant permister, she'll lose interest in you if you just do whatever she wants you to.
don't be boring mr niceguy unless that is exactly what she wants you to be.