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I have some of the same feelings about my wife she's a very hot 41 and my fantasy's involve sharing her with another guy or getting sloppy seconds, I often think of her out doing some guy when she's away from home. I jack off thinking of her with another guy or guys. When i watch porn i think of her in the sceen.

My recommendation?

Be honest with her, perhaps gently, not the full fantasy all at once.. but let her know that you have thought of her with other guys, and it made you hot. If she freaks, then she is not for you man.

Sexual compatability is a big one, and if you don't match.. there will be heartache down the road.

nycrog,

I'm in the exact same boat. Looking for suggestions myself.

Most women need some kind of an attachment with/for the other man. Also, many women just can't get past the idea of cheating, STDs, impregnation or getting caught by another permister, therefore embarassing the hubby.
I agree the best advice is to bring up fantasies with your wife and be honest about yours. Chances are she won;t go for it--most don't, I believe--but she might at least incorporate the fantasy into your sex life, which is better than nothing.
But be prepared to not get what you want. The cuckold couple is a rarity, IMHO.
alamodom