Husbands Fantasy

I have been married for just over 10 years, and have just found out my husband has been having fantasies about me taking a lover. He left a history trail to this site and other cuckold sites. On questioning him he confessed all, and asked that I browse these sites to understand what he wants. I can't beleive that he really wants me to take a lover, as a catholic it is totally against my upbringing, I have never been with anyone but him. He tells me that if he gives his permission it isn't adultery, is that true? I have told him that it is out of the question as the rythym method of contraception is totally unreliable, but he is addamant that this is truly what he wants, and he will accept any consequences. Before I embark on this lifestyle I would appreciate feedback from other wifes who have a similar situation, and what they did. Many thanks

My wife hasn't yet warmed to the lifestyle ideals. But, if she did, I'd want her to take the approach Buddy advocates. I'd want to know the her lover is great and better than me. I'd want to know how he is and by how much/in what ways. I'd want her to humiliate me and include as part of the offense to ask me to wear her clothes and makeup as her sissy fag boy. I'd want her to ask me to suck her strapon as if it were her real man's cock. I'd want her to take me like she'd want him to take me. That sort of thing. Just play with him. It's your little secret until you reach the point where your secret isn't enough and you're ready to tease him with the threat of public exposure or some relatively safe public exposure. My $.02. Most of all, have fun with it and push him...but also bring him back in to you. It's yours to share...not his to enjoy alone.

Kristen, I think buddy's ideas should work as well. There should be no rush into this, so take your time and explore what both you and he like through the relatively safe medium of role playing. I am in a similiar situation as you, being happily married to a very wonderful, but totally catholic lady. The role playing has added a ton of spice for us, but to be honest, it may never go any further than.

Another point, above you say he is "adamant about what he wants." There are a lot of potential dynamics with this type of play, and most of them involve some element of female domination. I'm not sure what your husband's expectations are in those regards. However, if there looks to be that kind of element involved, then I recomend that you bring his days of being adamant about anything other than serving you to an end. If that's the kind of dynamic he wants, then give it to him in spades. Make him spend time doing the things that you enjoy (pedicures, massages, hair brushing, etc.) as you explore. When my wife took over calling all the shots in our house, I spent quite a bit of time struggling through the reality that sex her way was not consistent with my little fantasy world. However, now that I have gotten through that, I have come to appreciate the things she lets me do for her and the way she relishes the use she offers to me. It's completely erotic, mostly because it's 100% her, not some scripted scene I went over a million times in my head. The bottom line here, is that if possible, you need to get him out of his little fantasy world and under your heel in this world. Once more, I offer that suggestion expecting that there is some level of implied D/S with your husband's request.
Good luck and have fun. At the minimum, you are talking about sex. You should be discovering new things about each other and growing in the process. (Oh, and yes, I think that it is considered adultury even if you have permission. Of course, you could ask your priest just to be sure, but I'm not sure I'd recomend that). Later - charm

Like anything from horseback riding to bungee jumping you don't know until you try if you're going to truly enjoy cuckolding your hubby...also if you're just doing it to please him and you don't actually enjoy the experience it will eventually become a task. But you must first TRY IT to see if you (and he) likes it, or maybe even LOVES IT! When my wife and I first started to act out this fantasy, after much encouragement from me and her many times declining, saying she would consider it, think about it, etc., one day out of the blue she happened to meet a guy at work who struck the right cords and made her pussy tingle with excitement...being the fox that she is, and not sure if at the last minute nick of time I would change my mind, she simply called one night after work and said she'd be late and I would hear the details later....I didn't get a chance to say much and she hung up. Since I didn't get to ask too many questions, you can imagine how my mind was racing all night and my woody stayed like a steel rod until she finally got home in the wee hours to tell me the news...she looked for a reaction in me and I guess it was favorable because I wanted to make love to her all the rest of the night...it was daylight before we went to relax...she confessed that she had enjoyed it and that she would like to try it for a while...she loved what it had done to me and said she had never seen me become so passionate in all of our marriage...it was a start...we both knew it WAS for us...not so much the offense part, as the bull turned out to be about my same size (7"), but the adventure and eroticism of the whole kinky scene. It was like tasting the "forbidden fruit". As I said, there's only one way to find out...just do it! By the way, being Catholic is all the better...you can go to confession if you choose and be forgiven! Let us know how it went! Hope you love it as many of us do!

James:

a) Yes - if they don't like a bull roast then they must be vegan - take them out
b) I'd recomend about $25 a tooth
c) that's why I recomend you permisterally check every female you come into contact with (I'd recomend getting a really good attorney too)
d) Your friend is probably either a construction foreman or a restruant manager. Follow his advice at your own peril.
e) No, that why god invented heart disease, to fell heathens with increased stress levels because the work on the sabbath
f) Whether you eat fish or eat Phil, you must brush your teeth
g) I think the current catechism states that as long as you don't look like Erkel and pay the proper respects, you may apprach an altar
h) They should suffer a pennace of sitting through endless episodes of "That Seventies Show" until they come to understand the divine grace of sideburns.
i) Yes, unless you are Ben Rothlisberger, who seems to throw better without gloves, despite his claims to the contrary.
j) You should ensure the DEA doesn't find the part of the crop you have been smoking, get the aunt to start wearing more silk and leather, and encourage him not to blastpheme, unless some muslim cleric find out decide to saw his head off.

My wife and I were raised in strict Roman Catholic surroundings the same as you. We have known each other for a total of 37 years, 34 of those years as husband and wife. We love each other more than ever. We have seven youngren. And for the past thirty years, I have watched while my wife had sex with other men. Of those seven youngren, three are by me and four are by four other men. However, it is not a case of these youngren being mine or theirs, but rather being ours.

I am not going to talk about Roman Catholic Canon law, civil law, etc., as I would be here for hours and ultimately you are responsible for your own decisions. And you already know about the risks of this lifestyle. I will remind you of one that has not been mentioned: disease, especially AIDS. There are no guarantees. You may take every precaution and you can still wind up either with young or on death's door. But on the other hand, what kind of life will anyone of us have without taking a chance. Didn't both you and your husband take a chance on each other when you said "I Do?" If you say no to your husband's "demands," will he divorce you? Not if he truly treasures you as his life-long soul mate. And if he looks at you as being nothing more than a walking semen depository or as his permisteral property, like his car or his golf clubs, then I submit to you that your marriage is already doomed.

Are the risks worth it? My wife and I think so. Certainly both of us have gotten a whole lot of carnal pleasure that we would have otherwise missed out on. And we have learned that if a couple separates the carnal aspect of marriage from the spirtual and emotional aspects, the marriage on a whole will be strengthen.

Your husband and you need to communicate, communicate, communicate. If he is truly a human being, he too has his doubts and fears about entering this lifestyle. And your communications must be totally honest and frank. My wife and I took years before we MUTUALLY decided to enter this lifestyle. Ironically, the one consideration that bothered both of us the most, was the possibility that my wife would leave me to take up with one of her studs. When we both realized that our fears were baseless, we entered the lifestyle and have never looked back.

Another point that I would like to offer is that offense does NOT have to be part of this lifestyle. Yes, every man who has ever had sex with my wife liked to mock me as I watched while they fucked her and, on four occasions, knocked her up. But here's the thing, after everything is said and done, she goes home with me.

My wife and I wish you and your husband every happiness.
A man has not lived until he watches another man fuck his wife!

Amazonking

You are truly the KING of all losers. All hail to the loser!!

Kill em all and let God sort em out!!

You guys,,,you've got me in stitches, charmquark94 for taking the time to respond individually to James's rant,,,and James,,,what can I say, I'm a big fan of sarcasm, especially when it's aimed at organized religion and they can't explain it away. I was brought up a catholic myself, and we used to invite Johovas Wintnesses in when they came by and they'd leave shaking their heads, LOL. Whenever religion comes up on a site like this I get thrown all off topic, instead of finding myself in an erotic mood, all I think about is all the people that died in the name of somebody's idea of God,,,grown people acting like 3 kids in a sandbox, fighting over Santa Claus, the Easterbunny, and the Tooth Fairy. I can't begin to repeat some of the posts I laid out for people in the past. The only thing is, it didn't really help the poster, maybe you should have just laid it out for the general public in that other forum (which escapes me right now, and I can't go back and check it), the one for questions and stuff.

Gruntman has issues. Anyway, I am married to a hot Filipina

It seems that sometimes women find it difficult to believe just how much some of us husbands are turned on by the idea of them having sex with other guys. If they would just trust us and "go with it" they may find themselves suddenly in heaven. They can have the best of both worlds. They can be a respectable housewife who also gets to be a slutty whore with her husband's blessings. I know if I was a woman I would just LOVE the idea of having a cuckold husband. I would enjoy teasing him about it. Some call it offense, but I think "teasing" is a word I prefer. I particularly love my wife saying things to me when I'm present during her lovemaking, like: "Honey, look how big he is...oh baby he's putting the whole thing in...watch it baby...watch him fuck me with that big cock...oh it feels so good in my pussy, baby...watch him, honey...he's fucking your wife's pussy and there's nothing you can do about it, so enjoy it, honey! I know I'm loving it...and so are you...ain't you, baby? Don't you wish you had a rod like that? Look at his cock going in my pussy, baby...watch it....enjoy it, sweetheart...oh it feels so much better than yours!" Sometimes she can carry on like that and drive me absolutely nuts with lust. Just seeing her initially grabbing his cock and guiding it into her pussy feels like a million butterflies are fluttering around inside my stomach as I watch the scene. And then when she talks to me like that it really puts me in 7th heaven. I could not find any better way to satisfy my sexual desires than for us to do this, and I am so glad we have developed this relationship. Once you get into this lifestyle it is impossible to go back, because you will not want to.